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Should I even think about my friend's ex?
To sum my situation up, last year I liked this new freshman and my friend Kirsten didn't AT FIRST. But, as usual, she began to think he was cute too once I talked about him a lot. After 2 months they started to "talk," but she told him that I liked him too, and that they should wait to go out until I went out with this guy that I was talking to. But, in fact, I wasn't talking to anyone, she just used that as an excuse. SO then she asked me if she could go out with him. WHAT WAS I SUPPOSED TO SAY? NO? What kind of friend would say no? So, they went out for about 8 months or so I'm not sure, and they just broke up after several issues occured, most of them dealing with her being a bad girlfriend. Me and the guy have always talked, and at one point during the summer I thought that he was going to cheat on Kirsten with me but I avoided it. Anyway, now we're just friendly but I've always felt like he liked me more than a friend but he went for Kirsten because she spoke up. So what do you think, should I try him at all? I know it's not the right thing to do, but she doesn't know how to be a friend. Btw I'm 16 and im .. a girl. duh. haha.
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Two, totally seperate and different problems:
1.) You want to date your friends ex.
Not actually a problem as far as I'm concerned. She didn't have to ask your permission and you don't have to ask hers. Just know she might be hurt, and she's allowed to be hurt. There will be consequences if you date this guy. People will talk.
I'm not sure you've caught this, but here is your other problem.
2.) You have absolutely NO respect for Kirsten. In your question you've insulted her in pretty much every way possible. You don't like her, you thinks she makes bad choices and you resent her being forward when you were not.
In short, you think Kirsten is a lousy human being.
You can't be a very good friend to her if you think that way about her and you don't seem to think she is a good friend to you...
Maybe the solution to this problem, is to not be Kirsten's friend.
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hello darling,
if he is your friends ex then you should. dont say no if he asks you out because he and your friend are over. when i was younger (about 57 years ago) my best friend rosa would always try to steal my boyfriend. i didnt appreciate it that much but i didnt care if we broke up. go for him.
-violet shroom
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That's a tough one..but if you really like this guy and if you think he's right for you. And of course, if it's okay with your friend, then sure! Give him a shot! oh she dosnt know how to be a friend..then she might not care about you two going out
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