E-mail: alexismeverett@yahoo.com
Gender: Female
Age: 17
Member Since: October 2, 2010
Answers: 20
Last Update: November 2, 2010
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so this guy has had a thing for me since last year, and it was obvious. he would always flirt with me everyday. recently he talked to my guy friend about me. then we talked everyday from morning to night time, all of a sudden it stops. out of nowhere, and he didn't answer my text. he is driving me insane (link)
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There are a few possibilities here;
This one's gonna hurt, but he could have found someone else.
He got intimidated because he thought things were getting too serious.
He thinks you don't like him.
Regardless of what the problem is, you should honestly just confront him. Something light like, "Hey, we haven't talked on the phone in a while, what's up with that?" See how he reacts, maybe he's just been busy and you guys will start talking again. But if he acts distant or annoyed, don't push him. If he acts casual and apologizes, give him a call! Good luck!
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So today I decided to be spontaneous (bad idea) and attempt to go blond. I have med/dark brown hair. I ended up at the drug store and came back with Loreal Super Blonde... its a bleach. So I did everything according to the instructions and when all was said and done, most of my hair ended up a light brown which looks pretty nice, but the top of my head (probably 2 inches from each side of my scalp) is a horrid yellow/orange. I know the typical piece of advice would be for me to seek professional help. But honestly, I do not have the money for that right now. I've contemplated 2 options: using a blond dye over everything and hoping for the best... or just re-dying it my natural color, or almost black. Would black do the trick? I am helpless. Thanks a bunch! (link)
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I have medium brown hair and I tried to dye it really light, it came out a more brassy orange color. So the next day I dyed it back a darker brown, I would go with that choice. Trying to dye it blond again will probably cause more problems, if you have dark hair and you want to go blond, you're going to have to go to a professional. So in the meantime, go back brown. When you get the money to go blond then do so professionally. Good luck!
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my friend had problems. she was on medication and she and her parents didn't see eye to eye at all. they'd always fight and she was prone to self mutilation. she called me up one day about a month ago crying. i went to her house and she was standing outside with cuts all over her wrists and thighs, saying she and her mom had a fight and she couldnt take it. i know she wasn't trying to kill herself. if she was, she'd be dead right now and she's not. i invited her to stay at my house and at first my dad said no. but he said she could stay for dinner. so we ate and everything was perfectly fine. then my dad told me that she could stay as long as she needed to but as soon as i was about to tell her, her mom called, demanding that she come home immediately. the next day she called and told me her parents had called an ambulence and she was in a mental hospital-type-thing. i haven't talked to her since, but just now i saw her picture on facebook and started crying, and i NEVER cry. i can't help but feel she wouldnt be where she is if i had just tried harder to help her, or told her sooner that she was able to stay. and i can't help but HATE her parents. she should be back in a couple of weeks but i have no idea how i'm gonna face her or her stupid parents and for some reason this is just now hitting me, on the eve of my 18th birthday. idk what my question is, but any insight might help. thanks. (link)
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I can really understand your situation, only I was on the other side. I have a best friend who knew that I was somewhat self destructive and I was put in a mental hospital. My family was to blame, just like hers. My friend didn't like my family, either. One thing I know for sure is that there was nothing that she could have done to prevent that. Just like you couldn't have done anything to stop what happened to your friend. A disease is within her, and it was bound to come out soon whether or not she had a great friend like you to help her. My friend was very worried about me and only got to talk to me on the phone once, maybe you could find out the number to where she is so that you can see how she's doing. But just know that she will be okay, once I came out of the hospital I had a whole different approach, I'm sure things will be better once you see her again. As for her parents, they will most likely not want to bring anything up about the whole situation so you shouldn't worry about them. None of this is your fault whatsoever, when she comes home you should have a little letter or present waiting for her like my friend did for me. Things will adjust, just stay strong for her! Good luck!
