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Gender: Female
Location: Louisiana.
Occupation: student
Age: 13
AIM: DancingDreamer08
Yahoo: xxfadedwingsxx
MSN: Fadedhal0
Member Since: November 5, 2004
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Last Update: November 7, 2004
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My life sucks. I've never had a girlfriend, i always end up being her good friend, and they always give me that excuse of "they dont like me that way". Im made fun of and beaten up. Everynight i come home and i want to cry and i sit and i cook in my hate towards others but mostly myself, for i cannot figure out why all my friends have such good lives, and im stuck with this. Why is it that i come home everynight wanting to kill myself? Can you help me? (link)
I know exactly where your coming from, im in the same situation. You have all this anger inside of you, and you dont know what to do. All you want to do is commit suicide because you think only that your life sucks and thats the only thing thats going to solve your problem. It's really not, i've been there before and its not the right solution. If they beat you up, maybe you should tell your guardian, or a school member. I know it sounds stupid but it does work. If you need anymore help, my sn is dancingdreamer08, just im me if you need me, or you can email me at dancingdreamer08@aol.com
=)Hope i've helped.


i'm in middle school and we have the popular cheerleaders. Everyone tells me how thin and beautiful i am. And the popular girls aren't that pretty, but all the boys love them. I'm not a cheerleader but i think i'm just as good as those girls. why don't the boys notice me? (link)
Cheerleaders aren't better than others, they just get more attention. Don't be a cheerleader just to get boys to notice you, unless you really want to be a cheerleader. Boys think they can score easily with cheerleaders, Yet not all are like that. They just need to pay more attention to other people in the school than focusing their time on cheerleaders. They just focus on the cheerleaders more. But im sure they'll notice you. =) Hope i've helped.


i have told her how i feel, i have asked her for a better reason to stop liking me and she tells me she doesnt know...she says she doesnt like me for my personality even though she only knows the one i have around her. i have a different personality around her because i dont think she would like the one i have with my friends because we are all a bunch of stupid bastard skaters who piss everyone off, someone told me that the minute you get her to show her real smile is when youve captured her heart..only thats the problem i get her to smile and laugh and everything all the time and she doesnt even like me. obviously if she doesnt like the personality i have with her then she wont like my real one, i dont have a very good history with girls and its always i almost go out with them and then they stop liking me..the new guy that she likes is going to ruin her reputation cuz he does drugs and smokes and everything..she told me that its not my looks that she cant picture me as her boyfriend, its my personality, i have been trying to get her to like me so much lately and i dont know what to do still, i have made a move, i have done things with her, i have told her how i feel honestly, she hates my friends because they dont know her and theyre a bunch of dicks and i dont even like them that much but if i wasnt friends with them she would be the only friend i have and yea...and they hate her..they think she treats me bad and stuff but she doesnt, she tells me im the biggest flirt shes ever met and i cant help but think that she isnt ever going to like me again..i cant get over her so please dont tell me to, its kind of hard for me to do it just like that..i hate it so much when you ask out a girl and they say "oh your sweet and all but no" and its like SHUT UP just say no ur ugly or no w/e else..and whatever happened to girls liking skaters? all of a sudden they all go for ghetto kids and preps..i just dont understand, what is so bad about me that someone can just stop liking me suddenly? i dont get why just once, things cant work out for me..she is the most beautiful girl in the school from my perspective, some other people may not hink so but i do, and she is really nice and we are very close to eachother and now she made friends with some slutty girls and im afraid shell act like them and drink and stuff because you act like your friends, and she thinks theres nothing wrong with drinking but she doesnt, i on the otherhand think that you shouldnt be drinking at 14 years old, and shes so smart, shes in like all honors classes, and i think this other guy is using her to like get laid or somthing cuz i dont understand if he goes out with other 10th graders all the time why does he have to go out with a 9th grader, especially the one i love, and i said to her, why go out with a sophomore when there are plenty of freshman who are perfectly fine if not better for you (me) and yea so my screenname is ScooteySkater90 im me if you want to know anything else.. (link)
She probably just sees you as a friend, although that's the personality that you use when your around her. So she doesnt really know your true personality. It's better not liking someone for their real personality than the one they have around you. Yeah, It's upsetting knowing that you love someone and they dont love you back I know where your at in this situation, except the opposite way around. Like i said, she probably has just seen you as a friend, and had just noticed that. I'm sure it's nothing bad about you, she probably just didn't know all along and had just found out. Sometimes you just can't understand people and the way they feel about you, and she probably still doesnt know how she feels about you. How does she know your personality is not "boyfriend material"? She doesn't know that, because she hasn't taken the chance to get to really know you. I really hope it all works out for you, if you ever need any more advice and don't feel like writing on here, you can email me on dancingdreamer08@aol.com or im the same screename. =) I hope i've helped.


