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Hi! Ok, so last night me and one of my guy friends were texting. We started talking about tv shows and how we preferred the old ones over the new ones and was saying about how we wished they still made them that way. He said the old movies are what he preferes so he doesn't ever go to the movies. I said I also prefer the old ones but still go when something good comes on. I then sent him a picture of me and my sister dressed up for the movie we were going to in front of a poster. he laughed and said I must've really been excited for the movie I was seeing. I told him I thought I already told him about it and his response was "you don't tell me everything." Im thinking "where the heck did that come from!?" I pretend not to notice and said I thought I told him and then said how it was really good, if you like that kind of thing and he says "I don't like it." And still doesn't seem to let go of the idea that I didn't tell him about me going. I've only known him for almost a year. He doesn't tell me everything about him and frankly, we havnt known each other long enough to just start telling each other every little thing about ourselves. And just last week I found out he had a kid brother and he refused to tell me anything about him and I just let it go. Now he's upset because I didn't tell him about me and my sister going to see a movie. And it's not like we hang every day. We live over an hour away from each other so we just text sometimes. We both met with one of my friends and I met him the day after I met her, so we all know each other. I'm gonna call her today and ask if he's been upset with me, but honestly, I think this whole argument is freakin stupid. Can anyone give me advice on how to handle this, or maybe why he gor upset over something so small? I mean, he already knew about my siblings, and to me that's a bigger thing to talk about than a trip to the movies with my sister. Advice please?🙏 (link)
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You're right, it is a stupid argument. Especially since he doesn't pull his end of the rope and share things about himself too.
I think you don't need to worry so much about telling him things about you (especially something as trivial as going to the theatre with your sister) when it took a year for you to even find out he has a younger brother. Clearly, he expects more out of you than he, himself, is willing to give.
That should tell you something about him, in general.
More importantly, though. How important is this friend to you? It doesn't sound like you hang out or talk that often, what makes him so valuable to you? If you're not even in a relationship I don't see why this sharing thing is such a big deal.
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It's gross, especially when it's overt and/or persistant. I thought a relationship was meant to be between 2 people? Why do some couples try to get other people's attention? I noticed yesterday at the mall. There was this interracial couple all over each other, as we stood in line at this food place, and i'd focus on other things but they'd sometimes look back with this look on their face line they want their relationship to interest people, incite anger or jealousy, etc. it was awkward for me, directly behind them, and others in line. I have no problem with any couple, interracial, gay, lesbian, transgender, one young and one old, etc. I'm happy others can find love and be in relationships. I'm not jealous either, it's just uncomfortable to essentially be viewing foreplay without consent. There were children in line, too. Some people seem to get a sexual thrill out of people seeing their pda and that just seems sick and self centered. It makes me understand why there are countries that ban it. (link)
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I think some couples just love the thrill - some form of exhibitionism. Yes, many people would rather not see such things so it makes sense that some countries disallow it or look down on such behaviour.
Just to address why some couples do that (other than the thrill): they may be insecure in their relationship. Just like how (as many videos tend to show) people on Facebook have such great and successful lives but in reality they're pretty bored and unhappy. Similarly, some couples may feel like they need validation from other people or people's reactions, and need to 'show off' their relationship in order for it to feel 'real' or like they're really going well.
This is not fact, it's just a theory I have. I think there is some substantial research that would support the idea of showing off (in whatever sense) in order to compensate for insecurities.
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Hi there!
I need some monster truck themed ideas for my child's birthday party. This kinda got sprung on me at the last minute and I am in a tizzy trying to think of things to go with the theme! Can you help me? Please? (link)
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Monster trucks... Mmm. Think cars? Like engines and wheels and monster truck colours (red, black.. ferrari yellow). dirt/gravel? Like an arena feel? Maybe a 3D monster truck cake, make the whole thing like a monster truck arena thing?
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Today I was taking my dog out for a walk and this other dog came out of no where from behind us. My dog turned around and lunged at her and did this teeth snapping thing twice. Eventually the owner came and got their dog while I was pulling to get my dog away from the other dog. I had to pick my dog up and walk away (She's big and heavy.) I just want to know what it means. She snapped twice at the air, and the poor dog that came from behind looked like she was really excited to see my dog. (link)
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Does your dog do this any other time? If she does, you might wanna check for rabies.
If not, maybe your dog was just startled and being defensive?