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Ok, i had sex a very long time ago. my girl friend of 10 months still thinks im a virgin. what should i do. (link)
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Bottom line, you need to tell her as soon as possible! The longer you wait the worse you will feel and she is bound to find out sometime. If you really care about her and you want things to last you have to be honest. Just break it to her nicely, don't try to butter her up though. Let her know that you have something very important to tell her and that you realize you were wrong not to tell her in the first place and apologize. Make a commitment not to hide anything from her ever again and answer any questions that she has about what happened. Tell her that she has a right to be mad and you understand if she needs some time away from you. She'll be hurt, so try and tell her what you love about her and that you really weren't trying to hurt her. Good luck!
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So I'm certain that this boy in my class likes me, but I also think that he's too afraid to do anything about it. Should I try to talk to him more and see how things progress over time? I don't understand. He stares at me, smiles, subtly compliments me, makes excuses to wait after class so we can walk together, etc, etc. I've definitely made efforts to show my feelings by talking to him, looking at him, smiling, complimenting him, and even by getting him something special for his birthday. And if that weren't enough, I definitely think that he overheard my friend talking about my crush on him while I repeatedly/panickingly tried to get her to shut up (he was really close by and she was very loud). Is it possible that he doesn't get it? Should I be more obvious? Should I be all over him, lol?! We actually don't hang out and aren't very close. We just see eachother at school. I don't want to directly ask him to "hang out." Should I just be patient? (link)
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This boy is probably just shy, you should make a move! He obviously likes you and is most likely too afraid to do something about it, in fact he might be waiting for you to make the first move. He's intimidated, so ask him if he wants to go see a movie with you and some of your friends (Mutual friends) to take the pressure off. This will get things going and then you can start doing this with just the two of you. You shouldn't have to wait around for him to get up the courage to tell you how he feels, it's a good thing when the girl is the first to show her feelings. Good luck!
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I am 19 years old. My husband is 23. We have 3 children. The problem is we fight all the time. If i try and talk to him about stuff we just stop talking he wont say anything to me and he says it is because he doesnt want to argue. At night he ignores when the kids get up so that i always am the one the get up with them even if i have the flu or something i have something wrong with my stumoch and i have to have an ultra sound done he told me i am not going if it is going to take a long time because im not going to sit there and wait. he doesnt work when or if i get him a job he works for like a week then quits I feel like he hates me it bothers me he hardly showers he doesnt brush his teeth or wear deodarant but i love him. Is this a normal marriage or am i just pretending its normal. (link)
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You need to make him step up or leave because this man is not good enough for you. If he loves you he should take care of you when you're sick and take turns with you when it comes to the kids. Give him an ultimatum, if he doesn't try harder, then you are taking the kids and spending some time away from him. It seems like he is too immature to be married with 3 children, and you are young and still have your life ahead of you, you don't want him holding you back with his negativity. You don't deserve to be with someone who doesn't make you feel loved, you shouldn't have to do everything while he doesn't even try. You need to confront him about it and don't take any of his crap, don't let him interrupt you and shrug you off. Tell him that he needs to get a job, take care of his kids, and get himself a shower. This is not fair to you and you can't take it, show him who's boss. Good luck!
