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Q: what are the symtoms of clamidia, gonorea n herpes. im really scared

yellow discharge.
if you think you have it you need to go to the doctor immediatly! because you dont know you have it unless its too late. and if you have herpes, you can NEVER get rid of it but it WONT kill you. and if you usually have clamidia then you probably have gonnorhea too. there are antiobiotics for those two also. and if you have herpes, they can give you medicine to relieve the blister pain. but get it checked out RIGHT AWAY!

Q: my speakers are plugged in my computer
but i dont hear any sound at all!!!!
I CANT EVEN WATCH VIDEOS ON YOUTUBE!
and i cant listen to music!

What do i do? How do i hear again?

hello darling,
try to turn the speakers on.
-violet shroom

Q: Ok i have gym in next semester and my friend told me that you have this test to see how long can you hang onto a monkey bar.

Well, I shave my armpits but like you can still see the dots and it's the same with waxing too because i have black hair and the area around the armpit is kinda dark too.

And I can't change my outfit because we have uniforms. Any advice would be great, thank you.

hello darling,
you should try nair. its a cream that removes the hair completely from that one area. i hope it works for you. but a heads up--it burns sometimes.
-violet shroom

Q: what is rolling stones? what is it about? what type of magazine is it? like fashion? Cars? or what?

hello darling,
the magazine is about all the latest bands like fall out boy and stuff like that. and thats all.
-violet shroom

Q: ugh i want to lose weight..i feel kinda bad about how i look evryday i lost weight over the summer but now i have gained it all back and maybe even a little more i sometimes just cant control my eating!..i want to lose most of it by february but i want to look a bit thinner by monday 2 days which through all i have been through i know is impossible but i dont know why i keep getting this in my head..i am gonna start soon to lose weight again......how do i deal with my emotions and how do i stop myself from eating alot?

thanks so much it means alot!

hello darling,
you dont need to do a crash diet. just eat more healthy foods and salads. that should make you loose weight and keep it down.
-violet shroom

Q: Ok.
I was dating this guy and i REALLY REALLY liked him. He was 4 years older than me and I liked him more than any other guy ive dated. Well, he entered the army so we broke up because he didnt think it was fair if I dated him because he would never be there for me. But when he left to go to the basic training we continued to write to each other and talked about getting back together. However, one day i check my myspace to see him say that there is a guy friend of his at basics and that he is interested in me. He also said that this guy was inexperienced and was country (which i like). I cant tell if he is just testing me or if he is trying to get me to move on. Please help me out with this!!!
He comes home on December 13th and i need to have my mind made up what im going to do regaurdless of the situation...
thanks so much!!
XOXO
madison

hello darling,
you can never know. since you have never met "this guy." then you never know if they are lying to you or not. you have to trust the guy you dated because he shouldnt even think of lying to you. go with your gut.
-violet shroom

Q: I just started taking NV diet pills to hopefull lose some weight but I later found poor reviews saying the product is NOT effective. Please tell what you may think or know about the product so I know wether or not I need to switch diet pills.

hello darling,
most diet pills dont work. the companys just want to make money. if you want to lose a couple of pounds, just eat healthy, like salads. not with cheese, tomatos, and all the stuff that doesnt help lose weight. you dont need to go on a crash diet either because then you might become anorexic. good luck with this!
-violet shroom

Q: hello i am a guy and i have dark blond/brownish hair and i was wondering if there is some kind of shampoo that will gradually make it blonder. I dont really care if it is girl shampoo--whatever works (:

hello darling,
i havent heard of such, but you could try a sally beauty supply store and they probably could help you.
-violet shroom

Q: Ok, I've been dating my bf Alex for 6 months on the 3rd and I like him alot but I recently met this guy Mike and I'm starting to like him alot too. He is so nice to me and makes me feel pretty but then so does Alex. I'm having a hard time deciding if I should stay with Alex or try things with Mike. HELP ME PLEASE! What should I do? Stay with Alex or try with Mike? Much appreciation!

hello darling,
you should only stay with one who treats you the best. if mike treats you better then alex or alex treats you better then mike, then you should stay with alex or go for mike. i hope you get this all figured out.
-violet shroom

Q: How long/big should your penis be to be considered normal??????
14/m

hello darling,
it doesnt really matter. girls dont really care about size and if they do, they shouldnt. whatever size your penis is, is whatever size it should be.
-violet shroom

Q: my moms telling me if i dye my hair when im on my period it will fuck it up or whatever.. is that truee ?

&& alsoo. my hairs died black & im trying to dye just the top part of it like a dark/lightbrown if i usedlight ash blonde would it work ?

hello darling,
i dont think anything will happen. your mother just might not want you to dye your hair and if you are worried then, wait until your period stops and then do it. but i wouldnt worry about it.
-violet shroom

Q: To sum my situation up, last year I liked this new freshman and my friend Kirsten didn't AT FIRST. But, as usual, she began to think he was cute too once I talked about him a lot. After 2 months they started to "talk," but she told him that I liked him too, and that they should wait to go out until I went out with this guy that I was talking to. But, in fact, I wasn't talking to anyone, she just used that as an excuse. SO then she asked me if she could go out with him. WHAT WAS I SUPPOSED TO SAY? NO? What kind of friend would say no? So, they went out for about 8 months or so I'm not sure, and they just broke up after several issues occured, most of them dealing with her being a bad girlfriend. Me and the guy have always talked, and at one point during the summer I thought that he was going to cheat on Kirsten with me but I avoided it. Anyway, now we're just friendly but I've always felt like he liked me more than a friend but he went for Kirsten because she spoke up. So what do you think, should I try him at all? I know it's not the right thing to do, but she doesn't know how to be a friend. Btw I'm 16 and im .. a girl. duh. haha.

