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Ok i really realy really really really love this guy............ but he lives kinda far away! And the other day this guy that i've had a crush on since i was 8 asked me out .... i told him i dunno but i dunno! lol i mean im so confused! i love them both and i cant decide ............. im so confused! I wanna be with em both but we all know that's not possible! i just wanna be able to know ..... but i also dont wanna hurt ANYONES feelings! i mean .... do i really have to do what i think i have to do? and if so i just cant! it'll break his heart and i think im the only one that's here for him ..... i love him but there's just a few miles keeping us apart........ also my mom says if he comes down here she'll kill him! (and i dont doubt my mom) And the other guy she's known since i've known him and she likes him and (dur) so do i but what am i supposed to do? I cant hurt anyone i just cant but what if that's what i have to do? even if i dont want to? Which guy should i be with? and (also the guy that lives miles away lives in a whole another state away and he's ugly but the sweetest ever) thanks!
LOSTdazedANDconfuzzled
well first i think you should decide who you think your more willing to spend time with and which one you like more...if the one guy who lives miles away..is interested in you and you really like him alot then be with him no one can tell you who to love or be with not even parents..but in reality you have to see who yo think you'll be better off with the one who lives out her or miles away...its your heart...honestly i would choose the one who lives here..but only you can decide what your heart tells you
Well it all started it november wen i was going out w/ this guy. Anyways i dumped him (i have alot of regrets now)i was going to ask him back out the next day because i had realized after he said he loved me he meant it and i didnt think he did and after 2 days he had said he loved me and i realized the next day that i loved him 2... Then he told me to ask out my best friend out 4 him!!! and i somehow agreed.but now he is always mean 2 me and ignores me and acts like im flippin not even there it makes me so sad to see him like sum1 else as i am liking him.but he just acts like we arent friends and wen he screws up like that he always appoligizes and it always happens again and i try 2 tell him how i feel but i cant i cant put up w/ his crap any more because now hes mean 2 me and doesnt even say srry and it hurts my feelings so bad and he doesnt realize it and my friend is being so mean 2 me now 2 she says ill never have him and she says she cant put up w/ me tlking about hur boyfriend either sayibng how i like him or wat a jurk he is and i have never called this guy a jurk but they dont get it i feel horrible i feel like a lousy friend and like i should just get out of their lives and never speak 2 them again i dont get life any more someone help!!!
xo-stef or email me bamskater407@aol.com
you shouldnt feel like the lousy friend...your best friend should be the one feeling that way...coz what kind of a " best friend" is she if she dating your ex...dont put your self down...you should really let her know whats on your mind and be straight about it...and with your ex jus ignore him and act like hes not there eventually he'll end up coming up to you and apologizing and if does be like dont say sorry if u dont mean it...dont like a guy like him ruin a friendship you and your friend have...lemme know how it went...MiSz LaDii L
Well hey i've never been scared to get a piercing cause i have pretty many.. but i dont know really anybody who has a tongue piercing and i wanna know does it hurt..how long does it hurt.. if you live in cincinnati wheres a good place to get it done..and i would like to know about how much it will cost..i rate high..and thanks bunches if you can help..~*DEZ*~
it depends on the type of person you are...if you can take pain then it will just hurt a little but if you cant take pain then it will hurt alot...it will hurt for the 1st 15-30minz.. all u can do is drink liquids so i suggest before you go get it done you eat alot coz you cant really eat anything only drink liquids... after a week your tongue swells down ...it was $50 hope i helped..
Ok, I recently dumped my ex and he still really really really likes me. He said if I'm not too buzy we can go out another time... and everything is perfect now and I still have feelings for him. Well, one of my BFs likes him now and wants to go out with him. I don't want her to! I mean he is still mine! It's like we like eachother but we ain't going oout! Can I tell my friend sompin so she won't like him? Even if my ex did ask her out and she said yes, she wouldn't go out with him... she seems so young. PLease help!
u should explain to your friend how you feel and that your not ready to accept him going out with other girls especially girls that are like your best friend...but you really to talk to her and make her see it in your point of view...and maybe when things cool down and you get over him she can go with him but just explain that you dotn find it right that shes your best friend and wants to date one of your ex...if she your friend she'll understand
im not trying to be so nosey or anythang, but im just wondering if anyone can go into detail of their 1st time. im just really curious on what to do, and how to get prepared!..THANX!