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15/f 17/m
So I've been talking to this guy for a bout three months. We've gone a few dates, hang out every weekend, kissed a few times, but haven't gone past making out. I really really like him but I don't know if I want to make this thing official. My last relationship lasted eight months and I got really hurt in the process. I'm scared of starting something new when I know it's going to end eventually and when I do it's gonna hurt. It's like, what's even the point?? Why should I set myself up for more hurt?? I know you have to take chance and its better to have loved and lostthan to have never loved at all, but in all honestly, I genuinely wish I had never started dating my last boyfriend. The pain and the betrayl (its a long stroy) just wasn't worth it... Now I have no doubt in my mind that this new guy isn't totally sweet and caring and would probably never try to hurt me. He's just a good guy and I know that. I know I'm being irrational but I can't help it! I don't know what to do... I'm scared and I don't know how much longer it's going to be until I'm ready... But I REALLy don't want to let him slip away. I know what you'll say, if he really likes me he'll wait, but I don't wanna make him do that. It's not fair to him and I won't string him along just becasue I'm unsure. I just neeed help getting over this fear and avoidance. PLEASE help. (link)
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I think you should definitely give this thing a shot! Make sure to warn him that your guard is still up and you don't want to invest too much in a relationship yet though. As time goes on you can get more comfortable with him and start to really become exclusive. Who knows, maybe you'll end up not wanting to be with him and end things yourself. Don't go into the relationship thinking things are going to end badly, sometimes when they end it is for the better and it's mutual. If this guy is really nice then that is likely to happen with him. And you never know, maybe things won't end between the two of you! I would say just take things slow and don't put your entire self into this relationship until you really feel it's time. If you don't give him a chance soon he could loose faith and move on, and that can be just as hurtful as a breakup. It's better to have known what it's like to be with him then to always wonder what could have been. This is a good time to practice getting close to someone, because eventually the person you let in is going to be the one. There will probably be many until that special person comes along so you have to give even the losers a chance before you can find your prince. It sounds like you two are already getting pretty close, I say don't be afraid to take the next step! Good luck!
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So ever since I was 13 I've been getting my period. And up until this year it was always exactly the same. Everyday would be pretty consistently heavy and then on the seventh day it would just stop.
Now though, it will come and on the first day it will be really light, the second and third it will be heavy, and then it will be done.
I'm just wondering if this is normal, or something I should check into.
Also my period always used to come a week late every month. Like one month I'd get it on the first, the next the seventh, the next the 14th etc etc. Now it always comes on the 24th. Should I see a doctor or just be grateful for the shorter periods? (link)
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I don't think this is something you should worry too much about, for the first few years that you have your period it tends to be a little irregular. Now that your body's used to having your period it is becoming more regular. The only time you should worry is if you're not getting your period at all or if it's ridiculously heavy. It seems like yours is pretty normal. Though it wouldn't hurt to ask your doctor at your next appointment, I wouldn't stress in the meantime. Good luck!
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usa female.. i have been friends with this guy for about 9 months we hang out and go do do things togethers we talk and when one needs something the other one is alwys there.
something happen to were he almost had to move away and he was so concerned about us that things wouldn't change. and i told him my ex was back and he wanted to no if i wanted him back i told no i wanted to be with somebody who is honest and trusting. and he said good. he's a very loving person when we do get together . he never said anything about haw i look or anything just that i make him smile . and at one point i told him to stay away from me he hounded me for 4 days tell i gave in to him. i'm usually the first one ask about hanging out he does sometimes. i get confussion signs from him i don't no what to think. (link)
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He absolutely cares for you..it's just difficult to tell in what way. It's very possible that he has romantic feelings for you but it is also likely that he cares for you as a good friend. The fact that he was interested in you getting back with your ex shows that he had some underlying jealousy, which can mean he likes you more than a friend. It seems like you two have all of the components of a romantic relationship except for the attraction part, maybe you should consider making a subtle move to see if there is chemistry between you. If you're not ready for that, there is no need to hurry. It is very obvious that he cares a lot about you and if you wait it out, your relationship could very well turn into something more. In the meantime, you can do secret tests on him like mentioning a hot guy and seeing if he reacts in a jealous manner. This would be a clue that he likes you. Good luck!
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my boyfriend and i broke up and now he is being rude to me but also flirting with me! what is wrong with him? (link)
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He probably has mixed feelings, angry about the breakup and still crushing on you. Maybe his way of showing you he cares is being rude to you while trying to act like you're still together. It is also possible that he's doing the whole "I don't want to be in a relationship but I don't want you to move on" deal. He could be trying to string you along so that you won't find someone else, and he probably has some hostility toward you because you got him so mixed up. His ego might be undergoing some stress since you guys aren't together so he's trying to make up for it by playing the "I don't need you" game and then leading you on. You should confront him about it by saying something like, "Hey, we're just friends now so you shouldn't be flirting with me like that!" See how he responds, if he's defensive then he most likely still has feelings for you. If he brushes it off, maybe he actually is just trying to be friendly with you. Good luck!
