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Heyy every 1! My name is Megan i live in a small town in Massachusetts. I love giving advice to people, but only about the topics that are really interesting. For example lovelife and basically relationships. I don't want to be bored while giving advice. So only for interesting subjects. I have many problems myself in those topics. So I would like some advice as well.

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I'm 16 years old and one of my very good friends recently asked me out. I have known him for a year and the whole time, he had been going out with another girl. He and his old girlfriend had sex often and I'm still a virgin. He says that he won't pressure me into anything..do you think he'll expect me to have sex with him like he did her?

If he truely loves you he will not pressure you into doing anything you don't want to do. Thats all i have to say

Hope i helped :-)

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i herd somewhere that if a guy does you from the back you cant get pregnet.is that true? and if it is does that meen your still a virgin. alot of people on adviceators say having sex is inserting the penis into the vagina so is it not considered sex if he inserts it in the back? thanx to all that answer!

No you can not get pregnant if you have anal sex. Ummm thats kind of tough i think you wouldnt be a virgin anymore. But im not 100% sure. But no you can not get pregnant.

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okay so today...i was talking to the boy i like, online..and he weve liked eachother for a while...and you know we'd kinda flirt and stuff...but yeah it was just friendly i guess. and then the other day he told me that his friend tricked him into saying he loved me and then today he's like, you wanna know something? and im like sure and hes like well today i said i loved you and i wasnt tricked and im like ooo and then my friend talked to him b/c i had to do something and then i came back and talked to him and then i told him i loved him too and he said that i shouldnt say it just because he did and im like i didnt i mean it
so yeah, i know i meant it...but it felt weird telling him that.
so my question is...
how do you know you love someone?
and being 14...is that too young to know what love is?
14/f by the way. thanks..sorry its so long.

That's easy for me. I don't think 14 is to young to be in love. I fell in love at age 11 and now im 14 and me and him are still together. My opinion is that no one is ever to young or old to be in love. You know when your in love when u can't get that 1 special person of your mind, you would do anything for them, you care for them and wouldn't do anything to hurt them, and you don't have words to describe how much you love them. That's how i know i'm in love with my boyfriend. If those things apply to you then your are probably in love.

I hope i helped :-)

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Ok well i started going out with this one guy named jonathan.The thing is dat he knows i like somebody else and i know he likes somebody else.Yes it seems wierd but we told each other that since the beggining.Its like we like each other to but it kind of feels wierd to know he dosent only think of me...i know he probably feels da same way but i dont know.I seriously dont think we are going to last.Although i wish it did=/So if you were in my place what would you do??

Wow that seems really hard. Umm i think you should end the relationship. Its clear you to don't like eachother that much if you both like someone else. I'm sorry im trying to give you good advice but i think im doing a bad job. Yeah i stick with what i just said. End the relationship it's probably not going to last that long. And that's not a good excuse staying together if you just want to be in a relatioinship. I hope i helped in some way.

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i am 13 years old and i weigh 86 lbs is that over weight or under?

It really depends on your height. No matter what you are you are not over weight. If you are 5'3 or something like in the 5s then you are probably under weight.

Hope i helped in some weird way. :-)

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Okay this is really embarassing....I went to the movies with my boyfriend last night and we decided to see Nacho Libre...well halfway through the movie I had drank a large soda and I really needed to go ut I didnt want to miss the movie. So then this really funny part happened and I laughed until I peed my pants...I was SO embarrassed and I couldnt get up because I was afraid he would notice to when we went to leave the movie I just rapped my jacket around my waist. On the car ride home he put his hand on my thigh and squeezed...I was so happy! I've never really be touched by a guy (I know I'm a weirdo) and I'm really excited and like a a crazzed fan touched by their hero I'm not sure if I want to wash the pants. I know its gross...but would it be too weird to not wash them and keep them for sentimental value? I wanted to ask my friends but I was WAY to embarrassed to ask people I know. Oh my gosh pleaase help!

Awwww! thats so cute. Well please i hope you do wash them. That will seem obsesutive if you don't. lol. That's all i have to say.

Hope I helped in some weird way. :-)

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hi, okay so me and my boyfriend have been going out for over a year now, on and off. and i mean i would do anything for this kid. i`m not saying i`m in love with him, but i might be. and we talk like we have a really serious relationship. but, there is one problem, we barely ever see eachother. school ended for me june 9th, we saw eachother on the last day of school of course, and then about a month ago at this public swimming pool. that`s all we have seen eachother this whole summer. i mean i talk to him everyday, and we try to hang out, but he says that he can`t and tells me why, but i always think that he`s just making up an excuse to just not hang out. i mean he says that either his parents don`t want to take him or something that has to do with his parents. we`re 15 so we can`t drive by ourselves yet. but, he never hangs out with girls he goes out with i guess, and it really is because of his parents. but i still have that thought in my mind thinking he just doesn`t want to see me. how can we hang out more ? and do you think he just doesn`t even wanna hang out with me..?

