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i'm britney. i'm seventeen, and just got out of a long term relationship. :( i'm here to give advice whether you use it or not. anything else, just leave in my inbox.

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Just out of curiosity: is anal sex supposed to be pleasurable for girls? or is it more something you do to make the guy happy?

i hate it so bad. i think it hurts, but the guy on the other hand loves it because it can be very tight..

i was on the depo shot for the first months shot. I didnt go back for the second shot ive been trying to get pregnant, we try almost everyday. Or atleast 3 times a week. I havent had my period since before the shot. I was spotting for a day or two does that count as my period. Will i get pregnant i tried a million times.?

boy oh boy, that depo shot was the worst thing i ever did. i was on it for a total of 6 months (which is two shots.) and i seriously bled that whole entire time. my boyfriend would just go inside of me everyday as well after i got off of it because we wanted to try too. it never worked! it made my period completly irregular, and just was a peice of shit. spotting doesn't count as your period either. most likely you'll get pregnant, just keep trying & don't give up. that depo shot just sucks ass and ruins everything haha. good luck.

ok, i am a gurl, duh, and for age we'll just say im not of legal age to have sex, but i really love my boyfriend, that or i am just crazy, and we had sex, but that was roughly a month ago and i still havent got my period, but im not regular or any thing but im still worried, so my question is, is ther a age u have to be to get a pregnacy test? and if there is what is it? and secondly is it too late to figure out if im pregnant this way?? do i have to wait?? because i dontknow if it has to be done right away after words or not, thanks so much in anvance and i i really apresheate this, byes

there's not age to buy a pregnacy test..

you should wait until about 5 days after your missed period. sometimes periods can come later then others, that doesn't mean you're pregnant. and yeah i think you might be a tad bit too young to even be having sex. next time, i'd think twice about it.

Wut does Foreplay mean?

foreplay is stuff you do before having sex. kissing, touching, blow job, ect.

Ok im 17/f .. Im about to be 18 in august and im like really wanting to have a baby..like REALLLY REALLLLY BAD..and im on birth control would it be wrong if I stopped taking my birth control without my boyfriend knowing just to get pregnant?..we want a baby just not now maybe in 5 years he said. But I want one now...

i think that'd be pretty fucked up if you did that to your boyfriend. he said five years or so, then he's apparently not ready, and you shouldn't be either. it's a huge responsibility. don't do it.

what are some things me and my boyfriend can do apart from fingering/bj's thats not sex?

you can makeout with eachother super passionate. have him rub your boobs, thighs, and everything to get you excited, but not actually 'going there.' you can do the same for him.

if you have sex with your boyfriend, that's not considered as "a whore"... right?

A whore is someone that does it with many guys. You on the other hand would be having sex with YOUR boyfriend, so no. If anyone says you are just say fuck off. ;]

ok well my bf's penis is about 7"
what i want to know is do you think that will be pleasing for me because he has small hands and cant do any of that no lie.
so what i want to know is, is 7" about average? & do you think it will that please me?

Yeaaa. Seven inches usually get's the job done. Believe me. ;]

So me and my friend made like a dildo or whatever, and we put a condom over it and used lube. As we were penetrating the dildo in our vagina, it would like STOP going in... it was like a wall htat was stoping the dildo from going in.. and when u would hit the wall, it was like really bad cramps. What is this wall??
its like 3-4 inchs in me....

THANKS

Your hymen. [Also known as your cherry.] When you have sex for the first time it breaks it + then the dildo, or penis or whatever will be able to go in deeper. It does hurt for the first couple times, but afterwords it'll feel better.

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ok so i was at this party last night and i had sex twice without a condom and im PRETTY sure nobody cummed in me but im still worried if im pregnant. ugh

alsooo, would you feel the guy cumming in you (without a condom) if you were having sex cause i've only had a guy cum in me with a condom on

ive heard you get sore and feel tired when youre pregnant but i feel tired and sore but that might be just not from sleeping but im just so paranoid!

i'm just freaking out, sorry if this question is just rediculous i'm just scareddd!

Well sometimes you can feel when they cum in you, in my opinion. Having sex with no condom is a BIG risk that you can be pregnant, because pre cum can get you pregnant. I also suggest the morning after pill. It's about $50 and you need someone over 18 to buy it for you. Otherwise you can go to your local woman's hospital, and sit there + blah, and get it for like $10. I'd definitly take that if you don't want to be pregnant. You must take it within 72hrs. + I don't think you'd start feeling signs the next day, so I think your just paranoid with that situation. Good luck.