Okay so like my boyfriend was at my house and he like wrote me a note saying he thought we should break up because of my ex. ((well call him Leo)) Well Leo kept calling me while my boyfriend was here.. He also said that he wanted to cuz of the pressure his friends were giving him. ((his friends didnt like me they think im a bitch)) and so like we have like been talking and figuring stuff out and it did work for the better cuz now we are going back out. He might not tell his friends that knew we broke up that we are going back out cuz they will bother him again, but he wants to let them find out on their own. Okay so heres what I need, this advice is more of something for me to tell my boyfriend. How could he get his friends to shove it? and to leave us alone and stop trying to break us up. (link)
If their going to pester him because of the choice of his girlfriend, then their not really his friends like they say they are. Just tell him to forget about them and find new friends. =) good luck.


well do u guys know that quote..

let the person you love go and if they come back they were meant to be yours??

well i never believed that quote..until i met *ben* in 6th grade but then i told ppl i didnt like him n then durin 7th grade i kinda forgot abut him but then like the quote said in 8th grade *ben* came back..

were we meant to be??

tnxs nd i rate high (link)
Don't believe in quotes, Quote's are just a saying that people want you to believe. I wouldn't say you were meant to be, but i can't answer that for you, only you and ben can. =) good luck, hoped i helped.


im 14/m and i am in love with this girl. she used to like me a lot and then she said over a few days she started having mixed feelings. she had liked me like a week after she started going out with my friend and she dumped him but didnt say why or something like that. i told her she was beautiful and that i love her. we have mostly similar common interests. we have made out and stuff and we were very close. at homecoming during the last slow song i asked her out..she she doesnt know and the next day she said she doesnt like me anymore..that was like a month ago and now she likes this sophomore who i think is using her. she told me one of the reasons she didnt like me anymore was she couldnt picture me as her boyfriend..i saw the guy she likes today and i was thinking WTF!?! you can picture him but not me....i know more about her than anyone and i am in love with her. i think about her all day and i found out on halloween night that she had snuck out with the guy and went to a park and made out for a few hours and on monday he gave her a bunch of hickeys and made out and everything and it keeps running through my head...ever since homecoming i have been depressed and i just wish she liked me still, my friends tell me she will but i dont believe them, i always thought that a guy who treats a girl like gold and devotes all of his time to her and everything was exactly what a girl wants..sorry this has been so long...answer and ill tell you the rest if you want to hear..if you do say yes in the beginning of your answer AND PLEASE HELP ME I AM SO CONFUSED..I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO (link)
Yes, I'd like to help. Everyone go's through these phases, The girl...Is probably confused right now in who she really likes. She's probably just seeing how other people are, and maybe she'll like you again. She probably still likes you, she just doesnt know...Or doesnt want to say anything about it. Your idea of what a girl wants, isn't exactly true...and i can't tell you, because not every girl wants the same thing. If she doesn't like you because she can't picture you as a boyfriend, Then maybe you should find someone who doesn't care whether they are able to picture you as a boyfriend or not. Find someone who will like you for who you are, and not how they picture you, because you never know who someone really is...
-Britt. Hope i helped. =)


hey yall, me and my X just broke up about a month ago.. i already have a new boyfriend, but i dont know if i really like him or just trying to get over my X. me and my X only went out for about 4 months, but the love we had for each other was amazing. but now me and my X arent on good terms and he blocked all my screen names and is talkin shit about me to all my friends. i just wanna let him know that i care but he takes it as being obsessive...but i know im not obsessed..i just miss him..how can he go to lovign me so much to hating me so much?? i mean, he knew my AIM password and deleted my whole list and it was the same as my email password..i guess he just guessed it was...and he changed it! why is he doing this?? (link)
Well. I would never give my b/f my password to my screen-name, because you dont really know if your gonna be together for the rest of your life and if you can trust them that much. When you get the chance, Sit down and think if you do like your boyfriend. Dont worry about your ex, ignore him. He's probably just mad that you've gotten another boyfriend, and wants to take that away from you. Just think if you really like your boyfriend, and change your screen-name and password. =) -brit.


