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Bestfriends and Boyfriends
I 16f and the biggest loner ever.I am not mean, hateful,I dont put anyone down or anything..I just never fit in.I am always the odd one out because I dont know how to make a joke at the right time,or isnt one wearing brand clothes,or because i dont smoke or do drugs, or because I dont have something that stands out about them. I had kidney failure when I was three,have been in the hospital most of my life,which contributes to the fact that I didn't make any friends.There was this one time though,about 5 years ago when I met this one girl,she said we were best friends and nothing would ever come between us,and when i heard this I thought things were finally looking up..Long story short,We were best friends for four years when all of a sudden,she decided to dump me for my (jerk of a)brother.Now I have had no friends again for quite a while.I desperately need to have a friend or a boyfriend.I need to feel like I belong.My family doesnt appreciate or love me at all.My mom always says 'I dont have time' when i try talking to her,and my younger sister always tells me she likes my (drunk,smoking weed,best friend stealing,jerk)brother more then me.
I don't look ugly or anything,and no one would ever know that I had kidney failure if I never told them. But its something else that leaves me left behind,hiding in a corner or in the dust.. I have no idea what I should do.Im thinking I should transfer schools next year to get out of this mess of a life..I only have one year left, but I think it would be best if I leave all this crap behind even if ive been here 11 years of my life.. and get out. What do you think? I know there must be true friends and boyfriends out there somewhere! I need comfort,hugs,laughter,less tears,and more joy in my life
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Hi, I have never seen you in my life but I feel like I know you. I don't claim to be an expert on these matters but I think what you need is a positive outlook towards yourself. You don't have to fit in. Stand out, you came to this world to do something different in the world. Imagine if everyone did everything similarly, if everyone believed that earth was the center of the solar system and those astronomers never stood and said that no sun is the center of the solar system, we would still be living our life in complete ignorance. If you still feel that these things are stupid and you just want people to notice you, then take a stand for yourself. Start noticing yourself, smile, do things you want to do, play sports you want to play. If you have confidence in yourself, people will have confidence in you. Be yourself and remeber somewhere someone is there for you who will love you more than anything in world and you know what that love would be worth waiting for. I hope even if you thought that my advice was a piece of junk, I hope that I made you smile. People around you don't matter, its only you that holds importance. Knowledge25
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How could you not think your unique? Have you realized how STRONG you are to get over something like kidney failure? You are probably more brave and unique than half the kids in your school.
You're still young and high school (not matter WHO YOU ARE) is tought for everyone. These kids that "fit in", might feel the same way you do, alone. They might choose to fake it and fake a smile and look like they're fitting in but beneath everything, all high school kids feel lonely and scared deep down, trying to find out who they are.
If your mom doesn't want to listen, MAKE HER. Be straight-forward and up-front. Sit her down, get her alone, and tell her you need her right now. And for your sister, she's trying to be "cool" by looking up to your brother, who (by your description) seems fake and like he's trying to impress everyone with his bad behavoir and choices!
There ARE true friends out there. It's just so incredibly hard to find them at your age, because at 16, alot of girls are catty and backstab, and usually put themselves first. You are a real person, and you should never settle for any friend or any boyfriend. You deserve a friend/boyfriend to really care and to make you laugh and feel good about yourself.
As you get older, you will start to feel more like you belong. Those jokes, well, they'll come at the perfect right time and everyone will laugh. And those stupid drugs and smoking? That will all get old and people won't care about it anymore. I hope you have decided to go to college when you graduate..? Because that's when things get SO much better. People are serious and real, and care about important things.
I'm sorry this is so long, but I've felt like you before. It always gets better. You have to open yourself up and keep your head up no matter what. Good luck :)
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