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I'm 18 and so are my friends & we have no idea where to meet guys. We do t like the guys in our high school and we want to meet new guys.. Where can we meet them, how do we approachthem? (link)
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The mall is always a great place to meet guys, and they usually aren't from your school. You and your friends could look up some cheesy pick up lines and use them on the guys as a conversation starter. Just make sure the lines aren't too cheesy or offensive, stick with cute and flirty. Also, groups of guys go to the movies together. You and your friends should check out a guy flick that you know will be swarming with boys. If you're feeling daring, you could plop down right next to them and introduce yourselves. You could also take a trip to a few guys' clothing stores pretending that you're shopping for your brothers, ask the cute guys what their opinions are. Good luck!
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if a girl is shy, how does she learn to approach cute boys and make the first move?
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One of my main strategies is, "FAKE IT 'TILL YOU MAKE IT!" After you act like you're confident and carefree, you'll really start feeling like it. Even if on the inside you're embarrassed you can still pull it off like you don't care. Don't be too nonchalant, though. Sometimes guys really like shyness and think it's cute, but too much shyness can make them think you're not interested. Just be casual about approaching guys, ask something about an assignment or his opinion on a movie. Make it a casual thing and eventually you can ask him if he might want to see a movie or something. As long as you portray that sexy confidence, he won't suspect that you're freaking out inside. But remember, don't always hide your shyness because a little bit can be sweet. Good luck!
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You just gave me advice about my boyfriend of a year..(thanks by the way!) and i was just wondering..I have tried to bring up these things. But my boyfriend hates talking about anything like that. He immediately shuts down, and suddenly the answer to every single question is "I don't know". He absolutely hates "talking" and will do anything to change the subject or get out of it. I've tried everything, and I don't know the right way to approach any serious topics without him shutting down like this. advice? (link)
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Your welcome! The best way to approach something like this is to stay away from blaming him or making him feel attacked. Try not to say "You're making me feel like.." ect. Instead say, "Lately I've been feeling like..." Make sure you don't freak him out by acting too serious, you can even make a joke about it to lighten things a little. For instance, you could joke that you're becoming one of those annoying needy girlfriends that constantly needs reassurance. Then sort of ease your way into the conversation by saying, "But honestly, I've felt a little distant lately, and I was wondering if you feel the same way." He probably shuts down because hearing that you need to talk is too much for him and makes him nervous. Instead of making it a big deal, smoothly mention it when you guys are hanging out and things are going well. Feel free to ask if there's anything else you need. Good luck!
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I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year now. I've never been with a guy this long, so I was wondering what kind of changes are normal when you've been with someone this long. It seems like the romantic and honeymoon stage is over. He doesn't say most of the sweet things he used to. He doesn't tell text me good night or good morning like before, or even text me very often. Is that normal? He used to talk about us being together in the future..like kids and a house. And he used to say how he wished we could live together and that he wants to spend all his time with me. But he doesnt tell me any of this anymore. Is this normal? What kinds of things changed in your relationship after a year? Thanks. (link)
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One thing you might consider doing is talking to him about this. Obviously he cares about you a lot because he's been with you for over a year, it's very likely that he's just gotten comfortable. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year and when it seems like he's slipping, I just talk to him about it. You guys have gotten to the stage where it's more than okay to discuss these things, don't hold back. Perhaps you have been acting different as well? Maybe he is reacting off of the way you're acting. It's possible that he assumes you know that he wants to have a future with you and it doesn't need to be brought up anymore. You could tell him that you still like to talk about those things together. Or you could take a different approach and show him a wedding dress you like and see how he reacts. It will get you into a conversation where you can tell him how you've been feeling. Things are bound to change after this long amount of time, you get comfortable and sometimes forget that you both need little reminders that you still feel the same way about each other. Good luck!
