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I Really Want to Support Him, But I Don't Know if I Can
I just got involved in a relationship with an amazing guy. I've been dating him for about a month but I've known him since he was 17 and I was 10, currently I'm 19 and he's 25, almost 26. So far our relationship has been going very well and I'm really happy with him, I really do believe that I'm in love.
Only one problem, he's thinking about going away to college to earn his bachelor's in a year. The school that he wants to go to is in Florida and we're in New York, so I'm worried about the distance. Main reason for that is in my last relationship the guy that I was “dating” got stationed in Fort Benning, GA and I never got to see him, he also basically “dicked” me around the whole time. I'm worried about the same thing with this relationship, even though I know that this guy really truly cares about me and always has (he was my sister's best friend, and a close friend of mine for a long time before all of this began). My mom also isn't helping me at all, she makes remarks like, “he's going to find a new girlfriend in Florida,” and all this crap.
I really want to support him in his decision, he deserves that much. This is such an amazing opportunity for what he wants to do, if he gets in and things go according to plan. The school that he's thinking about going to is the third best video game designing school in the country, and this is his dream, and a lot of really big video game companies hire from them. I'm basically just worried about what this is going to do to my relationship with him, I really want to be with him for a LONG time and I know that it's also what he wants. I'm also going to miss him A LOT. How do I get over my fears, and learn to accept his decision, and support him? I have a year to digest all of this, but right now it's a really hard concept for me to “swallow.”
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Hi, I think its great that you're a supportive girlfriend and you're supporting his decision. I know that long distance relationships don't usually end in a good way and especially when the case is between college and high school students. However since you've known this guy and since you say that he's been a good friend, I think you should GO FOR IT! Since he has known you for long, Even if things don't work out between you two, he'll tell you that, He won't ever cheat on you. And he's your boyfriend. Don't you trust him enough to take this chance? Imagine if you break up with him now. Then 10 years later you see him again. Wouldn't you regret not giving the relationship a chance? You would. You would think about all the things that could have happened between you but didn't because you were scared he would dump you and things won't work out. If you guys really care about each other, just like you claim to, then you guys would do any and everything to make this relationship work! Trust me if you love and trust each other enough, then no distance can be great enough to diminsh the love you have for each other!
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