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Just like most college students, I am at a point right now where I have no idea what I "want to be when I grow up". For a little back ground- I enrolled in Nursing school last year (for no reason in particular, I'm interested in the health field and like helping people.. so perfect right?) and it's an Associates Degree program so I will be graduating this Spring. Long story short, these past 2 years have been miserable. I know that anybody who has gone through Nursing school has said the same thing, however it's usually worth it for them in the end. For me though, I think even after I graduate I'm not going to enjoy it; I don't necessarily enjoy the content or the clinicals. SO, that being said- I have absolutely no idea what to do now. As I mentioned before, I am interested in health care, and even more so helping people! Another important thing, is that I think I'm leaning more towards holistic health (acupuncture, reiki, etc.) than the typical health care. Any suggestions?? I will take any recommendations even if you're not sure if I'd enjoy them or not.
Some ideas I have had are working with animals to heal people, opening my own "wellness center" that would include things such as massage and acupuncture. I just really don't know... I hate to say it, but money is important and I have been told all along to not go into a job for the money, but to find something I enjoy doing and the money will come. I'm trying to stick to that but I just can't seem to find something I think that I will enjoy.
Thank you for any help in advance!!
Honey believe me, you are not alone! Many student nurses feel the same way you do. The ecomony we are in right now isn't helping matters any either. Many student nurses are unable to find employment. In fact many nursing graduates are unable to find work, RN's are needed but that is alot more schooling than the average two year program. The light at the end of the tunnel is the course requirements for the first two years of nursing are much in the same of many career paths. Associates degrees in science lead to many different avenues in the walks of education and professions, look into and you might discover that you dont need to take too many more classes to find a career you feel satisfied with. Hope this helps Rosey :)
Hello ,
So I have this situation , I go to the gym , and there is this guy that works there , and so , we use to eye eachother , he works there by the way , and later on he said ''hey'' to me one day , and the next time he was like ''whats up'' and as he came back hes like '' I always see you here , your here like 24/7'' and stuff , and then now he says ''hey'' to me or ''smiles'' to me and stuff , and I want to get to know him more , what should I do ? Should I ask him to hang out?
PLEASE HELP
Thanks.
BETTY
Betty,
It seems like the guy is trying to make conversation but be careful....it could be one of three things: either he has a girl friend and is a die hard flirt (85% of heterosexual males, he is shamlessly shy (why he hasn't asked you out yet) or the gym has a strick policy about employees dating the customers. I am thinking it is one of these, men ususally go for it when they are interested. If you really like the guy perhaps you could ask him a couple of "generalized" questions that might enlighten you to the reason for his reluctantcy, or atleast acknowledge if he is indeed interested in you. If the cost is clear for you and he to "hang out" than it will happen just be patient, there is no hurry unless your membership is about to expire. Hope this helps Rosey ;)
18/f
(itll be a year this october)
k so me and my boyfriend broke up because he LOVES me but is not IN LOVE with me, but im so completely head over heels in love.. wtf do i do. we recently hung out and now like everytime we hang out we have sex. i dont want that.... i want LOVEEE . everytime i ask if he has feelings for me like that again he says i can't rush him back into love n i wish i could but i know i cant . WHAT DO I DO. do i just hang out with him and not kiss him anymore? i sware to god this hurts so bad. maybe the more we hang out and not do anything..... he'll fall back in lovee :-( :-(
18,
I am so sorry honey but, that is not the case. Men either love you or they don't. Men are alot different the women. Women fall in love very few times in their lives, the rest of the relaionships they have are to get over feeling lonely but it is rarely about you. The men who do think about you, are the ones you find to be the most annoying and least interesting. Be honest with your self and really think about it, how do you feel about the person who would do anything to be with you? Do you know though because it doesn't matter how you treat them, they will always be there, you really don't have to put any effort into them. Instead you spend all of your time trying to conquer other interest, your interests. It all goes back to the idea of the toy you really wanted for christmas. You had to have it, it was the one thing you really wanted, but when you got it, well, it wasn't all you thought it would be, and you now saw an even better toy and wanted that toy. A man who loves a woman does just that, he never has to be convinced that he loves you, he would never doubt it. I am sure he likes you just fine,what is not to like, you adore the man how can he treat you badly without feeling bad, and that is the best case I can think of, it could be for other reasons. You said you want love, if that statement is true I think you need to start over and look in other places. There is an old saying about loving something and letting it go. Who knows maybe later on things can be different for you two, as times change people do too. I will tell you that the boy I fet that way about when I was your age moved away after 3 years of me waiting for him to realize that he loved me, I waited and waited. That day finally came years later when he finally said that I was the only girl who ever loved him. Staring at a man who was 20 years older and not as interesting I realied how gratful I was that I had bowed out gracefully and let him go. He is one of my very dearest friends. He was he first to call me in the hospital when my husband and I had our first son. You might think that it was not the same but, he was my first dance, he was my first kiss, he was my first everything. When he moved away I was devistated I thought I would die. As time when on it did get better, I got on with my life and only called him on his birthday and only just to say hi, I let friendship be enough. We are the best of friends today and that will always be enough for both of us. He had been there for me many time throughout the years and I am slways there for him. There had been a couple of jeaous mates in our pasts but we kept our distance out of respect for them, even thought we remained just friends for the last 20 years. As we get older we realize that whether we are able to return the feelings or not, the people who love us, are the most special of all. It is more important to hold on to to the ones we love, keep them close, but not to ever compromise our principals. It is those very princibals that makes us the lovable, respectful people we are later on in life, the principals that deem us love worthy. Hope that helps Rosey :)
I like this girl and she finally gave me her phone number. We talked twice on the phone this week already. My brother (older) said not to call her too much if I'm interested because then she'll play hard to get and things will get too complicated. I don't want her to play hard to get? So how much is too much? Do I call her like once a week or is that too much too?