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Me and my boyfriend were raised very differently. No one in my family smokes, and Ive never wanted or needed to and in the event it would simply not be allowed. My boyfriend's whole family, parents, stepparents, siblings etc all smoke, and he used to smoke himself a few years ago. He still had the occational social cigarretes, but after we've been dating for a while I told him that I dont want him to smoke at all. We have now been together for 2 years and even though he smokes every now and then 'because he cant help it', he is mostly off of smoking because he said he'll try not to. The only problem is that he really wants to smoke. He says he loves it and to his friends it seems ridiculous that I dont let him to do what he wants... I wish I could tell him that Im totally fine with it and he can smoke whenever he wants, but I cant get myself to feel like its okay. I really want him to take care of himself, many of his family members have had cancer and its possible that he is susceptible to it. I hate the smoking lifestyle, I hate how dependent people can be on something that damages themselves, I hate how much money they 'need' to spend on it (and he always complains that he is broke), I hate the smell... etc. And we talk about getting married, but I dont want a smoker's home for myself one day. Do you think this means that we cant have a future together, or must I suck it up?? (link)
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I am in a very similar situation, and I think you have the right to tell him you don't want him to smoke. You shouldn't have to suck it up if you care about him, who wants to watch someone they love kill themselves? If his friends don't agree, then they aren't real friends. That's a big step that he decided to cut down on smoking, but a few cigarettes now and then is still not going to cut it. One thing he could do is use an electronic cigarette, my boyfriend has one and he hasn't smoked a real cigarette since. It will satisfy his craving yet not posing any real risk to his health. They are a bit expensive (about $80), but you could help him get one for maybe his birthday or Christmas. It is definitely possible to get married to a smoker, because you can help him quit. Keep encouraging him and you guys will be fine. Good luck!
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17/f
So, i really want a boyfriend. I finally found this guy that i like and he likes me too. He's nice, cute, and is very sweet. The only thing is, everytime i start getting close to someone, i start finding things wrong with them. I get scared to hang out with them and always find exuses to not hang out with them. Idk why and its bugging me. I feel like i cant invite them to my house because its boring and there will be nothing to do. We cant go in my room so my parents will be watching us the whole time and its just awkward. Please help. Thank you. (link)
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First thing first, he likes you! He wants to hang out with you no matter what you're doing, so you don't have to worry about him being bored. This is the most awkward part of the process, it's bound to be uncomfortable. Once you get through this stage, you'll feel more comfortable, I promise. Why don't you ask him to go to the movies or for a walk? That way there won't be so much pressure on you and it will take away some of the awkwardness. Whatever you do, don't make excuses not to hang out with him, he could be a really great guy and you might miss out on that if you push him away. Just hang tight! Things will get easier soon enough and in the meantime, go for easier things like hanging out with a group or doing homework together. Good luck!
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15/m
My friend said she might be pregnant and i don't know what to tell her, i am not the guy she had sex with i'm just her friend. But i like her alot and i wanna help her.
What can i do to help?
She isn't sure yet if she is pregnant but i still wanna help her so any tips would be great thanks! :)
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The best thing you can do for her is to go with her to buy a home pregnancy test, maybe even buy it for her so she won't be so embarrassed. Once you find out whether she is or not, you can proceed to help her with any options she has. Talk in depth with her about if she would consider adoption, abortion, or keeping the baby. Remember, though, this isn't entirely your responsibility. The guy who has possibly impregnated her should be taking care of this. All you can really do is be there for her to lean on and talk to, and relieve any stress she may suffer from. Encourage her to be safe in the future and make sure that she is staying healthy, if she is pregnant, she'll need to see a doctor.
