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My question is simple, could you suggest a good, easy, and result showing work-out plan? I really need to get in shape for my Junior year. I am the Junior-Class President next year, and I MUST look in great shape. I have tried diets and many differents tools, and none show results. I am 16, and currently weigh, last I checked, 225lbs. (link)
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I would definatly try pilates--there are tv ad's on all the time for this!
I absolutly LOVE it! I started when i was 16--weighed 195 lbs--and am now 18 and only 120 lbs--all of it muscle and toned though!
I HATE diets--so it must be this work out!!
you see--her videos are very easy to do--none of that running around, jumping everywhere crap! It focuses on toning your stomache the entire time (which is where most girls want to lose some weight + gives you a nice toned stomach)
You can buy the dvd/vhs set either from the tv, online, and now alot of times i see them in stores!
Goodluck with finding a workout!
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ok well i have a question. I got my belly button pierced in december. I've switched a new ring already so thats all been acomplished already. So i come to find out fri. morning that the lil ball is missing. So i took it out. I got a new belly button ring and i cant get it in!! Not fair! i know.. but anyways i just let it sit fri. night and sat. night. i constantly tried but its like for sure i cant get it in. Anyways! My question is... can i get it repierced and how long do i have to wait? (link)
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Yes, you can repierce your belly button if needed, in most situations! I would go to a really good tatoo/piercing parlor and have them check it out! I am sure they have seen this happen before, and my even know a way to get the ring through without having to repierce it! Even if the do have to redo the piercing-and as long as it is not infected, then all they do is just repierce the area quickly.
I am guessing what happened is the skin started to just regrow back in the hole (I know that sounds a little gross)..but by repiercing it, they are just getting rid of it again!
People put spacers in their ears, so if your worried about the hole being too big or anything, dont worry, it may seem like it at first, but your skin/the hole will go back to normal size soon!
I hope I helped--not sure if I did!!
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hello everyone im a 13 year old female and i weight 81 pounds that may seem small but its normal for my family for example my mom weighs 109 she weighs less then most of my friends but anways im joing east lynn pop wanrer cheerleading and since this is my 1st year doing it im on c squad with the 5th graders and some of them weigh 65-70 pounds and i need to weigh that to be a flyer and since i was a flyer last time for my school i would like to be a flyer again i only drink water or diet coke which have no calories and i dont eat anything that is 120 calories or more im also actice i do cheerleading for my school and dance 3 days a week and also track when its in season i also do work out tapes daily i want to loose at least 11 pounds so i will be 70 pounds i also use my moms work out machines sometimes too i run around the block too im going to start jump roping too i even keep a chart too with the date day calories and weight on it i also dont eat breakfast either so does anyone know how to loose weight besides those things ill rate high if you tell me anything but what i said or join a gym or weight watchers or another diet thing like that p.s sorry for the longess but thanks for reading it i apprecaite it (link)
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50 pounds?! Um--I had a cousin who has been a cheerleader her whole life, and even was in national competitions--I have never heard of girls being that skinny.
My understanding was that you need alot of muscle because of all of the movement and everything that a cheerleader has to do! It is nearly impossible to be that skinny and be strong.
By starving yourself your only hurting things in the long run because you will get no where in the cheerleading world by just being a twig!
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i am a 13/f. i need indepandance. i want to be able to go places. to peirce my belly button. to go to rated r movies. not to have to sneak out to see my boyfreind. dye my hair purple. own a housekey.
i cut my hair, and it looks okay, but my mom didnt see it yet. i am so grounded tommorow. i have like no freedom in my house. my mom reads my emails and my books! she doesnt let me go to peoples houses unless she knows them. doesn't want me to pluck my eyebrows like i do. sh wants me to let them be natural!?:/ doesnt want me to have a bf. (she would flip if she knew the truth)my mom is like a watchdog. i gotta do something. talking to her or my dad doesnt work. my mom is in charge of the family, and in my face. what should i do to gain her trust and rights that a teenager should have?
-thanks
-xoxo olga (link)
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Well--by going behind her back and cutting your hair is definatly not going to help you gain any trust with your mother! I hate to say it, but you are only 13, and as much as you want to be independent, you are still young.