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my heart has been doing weird stuff so i was looking what can be wrong with the heart and it said "coronary artery disease" but i don't know what that means. can some one please explain so a 16 year old can understand? (link)
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\"coronary artery disease\" is basically heart disease, which has to do with the arteries connecting to your heart (I\'m sure you learn this in bio..?)
Anyway, don\'t be too alarmed. Don\'t trust the internet with this stuff. Maybe go for a check up, consult a doc. (:
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i have been told that i won't be able to get pregnant by the usual way because of PCOS and that i would have to do ivf if i wanted a child. i guess i reacted badly and stormed out of the doctor's office. :( since i am too embarrassed to go back to the doctor could you please help me understand the way ivf works and the whole process of getting pregnant that way? thank you! (link)
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IVF: The egg is fertilised outside of the body. They monitor and stimulate your ovulatory process and remove your egg/eggs from your ovaries, and let sperm fertilise it in a fluid medium in a lab. The fertilised egg is cultured for 2-6 days in a growth medium then transferred to your uterus to try and establish a successful pregnancy.
You could consult a different doctor. (: Please don't feel too bad about needing IVF, at least your eggs are healthy. (:
I got my information from wikipedia, cos I don't know much about this. You could Google to find out more information too. (: I hope I gave you enough information on the process of how IVF works, though.
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I heard on the news when my dad was watching that a "puppy mill" was busted in our town. What does that even mean? (link)
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A puppy mill is like a puppy farm. They breed dogs for the purpose of selling.
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I have a quick question. So when you are stimulating a woman with your hands and they start to orgasm, should you stop what you're doing while they finish? Or should you keep going for a while? As a guy I know that for us it feels better to have all stimulation stop when the orgasm starts, but I'm not sure if women are the same way. (link)
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Just keep going until the woman finishes the orgasm and then some.
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Okay, so the back of my lip studs is sunk into my lip. I keep having to push it out and make the inside of my lip raw. I cannot get a bigger disk, nor can I get a longer bar. Any ideas on what I can do? And yes,I do have snakebites. (link)
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Try a lip ring? Maybe it'd be better.
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Is it ok and normal? (link)
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Seems just fine to me.
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i have 1 month to make my horse gain serious weight. he has had a colic problem. how could i make him gain fast. (link)
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Some alfalfa hay?
Add some fat to your horses diet. Some probiotics have been found to help the nervous and otherwise stressed horse to regain an intestinal balance of digestive enzymes. Keep in mind that this process may take a few days to show any signs of success! When you use a high fat formula, you can afford to feed the horse less, which will cut back on colic. You can find formulas with varying levels of fat at your local feed supply store.
A vet can help you a lot with this one. Good luck!
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Country: India
Just a little introduction about me. I am person who likes to improve upon himself. I like to gain knowledge, apply it and make myself better. I want to explore and know new things. I want to be famous, be in the spotlight. But hell knows, I don't... Where the hell I adopted this habit of keeping quiet in social gatherings even when I have so much to say, so much to ask... I like making friends. I enjoy becoming extrovert. But, I don't know why do I just keep quiet. I am not afraid to speak. I like to talk a lot. Perhaps I have the HABIT of keeping quiet. I want to get rid of this idiotic habit. It makes me feel embarassed, frustated, idiotic and alone at the same moment. Even if I know the answer to a question, I keep quiet just like that. Perhaps that is too much of procrastination. That makes others think that I don't know anything or that I don't have brains. But I have more brains than them. I know that I have a low swlf-esteem. I know a lot about mself and exactly what problems I have. But how to tackle them ?
See here itself. I wrote so much. Since it was writing, it was less. Had it been speaking.... :D (link)
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It sounds like you've got some social anxiety there. You might want to talk to someone about that, like a doctor. Your low self-esteem probably contributes to it. You might feel like people will ridicule or judge you on what you say and you may fear being rejected (like people not listening to what you have to say).
You must have at least a few good friends, since you like making friends and being an extrovert. Maybe you could focus on those for now? Have some one-on-one conversations and slowly build up. Talk more with one person and when you feel like you're comfortable being more vocal with one person, try 2 people.
Do find someone who can help with your social anxiety, perhaps a psychologist or a counselor or even a parent to help calm you down about your voice being stuck inside.
If you can talk a lot but not in social gatherings, it sounds a lot like social anxiety, really. I hope that this helps. (:
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For four-five years i have been in a happy relationship with a man, lets call him Bob.
