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advice for a shy girl
if a girl is shy, how does she learn to approach cute boys and make the first move?
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In whatever you do, bear in mind that not all strategies work the same way. People are different, you might fake it now to get him...and upset him when he finds out that you made him fall for a "fake” person. So my best advice is; ‘do what YOU think will work for YOU’. Have you been studying the young man…maybe that’s where you should start?
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One important rule is to never give up if a boy turns you down or rejects you. It will eventually happen and how you react afterward can mean a lot. You do have to act like it doesn't matter what other people think because you're trying to make you happy, not them.
The second rule is to not just focus on the cute guys. Sometimes they can be conceited jerks, cheat on you and just be totally wrong for you. Sometimes the average looking guy can be the best fit for you. But, only you can decide what you want.
So, the first move. Try to find something you may have in common with them, bring up some random news story, or have a few jokes handy to break the ice. One other thing is just be yourself. If you try to act like someone your not, you won't be happy and when they see the real you, they may not like it. So it's usually best to let them see you as you. Good luck and I hope you find what you're looking for.
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I used to be the same way. All I can say is:
FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT
Seriously. It works. Especially if the guy has no idea who you are to begin with. Take a deep breath, walk by him, smile and say hi. Then just keep walking. Great way to start, and it will definately get the guy's attention without you coming off deperate. Good luck!
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Practice on chatroulette so you can learn about male anatomy at the same time.
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One of my main strategies is, "FAKE IT 'TILL YOU MAKE IT!" After you act like you're confident and carefree, you'll really start feeling like it. Even if on the inside you're embarrassed you can still pull it off like you don't care. Don't be too nonchalant, though. Sometimes guys really like shyness and think it's cute, but too much shyness can make them think you're not interested. Just be casual about approaching guys, ask something about an assignment or his opinion on a movie. Make it a casual thing and eventually you can ask him if he might want to see a movie or something. As long as you portray that sexy confidence, he won't suspect that you're freaking out inside. But remember, don't always hide your shyness because a little bit can be sweet. Good luck!
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