The fact that you incorrectly spelled many of those words in your entry shows how young you still are.
However, I do understand that it could be difficult to have almost every aspect of your life controlled. Your mom does seem a little overprotective of you.
So, if I was in your shoes, I would try with little things to gain trust. Don't lie about going out with friends. Invite them over so she can meet them. It may seem like a hassle, but hopefully over time she will see that you have a good group of friends, and maybe will become a little more understanding and lenient when it comes to letting you go to friends houses.
As for the "plucking eyebrows" situation. Sit down with your mom with some pictures of eyebrows you like (i.e. magazines with celebs in it--find some that you like) and try to come up with a look you can both agree on. Go to a salon to get them done so you can get the agreed look. Again--with time she will see that you are growing up, and will respect your wishes on when it comes to how you look.
The boyfriend issue is a little more difficult. I think that if you work on the little things first and build up your relationship to where your mom will trust you with a boyfriend may be the best way to go. You have to show her first that you are able to take care of yourself, and you can make good judgements!
I really hope things work out. But just remember, as annoying as it may, your mom is only trying to look out for you. I would have died to have a mother who was so interested in my life. Unfortunatly I had to make alot of mistakes on my own because I had no parenting to guide me. Over time, you mother will see that you are growing up, and that you are changing and need your own space. Good luck with everything!
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I'm 13 and I love music. I play the violin adn the piano and I also kind of sing. I really want to be a music producer (btw i get straight a's), so how can I get on that track to be a producer? What highschool courses should i take? What should I do to prepare? How can I get a job? (link)
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That is great that your only 13 and already very motivated!
I would suggest taking a variety of classes. Of course keep up with all of your music classes, ie..choir and band. However, if it is offered, try taking a "music history" class. If you know about musics history, you will be able to see what has worked in the past, etc. Have a better inside knowledge.
Now, another type of class, that I actually think will help you better is a marketing class!! Alot of the major music producers cannot sing one good note, however, the reason they got to where they are is BECAUSE THEY SOLD THEMSELVES! no--i dont mean they sold their soul or anything--they just know how to appeal to people. In marketing, you learn how you should present yourself in a business like setting.
Take speech classes and debate. By being a great speaker, you will be able to work your way up, because you will have the ability to wow your bosses!!
To get a job, try talking to your school counselor. Look up small record companys in the area. You could try to get a job as a secretary, cleaner, anything, just to get you into that environment! Because your young, they probably wont consider you for any major positions, however you will be able to get a feel for how the company is run! Than, later on, when in college, you can use that experience to help you get an even better job withing a music company to start your way moving up to becoming a top producer!!
I hope I helped and good luck!
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i have to give 2 presentations at school. One on tuesday for history and another on wednesday for health. im sooo afraid. i am 18 years old and have been doing school presentations forever but no matter how many times i do them or no matter how much i practice and prepare ahead of time, i get up in front of the class and my voice shakes a million times a minute and im so embarrased and scared and just want to die! no matter how calm i am before i go up there, once i face the class, im done. what can i do to help me with this?? (link)
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I used to have the same problem! I was always the shy girl growing up, however to change that I took a class and learned alot of really cool tricks to help calm you down and to help presentations!
1. If you can use notes, try using only note cards, and only write down the topics and statistics..when you have to read off of a paper and you lose your place, that makes it more difficult, and just adds to your nervousness then. This may mean more study time, but its well worth it
2. Sometimes when you go fast, you get nervous, so try standing the following way....stand straight up with your feet shoulder width apart, have your hands down by your sides with your middle fingers lightly touching the outside of your legs (very naturally though, if you were to look it the mirror, you would look very normal, standing straight) Now, lightly tap your middling finger against your leg. By doing this, it will remind you to speak slow, and it really does help keep you calm. It will slow down your breathing, so you wont get out of breath at all, and helps you concentrate.
I know that may sound kinda funny--but it really does work!!
The last advice I have is to look slightly above everyones heads while giving the speech. By doing so, your head will still be up, (teachers mark off points alot if your always looking down)..however you won't have people making funny faces at you then, that may get you off track!