However last year, I did the wrongest thing someone could do, I slept with someone else, lets call him Will.
I first met Will properly at someones birthday meal. I was sitting next to him. I told him that i was a cheerleader just in convosation and his eyes lit up. At this point he began to brainwash me. For the next 3 months he groomed me.
Bob at the time could see this (At this point we were a long distance relationship) and warned me against him. I did not listen.
Will would say things to me like "your such a freak, but your so cute" he'd convinve me to stay up late for him, he even convinced me to dump Bob.
Will tried time and time again to get my pants off me. He would come to my house to watch a film kiss me a bit and before the film had finished he would leave. he was grroming me from the start to always want more. Until eventually, he looked at me and said to me "Shall we just do it" he said as he undid my jeans.
I dont know what I was thinking, but I said okay and we had sex. We had sex another time after this too. He texted me to come round and i did, like a fool.
Will controlled me through the time I knew him. Brainwashed me, to the point he dumped me a week before my birthday and I still invited him to my birthday celebration.
All throughout this I was still in a realtionship with Bob. I didnt tell Bob untilafter it happened. Although I lied throughout to Bob and myself about what was happening.
I am still with Bob, and Will I no longer speak too.
A year on I've realised that I'm still under Will's control, I still wont say a bad word about him. Even though I think he is a snake (and a mix of other profanities)I want to break this bond, for mine and my boyfriends sake.
S few things need to happen:
- he score needs to be equalised. Will needs to feel the exact same humiliation that Bob felt, the feeling of helplessness.
-I need to break this bond i have between Will and I.
-I need to speak out against Will.
Bob should have been the one to get my virginity, not Will. Will really is nothing to me. and I want to prove this to Bob. Im just looking for some ideas, opinions. Bob is an amazing guy, he has taken me back but continues to remind me of what Ive done and the connection between me and Will. Im desperate to show him I am not under Wills control.
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You can't show him you're not under Will's control if you honestly still are.
The score will be equalised eventually. I personally don't believe in revenge and all that, that retribution will come to everyone for everything. Perhaps not in the same way. Will may feel utter humiliation and helplessness some time in the future, but not necessarily in terms of a relationship (especially since he seems to play it like a game). It doesn't seem like there's anything you can do to even the score anyway (please don't do anything drastic).
Good on you that you no longer have contact with Will. It is not such a bad thing that you won't say a bad word about him because you know that you think ill of him which should be enough unless someone you care about is about to fall into his trap. At least you know for sure to avoid him at all costs. And anyway, it's commonly construed that always saying bad things about an 'ex' sort of person in a 'he sucks he sucks he sucks' way just means you're not over them.
Will seems like a very manipulative guy who's only looking out for himself. He is seriously not worth your while.
If you really want to sever all mental/emotional ties, just focus on everything bad about him and what he had done.
If you are definitely not under Will's control anymore, your actions should be able to show it. It isn't nice of Bob to keep bringing it up like that, unless you're on that topic in conversation.
Tell him to stop reminding you of it because he is just slowing down that process of 'forgetting' Will, he is bringing the hurt back on himself, and putting a lot of guilt on you which is unfair. Unless you feel no guilt at all... because you did have a part to play in this.
Take responsibility for the fact that you did not say no, though Will shouldn't be playing you like that.
Do you love Bob? It might be time you reflect and think deeply about this because if you really, truly are in love with him, you wouldn't be under Will's spell and would have found the strength to say no. You are very lucky to have an amazing man who will still take you back after that and who loves you.
I hope this helped to clear some things up. Just let Will be, wherever he is. Focus on yourself and Bob.
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Hey I'm 13 and I love bella thorns clothing style but She really expense. Anyone no where I can get basically the same. Clothing for way cheaper. I really want to dress like her but it's really expensive. PLEASE help!! (link)
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Generally, famous people wear very expensive clothes... even a simple tee shirt seems to cost a bomb to the average person. It's a sad fact. ):
You could find out what her clothes are called or something (like 'fishnet stockings')and just surf the web a lot. There's sure to be something out there that you can get. eBay could be helpful, or troll your local shopping mall(s). As long as you know exactly what you're looking for. I'm sure there are some similar things sold around that aren't too pricey. I hope this helps, good luck!
