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My friend is in the middle of situation between 3 girls he likes. All 3 of the girls like him too. I tried helping him last night and had nothing to tell him because i don't know what to do. One is his ex-girlfriend, and they broke up because she had to go out of state for college, and the other 2, i'm not too sure how he met them. But maybe one of you can help me help him. He's confused and i want to help him out.

thanks in advance. :]

: Well like...since we don't really know your friend...or the girls it would be kina hard to help ya know? But I guess he should look at like, the positives and then negatives of them, and then somehow make a desicion. Yeah I know it's hard there's not much anyone can do :[[

: arielle

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Hi. I'm not sure if this question should go under this topic or not. But anyways, I'm 13/f and never been kissed. (yeah, I know yall are laughing) I heard that usually on your first kiss that you end up kissing the guys nose/face/ect. anyone have any tips so that won't happen to me? Cause that would be really embarresing. (sorry its such a dumb question)

: Wait why would we be laughing?
Whatever, heres a website...it's kina funny but - http://www.myjellybean.com/flirt/kiss.html

: arielle

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Okay so i have a boyfriend. And i dont know how much i really like him, like sometimes i really do but other times it seems like he's just there. The farthest we've gone is like kiss, and we never hang out outside of school. So i almost just consider us as good friends .. considering before we started going out i would kiss my good guy friends all the time, like on the cheek. So me and his relationship is just like one step farther.. and i almost think its dumb. Two of my good girl friends are a year older then me and they both loved that went out before but think that i should break up w/ him now. i said i think i should too.. because i do. but i know that he'll be pissed, and not talk to me for like who knows how long. And i really wanna continue to be friends w/ him. Both of my friends think i'm gunna chicken out, and i am just scared. And dont know how i should deal w/ this.. i am really close to alot of guys in my grade, and can be sort of a flirt. me and my boyfriend barly talk & it really doesnt even seem like were going out. But i dont know, i dont wanna him to like hate me if we do break up. And my ex best guy friend, is really good friends w/ him now. And thinks that i'm like a horrible girlfriend to him, and that i treat him bad because i sort of deny him sometimes cause i think its awkward. But i dont know how to tell w/ that either. its like if i do break up w/ him that my ex guy friends gunna hate me even more. And were almost becoming friends again.. i dont know. Please help me ...

: This is probably a weird opinion, but, I don't think you should break up with him. Like, right now it's awkward with your boyfriend. Would breaking up with him solve that? Probably not right...

Ok. If you look at the whole situation, maybe you and your boyfriend really just need to, talk. Try to make things not be so awkward. You said in like your second sentence that sometimes you really do like him. Maybe the thing you need is actual time. Good luck with everything...I hope this helps ♥

: arielle

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I'm 14 & a girl in the 8th grade. And like this year i've lost A TON of my friendships w/ the girls in my grade. I get like excluded out of alot of things.. but i kind of did it to myself. Last year all the girls in my grade annoyed me SO MUCH i couldnt take it, i started becoming good friends w/ the guys, and the kids in the grade above me. If i needed any help in school or in anything i would call my guy friends, and if i wanted to hang out w/ someone i would call the girls in the grade above me. over the summer i barly hung out w/ the girls in my grade. i lost all of their trust after they started talking behind my back and stuff the year before. So i kind of didnt care. Then this year. I was even more annoyed w/ them & hung out w/ the guys in my grade more then ever. One of them became my BEST FRIEND and would come over after school and crap all the time. Then me and him kind of got in a fight and stopped being friends all together. and the girls above me sort of leave me out of some things & i regret alot of it. instead of like changing groups w/ the girls that i didnt like, which i should of done, i just decided to not like any of the girls in my grade at all, when really the other group of girls were ALOT nicer and it would of been so much better. And now the freshman girls think i'm like becoming best friends w/ girls i use to hate, and like the guys and me have sort of drifted apart, and their all going to different highschool. And i'm gunna be stuck w/ those same girls and like the girls above me, who one of them i LOVE TO DEATH but the other can think she's too cool now cause she's in highschool and stuff. and it really bothers me.. one of my friends, in my grade (girl) said that i'm mean to all the girls in my grade and that the only reason their even nice to me is because i'm really close to the guys and i'm super popular. And other ppl call me a slut because of how close i am to the guys in my grade. But all i do is talk to them. and i feel like i kind of just threw away my life, and i cry about it all the time. i have no clue what to do. PLease help. OH and i've started doing horrible in school, C's in like every class. if not lower. And i'm gaining wait. it's spring break and i havent hung out w/ anyone the whole time. i just sit at home and eat and watch tv and stuff. WHICH IS HORRIBLE. i think i've gained like 10lbs no joke, and you can tell. :[ please help me