im 13 and i have a bf. hes really nice and i like him alot but whenever im stressed he tries to cheer me up my makeing out hes 14 so hes only one year older but everyone at school thinks im a whore because i've been presured into having sex once but the person who did it got in trouble but everyone thinks i wanted it....i really didnt and i always think about it but my true problem is does my bf try to go further because im not exactly a virgin??? please help (link)
Hmm. There's a possibility that he may expect more of you being that everyone is talking about you and wanting sex. Also, your not neccesarily a whore because you've had sex once. Your very young to be having sex, and it happens, But i wouldnt go any further with your boyfriend if i was you. If he's wanting more out of you, its not fair for you is it?Because you may like him, and he may like you for what youve done in the past.
-brit


i took this test on the internet because i have always thought i had add. i've never told anyone this b4 though so i was a little scared when i was takeing the test. im only 13 years old and it said if u chose 8 or more out of 20 of the questions then u are highly too have add. well i got 10/20 and i dont know if i should tell my mom what should i do?

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Well, Me and my mother stongly think i have ADD as well. I dont think you should really worry about that...Because it was an internet test. Go to a parent and ask if they can take you to the doctor to get that checked out. =) -brit.


Hey! I might sound stupid for asking this, but I really want to know. I was talking to this really cute kid about my birthday. He's kind of a minor pothead. Anyways he likes me. I was asking him what he was going to get me for my birthday, and he said he was gunna get me a G, and a platinum necklace. Yeah, so I was just wondering, what is a G? does it have to do something with weed (he knows i dont smoke) or does it have to do with jewelry? Or something else? I'd appreciate anyone whos answers this question and I'll rate high! Thankins in advance! (link)
Haha, I wouldnt be suprised really. Lol you'll soon find out XD


hmm where to start... about 7 months ago me and this really adorable kid we'll call "sean" started goin out... we hung-out once and we both immediatly feel for eachother... Our relationship was GREAT like perfect. but then one of my best friends started budding in and kept tellin me how he was always flirting with his bestfriends (grlz).... so of course i belived my bestfriend over him and started b!tchin him out! well eventually it became too much and he dumped me... :( we ended in a big fight and didnt talk over the summer. then at the begining of the skewl year we went out. we broke up after 3 dayz, but every day he was tired or was at his dad's (lives 25 min. away) we're friends now. but im still in love with him. i recently went to a party and made out with one of my X-b.f's "john" and john likes me adn this other grl and i like both of them! who do i go for? should i get over sean? is john messin around with me?? plz!! i need help! (link)
If sean really, truly, wanted to date you...He would try talking to you about that whole flirting thing, and be honest with you instead of just breaking up because he was tired of it. Forget about Sean. There could have been a possibility that John is just fooling around, and then again he may like you like you heard, or wherever you found that out. Find out if he likes you over the other girl. =) Hope i helped.


As a post-election project. My teacher wants each of us to write and give an oral report about which party we support and why.
I am a communist, and communists tend to be frowned upon and I wouldn't feel right not doing it because I'm afraid of what other people would think.
So, should I do it on communism, or just pretend to be a republican? (link)
Dont pretend, pretending can lead to trouble sometimes. You should do what you think is best, If they have a problem with it, dont worry about it. It doesnt matter what they think about it, as long as you feel good about what you've done, and if it's truly the right thing, and what you've wanted.


There is this guy I'm going out with, and theres also this girl that is kind of my friend, though I find her annoying sometimes. Anyways, before we were going out, my friends all dared me to go hug the guy, because everyone knew he liked me. Hugging is no big deal to me, so I did. The other girl went up to me and told me never to hug him again. I asked her why, and she said, "Just don't." So I just shrugged and went away. Some time after that, he asked me out, and the day after we went to a museum on a field trip. My boyfriend bought me a necklace and it was very pretty. I didn't want to make him think I didn't like him, so I pretty much wore it every day. After a week, the girl told me never to wear the necklace again. I asked her why, and she said "Because it bothers me." I got kind of pissed but stayed under control and kept wearing the necklace. The girl obviously likes my man, or she's just jealous that she doesn't have one. How can I tell her that I don't want her butting in all the time? I don't want to cause any fights.

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I agree. Its not your fault you recieved gifts and given him a hug. You do have every right to do what you did. He's your boyfriend not hers, she should respect that and not tell you what to do with your boyfriend. If she has a problem with it, Confront her and tell her "Hey, He's my boyfriend and its not polite telling me what to do with my boyfriend, Im sure you wouldnt want someone telling you what to do with your boyfriend". Hey, If she's smart, she'll understand. =)




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