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All my female friends friend-zones me
I am 19, from Singapore, I am kinda having some difficulty talking or getting to know girls. I tend to get very nervous around them. All my friends refer me as the crazy, funny guy. I can come up with a lot of jokes when I'm with my guy friends ( I have a lot of guy friends because I'm an engineering student ) but my jokes suck when I'm with... lets say a girl that I find attractive. Guess I'm not very confident. One more thing, every girl that I wooed/chased seemed to be very interested at first but after a while, they seem to lose their interest? I don't really know because they don't tell me. All they say is that I'm a nice guy and they don't wanna hurt me? WTF is that supposed to mean?! I need to know what you guys think about this. Thanks! :D
Btw, I tried cheesy pick up lines and I think it just doesn't work with Asian girls. They will all be like "WTF is his problem? Crazy ass muda.." You get my point.
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A girl to stick around with you has to find you confident (not overly confident). Be youself, do not try to fake, any girl will definitely loose interest when she sees that. And never show your overly emotional side. A strong man is wot she searches for. I cant say much since I cant judge your personality in just 1 ques. These are some general things. Hope it works.
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You are not very confident, and it sounds like you are also coming across as pretty vulnerable and emotionally high-maintenance.
Of course, I can't possibly be 100% accurate from a thousand miles away based on only this question, but here is what I see.
When a girl seems interested at first, but after a while drifts away - you've moved too slowly. You need to ask 'em out once you are confident you are both interested. If you sit in the friend zone for too long, you get stuck there.
If a girl says she 'doesn't want to hurt you' then you are wearing your vulnerability on your sleeve and reading as desperate. She is frightened off because she doesn't want to be responsible for your self-confidence. Against common wisdom, most girls don't want to be the center of a guys world, and are scarred off by guys who they think might treat em that way.
So, buck up. You don't have much confidence. Lots of guys don't. Fake it till you make it. If you've known a girl for a few weeks and think she might be interested, ask her out. If she says no, be gracious and friendly about it. Remember that being honest about your feelings is different than looking to others to take responsibility for your feelings. We are all of us insecure and looking for affection, but none of us want to feel like we might destroy somebody if the relationship doesn't work out...
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Most girls automatically put guys in the friend category if they don't seem interested in them.
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