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Wassup? I love giving advice! You thank me later...Name: Jen
Age: 16
Location: Maine
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Go ahead and ask a question. I answer em everyday, and im know for good advice! Dont beleive me? Eh go ahead and give it a try. Ive been through everything. Brother/Sister situations, parentals, School, Sex, Drugs, Alcohol. I know it all. =D
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Hey! Okay, well I am 14 female.. about 5'7 235lbs! I know... FATTY! but still... So, i wanted to go to this weightloss school but it was almost 6,000$ and across the U.S. for me so my mom was like NO WAY! but first I wanted to get homeschooled. and then again No! so I was like Private school.. Too much money she said.. I have 4 sisters n she is seperated from my dad!! So yeah, I have to go to a public school (freshman) n alot of ppl make fun of me.. I cant run fat or anything.. n i wanna start losing weight now, pick up my speed, and then just be a whole new me next yr.. i used to play softball, and i was well good at it.. but got too old to play slow pitch!! I mean im not saying i have no friends or anything.. but my thighs, but, stomach, arms, n etc... I know.. drink water n blah blah! but nothing works for me.. im probably gonna get Slim in 6 (www.beachbody.com) but I dunno if it will work or not.. im thinking i wanna lose 100lbs or so n sorta fat but like not too fast! i just wanna be left alone n not singled out everytime i go somewhere with a bunch "skinny" ppl, and this sumemr i was gonna change everything but stayed n side n was lazy!! n now 2days b4 school starts i wanna chnage everything!! i know its gonna take time but i wanna try sommin n see if it works.. i need lots of ideas, help, motivation, and support!! I seriously want a whole new me. i mean the "stretch marks" are ugly n never gonna go away so ill always remember being fat, i just want it to stop!! i wanna be the one not scared to speak up, and express what i think, i wanna be the one telling the person not to be making fun of someone, not the one being made fun of!! I want to change me!! have a high self esteem n just have fun!! so yeah u think u can help??? I'd rlly appreciate it!!! Any advice will help me .. i mean have any of u ever been n the same position or anything?? I was thinking baout even killing myself once, and i wanna "throw up" wut i eat but i dunno if thats smart, its like i cant stick to anything.. all i know is i wanna look good ... fast... not for boys... but for me.. n for all the teasing to stop!! I ask u all hoping for help!! Thanks alot, xOxOxO
Hey, im 16 and about 210 lbs. Ive been doing weight watchers. Its a VERY good idea. For you sinse you are under 21, you cost 10 dollars a week. Usually you loose about 2 - 2.6 Lbs a week. Sometimes more! But you HAVE to stick to the points. Its such an easy system. I highly reccoment it. They give you optional exorcise ideas as well. :-D
I was wondering, do you ever wonder why cirtain guys dont like you? I mean im young 13, n i jus wanna get a hott guy to chill with
Sorry i cant really touch this one, except to say, if your only looking for a *hott guy to chill with* then your too young to date. =D
Last question today i swear ..
Well whenever my best friend is around her boyfriend she id relly mean to me and starts like changing what do i do?
You need to confront her. If shes being really mean and you cant talk to her alone, bring it out in front of her boyfriend. Say, Why are you acting so mean and different in front of him? are you trying to impress him? Ask her whats more important, impressing some guy or her best friend.
one of my friends has a problem with inviting themselves over to my house what can i tell her that wont hurt her feelings but will let her her know that i will invite her when i want her over?
Tell it like it is! Say, look friend*, sometimes i have stuff to do and you cant just invite yourself over. Im really not trying to be mean seriously, its just that when you CAN come over, i will invite you =D
xo-Jen-ox
I gave up on love awhile ago..even though I don't want to, it just happened. Most of the guys I've dated were jerks. I don't trust guys and I resent all of my ex's and I can't help it. I haven't met a single guy in my school or area that was decent and I'm really starting to hate men. I'm not going to like females but I don't understand why men are such jerks. Someone help?
Simply, its in their blood. lol. No seriously though. It could be that you just havent found the right person for you. Are all the men youve dated had anything in common? *besides being, "jerks"?* Its possible that all you need is to do a little research. Maybe you need to look Beyond looks, or hair color, or eye color and dig deeper. Theres ALWAYS someone out there =D
i know this boy and we dated for 8 months 2 years ago then we didnt talk for 2 years and then we started talking and we botrh started liking each other and like i moved to vegas from ga and im goioing bak in about 10 montha and we decieded to have sex then we got in a huge fighta nd he still thinks i will have sex with him whne i come bak what sohuld i do i really do love him im not sure if he loves me
Look. There is one simple answer to this. DONT HAVE SEX UNTIL YOU WANT TO! If you feel like he is pressuring you or going to make you do it, then you need to tell someone. BEcause thats wrong. Another thing, just because you love someone does not mean you need to have sex. If he loves you back he will understand. =D
xo-Jen-ox
alright, im not one of those overweight/underweight girls wanting attention or needing "emergency" help with their weight. but i have been wondering this question for a bit. when you say this weight is "average" for this height... are you saying most common kids for this age are this weight, or this is the weight you SHOULD be... in simpler words: are you basing average weight as the weight most common and good, or the weight that is considered average by professionals? i mean, the US has a large percentage of overweight children these days, and if you base it on average weight of all gendered children, wouldnt that make the scale a little off? sorry this is long- just want to know what everyone is basing their advice on! thank you and goodnight.
