Well. . . .im here to answer all the questions i can my title is claimed (guruofadvice) truthfully. . . .although i dont know everything i do know alot. . .ask me a question and ill answer
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Member Since: October 6, 2007
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Last Update: December 12, 2007
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Hi. Just so you know i am not used to getting advice about this subject. I normally am the one giving haha. But you see i can't really talk to my friends about this subject becasue I told them all I was going to move on to another guy. O.K. well there is this guy, his name is Ryan. Ryan has a girlfriend. I've always looked down upon people who cheat (becasue its happened to me :(.. ) Anyway I had never conversed with Ryan before the end of this summer. Partly because we didn't know eachother, only eyed eachother when crossing paths in the hallway. I am extreemly attracted to him. I think he is likewise. We both have a facebook and I know this sounds juvinile but the only person he ever writes back via wall comment, message, or picture comment is me. I will have a series of messages with him that will be 20 comments long, where everyone elses is only 3, where as he ends the conversation and keeps it going with me. i found this one movie and i thought he threw it in my car, well he didnt but thats beside the point. what he did say though was that we should watch it and call it a party (he origanly told me i should have a "party" and for people to watch the movie). after this i thought it seemed like he was flirting, and that made me nervous because he has a girlfriend (which is a younger classmen who looks up to me) so i then told him that i didn't know if she would mind but i didn't want do do anything that would upset her.. he said he didn't think it would and that it was no big deal. I haven't talked to him as much lately but he still runs into me (seems most of the time like is secretly planned out) and starts conversation. I don't know what i should do, I really want him, but I don't know if i should follow my gut or my mind which is telling me that I would probably shouldn't. what do you think he is thinking? what do you think i should do?... i'm really sorry this is so long i tried really hard to keep it short and to the point (link)
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Alright well ive been in this situation(as ryans point of view) and he does like you BUT! He knows that if it was just you and him watching it alone cause hes smart and knows something might happen. . . ,so thats why he said you should make a party and bring some friends to watch it also. . . . . . . . .because that reduces the chance of something happening. . . , .then you get to spend time with him AND not break one of the rule of relationships (him cheating) any other help you need just ask and ill be of assistance
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My mind is troubled. I am thinking about suicide. I know it isn't the answer, yet I have been thinking about it for years, but have done nothing. I am not suffering from depression, but I am a bit depressed. I get aalong each day yet there is an empty void inside me that has no solution. It eats at me everyday all the time. Suicide seems like the only solution. The more I deny it the more I want it. I can't inflict pain on myself, but if I were to do it it would be by pills. I am not saying I am going to, just that I think I think about it too much. I have no religion. I believe that when you die, your soul moves on and takes you to the place you truly desire. Not heaven. For me I belive that my soul will take me to another body of the alias and world I created in my mind. Mostly I created it for an escape from family and life, but lately it has become an addiction.
What should I do. I can't talk to my parents, a therapist, without anyone knowing, but I am afraid that one day i will end my life. and that pull to do it is getting stronger, not because I am depressed, but because I am curious, and the void is pulling towards it.
I really need help. (link)
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An interesting story no doubt. . .i do indeed find my self in a ponder of these things. . . .i also have no religon. .anyway. . . .that thought of suicide is not nopmal but curiousity is however i conquered that curiousness with saying to myself "i could end my life now without having the chance to live my life to the fullest just to find out what would happen in the after life cause maybe nothing happens and you just rot in the ground then you just blew your life away for nothing(sounds kinda like a bad decision already) or "i could live my life and when i die naturaly ill find out because even if nothing happens i can say to myself that i lived a good life. . . .it wouldve been stupid to commit suicide when i was younger so as you can see i made a good choice lets see how good your decision is? If you need anything you know where ill be just ask
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ok well i usually a very independent person and im not 1 to need a boyfriend..!! but lately im not feeling like myself..!! i feel like a need a boyfriend... all of my friends have boy or girl friends and i think i fell lonely...!! i really do want one..!!..... i dont know hwy im feeling like this..!!but like last week i was sooooo depressed...!!! not like im going to die depressed but.... on the way there... idk what to do..!! plz help any advice or comments..?? (link)
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Well this maybe the side effect of being single while everyone else in your surroundings are not. . . .very common among independents' but being independent isnt a reason to not date it just means you dont need others as much. . .its always good to have a close companion anyway your depresion is only because inside you feel as if your a 3rd wheel and you dont fit in. . . .so just look for someone to date but dont do it to some random person and pretend you like them because that would mean you are doing it for the wrong reason find someone who you like and will fit well with you and that would like you back and then that would give a mutual benfiet to you both to better your overall life
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ok, i have this friend and she has liked this boy but not for a long time...she asked him if he wanted to hang out with us and he said ok. well we hung out wit him and i never thought he was that cute or that nice or fun until i acctually started hangin out wit him...he rejected my friend and said that he likes her but he doesnt want to go out wit her...and me being me was flirting with him and i think he likes me and i like him ALOT! should i take a chance and go out wit him and hope that my friend is ok wit it? or should i just lay back and let a nice guy slide by?