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i/m me and ill tell you the details b/c its personal i dont people reading how i did it my first time
me and this guy "B" went out 4 a year. he then went 2 a different school, and now starting high school, we go to the same one. were talking again...were eachothers 1st loves...except we didnt lose it wit each other. when we broke up he got with someother girl and they ended up doing it a few times. but when this school year started we have been talking alot laytlee...and well do u think it'll b weird if i lost it with him?!
if u feel its right to lose it to him then its shouldnt matter whether he had sex before...just make sure he cares the same way you care about...b/c in the end you dont wanna regret what u did wit him..feel me? hope i've helped
Hey everyone. I have my own column, but I can't answer my own question. I met a guy online back in May or around that time. We didn't talk much until now, and we've gotten soooo much closer. We both think we're soulmates and meant for each other. Even though I haven't met him, I feel this connection, and it's really cool. I just don't know what to think though, because I hear all those stories on the news and everything, and it really scares me. What if he's a rapist or a serial killer or something?! I really don't think he is, because of some of the conversations we've have, but there's always that chance. I just want to know you're opinions on this, and what I should do about it. Is there anyway I can find out he's really 16 w/o actually meeting him? Thx in advance, sorry about the length. Happy Holidays 2 everyone!
Shortie8959
hey i understand your problem because i was in the same situation b/c i met this guy chris in chat and then he introduced me to his friend and i started to get really close we called each other everyday..it was good...but you cant really tell if he 16 w/o meeting him...i was always scared of meetin the guy and he raping me or being a killer or something but i met him and everything was all good coz i lived in jersey and he lived in ny...i just think if you think you guys are soulmate then you should met him but take a friend with you or maybe 2 too make sure he doesnt try anything...have u seen pictures of him?...hope this help let me know how it goes..
My friend just spread a rumor saying i wanted to have sex with my cousin who everyone knows b/c he's my age. I want to just beat my "friend" up or cuss her out, but i know that's not the right thing to do. Anyone have any suggestions? and DONT tell me to just talk to her. I want to say something that'll make her wish she never messed with me!
grl...if i was you then i would have beat her ass down for talkin crap about stuff dat she dont know anything bout i know ppl say violence aint the answer but just let her know what comes around go around...karma is a b****!!! but just dont step down to her level she get what coming to her trust!!
My best friend, since we were like 3years old, and I are in this fight. No talking at all. And I miss her. But anyways, about a month ago her and I went over to her friends new house. He just bought this house. He's 21 and it's a frat house but he's not in a frat. Anyways, we went over there and I met his roomies and everything. Now, my best friend likes this guy, we will call him C. She likes him alot. I told her I didnt like him because she said that 'he pays more attention to you than he does to me'. And I can kinda see that but it's not like im trying to do anything. And she made a comment that it's her fault. It's her fault cuz she has pretty friends and introduces them to guys she likes and they like her friends instead of her. She's a little chubbier than me but she is a great person with a great personality. Anyways, I said I didn't like C. But once we started hanging out I eventually started having feelings toward C. But I never showed them to C or even told my best friend. I wouldn't date him just for the fact that she likes him!
C calls me to come over and hang out all the time. I did one night without my best friend cuz she was supposed to go to a concert and ended up not going. So she stopped by unexpectedly and she saw me there with 2 of my friends and ever since then we havn't talked. Now, he told me I could come over, in front of her, when she announced that she was going to a concert that night.
Now my question is, should I have done that? I mean, I would have been bored outta my mind and not doing anything. I would have been at my apartment doing nothing, maybe watching T.V.. Now she wont talk to me but she will talk to C. Is that fair?
To add to this long story (sorry), she did stuff with two other guys (that I think were using her, but that's just my opinion) and she's upset that I hung out with C!! Now is that fair?