: You did NOT throw your life away, I promise you. Ending a friendship with some girls that would like talk behind your back and you couldn't trust, I think, is totally reasonable.

You're being way to hard on yourself. Calm down for a sec. You still have friends in the grade above you, and like you said another girl thought you were super popular. If you regret not changing groups, you can do that now. You shouldn't go back to the same girls. You should do what you want to do.

As for the not go good grades and the weight - that's probably because you're so upset. Once you kind of get your friends and everything back on track, you'll be able to concentrate on things like that better. Until then you just have to try hard. Omgsh, you can do it.

I know some much more complicated cases in middle school that were solved...& I really hope everything works out.

: arielle

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After writing an essay about something we liked were gunna have to speak in front of the class for a timed 5 minutes about it. And i'm scared out of my mind. Whenever we have to talk in front of the class i start talking fast (which doesnt help me reach 5 min easily) and like moving my legs back and forth. Its weird, cause usually i'm really up beat and talk real loud and stuff like that. But yeah i'm super nervous. And suggestions that would help me not be so scared?

: Oh jeez :/ the same thing kina happens to everyone. Sometimes, when I'm standing in front of people in class or whatever I'm like "So, um, why am I even scared again? This is so stupid." And then it feels like it's not such a big deal anymore. So maybe you could think about stuff like that, just kina take it easy, don't treat it like a super critical thing. Because then you just worry more ya know?

Also, this site has a lot of really good random tips - http://myjellybean.com/study/speaking.html

Good luck :] :]

: arielle

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For my english class i have to watch a movie, and then "critize" the movie the best i can in like an essay. And then talk about why i like it, and why i dont. Well i'm not the smartest kid in the world, and i spend most of my english time sleeping or listening to my ipod. So if you could.. tell me what critizing is. And how i would do that for a movie i like. [she made us pick the movie first.. & write it down. And i picked one i like]
THANKS IN ADVANCE. puh-lease help!

: First, I think you should ask a teacher about it, or if you don't want to do that, ask a friend. If you don't really know what you're supposed to be doing, then you could just go totally wrong.
But I guess an idea of the...kind of weird assignment would start with defs-

** So this is the definition thing for criticize -
1. To find fault with: criticized the decision as unrealistic.
2. To judge the merits and faults of; analyze and evaluate.

** And then there's also this def for critique -
1. A critical review or commentary, especially one dealing with works of art or literature.
2. A critical discussion of a specified topic.
3. The art of criticism.

So...criticizing a movie would be like picking stuff out that didn't make a lot of sense, that were just stupid, or you didn't like, or just analyzing the movie like movie critics do. Kind of like making fun of the movie, or, I guess, you could say in what ways it was good. You really should to a friend or something that has more specific directions so you don't screw up. Good luck because it sounds really annoying.

...And I know this doesn't have anything to do with your actual question, but in the future, don't listen to your ipod and deffinately don't fall asleep in class, omg. Cuz then you'll just be more behind, and confused, and then have to ask about it on advicenators. Which isn't a bad thing, but, you know. Ok I'm done.

: arielle

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