I really hope that everything goes well, and I hope a few of these tips will help! Good luck, and let me know how the speeches go--if you have any other questions, or need clarification on some of this (sorry its late) feel free to email/ask me! Thanks again, goodluck!!
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Ok listen!
My boyfriend and i r really in love and people are tell me that we are going to break up and we usually call each other but we haven't talked all day! I am really worried! I need help! I am soo confused and sad!! Plzz help!
Thanks
Friz!!!
I am 13 and so is he! (link)
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Your only 13--and if you get that worried over one day of not talking--then thats not love. Love involves trust. I would just call him up again, and try to talk to him.
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i'm a little unsure about the category but i guess it doesn't matter
i have a school dance coming up in a few days and i am supposed to go with this girl. i didnt really ask her but we kind of agreed to go together about three weeks ago. i dont really like her as more than a friend but i know that she likes me. i really wanted a date to the dance even if it was just as friends and i knew that she liked me so i figured she would say yes. now theres about 3 days left until the dance and i decided that i dont want to have a date anymore. i want to go alone so that there is no pressure to hang out with this girl but its too late to say i dont wanna go with her anymore. she offered to not go together but i couldnt do that because i thought that would be pretty mean. well i told one of her friends about how i didnt want a date and more and she promised not to tell anyone about it. but her friend broke the promise and told her. now things are awkward between us. i dont know what to do. i feel so stressed out about this. please help. (link)
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I understand how your feeling-I have been in a similar situation. I went with one of my good friends to a semi formal dance last winter. However one of the big problems for us was that we hung out with different groups of friends. I didn't want to leave my group of friends that night, and niether did my date. So-we sat down before hand and talked abit about how things would happen. We still went to the dance however, but when we got there, we both just kinda, did our own thing. Occasionally we would dance, talk, etc. however-we both just made sure that we had a good time. I also told my date that I was cool if he wanted to have a few slow dances with some of our other friends.
So-If I were you, I would just talk to this girl, and explain that if she still would like to go together, thats ok--but that you really want to see all your friends, and make sure thats she is ok with that. Hopefully she will be understanding, and in a similar situation! Every girl loves to have a date, but they also like to have their friends with them too!
Dont stress about it, everything will work out to be ok--if your date wont comprimise, well then she is missing out, don't let her get you down, and just enjoy your dance! You only get so many before you graduate--trust me, i know! Have fun and Goodluck!
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Okay, so today was the last day of school for me, and yesterday i brought my dad's digital camera (Casio Exilim EX-M2) to take some pictures. well, for some reason the camera began to say "SYSTEM ERROR" after nothing really happened to it. i just tried to turn it on and thats waht it said. I've been trying to figure out a way to reset the camera, or just get it to work agian, but nothing anyone's told me to do has worked. I havent told my dad yet because it's a REALLY expensive camera and he'll kill me. i just need to get it fixed before he find's it broken, I'LL RATE 5 FOR ANY REAL ATTEMPTS TO HELP!! (link)
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I got a digital camera recently as an early birthday gift! It was great--not as nice as the one you described--but mine was still a high quality camera. I got the camera to take on my vacation to California. But guess what--I LOST MY CAMERA TWO WEEKS BEFORE MY TRIP! I was in tears everynight, because I was afraid to tell my dad too! Finally-a week before my vacation-I broke down and told me, and what he did was calmed me down, and helped my find my camera. After two days of searching everywhere-we found it!
The reason I told you this is because I really think that the best thing to do is tell your dad. I am guessing you are getting that same guilty/sick feeling in your stomache I had. Who knows--maybe your dad knows what was wrong with the camera--and knows what to do when it does that! The worst thing that could happen is he gets a little upset. Its not like you lost the camera--or dropped it and broke it in pieces--it just has a little kink in it. And if he can't fix it--he probably knows someone to ask, who will know how!
Remember that this is just a camera-and no matter how expensive it is--I can guarantee you that it will not ruin your relationship with your dad! It will work out, things always do in life!