signed,torn (link)
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Well. . . . .do neither. . . . .what you do is you take some time. . .you havnt hung out with him enough to see a whole side of him you could like something at first glance but then get a taste of it and find out it wasnt as it seems so you dont have to let a 'good bf' go or lose a 'good friend' just chill out and wait until you have hung out alittle and see where it goes from there
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okay. i'm going to get right to the point. i have a crush on this guy who is well...not the cutest kid in school, and anyway he asked me out, but i said no because i was afraid of what people would think. am i a horrible person?? what should i do?? (link)
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Ok. . .well umm this isnt easy to say and i dont want to seem mean or anything but that does make you a bad person because if one truelly likes (or loves) another then looks or what other people think or say or do is not a factor that should effect the relationship in anyway other than better it by him knowing you care enough about him to ignore others opions i wouldnt reccomend dating him if letting others opinions about who u like get to u because that would only end in disaster for you both. . .but because of that reason i dont think you like him as you say you do
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So me and my ex, *ian went out about 2 years ago freshman year for a little over a year, I changed schools and stuff, but we started "talking" again two months ago when he broke up with his gf and I broke up with my bf (we didnt plan on it to be like that, but it jsut happened), and we chill and stuff, and he hasnt been single for an extended period of time since, god, probably before we started dating, so yeah, I understand how he wants things to go a little slow and stuff, but the first time we chilled we at least kissed and stuff, and now after 2 months of talking we were about to have sex, but he said no I guess either because there was a lot of people there or becuase of his past relationships, so we didnt. When I got home, I asked him if he still liked me and stuff, and he said yeah, dont even worry about it, and his best friend said yeah he just wants to soak up single life for a little bit and "when the time comes it comes"--whatever that means, but I'm not on his top people on myspace anymore, and I used to be, and I just don't know.. (which isnt a big deal i swear) so yeah, i'm just freaking out right, and he does like me right? Because yesterday he wouldn't have asked me to chill and stuff right?
ugh i dont know. (link)
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Ok. . . .well i think he is confused dont get me wrong he likes you. . . .well more than just likes you but he takes things slow so he can be SURE that you are "the one" hes just confusd on wether u are or arnt the one so he does still like you
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So i have this friend[he is 17] who used to drink and do drugs, but over the summer, he went to rehab, and his whole family and friends supported him 100%. he goes to church every sunday and wednesday, and does everything he can to be involved. he had everyone fooled. After rehab, he was really sticking it out, and doing the right things. But last week he had a relapse. He started to drink at a party and it got out of hand. He didnt go home that following morning, and his family was worried. I asked him where he was and he decided to lie to me like he had done so many times before. he said he was just sleeping over at friends, and nothing happend.
he had so many people fooled, but not anymore.
we can see right through him.
but my question is...
how should i confront him about his lie.
and drinking problem?
its really bothering a bunch of us.
Should we just march up to him and tell him straight up? but if we do that... he is gonna get really mad and start drinking even more.
or should we just kinda say something nicely..
and he will either lie about it, or not take it seriously....
he doesnt know i know about his drinking, he thinks i think of him as a good christian boy.
when really i can see right past his lies.
what should i do? (link)
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Ok. . . .intervention that is the best way to confront him about his drinking and lying find actual solid proof that he is drinking and tell his family. .then suggest some form of intervention for him this may not be the easiest way but it is the BEST way. . . .and besides your not always supposed to take the easy way out right?
