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I'm from pondicherry(india).... My age is 19...actually i aspired to become a doctor....but because of unavoidable situation i was forced to do engineering.... But still i cant take this engineering field since al my interest is towards only medical.... I have no one to support me to do medical... Now i cant concentrate on engineering thoughts of medical is just killing me like a hell.... Please tell me the way how to overcome this... Please am just dyng here please help me... Am doing my b.tech eee 2nd yr.... (link)
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Step out of your obligations towards people who have forced you into doing what you do not want.
Taking advices is ok, but letting them force you into something is not right.
You still have the time. Go and get what you want. If your mind and soul is on a medical degree, you will never be happy or have the interest in Engineering. You will need to study a lot to complete your Engineering. You will need to be focused and determined.
If you have the confidence, then please , immediately get working towards getting your career in place.
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He took a year out of uni, which is when i met him. He's 5 years older than me and i wont be going to uni until september 2013, but he will be going back this sep. I have gotten so close to him in such a short space of time, regardless of the age gap. Also, a couple of our friends will be coming back from uni for the summer but also leaving again in september.
I dont make friends very easily, so when these few friends (especially the one who's been home all year) leave in september, i am going to be alone. I get on with him so easily, we enjoy the same things etc. I love him so so much (but just as my friend). I dont know what i'm going to do when he leaves, and im scared im going to fall back into depression because i'll be alone.
What can i do? Asking him to stay is not an option, but making new friends is hard for me.
thanks xx (link)
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Life goes on.. and you got to accept it. Let him go. You never know what the future might bring. Thinking that you are going to be depressed is itself pushing yourself into being depressed. If you are not too social and are not comfortable meeting new people, explore yourself and you will find something that will make you happy. If you like pets, then having a pet can be good company too.
A new morning always has new things coming your way.
Hope you feel better.
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Im a senior and i have graduation this year, my graduation is way too expensive, i live in egypt.. its about 650, now, my dad has too many kids and honestly i dont even want to ask for the money,all my friends are going and i feel like im missing out on so much,theres an after party at this club later after gradution and everyone is going and i can go too, and that makes me happy because i feel like atleast im doing something with them, but it kills me that i cant go, i feel like im missing out on so much..i really just dont know how to make myself feel better, i have some money that i dont want to spend, even though my mom said she would help me out with it, but i feel like i have so many other important things to spend it on rather than graduation because my family isnt in a great spot to buy me the stuff i actually really need like a cell phone, and i was saving up for one and i feel like if i spend my own money on 4 house (graduation is 4 hours) then ill be wasting it, i just dont know what to do, im so hurt and confused and i really do need help, any words of comfort? thank you very much. (link)
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Hello There... I appreciate that you do have the will to save.Its a good thing. Your parents should be proud of you that you are so considerate of their burdens and are responsible.
Yes attending the graduation and the party does sound good and exciting. Surely you should not miss out on it. But however you will end up spending too much of your money that you have saved up. So instead you can make a quick buck through a part time job or a quick small business with the money you have. All that matters is not you keeping your money locked but increasing it. Hope it helps.Do let me know what you decide and how you go about with it.
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17/M
Country: India
Just a little introduction about me. I am person who likes to improve upon himself. I like to gain knowledge, apply it and make myself better. I want to explore and know new things. I want to be famous, be in the spotlight. But hell knows, I don't... Where the hell I adopted this habit of keeping quiet in social gatherings even when I have so much to say, so much to ask... I like making friends. I enjoy becoming extrovert. But, I don't know why do I just keep quiet. I am not afraid to speak. I like to talk a lot. Perhaps I have the HABIT of keeping quiet. I want to get rid of this idiotic habit. It makes me feel embarassed, frustated, idiotic and alone at the same moment. Even if I know the answer to a question, I keep quiet just like that. Perhaps that is too much of procrastination. That makes others think that I don't know anything or that I don't have brains. But I have more brains than them. I know that I have a low swlf-esteem. I know a lot about mself and exactly what problems I have. But how to tackle them ?