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My prom is June 27th and Im not really a good dancer I dont really know how to dance but I would like to know how or atleast be somewhat decent for my prom so besides taking classes and asking my friends to teach me what can i do to learn how to dance? (link)
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This may sound embarrassing, but watch music videos--that have dancing of course! It doesn't even matter what time period its from--the basic dance steps never change. Just watch what they do in the video--and make turn it into steps you can do. ((I am not saying learn a dance routine or anything--that would be crazy)) But just see where they put their hands.
Also--from years of dance experience--the NUMBER ONE DANCE STEP that cannot fail--is the following (plus it makes you look very confident)
stand with your feet shoulder width apart and sway your hips in a figure eight moving from one hip to the other--you can put your hands on your hips--or if your daring--swing em around a bit!
This step works for almost ANY song--so if you get nervous--just go back to this basic step until you feel confident enough to try other steps!!
I hope I was some help-AND ENJOY YOUR PROM! remember--everyone is so busy dancing and having a good time--the only people who look silly are the ones standing alone on the side (afraid to dance!)
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I'm never really sure what to say to the question "I love your shoes! Where did you get them?" or any other clothing item because I really don't want to say anything to incriminate me. The popular kids will laugh if you answer anything like "target", "payless shoe store", or some other department store, and the kids that I'm friends with call me stupid if I tell them that I bought them at Hollister. What is a generic answer that I can say that will satisfy everyone? (link)
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If people are into what your wearing, it really shouldnt matter where you got it! Whenever I am a little embarrassed, I just laugh at where I got it. Try phrasing it like..."haha, you wouldn't believe it, but I actually found it at target/hollister!"
If you come off that it doesn't bother you where you shop, then alot of other people won't care either!
For example--it was a huge "no no" to shop at kmart where I am from--but now--they have some cute stuff--and for AWESOME prices--so everyone goes there for things!
Just always remember, the people who judge you dont matter, and those who matter wont judge you. Even when it comes to where you get your great deals and clothes/shoes!
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i hate being skinny ... is there any way to gain weight faster..i eat like crazy but i have a fast matabolism ( sry i can't spell haha ) (link)
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Wow--let me start of by saying--YOUR SO LUCKY. Actually, I used to be the same way, WAY back in the day! I remember, freshman year of highschool, I would get so upset because my ribs would seriously stick out farther than my boobs! (sorry for the overshare)...but I am just trying to get the point across, that I was really skinny, and didn't like it.
However, how I fixed that, was by getting my first job at a fast food joint. Trust me....I'm not super skinny any more! and I miss it.
But--now getting to my advice. You can try different diets, I would reccommend going to a doc, that way you know that your diet is still healthy. But why not trying to change up your clothes to accentuate what you like about your body!?
There are alot of great outfits that only work for very skinny girls. You may find that you like the way the new clothes look on you, and will not want to change your body.
I hope that I was of some help..if you have any other questions--you can ask anytime!! I'm always here! Goodluck
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hi, i have no idea what to do about my eyebrows. i tried to pluck, but t hurts too much. i bought once of those eyebrows fixing shaving things, ut they dont work. my mom doesn't let me go to a saloon or anything. what should i do?
thanks in advane! (link)
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hey! Like some of the advicenators said before, you don't HAVE to pluck/shave your eyebrows. Some of the hottest women in hollywood have natural eyebrows. Natural is what the guys go for anyways! But, if you are still sure you want to get your eyebrows shaped...I have a few suggestions.
1. Take a warm/hot towel/rag and place it over your eyebrows for a while. The heat will open up your pores a bit, and then try plucking. It still may hurt a bit, but TRUST ME...it wont be as bad! Also remember, once you get the first pluck out of the way, it gets way easier! Try only plucking a little bit at a time to avoid "over plucking"
2. You can try stuff like Nair's Facial Hair remover...I personally have not done this, but it may be worth it
3. Waxing may be an option as well...it hurts like hell, but is over with in just seconds and the hair won't grow back for a while! I recommend nad's
Ok--well I hope I was of some help! Good luck!