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Ok well I have this friend named *bob*(fake name by the way) and he is just totally amazing and the sweetest guy that you will ever meet, well he had a girlfriend and recently(last night) he found out that his girlfriend is cheating on him and I helped him find out who the other guy was, and the thing is that his girlfriend is one of my good friends but he is a better friend to me if that makes sense like im closer to him, and I really like him and my best friend *shay*(fake name too) just broke up with her boyfriend and Like she likes *bob's* best friend and she wants to go out with him. Me and *shay* are like so close she is my best friend and I can tell her everything, and she says that it would be cool if me and her were going out with two guys that were best friends but *bob* just broke up with his girlfriend and I would wanna make him rush into anything because I really care about him...I also dont wanna start any problems with anyone else like his ex (one of my friends) and this other girl that I know she likes him but he thinks she is too stuck up...*bob* told *shay* that he wants someone that will stay with him and not switch from guy to guy... I just really dont know what to do... Please help I really need it... (link)
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Ok. . . .what i would say to *shay* is "he just brokeup with his girlfriend and i dont wana make him rush into another relationship" but if you are REALY close to *bob* then i would date him BUT you should hold back and let him get past just breaking up and if you are sure that you guys would mesh well and you think he would try going with you then i say go for it. . . .i wish you luck with *bob*
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i dont think my boyfriend likes me anymore. besides i mean he's never around because he's training in california.but occationally he goes online BUT TALKS HAS FULL CONVOS WITH MY SISTER and NOTTT me. he doesnt call anymore or send me sweet stuff like he used to.i think it might be because i told him a kid kissed by complete accident.but what do i do,does he like me or is he just mad? (link)
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I think he IS mad but who wouldnt be. . . .BUT! Its not because of him being mad is why he isnt doing what he used to. . .i think hes trying to get over being mad and i believe hes confused about what he should do. . .hes thinking and his decision is kinda haunting him so give him alittle time
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15/f. I'll just get to the point so as not to annoy anyone on here:
So basically, I feel as if no guy will ever like me. I'm smart. Probably one of the smartest kids in my class, and whenever I get the highest grade on something (which is usually..) the guys sitting around me mock and tease me. In a mean way, though. This makes me lose all confidence and think that all guys are like this - Immature. Is this the case? Is there NO guy out there that isn't mean or harsh? (link)
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Ok. . .i have your solution but in order for it to be right YOU have to believe that this is non-biased and you cant distrust me because of my gender. . .anyway being smart and having education is never the wrong way to go and is only frowned upon by people who didnt get educated and the guys teasing you are jerks and theyre jealous. . . . . .now i wont lie to you but most guys are pricks. . . .BUT there are nice guys all around you just have to look for them nice guys are usually quiet and dont make big scenes but they come in all diffrent shapes and sizes so just look and i promise there is a nice guy out there
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When you first get new cell phones are they kind of slow? I don't remember when I got my last one. They just dropped my new phone off today while I was at school, the stupid people left it in the sun all day. Could that be why it's slow right now, because they left it in the sun? It was in the packaging still, but would the heat damage it? (link)
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Well usualy it just depends how long it was left in the sun and how hot because if its really hot it might fry the circuitry in it but most times it dosnt. . . .ive left my phone in the heat countless times but it hasnt messed up or gotten slow. . .its most probably how the phone was before it got hit by the sun. . .you could probably go to yahoo and type in the model of your phone and get a scope on it to learn about it : )
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okay so my bf is away on his military mission ans i had a homecoming dance while he was gone,i danced and stuff but by COMPLETE accident me and this kid kissed. my friend told me to to tell him;so i did on the phone(because he was still away).at first he wasnt mad,but then he called back later sayin he was pissed off about what i told him.and i havent heard from him in 2 weeks. hes comin home soon,my dad hates him and i dont know what to do.help me please. (link)
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Ok ok i c now. . . . .what im thinking is hes MOST probably got to thinking that "hey im in the military far away from the girl i love and shes kissing other dudes!" so being a guy i would like to be reassured that the one i love loves me back and they would never cheat on me and wouldnt go around kissing other people unless it was an accident just explain it anyway as long as you condone that point (GOOD LUCK)
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