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Hey Amanda,
Okay. So I'm in a group of friends with three other girls and we're like oober tight. It's kind of insane. The other three have known each other for like EVER and I just joined their friend group last year. Everybody seems to have something that makes them different but me. Like there's a shy one, a funny one, an athletic one...and me. I'm a little bit of all of them, and it kind of makes me feel out of the loop. I know they don't mean to do it, but sometimes they can really hurt my feelings. Like okay, so one of them showed this really embarrassing picture to another one of my friends who's not in the group even when I told her not to. And it REALLY pissed me off. I love them to death, but I'm afraid to talk to them about how I feel because I just want to fit in. I don't really know exactly what to do. It's not like they're evil and I'm a friendless loser, it's just I feel a little odd. Okay, well you probably don't care anymore. So. What should I do?

Mucho Love,
Caught in between

aw haha, first off. of course i care! you don't deserve to feel awkward like this! my best advice is to definitely tell them how you feel. maybe you personally don't, but i bet they see you as your own person! and once you explain yourself a little more you'll feel even more of an individual and you'll feel so much more respected. i think if you let out these feelings this won't even bother you anymore. you really shouldn't feel out of the loop either- so what if they've been closer friends longer? - they still accepted you into their group and as one of their best friends so think about that and try not to worry. plus .. i would love to be the one with a little bit of everything- you are the well rounded one. and i don't know about you, but that seems like a pretty good title to have to me ;] things will be fine don't let this get to you.. you just need to talk it over. i hope this all works out for you! xo

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Hey there. I really like this guy, Tony. I hang out with him sometimes but i don't think he likes me besides a friend. How do I get him to like me? I really like him but i don't know how to let him know. Please PLEASE HELP!!

haha i've actually answered a question exactly like this beforee..

"welll i've actually talked to alot of guys about this and i thought it was a little bit strange .. but their number one average answer is attention. dont be overwhelmingly stalker ish but when he talks, listen. when he asks a question, answer it with all your heart and ask him something back .. make deep conversations! be a little more touchy and flirty (like subtly) and see where things go and how he responds!"

if you've tried this or it doesn't work or something.. feel free to IM me- i'd love to chat :] my screename's amandaaxoox. luck!

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heyy amanda. ok so i love my best friend and all but shes on this like "diet" thing where she only eats like this one little bar thing for lunch and im really worried about her cause she does NOT need to be on a diet cause she has a good body. i told her that it wasnt a good idea but she wont listen. what do i do?

You need to find someone that WILL make her listen! people can be stubborn, but there has to be at least one person out there who can make them crack. whether it be a guidance counselor, teacher, parent, other friend, or someone else who experienced this and had a negative outcome. it's good that you're seeking help for her.. you're being a really great friend right now whether she listens to you or not :] her problem might be deeper thanh just she's unhappy with her body.. she could be unhappy with her whole self inside and out as well. people that don't emotionally accept themselves usually tend to go on outrageous changes like this. you've got to fix the core first and work outwards, not just cover up the top layer, because it will eventually all unwind and lead to the core problem again. i hope she'll be able to treat her body the way it deserves to be treated.. and soon! good luck xo

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Okay so at our school, we're having a farewell dance yada yada. and afterwards people are having like, afterparties. and so pretty much everyone is invited to one or two. exceeeept me. and i'm so sick of being ignored by people this year and just blending in...and it REALLY sucks not to be invited to any. even my best friends are ditching me to go to them. what should i do? what should i say to them? should i try and find out whos having a party and see if they would invite me? help me amanda =[

hhmmm, this is tough. do your friends know how you feel about this? try talking to them. and plus, who are you taking pictures with and going to the dance with? if you have friends to do that with, they shouldn't be ditching you afterwards.. it doesn't seem right. If you really felt comfortable i guess you could find out about some parties, but i personally can be self concious and i would feel unwanted and out of place at a party i wasn't originally invited to. even if you don't make plans, don't sweat it - you'll probably be really tired after being on the dance floor all night ;] and you'll want some much needed sleep. It seems like a big deal right now, but when it all comes down to it- this is an 8th grade dance (not assuming, people, i know who wrotee this haha xo) not your senior prom or something major. things will be okay! it's one night without plans. everyone's had that situation beforee. good luck! =]

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i'm worried about someone or more than one person asking me to the dance. the only thing is.. i like this one guy but i don't know how much i really like him.

my real question is: if someone asks me to the dance that i wouldn't necessarily want to go with and i say no because i kind of want someone else to ask me and because i don't really like them enough.. and then end up going just with a bunch of friends is that ok?

what do you say if someone asks you that you don't particularly want to go with but then no one else asks you either?

is it mean to go with no one in particular instead of the person that asked you that you said no to?

