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what is this guy really thinking?
Hi. Just so you know i am not used to getting advice about this subject. I normally am the one giving haha. But you see i can't really talk to my friends about this subject becasue I told them all I was going to move on to another guy. O.K. well there is this guy, his name is Ryan. Ryan has a girlfriend. I've always looked down upon people who cheat (becasue its happened to me :(.. ) Anyway I had never conversed with Ryan before the end of this summer. Partly because we didn't know eachother, only eyed eachother when crossing paths in the hallway. I am extreemly attracted to him. I think he is likewise. We both have a facebook and I know this sounds juvinile but the only person he ever writes back via wall comment, message, or picture comment is me. I will have a series of messages with him that will be 20 comments long, where everyone elses is only 3, where as he ends the conversation and keeps it going with me. i found this one movie and i thought he threw it in my car, well he didnt but thats beside the point. what he did say though was that we should watch it and call it a party (he origanly told me i should have a "party" and for people to watch the movie). after this i thought it seemed like he was flirting, and that made me nervous because he has a girlfriend (which is a younger classmen who looks up to me) so i then told him that i didn't know if she would mind but i didn't want do do anything that would upset her.. he said he didn't think it would and that it was no big deal. I haven't talked to him as much lately but he still runs into me (seems most of the time like is secretly planned out) and starts conversation. I don't know what i should do, I really want him, but I don't know if i should follow my gut or my mind which is telling me that I would probably shouldn't. what do you think he is thinking? what do you think i should do?... i'm really sorry this is so long i tried really hard to keep it short and to the point
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Ok, Well first of all, obviously you like him. It sounds like that he likes you too!
Secondly, you are allowed to be friends with him and watch movies while he has a girlfriend, if she doesn't mind. As you said, you've been cheated on before so don't make any moves while he is still with this other girl. You know what it feels like to be crushed into little pieces!
Third, he obviously knows that your into him. You've made it clear. BUT..Yes there's always a but.... You need to make him understand that you cannot start anything between each other until he figures out who he wants to be with.. you or his current girlfriend.
If he ends up choosing his girlfriend, then thats something that your going to have to deal with when the time comes. But if he chooses to be with you, he needs to have broken up with his g/f and make it clear to her that he does not want to be with her before a relationship can come out if this for the two of you.
If he cheats on his girlfriend with you.. and if you two end up together.. who's to say that he wont cheat on you either?!
This way you are making him be honest with you and his g/f and even himself! It also proves that he's not a cheater and can be loyal.
I hope I helped and I hope you get your guy! Good luck :)
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Ooh, sticky situation. There are pros and cons to this situation, but only one thing matters, what your heart is telling you. I know you might not understand this now, but that underclassmen most liekly isn't going to be with him forever, they will eventually break up, and since he is obviously attracted to you, they were headed for that route anyway. I know that you might think this is wrong, and that she looks up to you, but people break up, move on, and live. It's normal, and what if this could be your "perfect guy"? and yes, I have faith that there are perfect guys out there. :] He probably wants you to persue him also, he seems into you and you've already spilled that you want him, I say Go For it! What's the worst that can happen? The underclassmen girl will have other boyfriends and in time she will forget about him, if anything even happens between the both of you. Try talking to him again and make sure he knows your not into cheating, because that's not okay. Maybe you guys are meant for eachother and there is only one way to find out...
So, I would advise you not to ignore him and have faith in fate, it's called happily ever after :]
Hope it all works out for you in the best way possible!
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Alright well ive been in this situation(as ryans point of view) and he does like you BUT! He knows that if it was just you and him watching it alone cause hes smart and knows something might happen. . . ,so thats why he said you should make a party and bring some friends to watch it also. . . . . . . . .because that reduces the chance of something happening. . . , .then you get to spend time with him AND not break one of the rule of relationships (him cheating) any other help you need just ask and ill be of assistance
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hmm well idk maybe you could talk to him or just let it go and late fate be fate...........maybe if your supposed to end up with him then you will and if your not then you wont. you cant fight fate...whatever happens. happens. and is this boy really worth going through all the drama getting him??
i hope i helped.
good luck!! tell me what happens!
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