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I'm 14 & a girl in the 8th grade. And like this year i've lost A TON of my friendships w/ the girls in my grade. I get like excluded out of alot of things.. but i kind of did it to myself. Last year all the girls in my grade annoyed me SO MUCH i couldnt take it, i started becoming good friends w/ the guys, and the kids in the grade above me. If i needed any help in school or in anything i would call my guy friends, and if i wanted to hang out w/ someone i would call the girls in the grade above me. over the summer i barly hung out w/ the girls in my grade. i lost all of their trust after they started talking behind my back and stuff the year before. So i kind of didnt care. Then this year. I was even more annoyed w/ them & hung out w/ the guys in my grade more then ever. One of them became my BEST FRIEND and would come over after school and crap all the time. Then me and him kind of got in a fight and stopped being friends all together. and the girls above me sort of leave me out of some things & i regret alot of it. instead of like changing groups w/ the girls that i didnt like, which i should of done, i just decided to not like any of the girls in my grade at all, when really the other group of girls were ALOT nicer and it would of been so much better. And now the freshman girls think i'm like becoming best friends w/ girls i use to hate, and like the guys and me have sort of drifted apart, and their all going to different highschool. And i'm gunna be stuck w/ those same girls and like the girls above me, who one of them i LOVE TO DEATH but the other can think she's too cool now cause she's in highschool and stuff. and it really bothers me.. one of my friends, in my grade (girl) said that i'm mean to all the girls in my grade and that the only reason their even nice to me is because i'm really close to the guys and i'm super popular. And other ppl call me a slut because of how close i am to the guys in my grade. But all i do is talk to them. and i feel like i kind of just threw away my life, and i cry about it all the time. i have no clue what to do. PLease help. OH and i've started doing horrible in school, C's in like every class. if not lower. And i'm gaining wait. it's spring break and i havent hung out w/ anyone the whole time. i just sit at home and eat and watch tv and stuff. WHICH IS HORRIBLE. i think i've gained like 10lbs no joke, and you can tell. :[ please help me
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Dear My Friends,
I think you should get out there and get some other friends, but try to repair some of your previous friendships, with girls not just the guys. I think that instead of eating you should find other ways to solve your problems like screaming in your pillow or talking to your mom or siblings. If you get other friends you will be able to do more things and feel better about yourself, but in order to get friends you need to let people know that you are a nice, caring person that is willing to be friends. Good Luck!
<3 Alli
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You see, this is exactly why I'm friends with a lot of guys. Girls are catty and backstabbing, and I tend to not get along with them either.
You don't have to be friends with girls! It shouldn't matter what sex your friends are, as long as they're nice people. You did make a mistake by deciding not to be friends with ANY girls, because there are a lot of nice ones out there... but that's okay. Your life isn't over! Trust me, in 5 years when you're off at university or college, it won't matter at all.
Good news is that you're going to high school soon, so you'll have opportunities to make lots of new friends! Be friendly and outgoing, and try to stick to the nice people for friendship; it doesn't matter if they're a little weird, or total dorks, as long as they're good people.
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: You did NOT throw your life away, I promise you. Ending a friendship with some girls that would like talk behind your back and you couldn't trust, I think, is totally reasonable.
You're being way to hard on yourself. Calm down for a sec. You still have friends in the grade above you, and like you said another girl thought you were super popular. If you regret not changing groups, you can do that now. You shouldn't go back to the same girls. You should do what you want to do.
As for the not go good grades and the weight - that's probably because you're so upset. Once you kind of get your friends and everything back on track, you'll be able to concentrate on things like that better. Until then you just have to try hard. Omgsh, you can do it.
I know some much more complicated cases in middle school that were solved...& I really hope everything works out.
: arielle
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