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Ok so I recently started using chalk pastels because my friends recommended it to me because Im a "Artist in the making" as they call me. I tried it a couple times for the past week and I have fallen in love with doing it. They different shades are amazing! I personally like using my hands and fingers to shade though. Anyways, I have become extremely good at using them and I was wondering if you could give me websites of already finished chalk pastel drawings and stuff so that I can do some more with the pastels. Oh and how do you sharpen a chalk pastel because mine are in kinda brick form so its harder to get good thin lines. 13/f Thanx :) (link)
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Hey! (:
Chalk pastels are amazing! Good recommendation there haha.
Are your pastels soft? If they are there isn't much you can do to sharpen them (unless they're short enough to mold haha. I joke). But that's if they're really soft. If not, you could use a knife/blade to carefully shave them to a point or break off pieces to get the edge to do thin lines.
As for the sites, there is always deviantart.com. It's a website full of artists who put up their work and, trust me, they're all splendid. It's a really popular site for artwork done by the average artist (average person creations) and/or professionals. (:
Some others are:
http://www.jasminejan.com.au/chalk-pastel.htm
http://nillvurt.wordpress.com/tag/chalk-pastel/ (this one has other mediums too)
I'm sure your drawings are fabulous! Keep creating~
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I'm not fat but I really want to go on a diet to lose a bit of weight around my thighs because I never gain weight in my middle section.. the thing is my mum will practically force feed me if she thinks I'm not eating enough. So what should I do!? Any advice on losing the most weight from your legs? (link)
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If you can't diet much then exercise is your best friend. Lunges, squats, etc. Cardio work out is the best prelude to any specific exercise (for a specific body part). Thighs are really difficult to slim down ): How lucky you are that you never gain weight in your middle. (: If you really want to diet, eat different foods. Less carbs and the typical don'ts for diets. You could request for your mum to cook different foods, it may help and you wouldn't exactly be eating too little. (: I hope this helps you!
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this is a 100% honest question and i need a lot of advice:
i get really horny sometimes thinking about this guy i like. we talk online most of the time and he tells me he gets hard whenever thinking about me. and to tell you the truth i become wet when we have cyber sex. he wants to eat me out, and i want to give him a blow job. once again, this is coming from the heart and i need advice. -- my question is,
1- when we're in person, what should i do to get him turned on?
2- how should i say to him sexually and how should i say it? like in a sexy low raspy voice? 3- when and how often should i moan?
thanks so much. (advice from guys are welcome too) (link)
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1) Do what you do online. Be close to him. Look like you want him. Flirt around. Are you two together like an item or is this just a physical thing? A lot of subtle physical contact is good. Gauge his reaction to know what works and what doesn't.
If you're in a private setting, you can try 'dirty talk'. Tell him what you wanna do to him, in explicit detail.
2) Say what you say online. Be natural. If you're not sure how to say it, movies do help. Those with Megan Fox type girls being flirtatious. Look sexy.
3) This is completely natural and different for everyone. If he does a good job eating you out, you'll be able to 'feel' like you wanna moan. Or you could be a quiet sort, that's normal too.
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i m a virgin and i got fingered 2 times and ate out 2 times can the doctor tell ? and if my mom is not in the room when they look do they tell her if they see it? (link)
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If it was consensual then no. Unless the fingering broke your hymen (the bit of skin that is broken during first-time sex but can also be broken by fingering, using tampons and sports etc). Doctor can't tell if you have been eaten out or not.
If you are old enough (which I assume you are), the doctor will ask you about it first or will at least ask if s/he can tell your mother. Usually this would only come up if there's something about it that will raise concern, if not there is no point in telling anyone.
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ummm...see the problem is that i'm a virgin and I want to keep it that way for now so how is a way of pleasuring my self with a vibrator dildo or a boy? plz answer i'll make it up to everyone who answers thnx!!! (link)
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There's masturbation which is what you have vibrators/dildos/fingers/imagination/pressure-changeable showerheads for.
If you want a boy but to keep your virginity, keep his special organ away from yours. He can finger you (unless you're worried about the hymen itself or anything going inside you there), pleasure you orally. Or you and a guy can load up on foreplay.
I hope this helps. Masturbation is best if you wanna stay a virgin, cos you know what you want and you can make it happen.
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how do girls have sex together? (link)
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There's fingering. There's the scissors position (just hold up the two "peace sign" fingers and put them together, meeting middle point to middle point. You'll know what I mean). There's rubbing each other's you-know. Aaaand the obvious making out and chest loving. It's really up to the girls and what they like. Basically doing to each other what they do to themselves or would like to be done.
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