hello darling,
if he is your friends ex then you should. dont say no if he asks you out because he and your friend are over. when i was younger (about 57 years ago) my best friend rosa would always try to steal my boyfriend. i didnt appreciate it that much but i didnt care if we broke up. go for him.
-violet shroom

Q: My nose was pierced with a 18g stud. Apparently, it was misleading. I bought a hoop nose ring that was 18g and I couldn't get it in. So how do you gauge it? From a 20g to a 18g? Someone told me to shove it in but it's not even that easy. I don't want to use a needle or safety pin since i'm allergic. And I can't find many 20g hoop rings. I don't even know if I'm a 20g. I bought studs that said 18g too. I just don't get it :[

Should I trust Ebay to buy a ring from there?

hello darling,
you should NOT trust ebay because you never know if they are lying to you or not. i would go to hot topic or spencers or somewhere to buy one. that is where my 18 year old granddaughter goes.
-violet shroom

Q: So around the end of last summer i met this girl and we have been liek BEST friends ever since like... inseperable, we spend every weekend together no matter what

well lately ive become like dependant on her.. its weird like i can tell her anything and i mean anything but im not happy when im with any other friend

i alwasy tell her that if im to clingy just tell me but she never says anything about it

im worried that im too clingy but shes my true best friend

i really dont knwo what to do

i dont want her to get "fed up" with me even though shes never said anythgin about it

hello darling,
if she is your bestfriend she wont care. my granddaughter loves to be with her bestfriend. when she comes to my house she always brings her. its funny they are so crazy when they are together. but dont worry about being too clingy.
-violet shroom

Q:
around june i went on a diet. i was 5'6" and 140 lbs. i had a little tummy i wanted to lose. i lost 10 lbs dieting. then i came down with mono and i lost another 15 lbs in less than 2 weeks.

my appetite has gotten smaller. i eat like a bird. i keep losing weight without exercising or anything. im actually trying to gain a few lbs now, because i dont think im healthy. im at 115 lbs now.
now ive noticed that everytime i eat, unless its something im craving makes me feel sick.

whats wrong with mee? :[

hello darling,
you definataly need to try to eat more because this could turn into a serious problem. you should go out with some friends for a pizza night or something and try to eat and not get sick. you could become anorexic and that is very dangerous.
-violet shroom

Q: does the w385 allow you to record your own sounds and set them as ringtones? i am looking into getting one. also any comments on overall use, what you like and dont like about it are welcome.

hello darling,
usually if you have a cell phone...you can record them but you cant set them as ringtones unless you send them to yourself. i know this because my grandchildren do it for me on my cell phone.
-violet shroom

Q: What are some good progream I can download to burn cds?

hello darling,
i have some good ones downloaded on my computer because my grandchildren love to burn cds for their friends. to get songs they use limewire and to burn cds or something they use youtunes.
-violet shroom

Q: Is the nickname for a prostitute spelt ho or hoe? I really always thought it was ho, since hoe looks too much like the garden tool, and ho is really only a laugh, and seems MUCH more suitable for the whore comment. Thoughts, comments, answers?

hello darling,
its hoe. i use those for my garden. but they are both the same so if you want to know how to spell it...its hoe.
-violet shroom

Q: I want to make my own layout
just one color, and with georgia text, and tiny

how can i do this?
thanks!

hello darling,
i love to surf the web in my spare time. and i found a site where you can make them. and i am not going to make this message long. so i am just going to leave a link.
www.static-layouts.com
-violet shroom

Q: Hey!, I'm Ashley. I'm 16.
i've known my this boy Henry for almost three years. He is friends with some of my best guy friends. We flirted on and off for about two years but never went out because we hardly saw each other. This past summer Henry started hanging out with my neighbor and best friend Ryan who i've known my entire life. This put him closer and we saw each other more and more. Then he asked me out and we were dating for two and a half months. we recently took a break but now we both want to get back together but Ryan now likes me as more than a friend and is jealous of Henry. When ever he can he tries to separate us, and tells me lies about Henry. He advises me not to take him back. I only see Ryan as a friend so I don't have feelings for him but I don't want to lose him either. I feel that he will get very angry is Henry and I start up again as a couple. I don't know what to do.. advice please? :)

thanks so much-
Ashley

hello darling,
i think that on this one you really should just follow your hear. just explain to ryan that you see him as more of a brother and not a boy friend. if he really cares about your friendship then he'll understand. but if you getting back together with henry would ruin your friendship with ryan you might wanna think about it. which is worth more. a boyfriend or a friendship? but i think if ryan is really your friend and cares about you, he'll totally understand.
-violet shroom

bio

Hello boys and girls,
My name is Violet Shroom and I am 75 years old. I live in California along with my 3 cats. I have 4 children and 7 grandchildren. I won't name them because that would take forever. I have a cell phone which is unbelievable for my age group, but it's the only way to get ahold of my children and grandchildren nowadays. I want to help the new generation of youngsters on this website so ask me a question and I will try to help my best. I have a boyfriend named, Franklin, and it's getting pretty serious. I don't want to be married at this age though because I won't be alive forever. I do have a will which is pretty amazing if I do say so myself. I guess I will go now. Tata.