It's not mean at all! don't go with someone that you don't truely 100% wanna go with- it's going to spoil all of your fun. even if you kind of wanted to go with this person, you could just go with your friends and still be able to hang out or dance with this guy at the 8th grade dance. it's fine! if you feel a little guilty about lying, just tell him that you're HOPING for this other guy to ask.. and that your other friends alreaedy planned on and are looking forward to going with you. he should understand. i hope this helped in some way! :]

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amandaa,

i just wanted to tell you this. you are PERFECT. seriously. you are GORGEOUS, have a HOT boyfriend, have STRAIGHT A'S, and have TONS of friends. what more could you ask for in a girl? i just wanted to tell you that you are so lucky to be the way you are. & you are the most popular girl in the grade. now i'm not talking abercrombie-wearing hoess with tiffany necklaces, but i'm talking popular like you are nice to everyone you meet, & are always sweet and polite. you don't think you own everyone & everything and can treat the people who aren't "cool enough" like shit.

& you probably don't know who i am but this isn't a joke in anyway to make you feel bad or question it's message. but it's truee :]

aw omg that's really sweet of you. thanks SO much! :] i actually have been having a pretty bad day and that made me feel so much better. it may seem to you like i have things alot better off school-wise, but i think i'm thought of alot less when it comes to things at home and family and outside of schooll. so i'm sure it all evens out. if i knew who you were i bet i would think you're just as "perfect" and appreciated as you think i am! anywayysss, thanks again for the compliment :]

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okay so i have a major crush on this kid and i have since december. we are best friends and we talk everyday. he is really nice and extremely cute. but.. he likes one of my best friends. she went out with him last year but she really doesnt like him she likes his best friend.what do i do? xox thanks xox

yeesh what a little love triangle square thing you've got goin' on there! ;] the best thing i can say is to remember that what's meant to be will find its way. you can't force someone to like someone- hoping the guy you like will switch to liking you rather than your best friend is the same thing as someone hoping you will switch to liking the guy's best friend. So i don't really know what to say. but also, if your best friend (girl) really doesn't like the guy you like, he will eventually move on. and maybe that's where you can come in! ;] anything can happen, you can't fight fate.

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Amanda,
Do you think it is wierd for a girl to ask a guy to the eight grade dance? What if I dont get asked!?

Hey! no, i don't think it's weird for a girl to ask a guy to the eighth grade dancee. it's actually pretty admirable- it shows you have alot of courage and it will also make that guy feel great that someone would wanna go with him. not everyone gets asked to the dance, so if you decide not to ask a guy and no guy asks you- it's no sweat! i'm sure everyone has someone dying to ask them.. its just that some people get scared and back out. if this happens .. just go with a big group of friends, it's still just as fun if not more. good luckk! :]


Ps. not having a date to the dance can also be a plus- this way you can dance with as many guys as you want! ;] haha.

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do girls like it shaved?- ur love M.M

hahahahahahaha. yeah.

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ok so i have a plan with verizon for 500 texts a month
which is 250 sent and 250 inbox
if i went over this month month i did about 500 sent and 600 inbox
how much will i have to pay for the overdid ones?

wellll, it should be 10 cents a text you went over .. and since you went over 250 and 350 which is 600 .. you'll owe about sixty dollars. yikesss =/ try an unlimited plan maybe? ;]

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amanda, i have been friends with this girl for a few years and she's one of my good friends. i love hanging out with her and shes nice and stick's up for me and pretty much a really good friend... but she always takes my guy. not necessarily like my boyfriend and she takes him, but if i like someone she likes him too!! and its not even that she gets him and i dont (sometimes we both dont whatever) but its just the fact that she's liking the same guy as me. i'll tell her i like someone and then a week later she likes him!! she'll be all over him and it really bugs me! wouldn't you be annoyed if your best friend started liking the same guy as you the next week?
what do i do!? please help, i'm desparate!!

yess, i would be very annoyed, too. who says you have to tell her who you like? better yet, who says you have to tell her the RIGHT person? maybe it sounds a little mean but it really won't hurt anyone.. it will just prove whether your accusations are correct or not. i say you tell her that you like this really weird guy (but he still has to be believable) and see if she likes him next week! if so, maybe it would be best if you stopped telling her who you like until she finds someone of her own. if not, maybe things arent as bad as they seem to you.. you have to try to figure out what she thinks through all of this as well. maybe she isn't thinking in the back of her mind "oh my good friend lieks this guy, that means i definitely should too!" good luck, and i hope you find a way to put an end to this! :]