That weight, is whats healthy for you height. When they say that, they mean that of course you can be like 5 or 10 lbs more or less, but its the best weight for your body and your health.
Ok well Ive liked this guy since the first time i had ever layed eyes on him. I was the new girl so I thought he was out of my league... as years went on we got really close. We had liked each other at one point... but nothing really happened. Well I'm trying to get over him. I've tried everything! a different guy... trying to tell myself that I dont.. everything. But with a different guy I never have the same feelings as with him. And when i keep telling myself I dont, it works kind of good... until i see him and all my feeling start rushing back. He has hurt me so many time... I dont know how many times I have cried because of this guy. I just need help.. what do I do?? I dont THINK i'm like in love with him or anyhing... but every time I see him, all of a sudden, every care in the world goes away... and I get kind of nervous... but I try not to let it show. My bff keeps telling me that I need to get over him because it's been too long (like 4 years!) and he has hurt me so bad... but I cant help it! what should I do?!? ahh! please help! I'll rate if you ask!
Well.You didnt really mention how he feels about you. Have you talked to him about it? Casually bring up the fact that like *last yea i totally had a crush on you.* and see what he says. The rush feeling could also be love, but not in that way. Brotherly love! Like ive mentioned to others, when you know someone that long its just like knowing your brother. You get jealous when he dates other girls because you still want him to be around you, and you hate it when he hangs out with his other friends and not you. Its perfectly normal. So try telling him how you feel if you guys are close friends. Its better to let it out than keep it in and hurt your self.
xo-Jen-ox
Okay, I got this male best friend, he is one of the most sweetest boyz in the world, and we both know eachother EXTREMELY WELL. But see I hooked him up with on of my buddiez, and I just realized how much a cared for him when I noticed how jealous I was when they both started talking. Now he knows my situation and we still good friends and all. But now it's gotten to the point to where I can't look at him the same. And I feel bad cause I am jux that jealous. But he knows my heart and he knows the kind of person I am. So do anyone think he'll come around or anything like that? I know I got him thinkin about it cause I tell him all the time. I really really do love him alot, and I'd give my life for him anyday and he knows it....it's just weird cause he is my bestfriend....so what should I do?
Ooh. Ive been in this situation before. See i have a friend, who hooked up with a friend..blah blah. Its Jealousy not necessarily because you care for him as more than a friend, but because you love him more like a brother. It kills me to see my best friend date other girls, because i get so jealous, but its really because im afraid that im not gunna see him so much and not going to be able to be with him as much. But you've got to realize this yourself before you do anything. You cant make him feel bad about going out with other girls. If he likes someone else, try to support him. Thats what real friendship is all about.
xo-Jen-ox
Ok i dont no what to do i have this guy friend that has been my friend for over 2 years and i really like him alot more then just a friend but i no if i ever told him i like dhim then just a friend he would freak out and i dunno what he would do but i still want our friendship to be there and i feel if i tell him that i like him he wont talk to me or something
Ok heres an idea. Something ive used once or twice. Sometimes its easier to do things yourself, but sometimes another girlfriend can help out alot. Send in a spy. Tell her to pump him for any information he might have about you, and his feelings for you. But dont get dissapointed if he says he dosent like you. Sometimes its nice to have a girlfriend who dosent want to go out with you. He might feel like your the only girl he can talk to carefree without worrying about the whole love thing. =D
xo-Jen-ox
well i have these two friends. in fact they are my best friends. we are all bffs and so there is one girl named alissa and the other one is micheal. well alissa went out with micheal for a while and then they broke up. then alissa went out with micheals best guy friend, dan. then they broke up and like now alissas mom told her she couldnt have a bf. well now micheal is the only guy that alissas mom likes so she said that micheal was the only one alyssa can go out with. now i just know they are going to go out. i mean it is going to ruin everything because like i sorta like micheal but he only thinks i do as a friend...and i am not going to tell him that i do because i just cant and that wouldnt change anything beetween us or anything so yea. they havent gone out yet but like i kinda am getting the hint from both of them that they are so idk...someone plz help me. i dont want them to go out. i am second choice. i even know it! alissa told me that micheal said that and now im just so...not really jealous but jealous...if you know what i mean. any advice?
Dear Jealous,
It seems to me like you need to have a talk with your *two best friends!* After all, if they are your BEST friends who else are you gunna talk to? It also seems like Alissa might just be going out with Michael because she really wants to date but mom only approved one guy. So if they do end up going out, i wouldent worry about it. Chances are it wont last long, if her mom starts letting up a little.
xo-Jen-ox
hey! I was wondering if anyone had a dance team at their middle school. 3 of my friends and I are starting one this year and are sort of like the coaches/captins cuz we have to make up the dances, do tryouts and all that. We didnt know how much we would really do with the dance team though cuz all the other teams at our school are just cheerleading (they cheer during the games and go to competition), baseball, soccer, and basketball. We knew we would try to go to competition, but if thats only a couple times during the year or whatever what else would we do?
Dear Dancer,
I know that Cheerleaders seem to take up all the good spots, but thats where you need to get creative! You could do some good things for your school or community. Have fundraisers! Use your excellent dancing talent to keep people entertained. Besides, you might be glad Dance COmpetitions are only a few times a year, you get longer to practice than cheerleaders (they have games all the time!) so you look better :-D
xo-Jen-ox