Ok i'm not tryin to be mean but i have a friend and i can never see her only during school which is not till september. And that is because my parents dont like her. I'm sorry to say but they might not feel right about you. If that's not the case ask him straight out "Do you want to see me or not!" If that doesnt work then i dont know i would wait till school.

Hope I helped a lil bit! :-{

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ok im 5'3 & i weigh about 115 pounds and i feel like i weigh so much. i wanna weigh like 95-100 pounds. is that to light for my height. or what people say i look anorexic but im not even close to it. & im ashamed of the way i look. does anyone know any ways so that i can loose weight
i excersize every night doing 50 cruches/pull ups
thankss so much
♥

Ok. I weigh 110 pounds and i'm 5'4 or 5'5 ok. I dont look anorexic not even close. You are fine. You are probably going through a time when you dont like how you look. every 1 goes through that. Ummmm.. but if you really think you are fat or something then eat healthier and don't stay inside all day.

Hope I helped! :-)

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Summer is what i've always loved about my life, but now it's the worse, see i need school. yeah i know this sounds crazy but i do. see i have this friend, he's my best friend and i've known him since i can remember. His name is J.C., and he's now all i can think about. People used to always ask if we were bfs and gfs but we always said no. we tell everyone that we're like brother's and sister's to eachother, but people think that we're secretly dating, but we're not. well it was the truth. even though we acted like it. we would always sit by eachother and tell eachother everything. We would make up nick names for eachother, not gushy ones though. We even told eachother that we are the best friends anyone couls ever have. I've known him ever since i could remember. Well everytime i hear stuff or see couples or hear sappy sounds, BOOM he pops up in my mind and down comes a frown. I'm hoping he's in my homeroom this year, and i don't what to do if he's not. What should i do if he's not? Am i in love? Does he love me? Do i like him? Does he like me?

Please help.

It could be love. He could just like you as a friend though. I had a huge crush on my bestfriend for 3 years then when he found out he felt uncomfortable around me. Then i liked another guy that I was good friends with he acted like he liked me, but when i broke up with my boyfriend i ask him out and he said no. So don't be so sure he really likes you. You might be in love or it's just a little crush on your friend. Don't ask him out flirt a little, but not to much to the point when he feels uncomfortable. If he really likes you he will ask you out well he should. Just try avoiding telling how you feel because you could lose a really good friend.

I really hope I helped. But it was a tuff 1. :-)

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I'm 14.
To make a really long story shorter, my bff...Jane. Has an abusive boyfriend, also, she's only 13, which makes it even more weird. She's going out with a 15 year old.
And she says I'm the only one she told.
She says he doesn't like beat her up, he just hits her a lot..
I never noticed, but recently she's been wearing long sleeves. Because she's actually BRUISED.

But, Jane says she really has it under control, and doesn't want to break up with him because she apparently realllly likes him. And she says he likes her, but..

I said if I were her I would break up with him.
Then she said something like that I didn't know what love was, so I couldn't say that.
I've never really been in this kind of situation before.
Do I tell an adult?
If you were me..what would you...do?
ugh, I'm kind of confused.
And I want to help my friend.

Hmmmmm... this is so difficult. I'm trying to picture my bff like that. Ok I got it. I would tell my mother if that didn't do anything then I would tell her mother. She would be upset (your friend), but it seems like you really care about her and don't want her to be hurt, so do what you think is right. I'm just saying what I would do. She might be mad for a couple of days, but eventually she will be happy you did it (I hope).
Good Luck
I hope I helped at least a lil bit! :-)

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For this question I would like somebody who can relate to me. Or somebody who has been in my shoes.
I am having trouble at my public school, I have no friends, my grades are slipping, and I just feel so depressed when I go there. I love sports, especially lacrosse, and I was so afraid to go to practice because these girls who say the harsh things were on my team. I got the opportunity to attending a boarding school about two hours from my house. When I got accepted I was so excited, but then I thought about all the things I was leaving behind, my puppy, my horse, my family. All those things are the most important in my life right now. I could still come home on the weekend sure, but it's going to be alot different. Like I'm not sure if I can bare leaving my puppy and coming back the next weekend and him not even remembering me. I just don't know if I should face public school. Or go to boarding school. Please help! Thanks for whoever does!