See here itself. I wrote so much. Since it was writing, it was less. Had it been speaking.... :D (link)
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Dont panic. This is nothing serious. Its just the way you are. Unnecessary speaking is useless so you have a gift :) However stage fear or fear of speaking in the public is not rare lot of people face that. It is your personality that shapes up over the years and your childhood does have a huge role to play. I had stage fear years back. I was good too. And I made sense when I spoke, I convinced people with my talks but again it was a small group I could speak to. I did ask the same quetion and I was told I needed to give more public talks and I would grow out of it soon. And that is what happened. You will develop the confidence soon when you convince yourself you can do it. So.. 'Say what you need to say' ;)
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Im a virgin, but i feel as if i want to have sex. sometimes i feel like i want to but then again i feel like im making a mistake. but i want to know how it feels to loose my virginity.
seeking an answer
Thnaks (link)
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Your virginity is the most beautiful gift you can give to your "special one". You will have sex sooner or later and when you do it should make you feel good not guilty, which can be really difficult to overcome.You might be curious now, but once you've lost your virginity you can never have it back! so save it for the one you truly truly love :)
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Hey, 18/f
Okay so basically I'm just wondering is it necessary to tell your boyfriend EVERYTHING?
We have been together for two and a half years and he knows pretty much everything about me as do I him.
But there is one particular incident in my past that I don't feel comfortable discussing with anyone. I don't want him to think differently of me telling him about it just isn't an option.
He asked me before had I any secrets and I just said no then he said If I had then all of this is for nothing.
It's not like I'm lying to him or anything there are just certain things I like to keep private. Surely that's allowed?
I asked my mum and even she says she has stuff my dad doesn't know about.
Does this make me a bad person?It's literally just this one thing.
Any advice appreciated thank you in advance. (link)
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No not at all. Having your privacy doesnt make you a bad person. There are certain things you can always keep a secret. If you are going to be uncomfortable sharing this particular thing with your boyfriend, then dont do it. You do not have to be guilty. Everybody has a right to have a personal life (as long as you know you are right). But however sometimes letting things out which have always bothered you to a trust worthy person can make you feel light. That is again based on your discretion of who you are comfortable talking about it to.
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15/f My friend was in a relationship with a guy who was 12 years old. She has been having hard time gating over him. He told her he doesn't like her anymore. I was mad at him but i can understand him.My friend is crazy drama queen she was vote in the senior survey list as drama queen. She talks about her relationship all the time about every guy she dated. But she can't over this one particular guy. Since she sees him everyday at school. She invited him to her birthday and told him she still likes him i told her your making everyone feel uncomfortable but she kept doing telling me she knows she knows. please tell me how i can help her plzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz!!!!!!! (link)
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Its probably her ego that was hurt... it is she who has to make up her mind to push this guy out and move on. You could probably distract her or help her see that she can do better. A 12 year old is a kid after all.
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i am showing myself to a phycatrist and i have asked
him that my problem will be solved or not but he said that you were suffering from depression and now it is ok.u should busy your self in some work.but every time when i go outside of my house i feel that every one can listen my thoughts and i feel a lot of pressure on my mind i do not feel free myself and i know that it is not my illusion.i want to ask you that my problem would ever get solved or not?should i commit
sucide.please give me a practical advice.plz advice me..... (link)
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Hi,
I do not practice medicine nor am a psychiatrist.
Well firstly , suicide is not an option in any circumstance.
The world is a beautiful place to live in!! If your doctor says you need to divert your mind, then do it. And remember what you believe is what you get. Its all in the mind. Be positive . And I really hope you succeed.. Take care!