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so there is this guy kyle in my grade and i like him and we have a dance on June 15 should i ask him to the dance now or wait and see if he asks me?

go for it! you have nothing to lose. i mean, what's the worse that could happen? he might say no. a two letter word. it's not much to be afraid of! :] just go with your gut xo

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Ok so there is this guy, and i have liked him for what seems like forever, and i know i should like be getting over him cause like he obviously doesnt like me but for some reason i cant get him out of my mind. I thought i was finally done with him, but now all i want to do is to see and talk to him. I really have no i idea what to do. Like how can i get him to notice me? How come everytime i talk to him i forget everything i wanted to say? How come i cant get over him?

you don't need to get him to notice you. i really think you shouldn't worry about what he thinks and try to get over him. i know it seems impossible- but you really will be able to! likee i always say- REMEMBERRR if you are able to devote that much of your heart to a guy .. you deserve and need someone who appreciates it and can reciprocate it. just keep thinking that you have wayy too good of a heart to waste it on someone who can't see that. best of luckk xo and be patient! feelings are hard to change overnight .. but remembering little things like that will help the prosess move along muchh faster

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I've liked this guys since the beggining of the school year. I told him & he was spuprised. He ended up going out with a friend of mine. at the time he & she had no idea that i liked him. They broke up after less than a week. I still like him, but he likes a good friend of mine, & she insists that he doesnt like her but its totally obvious. I dont want to make him like me but i want help on little things i can do to help us get closer.

from,
"boy trouble"

welll i've actually talked to alot of guys about this and i thought it was a little bit strange .. but their number one average answer is attention. dont be overwhelmingly stalker ish but when he talks, listen. when he asks a question, answer it with all your heart and ask him something back .. make deep conversations! be a little flirty (like subtly) and see where things go and how he responds! just remember to be who you are and dont change to make him wanna be with you .. guys like girls who can stand up for themselves and what they think. oh, and, you are such a good friend to consider their feelings that way and not be selfish! i hope everything turns out well .. what's meant to be will always find its way. so don't let it bother you so much on the person he ends up being with =]

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okay so i got invited to this really cool graduation party in june.. but i am only 14. [ i am graduating middle school] but the people's parents are letting them have achohal & like crack and stuff.. i want to go but i dont want to get drunk or get high or what ever! HELP !!!
thanks

don't go. if theres gonna be drinking and drugs, chances are people are gonna try to get you to do them. why would you wanna hang out at a party with people who are doing that anyway.. like if you aren't into that kinda thing i'm sure you aren't very close with them. and you really aren't alone on this subject! i bet there's alot of people who cant decide whether to go or not for the same reasons- maybe you could get together with those people instead and ditch the party. that way you won't have to undergo peer pressure and you can still have fun - probably alot more fun than you would at that party. just do whatever you feel is right x3

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k so there are these 2 BABES in school and i had a 3some w them one night and now its awkward to be with them at the same time cuase umm k lets say their names were Sami and Amanda......haha but um anyway they are acting relly wierd and the 3 way was great but idk maybe i should have one on one make up sex w them both?????? Help MANDY!

this is an extremely difficult situation, but amanda and samantha happen to be very greedy girls. they like it all or nothing. so, with that being said, you must choose between one or the other. post back with your choice and how it turned out! x3

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i was a litttttle tipsy one night, and kinda... got with a guy... and now i have herpes. i really love sex and i want to be able to keep screwing, but i dont know what to do! i already spread it to one guy... and i feel pretty bad [he was TERRIBLE tho so maybe it was for the better :P] but what do i do? do i keep spreading the love? or do i get meds?

maybe herpes isn't the problem here.. maybe it's your abnormally high sex drive? first of all, herpes is a virus and even if you did get meds the disease won't go away and it's still spreadable whether it's visible or not. you can like, get your mom to take you to a therapist or someone like that who you're supposed to talk to (i know, sooo akward to ask your mom that). but your mom thinks youre innocent, so she believes and wants you to be innocent.. and since you aren't- she'll wanna get you help. after getting herpes do you really still love sex? like, look what it's done! thinkk about that before you spread it to other guyyss. goodluck x3