LOL, I love it! you men are so silly sometimes. This question is simple. Think of the phone as a game of volley ball, you hit the ball over the net, then the person on the other side hits it back, then you hit it again. Now apply this concept to the world of telephone dating. You call, she calls, you call.....see how this is going? After a few weeks of this you two should have a better game plan. Now picture your self playing volley ball, and no one else is hitting the ball. You go from on side of the net hitting the ball, to the other to catch it, than back again to hit it. WOW you sure look silly dont you. Dont let this happen to you, you call and then let her call, after all the phone line works both ways right? Hope this helps Rosey :)
I had a cold sore like 3 weeks ago and I gave my bf a blowjob twice during that time. Today he was talking about having a sore down there on his shaft that was bothering him. He let me look at it and it looks a lot like my coldsore looked? I asked him if he ever got this bump thing before and he said no, never. I'm the only person who he's ever had sex ANYTHING with and I'm like omg did I give him something? Cold sores aren't like contagious to genitals or whatever, right? i told him not to tell his mom til we got this figured out because she'd be mad at me for spreading a disease to him or something
You should both be tested as soon as possible. Though it is not common for a person with a cold sore to cause a partner to have genital herpes, is is very common for a person with genital herpes to cause a person to have herpes in the mouth. I would definitly say that it is more likely that you caught something from him and not the other way around. I am not an expert of course but I would get myself tested if I were you. GOOD LUCK!! Rosey :)
What's the borderline between "you can do it as long as you wokr hard and never give up!" and setting yourself up for failure?
I'm aiming for a career as a nurse, but really, there's only a couple of nurses that I like. None of my friends and family love them since they've had bad incidents with them and just think that they're all bitches. And with my experiences as a student working alongside them, I agree 90%. It's kind of hard to become one too but even though I'm average smart, I give it 200% to everything that I do. But it's so hard and I kind of think that it's my limit. Like, I wish I could be smarter, but I think that it limits with people to an extent. But even if I do make it, I'll be surrounded with a lot of co-workers that I will most likely won't like. And I've already given up like my life so far declining social invites, volunteering, etc to just become the best and educated nurse that I can be and become one as soon as possible. Do you think that I can make it evenutally or am I just setting myself for failure because of my perfectionist ideas?