Sorry this is soo long but I really needed to talk about this!! I can rate you, just let me know! THANKS!!
well i dont think its fair that shes not talking you and is talkin to C...but u have to look at her point of view..she was prolly hurt that you went behind her back and hung out wit him you should have called her and ask if its okay cause it wasnt right...and the only reason she did stuff with the other two guy is probably because she trying to get over C...or trying to make him jealous...you need to go up to her and settle everything and not let a guy get in between your friendship...tell her you were sorry for what you did and dat it wasnt right...just dont let a guy whos not worth your friendship if you really care about then talk to her and tell her everything that happened and how it happen and that nothing went down betweeen you people..hope dis helps..
I like this boy a lot, I haven't told anyone about liking him. I talk about him to my best friends quite often but I'm just like eww...I'd never like him. He is always like aww look your so cute and he calls me his 'little kid'. That's because I am soo much shorter than him. He always picks me up and carrys me places and when I see him in the hall he's like hey cutie, sweetie, little kid, babe...whatever he picks that day and he like hugs me. But this one time we were just standing in the hall together and he's like what about if you and me went to the movies...and then to dinner or something. And this girl in his class told me she was like aww don't mess with Mahryah when you don't mean it...it's not nice. And she said he said but I do wanna go somewhere she's just so cute. And he always tells me he loves me and is always touching me and stuff. I don't know if he just thinks I'm cute in a little way or what. I don't know if I want to tell my friends either...
well i think you should go 4 him and see how everything goes wen u go out with him...if he seems interested and stuff den he worth it buh just give it a chance and see where it leads you from der hopes dis help...
I got a new neighbor a few months ago, tight before school started, he's nice and sweet and loads of fun to be around. I told him i liked him a few weeks after he moved in but he said he had a gf who he loved and would never leave. so i kinda gave up, but lately we have become wicked good friends. we hang out all the time at my house or we just walk around the neighborhood. a few weeks ago he tried to kiss me while we were on my trampoline(he admited to it later) but i had a bf at that point and he was still with his girl so i just turned away and got back up. the next day he tells me that he dumped his girl. the next day i get dumped by my bf cuase he wanted to date some slut in a grade below us. so i tell him that. my neighbor and i were on my trampoline again and we are kindalike wrestling a little...and he started feeling me up then we started making out.he pushed away from me and started saying why...why...why...i was soo confused. it was my first kiss too. aparrently he had gotten back together with his gf the day before,he didn't want to cheat on her so we stopped. like 2 minutes later he is fingering me and we are making out again.when we finally stop my brother was pulling in the driveway so we separated quickly and he went home(my bro saw nothing thank goodness).i told my friend who knows everything about me and guys that he kissed me and only that he kissed me i didn't tell anyone else and she said something about it to him and he flipped at me. he didn't want anyone to know cuase then his sis would find out and she would tell his rents then his rents will tell his gf who will start cutting or something again. he stopped talking to me and then one day last week i was sick from school and the next day he asked me if everthing was okay and we started talking again. we started hanging out again. but now we include my friend a lot cuase she lives down the street and we were down at her house and we were watching a cartoon thing on her comp and she was sitting at her computer desk and i was sitting like right next to her on the piano bench and he was sitting behind me. during this cartoon thing he started tickling my side so i grapped his hand. i let it go after i moved it away and then he tickled me again so i grabbed his hand again and he laced his fingers in mine. he just plays with my head like that all the time. should i tell him to stop or no? i really like him and everything but nothing can really form with his gf still there.What do you think i should do?
well.. i think you should let this guy go...because he seems undecided..basically you should ask him whats going on between you guys and if anything gonna happen...if not den tell him to stop because he has a gf...and dats gonna bring problems in which u dont need...hope this helps...keep me updated
I met this guy back in September over the computer.He is from the same state as me and he lives pretty close too.I'm really in love with him,and he loves me too.He is the sweetest guy I've ever met.He treats me so right.Yet I get upset with him alot and we fight.He calls me every day and we talk online.The only thing I hate is that he has a girlfriend from another state who lives like 4 1/2 hours away and they never see each other.I'm always getting mad at him over that.He told me he wants to marry me in 2009.I don't know what I'm suppose to do.Should I get over the fact he has a girlfriend,and that I probably won't have a chance with him? Please help me,I'm not sure about what I should do.