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21/F
boyfriend is also 21
my boyfriend and i have been dating for 4 months. I know it doesn't seem long, but we were talking for 3 months before that. but officially been dating for 4 months. anyways, things were going really good we never really fought and if we did we would figure things out pretty quickly. we go to the same college and so we see each other a lot but we give each other space too so we don't get annoyed of each other. 2 weeks ago things started to get a little different and he told me that he just doesnt know anymore. he's super confused with himself and doesn't feel completely happy. i asked if i did anything to make him feel this way and he said no, that it's all him. he doesn't know whats wrong with him and he doesn't know what to do. i asked him if he wanted to break up or be single and he got all teary eyed and said that hurt really bad to hear that. he wants to work things out and wants to still be with me but he's really confused and doesn't know what to do or how to help himself. and neither do i. i have no idea how to help him. he says it's killing him inside because he knows he's hurting me. he said the only thing that bothers him with me is that my mood changes and he doesn't know if he's the one that's making my mood change or what. i've told him that it's never him. it's just school and other things. and i've been trying to change so that my mood doesn't go up and down all the time. he knows i'm trying. he would never cheat on me and i know this for a fact and i would never cheat on him. we both have been cheated on and so we both know how it feels.
the main thing is he just is so confused and doesn't know what he wants. and he just wants to be happy again. i have no idea how to help and thats what i really want to do. i'm worried that he's going to break up with me but i already asked if he wanted to and like i said, he said that he didn't want to and if he wanted to he could of done it already.
i guess what i'm asking is if anyone knows any suggestions of what i could tell him, how i could help, what i can do, or something.. (link)
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In my opinion, I feel he is just worried about the future and is not confident of the present. Give him lots of love and support and he'l be yours :)
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sir,actually i was in depression before some months
and in that mental sate doctar gave me such medicine so that every one can hear my thoughs whatever is going on in my mind after that i m getting frustated because of this problem anyone who see me or hear my thoughts spit it seems that such as he is spitting on me.because of this problem i m tending towards to commit sucide.i have tried 4 times to commit sucide but i was saved.is my problem can be solved?give me advice that what should do i? (link)
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You need to consult a qualified Psychiatrist. And do mention about your previous medication
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I have recently lost the love of my life. I regret it . I know we still love eachother and i know we still both have deep feelings for eachother .&& i want to try this relationship thing again. but everytime i bring it up he just changes the subject or gets mad at me then doesnt talk to me for a month or so ... (link)
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How do you know he still loves you?
I am helping a friend of mine whos in the same state. And I recently got to know this guy is dating someone else in 1 month after they broke up!
Trust me, if hes meant for you, he will come back even after a 50 years. But for now, looks like he needs his space. Give it time. We all love n loose at one point or other. So learn to let go. give him his time and space. most of the times when he knows your accessible anytime, he will not care to make things ok. Make yourself rare. Let him miss you.
Incase he has moved on, he may not let you know coz he might not want to hurt you. At the same time remember, its a large oceans and many fishes out there. Give yourself a chance .
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I am 19, from Singapore, I am kinda having some difficulty talking or getting to know girls. I tend to get very nervous around them. All my friends refer me as the crazy, funny guy. I can come up with a lot of jokes when I'm with my guy friends ( I have a lot of guy friends because I'm an engineering student ) but my jokes suck when I'm with... lets say a girl that I find attractive. Guess I'm not very confident. One more thing, every girl that I wooed/chased seemed to be very interested at first but after a while, they seem to lose their interest? I don't really know because they don't tell me. All they say is that I'm a nice guy and they don't wanna hurt me? WTF is that supposed to mean?! I need to know what you guys think about this. Thanks! :D
Btw, I tried cheesy pick up lines and I think it just doesn't work with Asian girls. They will all be like "WTF is his problem? Crazy ass muda.." You get my point. (link)
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A girl to stick around with you has to find you confident (not overly confident). Be youself, do not try to fake, any girl will definitely loose interest when she sees that. And never show your overly emotional side. A strong man is wot she searches for. I cant say much since I cant judge your personality in just 1 ques. These are some general things. Hope it works.
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i m married but my husband dont want me in his life.i dnt have any family ans friend.i wanted to commit suicide,attempted also.but cnt succed.kindly suggest me a place where i can live.i also want to adopt a child.and is willing to leave with child only.m b.tech graduate but dnt have any job at present.i can do teaching.plz HELP me AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.....PLZ (link)
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Suicide is definitely a no no. Its time you be independant . You have no idea how good it feels to be independant . You clearly have good qualification, try n post your resume on various sites.
Take up a part time job for the time being.
Once your settled, you can think of a child to take care of.
Seasons change , so be strong and hold on . Help is on the way! :)
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