Considering I too am a nurse I feel I can answer this question for you. Yes I will agree that many of the professors I encountered in school were quite rude and down right mean. I offen wondered why they became nurses in the first place. Nurses are supposed to be kind, loving people, aren't they. But then I realized the kind loving nurses are the ones who wash your back and change your bed pans. The real nurses (the RN's) are responsible for so much more. RN's barely have time to talk to patients they are to busy making sure patient are well cared for by the doctors and other staff at the facility and or hospitals. The RN is responsible for every aspect of the patients care from bathing, eating, dressing changes, IV's, catherers, blood testing. etc, In short RN's have alot to do. Nursing teachers have an even harder task , they have to teach others how to do all of these things, and also weed out the wimps. If you are the patient, do you want a nurse who isnt sure of herself? I dont think any patient wants to have a nurse who doesn't know if they want to be a nurse or not. This is the question you need to ask yourself, and really think about the answer. If you do, truly want to be a nurse, you will succeed in doing so. I have been told by some of the best professors nursing has to offer, the best nurses are B students (so keep that in mind). Also their are many careers in the medical field that are rewarding, if you feel nursing isnt right for you I am sure you will find your credits will transfer to many other promisint professions. Good Luck in what ever you chose to do, as a student who also gave 200% I totally understand where you are coming from. I too wondered if I was choosing the right career path, I still do and I finshed school 2 years ago. One thing I wanted to mention is your goals can always be achieved as long as you dont set your self up to fail by demanding too much of yourself all at once. Small goals are the easiest to achieve, many achievable small goals is better than one impossible one. Rosey :)
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OK so I really like this guy Jose he is really nice ,but he dosen't like me.We were at camp for our school peer group.He wrote on my paper "your a good friend DON'T change"So I am really bummed.Then on the nus ride back from camp this boy Jared was hitting on me.We were talking about how boy get turned on easier i don't know why but i like grabbed his knee and it seemed like he like it so I did the whole walking w/ my fingers up and down his leg.I feel bad I was leading him on now my best friend thinks he likes me not her so i need help I am starting to realize he is kinda cute ,but i stll really like jose.What do i do??
THNX IN ADVANCE
TINK2359
TINK2359,
Trust me I know how it feel to find out the guy you really like doesn't feel the same. I know this is going to be hard to swallow but take it from someone who knows, you cannot change their minds. The feelings you have for Jared are common you are turning to someone who likes you in a time of rejection. DONT DO IT!! if you only like the fact that Jared likes you, you are setting yourself up for disaster. I think one thing that all girls and women should realize is that it is the woman not the man, who are the hunters. Woman are more intreged by someone we have to chase rather than someone who lays beneathe our feet and says "here I am". In many situations you will find that you really like a guy until you catch him. It is kind like fishing, you will reel in all the fish but you will through back the ones that aren't worth keeping. Luckily for the avid fisherman the fish dont mind being thrown back. Unfortunately for women men aren't as forgiving and get disgruntaled when tossed. For this reason we should be careful when dealing with issues of the heart. Another thing that concerns me is Jared topic of conversation, it is not your problem how easily boys get turned on, this is very inappropriate conversation for a simple bus ride. Seems to me that Jared has one thing on his mind, and you should not waste your time fighting off advancements for a boy you really dont even like. Hope this helps :) Rosey
I know STDs are obviously diseases and spread through sex. I was wondering if you have sex on your period if you're more prone to getting an STD of some sort? Because obviously there's blood involved and it's coming from you and they say a lot of diseases are bloodborne. I'm not going to have sex on my period though. I'm just curious about it because it makes a lot of sense to me that it would be more dangerous or whatever.
Whether you have your period or not does not change your ability or inability to contract an STD. STD's can be very dangerous and unless you are in a serious, long term relationship with a partner who has been tested, you should not be having unprotected sex. STD's are not all treatable some cause more serious illness such as cancer and even death. Pregnancy to a person who has an STD is very serious, not only to the expectant mother but also to the fetus. In severe cases the baby can be born blind, seriously ill, or not at all. So please always use condoms, just the fact that you are asking this question tells me that you are worried about STD's. If you are in a relationship in which STD's are possible ALWAYS play it safe. If your significant other does not respect your wishes, you have to wonder how many others had he been with in an unsafe(unprotected) manner. This is just my advice, the rest is up to you. You will get alot of advice in your life, some you wont even have to ask for, but always remember: you only get one life and one body take care of it.
16/female here!
My boyfriend(also 16) and I have our 200th day in the next 2 weeks and I'm very confused on what to do!
On our 100th day, I did the simple making cookies but I also added in my home-made stuffed bunny that I made him.. he LOVES it! XD hahaa I know it's kiddish but I knew that he'd like it because guys are little softies inside~ X3 and sooo i was just curious of what to get/give/make him this time~ :) Please help me~ :]
Thanks! :D
Dear 16/female,
I think a scrapbook would be a great gift for such an occasion. Considering the fact that you celebrate anniversaries every 100 days it might be nice to start with a scrapbook and just the first page and second page. Include anything that maybe a reminder of the things you two have done over the past 100 days on the first and 200 days on the second. Than each time you celebrate another 100 days you can add pages to the scrapbook, maybe do a special page for your first year anniversary and so on. If your relationship last you two could really enjoy looking through your scrapbook in the years to come, it may even encourage your boyfriend to do more interesting things with you, to add to the scrapbook. Hope this helps :)Rosey