Next time, use a condom.

alright so me and this guy are basically freinds with benefits. we tried dating, but it just didnt work. so now its just casual sex. we are safe...blah blah thats not what im asking.

so normally when we hook up we are at my place, but yesterday we went to his house. and well part of his head board is a mirror, and i just couldnt stop looking at us. like watching in the mirror was such a thrill and it turned me on soo much...is that weird?

No. I don't think that's weird. It can mean you either like him like that, or your like sexually attached. Which means you really like having sex with him so much that it's kinda addicting and it just turns you on looking/ thinking about it. That's normal. :]

why do some guys insist on not wearing a condom? dont worry i made him but still.... what is so great for them about not wearing one?

Because they say it feels alot more natural and feels better. Some guys don't 'want' to get you pregnant.

i like this kid from my school. he has fingered me and i want to return the favor but i dont know how. wat do i do do any guys out there like anything special. please give tips. i have never done anything like this before. if possible give step by step instructions.

thanx,
i appreciate the advice

http://www.jackandhisbeanstalk.com/guide-to-sex/how-to-give-a-handjob.htm

Try that.

Hi, the past few days i haven't been feeling that good and i was wondering what are some signs of pregnancy? my period should be coming in a few days and maybe its just cramps and stuff. but the main point is that ive never had sex..so what are some signs of pregnancy? thank you

Your not pregnant. You never had sex so it's impossible. Here's some symtoms though.

http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/symptoms-of-pregnancy/PR00102

how do you give head..weird question but i really don't know!

The people below me are right. Go here though.

http://www.sofeminine.co.uk/couple/pratiquesexe1/pratiquesexe11__menu=1&part=1.html

That should help.

me and my boyfriend are going to have sex for the first time. what are some passionate, and also kinky stuff we can do??

Well hopefully your first time isn't as weird as mine was. I was in my dads room with my best-friend at the time in my room fooling around with some guy. -Anyways, some cute things to do is like a romantic song, and a hot make-out which could lead into it. That's more passionate then kinky. I wouldn't do kinky until after your first or second time, because I'm going to be truthful the first time hurts, and your not going to want to be like rough and stuff. When your going to want to be kinky when your having sex be like "Spank me baby, call me your sex freak." Haha! That turns me on for some reason? I'm not sure if it'll work for you. If you want try roleplay. Be like a cop scene or something. Dress up really slutty, and like handcuff him and tease the shit out of him till you both can't resist. I've always wanted to try that. Good luck.

Sometimes after I have been drinking and have an orgasm I have the constant urge to urinate. Can anything be done to prevent or help this problem?

When I don't drink and after I have a orgasim I always have to pee. I'm thinking it's completly normal! I don't really know how to prevent it, because I hate it too. It's normal though. :)

how much does an abortion range from

Sometimes insurance can pay for it, otherwise your looking at between $100-$500.

well last night i spent the night at my boyfriends house because his parents were out of town . we had sex like 5 times all night . but everytime he cummed , he pulled away &nd we stopped for a few minutes . one time there was a little bit of cum next to my vagina &nd i think may just A LITTLE tiny bit might of actually touched my vagina , but if any did at all , it wasnt alot . could i possibly get pregnant for just a little bit touching ? &nd i woke up this mornign &nd my stomach has been hurting ever since &nd i even felt like i was gonna throw up a couple times today . does that mean anything ? its jsut the next day , that doesnt mean anything about what happened last night right ?

I agree with the people below. Everytime you have a sex is a risk, even closer because you think it went in a little bit. One drop of semen is enough to do the job. Although, a pregnancy test wouldn't have results the NEXT day. I suggest Plan B also. You can go to your local hospital. I did that before. It costs a range from $10-$20, if your 18 or have someone else who is 18 they can go to a local pharmacy and buy it for you, but it's like $50 there! Your parents wouldn't have to know, but you have to bring your insurance card, so it might show up on the bill.

Any more questions, send them to my inbox. I know a decent amount about that kind of stuff. :]

im 15 and im not circumsized does that matter to girls and also my penis is quite small should i worry?

Well me personally I would rather it be circumsized, but my friend her boyfriend isn't and she loves it. She said it feels a lot better. I've never had experience with one before so I can't say I don't like it, but no to some girls it may matter, but some no.

For penis size, I'm sure it's not small. Your still growing! I'm sure most girls your age don't know the definition of a big penis yet. You should be fine.

Good luck. :)

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