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Alright there is these two guys... the first one is the one I lost my virginity to and I really care for him.. The second one I haven't done anything with him except hold hands....except when I hold his hand I can't stop thinking about my the first guy and Im not a player or a slut or anything but what should I do and do you think I still have feelings for the first guy

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my sisters are so pretty i just feel like im not and i hate that...then i always feel fat to because there are girls in my class who are like size zeros and im like not a size zero im tall and i weigh a bit but what is the average weight of a 14 yr old who is like 5'3 and how could i spruce up my look ill rate if this really helps me thnx
depressed
p.s. is this low self-esteem and how could i have good self esteem

This is ridiculous.
Excersizing will NOT give you self esteem. Who gives a crap about what size you are or what size everyone else is. If you lived on the moon you'd weigh 1/3 of what you do now, but would that change who you are, and all your problems?
RIiiiiigt...no it would NOT.
Raise your self esteem by putting down the lame-ass fashion magazines like vogue, (if you're hankering for a read, try BUST), turn off the telly that shows you asinine examples of women. Turn on the sports channel. Seriously. Read up on the wicked skater, surfer, snowboarder, skier chicks.
They're strong and healthy and cool and beee-auuu-tiful.

Everyone loves confidence (sorry but its true). It shows in your 'look'. Walk tall, put a smile on your face, and watch the world fall at yer feet (guys and gals)

:)
xo
ABCTC

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I wanted to know is it okay to go out with your best friends Ex boifriend?? I knida wawnt to go out with him. But she says it is okay and totally fine with her but i am afraid that might do something to our relationship? Should I go with him or say no because of my friend???...

That depends.
Regardless of what she says, if you date her ex things WILL change between you and your BF. Whether you want it to or not. Trust me on this ;)
So, if you think he's really really worth it, then go for it.
Just make sure he's really really worth it.

XO
ABCTC

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In the aftermath of the tsunami, the eternal theological question is again posed: what sort of God permits the slaughter of blameless humanity on such a scale?

On the abundant available evidence does it not seem that, if there is or was a God, it is now malevolent, mad or dead?

No, religious nutters please - this is a serious question I'm posing.

Dr Kesha

Supposing god does exist, does it occur to you that it cares a whole lot less for us than we do for ourselves, i.e...we're really not that important in the grand scheme of the universe?

xo
ABCTC

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Lately I've been getting headaches and when I close my eyes trying to get them to go away, I see things. Like there's some kind of movie playing on my eyelids. I saw my friend failing her history test and it actually happened word for word. I tried to talk to my friend about it and she thought I was joking around. I'm really scared. I don't want to be a freak. The headaches keep coming and I keep seeing things and I want it to stop.

What should I do and does this happen to anybody else?

Freaked out Psychic?

Its actually pretty normal. You're having migranes, and many people with migranes see 'halos' and 'auras' around people, but doctors haven't really determined why.

So what if you're a freak...being psychic is cool. Don't be scared. :)

xo
ABCTC

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I've been seein this guy for about 6 months now {he's 28} were not officially together {which is not the problem}, but he never asked me out like that, but I do go hang out at this house & we go places together, I've even met some of his friends. I know his last g/f really hurt him so he said he wanted to take thing's slow, which I understand. problem is, we go to the movies & he doesn't even acknowledge the fact that I'm more than a friend..not even holding hands. This has happened twice. We do kiss each other goodnite, when I leave his house, but no kissin while I'm there! lol Am i just stressin something that doesn't need to be stressed or is this just as much a issue as I think it is? {btw, I'm 22} thanks, I'll rate HIGHHH

heehee...I tend to agree with superwoman.
But seriously, I went through this very SAME THING at 22. No kidding. Only the guy was 30-ish, but same-same. The whole thing ended up messing me up pretty seriously, cause even though it wa'nt my plan, I got hooked. I fell really hard, and none of my feelings were ever reciprocated or acknowledged. I totally bottomed out on self-esteem, and for a good many years, ended up making stupid choices in the man department.
The fact that you're even asking this means you feel something already.
Do the tough thing and ask him WTF. If he isn't on the same level as you are, it'll hurt, but less so than it would later.

And if he is gay, at least you'll have a lifetime shopping partner, THEN you can go and find someone to 'partner' with in other ways :D

xo
ABCTC

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About a couple of days ago I got an e-mail from my boyfriend's sister. She told me that he tryed killing himself and he's currently in the hospital for blood loss. I'm blaming myself for all this. He told me he loved me a week ago or and I rolled my eyes and blocked him. Because we've been fighting for awhile. One of my friends told him I didn't love him, but mixed up the converstation when he should have said I didn't know if I had the same feelings for him anymore. My boyfriend took it the wrong way because I do really love him. Problem is, his family doesn't know if hes going to make it. I have no way to get to see him, because he's on the other side of Canada. (He moved). We've been together for 3 years. I know this is all my fault and I think about it everyday and been crying all the time. I don't know what to do. ANY help would be GREAT!

This isn't your fault. i promise. trying to take your own life is a big, big, big decision. It's never just one thing, or one PERSON. Ever.
Don't ever feel bad for the choices you make. Sometimes they work out, sometimes they don't, but that won't ever change. You sound like an empathetic, caring person, and you have nothing to feel badly for. You did the best you could, with what you had, and that's the best all of us can ever do.
Chin up, girly
;)

xo
ABCTC

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my boyfriend and i have benn going out for 11 months and he is always saying how much he loves me and stuff but then he hurts me so bad sometimes and he thinks he can like other ppl but im not allowed and i cry almost everytime we get into a fight and he thinks i dont care about him and the person i would think understand this bc shes been with him b4 said i need to move on but i guess thats really not what i wanna hear because i love him so much!!! but i dont think i can trust him cheating on my and playing with my mind but i love him so much!!

What should i do :/

Why do you love someone who hurts you? He doesn't sound so great to me. Write a list of all the things you 'love' about him, and then all the things he does that hurt you. Seriously. By the end you'll be wondering the same thing I was. It'll blow yer mind.
Break up with him.

xoxo
ABCTC

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I just found out my husband has been cheating on me. We agreed to separate for a while because we can't live together right now. But he is still sleeping with this woman who is also married with children. He says he is not sure weather or not it is going to work out with her, that he doesn't know her, he is just living a fantasy right now, replacing what was missing in our relationship. He is getting attention he hasn't gotten from me in a while because our lives have been so busy. It doesn't make it okay, but our relationship is way to special to throw away and I want to work it out with him. We are going to couples counseling in a few months. I am having a hard time convincing him to stop sleeping with this woman, and I am thinking about sending this woman's husband the e-mails she and my husband have exchanged along with a letter I have written to him revealing the truth about what his wife has been out doing. But will this push this woman further into my husbands arms or will it make her and her husband focus on their own relationship instead of her focusing on hers with my man? Please help, I don't know weather or not to send it without everyone's advice out there!! Will it only cause more problems that will work against what I want (my husband back in my arms) or will it end the affair my husband is having?

1. You're beautiful, strong and fabulous.
2. repeat this to youself over and over, because what follows ain't so great.

This man doesn't love you. If he once did, he doesn't anymore. Leave now. You cannot FORCE someone to love you, nor should you want to. This person does not care about you or your children, and you need to exit this situation as soon as possible. You CAN survive on your own. The other people are not your concern right now, and you don't need to bother with 'should I tell her husband'. Stand up for yourself, respect yourself, and leave him.

Honest.

XO
ABCTC

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