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ok sorry if this is long...
so i'm 14/f and in 8th grade. and back when i was in sixth grade me and this guy jamie really liked each other. but we always pretended we didn't, but we both knew we liked each other. then, half way through sixth grade he moved to hong kong, like actually to live there. we talked online a little bit and we both admitted that we liked each other. then during 3rd quarter that year i started going out with this guy ben. well, school in hk wasn't working out for jamie, so he came back for 4th quarter. but i was still going out with ben then, so jamie stopped flirting with me. but i dumped ben before jamie went back to hong kong, and then we flirted. so anyway, during 7th grade i talked to jamie a little bit and we both play tennis, so he said that over the summer we should play tennis together. well i forgot about it, but over the summer i got a call from him about "taking me up on that tennis match". so we played tennis and then he asked me to go to a movie with him, then he went back to hong kong. so then this year, he came back here for a week for his friend's bar mitzvah. he kind of talked to me a little, but very, very little. i think he liked me over the summer (maybe) but he's coming back this summer and i want to know what i should expect. i am willing to have a long distance relationship with him, but what should i do about it? call him when he's in town? we go to the same country club, so i'll see him at tennis, but i really want to have a relationship with him. what should i do? thanks so much

helloo. :] hah, you don't have to apologize for the length .. the more detail the better! besides, i'm here to listenn. long distance relationships can work.. you have to be sure that you really really truellyy like jamie and have hope in the fact that you two will be together in the future .. both emotionally as well as physically. in a way, it's almost like an imaginary friend if you're never gonna actually get to be with this person for a period of your life.

but there are a few things that can get in the way at times in a long distance relationship- distrust, temptation, and loss of interest. one, you might find it hard to build trust with him because for all you know, he could be with plenttyy of other girls in hongkong and you would never find out. that thought tends to tear at people's mindss. also, you might have the temptation to be the cheater. with him gone .. you might think, what harm will it do to be with someone else if he's never gonna know? and that would end up overwhelming you with guilt in the long run. lastly, without excitement in a relationship .. you might just lose interest and realize that you've been with someone for so long and youve gotten nothing out of it. you might find it pretty boring after a while just communicating via email, IM, or phone every now and then.


if i were you, i would consider things like that before you commit to this relationship. i promise there are other fish in the sea, ones that you won't have to drill a hole into the core of the earth to get to. i'm sorry if this response was a little pessemistic, but it's just my view on it and i personally find a long distance relationship not much of a relationship at all if you aren't experiencing a head-over-heels-i-need-to-call-this-person-my-own kinda feeling. i hope ie helped somehoww !

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Hello. im 13 I cant seem to find the right color eyeliner or right color eyeshadow for me. im Brunette. i have medium brown hair past my shoulders. i need help on what color to wear and some people tell me all these different styles of how to put it on and it always looks weird on me. like alittle past my age kind of makeup. so if you could tell me what color i should wear and post some links to pictures of what styles of how i should put it on that looks like a 13 year old girl would wear her makeup. That would be great! Plzzz&&Thnxxx

well, it also depends on the color or your eyes... almay has an amaazing line where they specifically picked certain eyeliners/eyeshadow/mascara to compliment your eyes. definitely try looking those up here.. http://www.almay.com/pg/main/cateyes.aspx?CatId=32&catnm=Eyes&SubId=0&subnm=Eyes ..but if your hair is brown .. i'd say maybe something amythest/purple. and if you don't like something that extreme, you can go for a darker plum. when you wear colors like purple and blue .. you can definitely notice that you have makeup on, but it gives it almost a more innocent look than something like black gray or dark brown would. experiment, everyone has their own certain color. for example my hair is dirtyblonde with red in it and i have green eyes but i found that i really like the way bright blue looks. who would think! so good luckk.. i hope you find your perfect shade! =]

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Hey amanda,
I am 13. (in 8th grade)So i like this guy he is in a couple of my classes but i dont talk to him that much. When ever i see him i get butterflies. We are really good friends and have been since 6th grade but i have liked him since december. I really dont want things to change in our friendship && if he finds out he will act weird around me. what do i do?

haha, then don't tell him! but then don't expect anything to evolve between you two if you aren't willing to openly share your feelings with him. if he finds out you like him, maybe things won't be weird- he could like you back! you never knooww. it's all about taking risks.. you just have to figure out whether it's worth it or not. i honestly dont think telling him is a bad thing .. because even if he doesn't like you it will make it easier for you to get over it. and plus, if you're that good of friends.. this shouldn't ruin your friendship forever- you'll eventually become close again and even be able to laugh about this situation! good luck and just follow your heart. relationships between two people that have been friends first tend to work out alot better. hopee this helps! xo

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