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i feel horrible and idk what to do
my friend had problems. she was on medication and she and her parents didn't see eye to eye at all. they'd always fight and she was prone to self mutilation. she called me up one day about a month ago crying. i went to her house and she was standing outside with cuts all over her wrists and thighs, saying she and her mom had a fight and she couldnt take it. i know she wasn't trying to kill herself. if she was, she'd be dead right now and she's not. i invited her to stay at my house and at first my dad said no. but he said she could stay for dinner. so we ate and everything was perfectly fine. then my dad told me that she could stay as long as she needed to but as soon as i was about to tell her, her mom called, demanding that she come home immediately. the next day she called and told me her parents had called an ambulence and she was in a mental hospital-type-thing. i haven't talked to her since, but just now i saw her picture on facebook and started crying, and i NEVER cry. i can't help but feel she wouldnt be where she is if i had just tried harder to help her, or told her sooner that she was able to stay. and i can't help but HATE her parents. she should be back in a couple of weeks but i have no idea how i'm gonna face her or her stupid parents and for some reason this is just now hitting me, on the eve of my 18th birthday. idk what my question is, but any insight might help. thanks.
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Your friend isn't going to be mad at you. You can't do anything if her mother is demanding that she come home. You did what you could you got her mind off it for a little while. if you are 18 how old is she can the two of you work and get an apartment together and help each other out. Cutting is bad it really is the problem is you have to find the source from what you said the source is her parents getting away from them would be her best bet and helping her do that would be the only way i could see you doing something for her if you are feeling like you didnt do enough to be there for her.
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I can really understand your situation, only I was on the other side. I have a best friend who knew that I was somewhat self destructive and I was put in a mental hospital. My family was to blame, just like hers. My friend didn't like my family, either. One thing I know for sure is that there was nothing that she could have done to prevent that. Just like you couldn't have done anything to stop what happened to your friend. A disease is within her, and it was bound to come out soon whether or not she had a great friend like you to help her. My friend was very worried about me and only got to talk to me on the phone once, maybe you could find out the number to where she is so that you can see how she's doing. But just know that she will be okay, once I came out of the hospital I had a whole different approach, I'm sure things will be better once you see her again. As for her parents, they will most likely not want to bring anything up about the whole situation so you shouldn't worry about them. None of this is your fault whatsoever, when she comes home you should have a little letter or present waiting for her like my friend did for me. Things will adjust, just stay strong for her! Good luck!
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