I'd appreciate the help...Thank you!
i know exactly how it feels luving someone when are with some else cause the guy im falling with i met him online he lives like 25minz ago from me but you just gotta sit down and think he really worth everything your going through?? i know it may seems hard to think about it he is really worth it...coz right now dats what im doing with my guy
Ok...well there is this boy that I love a lot. We aren't dating at the moment but we were before. The only reason we broke up is because we didn't talk a lot and that was about a year ago...now we talk every day on the phone way more than once and we talk in school. He always goes Mahryah...I love you...but I don't know if I believe him and I tell him that. He says well then why else would I say I loved you if I really didn't. I always want to say well if you really like me then why don't you want to go out with me, I think that if he wanted to he would have asked by now. He always talks about us doing stuff together but he has never really like 'forced' me into it. I would be willing...only if we were going out though. I don't know what to say next time I talk to him and he says that. I mean I say it back but I mean it and he says he does but I'm not sure. Do you think he would just be saying this to get something from me...?? Anyone have any ideas? Thanks so much! Love..Ryah
well...i think you should talk to him and ask him whats going on? let him know whats on your mind ... like u said yourself that you always wanna say ask him if he really liked you then how come he hasnt asked you...you really to be straight foward with him and hope it works out for the best...hope dis helps..lemme know how it went.
Hey-i was reading through your column and i really liked the advice you were giving so i was wondering if you could help me out with a situation i have:
alrite so beginning of this year (i was still a junior in high school) i met a guy (a senior in high school who's now a freshman in college) through my best friend's boyfriend and one nite after all 4 of us hanging out i ended up hooking up with him. When it started out, neither of us was looking for a relationship, i was just looking to gain experience so i figured it was a great idea. Long story short-i went pretty far with him and got attached-towards the end of the school year we found out we both really liked each other, we went to prom together and were hooking up monogamously for about 4 months but he never asked me out-finally middle of summer he said he didn't wanna lead me on but he really didn't want a gf when he was gonna be leaving for college in a month-i told him i understood but naturally i was heartbroken. So i didn't see him the rest of the summer, i've just heard stories about him hooking up with other girls which killed me...literally but i finally finally got over him (its been a long long road). Anyways he's back for thanksgiving break and i haven't gotten play in awhile-so this friday we are getting together-im really worried cuz when i see him i don't know if i will have the strength to turn down hooking up with him, but i definitely know i don't have the strength to get over him again-at the same time....i desperately need play LOL. What do u think i should do?!?!
thanks
well look i know how tempting it is to turn down hooking up with a guy you've had feeling for once..but all u gotta do is try hard nd control those feeling cause i know your not defintely ready to go through the same heartbreak again...maybe its best you dont go out and chill wit him unless u know you can control those feelings...let him know first how you feel if you about to hook up be like if he really serious about you or if its one of your game and if its one of his game hes is trying to play tell him that you dont wanna be part of that trust me it be better cause i know how it feels you wont want to through getting over him cause i had suttin similar happen to me i fell head over heels over a guy again but he was just wanted a booty call and i wasnt up for that..all it build up was false hope... hope this helps rate me plz!
ok well this boy Kyle, i've gone out with him on and off for about 2 years...be aren't dating or anything now but it's just weird. He wants to loose his virginity to me and i guess i would loose mine to him. But the thing is we aren't going out and i told him that and he's like well we could after we did this? I don't know what i should do though because like i mean i like him and all but i really don't know if he would use me, i've known him forever and he doesn't seem as if he would but I can't think of any other reason why he would say that? Does anyone have any ideas on what I should do?