Ok, i can somewhat relate to you. Just not completely. If thoses things are so important to you then i suggest you don't leave them. But if you really want to do good in school (which should mean a lot to you also) then go ahead you should go to that school. If I were you I would go to that boarding school because you want to be happy (i hope) and be able to pass school. If you can still see your family and pets then it should be fine as long as you gte to call them to.

I hope i helped! :-)

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when you lose 5-6 pounds you dont really notice it do you?

*i weighed myself today cuz im dieting and trying to lose weight but i noticed i was 5-6 pounds lighter but i dont look it at least i think* so do you think you should see a difference?

Well, i remember i lost a lot of weight, and i didn't even notice until my aunt brought it up. Then i realized my clothes didnt fit anymore (to big). So its probably that you haven't noticed or you lost it in a place you haven't looked at yet (nothing private just a place you haven't noticed). Or your scale could be broken and you never lost weight or gained any. Don't worry about it right now, once you lose more weight it will be way more noticable.

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okay so it seems as if im loosing one of my bestfriends because her other bestfriend & me dont get along very well but then again we never talk. it never used to ruin our friendship but ever since my bestfriend found out that her bestfriend was about to be heart broken she has been just taking care of her. she barely talks to me anymore unless i talk to her first. and im not sure if i should tell her how i feel stop talking to her for a while or just let it go.
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help me please!!

Ok. Well don't worry about it right now. She'll come around. When it's all over you to should be fine, but however if nothing happens i encourge you to talk to her. You might want to wait to talk to her until the whole thing is over.

I hope I helped! :-)

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My bff has not started her period and won't be starting it until another 2 years or so, (thats the expected time because her mom had her period at the age of 15)Anyways she is 12 going on 13, she as well as I are being pressured into sex by people from our school, from girls as well as guys saying its feels good e.t.c.,But i'm waiting til i'm married. She wants to have sex with her boyfriend and she said she won't get pregnant because she doesn't have her period yet.And I have been told you can only get pregnant if you have your period. Is that true? Can she avoid pregnancy since she don't have her period?I'm sorry this is long its just she's only 12 and I don't want her to get pregnant.Please help!Any advice or ideas would help!!

Hey,
Your right she is 12 she's way to young even though... nevermind. So yeah i have been told you can still have sex. Remember it is her decision. Not yours. It's good to care so much about your friend. She can not get pregnant. Try as hard as you can to convince her not to, but if gets out of hand i think you should tell her mom. She is way to young!

I hope i helped! :-)

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what does 69 mean?

69 means when 2 people are laying down and the girl is sucking on the guys dick and the guy has his tongue in her pussy. Or 2 guys sucking on eachothers dicks. Or two girls have their tongues up the other girls pussy.

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Hey guys. I'm pretty pissed off. This guy I like hung out with this other guy that lives next to me, and they both came to my house and dumped a bag of mulch on my porch, just for a joke I'm guessing. Anyways, I'm kind of mad he would do that because my family has aenough porblems without him messing around with our yard. I;m just asking..is it ok to be mad? Or should I just be like oh right haha good joke? Will he think that I get mad over the stupidest things? please help.

Hey,
What a jerk! Who does that, oh wait aparently a stupid baby like him. My opinion is you have every right to be mad. First of all he had no right to do that, unless you did anything to make them do that. But, don't worry to much about it they are just really immature.

I hope i helped!:-)

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Me (16/f) and my boyfriend (20/m) have recently started fooling around n stuff and the other day when he was figering my and i gave him a hand job and we were doing that n he just all of a sudden pulled "it" away and put "it" back in his pants. i dont know why though...any thoughts as to why he would do this?????

Ok well he probably didn't want to go to far. It is against the law. He probably didnt want it to lead to sex. I think you should talk to him about it. I know it can be embarressing, but call him on the phone and ask then it's not that bad. I hope I helped!:-)

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okay . i have been in love with this one kid since the beggining of 7th grade and i am now going into 9th grade . we`ve gone out a few times before and then we broke up each time before a week . and last summer we loved eachother and were going to go out with eachother and we hung out every single day . the most i`ve done with him is makeout. and recently we`ve been hanging out with eachother and my 3 other best friends. but i reaslly do love him and he likes me he told me that but sometimes he doesn`t act like he likes me hes kinda rude sometimes but then he`ll tell me that he loves me. i dont waht to do. please help♥i`m in love with this kid

Well, if he has been rude then maybe you should not go out with him. I totally know how you feel my ex-boyfriend used to insult me then he would be like " I love you " so eventually i broke up with him. So just don't go out with him unless you really LOVE him.

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if you suck a guys penis who is a virgin could you get a std??

Nah you should be fine. Please don't suck anybody!

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