Best of Luck,
Alexis
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I just recently got accepted at Florida Gulf coast university but I mostly would like to go to University of central florida or university of south florida. Out of these three,which do you recommend and why!? (link)
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It all depends on what your personal preferences are; if you would rather go to a larger school, University of Central Florida or University of South Florida would be your best bet. University of Central Florida has 45,301 students and University of South Florida has 36,595 students, while Florida Gulf Coast University only has 9,713 students. Also, the atmosphere is an important factor, if you like a suburban setting, Florida Gulf Coast University or University of Central Florida is a good fit. On the other hand, University of South Florida is in an urban setting so it is more city-like. Another important aspect to consider is what the school's values are. University of South Florida does not put as much faith in standardized test scores as the other two schools do. That may say something about the school's expectations and how the overall environment will be like. It's all about your opinion based on the qualities that each of these schools have. They all have a lot to offer as far as majors, maybe you could look the schools up online and find out exactly what they can offer you specifically. What type of major are you interested in? The school that has the programs you are looking for is probably your best fit. Congratulations on getting accepted!
Best of Luck,
Alexis
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I applied for the University Of Central Florida's Summer Session (UCF) and I am so nervous about getting in.My Gpa is about a 3.25 but weighted it's about a 3.4 or 3.5 but ACT was low and I got a composite of a 21. I took the test 2 times and and got a 21 both times.I have taken many honors courses and 1 AP class last year,(i passed the AP exam) and this year I'm taking 3 AP classes and all honors.Yet,I haven't taken many math courses. I've taken algebra 1,geometry, algebra 2, integrated math,and now i'm taking advanced algebra w/ financial applications,but I just submitted my application probably 5-6 days ago and it's rolling admission so I should only have to wait maybe a month,but i'm so nervous! I only want to go there and I have hope that I'll get in,but i'm still nervous.Any advice on how to calm me down? I think about it all the time and i'm a wreck over it! (link)
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At UCF, 11% of students have a GPA of 3.0-3.24 and 15% have a GPA of 3.25-3.49, so your GPA is just fine. The average composite scores of students is 23-28, so you're not too far behind. Also, UCF will see that you took it twice which shows commitment, something they will value. One of the most important aspects to UCF is the rigor of your secondary school record, since you have taken honors and AP classes, they will really appreciate how much you challenged yourself and still maintained a great GPA. They ask for 4 years of math, you have taken algebra 1, geometry, algebra 2, and integrated math, so you're caught up with that. I wouldn't worry, you've done everything you can to be a student there. However, it is good to have a few safety schools, maybe you could go on collegeboard.com to search for some other schools that have a lot of the same characteristics as UCF. Also, make sure this is really where you want to go. Have you visited the campus? My advice is just to relax, there's nothing more you can do to increase your chances, you've already done all the hard work so now you should take time to chill.
Best of Luck,
Alexis
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20F.
I'm a skinny girl ..5'6 and weigh 118lbs and I have CELLULITE. I have it on my butt and a little on my legs. I don't understand this ..it came out of nowhere. I've always been skinny ..what can cause this? Are there any exercises to help make it less noticeable? For some reason I've heard running helps it go away a little bit. I'm not up to using any creams or getting any surgery or anything, I'm just wondering if I can make it go away at least a little bit with exercising or SOMETHING. This is the only part of my body I am not comfortable with, wish this would just go away :( (link)
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The cause of cellulite isn't always obesity. It can just come from an unhealthy diet filled with too much carbohydrates, fats, and sodium and not enough protein and fiber. Also, if you don't exercise regularly, cellulite will likely form. Aside from creams and medical procedures, eating a healthy diet and exercising is the best way to fight cellulite. But, using a cream while maintaining a healthy lifestyle does help the process along. To prevent more cellulite from forming, avoid wearing extra tight clothing around the areas with cellulite and find ways to de-stress, since stress can lead to cellulite as well.
Best of Luck,
Alexis
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