well...it seems to me that he just wants to use you because why would he says that after you lose it to him he gonna be with you again if he really cared he would be with you again and to work things out and THEN lose it to you..it jus doesnt make sense but if you feel hes the one then lose it to him just remember not to regret in the end hope dis helps
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Ok my best friend is a girl and im a guy. She and i have been friends for a while but weve had some problems. She always lies to me . And then when she says sry a week lata she makes up some lame excuse why she said all that stuff. well now she acts like a slut and i dont like her . what should i do and what should i tell her?
i totally understand how you feel i think you should let her know straight up how she is acting around you and that you dont aprecitate that fact that she lies to you and then does it again a friendship isnt based on lies..clearly you should just let her know whats on your mind and how u feel..and if she doesnt understand then just let her be cause obviously shes not a good friend and doesnt care about herself if she presents her self like a slut hopes dis helps `1
ok i like this boy and i have an idea that hes knw that i like him just by the way he acts around me i mean we flirt like all the time at skool everytime we see each other but my problem is .. he has a G/F he told me just a couple of dayz ago he was breakin up wit her for me... and that same afternoon my whole crew was talkin bout the arguement between him and his G/F not trying to b mean i was kinda happy about that lol newayz when i was leaving skool that day he pulled me to the side and got down on his knees and told me he loved me (which we've known each other for like ever) i kinda brush'd him off .. so then after the bell rings we talk some more but now were on a break for 5 dayz and today i started to think bout him and it brought tears to my eyez girls ur advice shud i tell him i love him or up my flirting game????**
honestly only u can know if u wanna love him i think you should try and go out and see if everything goes well..things will prolly build up into love..hope dis helps `1
My Best Firend went out with this kid for 2 years! they broke up this summer! The kid now is like im love with me and has really strong feelings for me! My BFF tells me to go out with him and everything. She has a new boyfriend and says it will not runin anything between us and we will still be bff but i dono HELPPP!
**I have feelings for him**
well... honestly i think you should give him a try because it seems that your friend doesnt have a problem with you being with her ex so why not give it a chance bascially your friend is giving you your blessing just make sure your friend is really okay with all of this hope dis helps `1
hey im 14/f....i realliie lyke this kidd last year i went out with hym ... nd a few weeks ago he called me we talked on the phone for over 2 hours. He said he liked me nd i tolod hym i like hym.... but i kno that i more then lyke hym I LOve Hym nd i mean it . im not the type of person to say i love someone .. we txt each other sometimes but we havnt talk talked in three weeks. i kno he is the type of guy to wait for a person to talk to them soo should i call him nd i should what should i say ..
please help me thanx
well i understand how u feel becoz i went thru suttin similar i think u should call him nd be like hey how u doing start up a conversation be like im jus callin to see hows everything since u havent called me...and see what happens from there on buh dont let him mislead iight hope dis help write bac to see how it went wit him
to whom it may concern,
I have liked this guy for almost 2 years now, and I am really young but I think I love him. The thing is, is that he never really talks to me.
In about the begining of the year last year i met this guy, his name is Kevin, and I went out with him out with him, we went to go see a movie and he gave me my first kiss. We broke up millions of time but we always went out again. One of the times we werent going out I went to the movies with him and he madeout with me...which was my first also. Before that happend he had told my cousin that he tlaked to online that he liked me as more than just a friend. We went out again and broke up. Three of the times that we broke up I had to got o the hospital because I was so devistated. He asked me out again and i said yes. This time things got a little more serious. I told my aunt that i was going to my friend sarahs house when really i was going to meet him at his friends house jeffro. things were getting hot n heavy and then jeffros mom wlaked in on me and kevin...3 dasys after that he left me. That was more than two years ago and I am still head over hill for him. what should I do, and is it true love?
Signed,
Broken, and never healing....
well i totally understand how you feel in a way...only you can know if its true love i cant answered that for you.. it seems you are still fond of him and still care for him but you just have to let him go and let him be a part of the past... love does hurt but you learn from your experience even if its the hardest thing you do just move on.. and let love take its steps into the next guy who comes along.. i know it might take weeks months to get over him but in the long run hes not worth the stress...hope this helps..