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Here's the deal, I like this guy at school, and we have one class together. I'm not even entirely sure that he likes me back, but I'm willing to pursue a relationship with him if it comes up. Thing is, he's a senior, I'm a freshman, and if we considered dating each other now, summer would come and end all too soon and he would be off to college. What should I do? Get to know the guy and possibly get hurt in the near future, or move on and possibly pass up a wonderful oppurtunity to get to know someone.. Please help, I'll rate!
Signed,
Dilemma (link)
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I was recently in a very similar situation! I met a guy may, last summer, and he was just amazing! Things were great for about two months, but as August approached, we both began to question what we were going to do. He was leaving for school (freshman year of college) and I was about to start my senior year of highschool. We basically decided that we would take a break.
I am happy to say though that today we are together still! December, he came back for holiday break, and we knew that we still wanted to be together.
So--my advice for you is to just take things day by day. Enjoy the summer with this boy. But make sure you keep up good communication. If I could go back, I would have tried to talk to Pat (my boyfriend) about him leaving sooner than when we did.
By talking early, and just taking things slow, it will help build your relationship, and you may find things easier when school rolls around to stay together!! By having good communication between you two, the trust you both will have for eachother will automatically become stronger as a result, and for most long distance relationships, having that strong trust is so important.
Good luck, and I hope I was of some help! Please keep me updated with how things go! Also--just remember, you are still young, and so like I said before, take things day by day, everything happens for a reason!
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I have had my heart broken alot. Since my ex (which was ended about 9 months or more ago) I still haven't moved on. Now I have someone I really like that likes me. I want to be with him I am just scared I will be hurt again.. Should I trust him?
He is a wonderful guy and really gorgeous. I am just afraid to give my heart to someone again and then it be handed back broken. (link)
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It seems as though you have a good thing going for you. Getting over a broken heart can be a very hard thing to do, and may take time. But by shutting out something that potentially could be exactly what you need is not the best thing to do.
Try hanging out with this boy, go on a few dates, and see how things go. Remember, you don't HAVE to rush into anything serious. By taking things slower, you will be able to build up your relationship with this new boy, and learn from mistakes that may have led to the past relationships breakups.
If you feel comfortable enough, you could even try talking to this new boy about your past. Explain to him where your coming from. If he is the great guy you say he is, then he will respect you and work with you to create a relationship you both feel comfortable to be in.
I hope I was of some help. Please keep me updated with what happens, and good luck!
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Theres this guy named Jack..and well..my best friend's bro is friends with him. They both go to my school. Well the other weekend me and Jack hung out..with my best friend and her bro..well he was flirting with me the whole night..and me n him were just talking to eachother and no one else. So..Joe (his best friend) thinks he likes me and he keeps making fun of Jack for liking me. He does it non stop to me and him. It was funny at first but its getting old. Well..i like Jack..and i really want to hang out with him but the thing is i dont think he will because some of friends make fun of him..what should i do? move on or what? (link)
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If you really like this boy, you should make a move. Now, when I say "make a move", all I mean is ask him to hang out. It may seem that Joe is giving Jack alot of crap, but alot of times, its is because they are jealous!
If this guy, Jack, likes you, then he will respond when you ask him to hang out. Try something simple like going to a movie, or maybe just "hanging out" at someones house. Go for a walk even! If he is a half decent guy, he will know better than to listen to his bone head friends who wish they were in his shoes!
Good luck with it all, and please keep me updated! I hope I was of some help!
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My b/f thinks im cheating on him... but his friends are telling me he is the 1 that is going around grabbing other girls butts! should i believe them and break up with him... or should i just go on pretending like i don't notice? (link)
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I think the number one thing needed in any relationship is communication. Based on just this question, it seems as though the communication may be lacking. If I were in your shoes, I would talk to your boyfriend. Try inviting him over to hang out, just the two of you, and very casually, try to bring up the subject. Explain to him that your not cheating (I am assuming that your not) and also discuss what his friends are saying. Although, be very careful when you talk about what his friends say. Instead of outright saying, "he said, she said this about you" try telling him that you heard some things from people, and you want to make sure you understand the situation.
If all else fails, and things don't work out, remember that everything happens for a reason. Its not healthy to be in a relationship that is constantly questioning others actions. I hope I was some help and Good luck!!
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