I am The Crusader. I'm headstrong. I'm a debater. I'm in High School...but that doesn't make my advice suck. I'm nice...sometimes. I'm opinionated. I'm a feminist, and I'd love to change your mind on exactly what that means. I like you until I'm given a reason not to, and it's very easy to give me a reason not to. I love life.
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How do you know if you can make out really well? (link)
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You don't.
Seriously, everyone likes something different when they kiss. The best way to know if you're a good kisser or not is to ask the person you're with how they like to be kissed and try to mimic that when you're making out.
If you can't ask them, however, generically just try not to be too wet with your mouth and when in doubt, cut back on the tongue. Biting is a no unless they do it first or you know them well. And the most important thing is just to relax when you're doing it and keep thinking about the person you're with. Kissing isn't hard; just don't worry about being "good" at it and you'll be fine.
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Hi...I was wondering when you're pregnant I know you can still have sex unless directed by your doctor not to for the safety of your baby...anyways when you are pregnant and having sex your husband can cumm in you right???????
Just wondering...I mean it would make sense since you're already pregnant....Thank you ! (link)
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Yes. Your husband can come inside of you during pregnancy without affecting the baby (with doctor approval of course). However, the closer you get to the delivery date, the more likely it is to be medically advised not to have sex in the first place. The first two trimesters, you're generally good. Later on, though, couples should probably abstain from vaginal sex.
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i really just want to commit suicide. i just can't stand my life anymore. i just feel like i would be better in heaven where i would have no worries. someone please help. i can only take so much. i don't know how to cope. i'm just going to end up killing myself. i know i am. i have no reason to live. (link)
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Hey. I don't know how much I can help you just by typing in a little box, but I had a lot of problems a few years back with wanting to kill myself. For a long time I thought suicide was the only solution...but I never did kill myself.
It's not worth it. You know how the good times, when everything is working out and life is WONDERFUL have to end? Well, by that same card, the bad times when life sucks and the world sucks and everything seems shot to hell...only last so long. Depression seems like it takes over your life, and it really does. It's a shitty place to be...but it's not forever. You can get help. I promise you.
Because you posted here, I assume you're scaring yourself and you want some type of help. Could you talk to a parent or friend? If you could go to see a therapist or someone or and see if you could get on anti-depressants...well, it's not 100% going to make everything better immediately...but with hard work, you can make it through.
Your life isn't the only one that you affect. Killing yourself will hurt the people your close to. There's a statistic somewhere that says at least 7 people are DEEPLY affected by the suicide of someone around them. It's the type of thing that can seriously give another person a mental health problem. So if you don't think you're worth living for (and you ARE; trust me) then don't kill yourself because you'll be hurting the people around you so much.
There IS a way out of depression. I promise. Have you tried calling 1.800.SUICIDE? It's a volunteer organization, and you can call whenever, and someone will talk to you about your problems...no matter the time. They can't give advice and they're no substitute for a therapist, but they can listen and sometimes it feels better to talk about it.
Suicide isn't a good choice. You're beautiful. Just for being. Every day you're alive. You're existing and being brave making it through the day. You CAN do it. Take care of yourself.
Let me know if you need anything.
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Okay..,
My friend told me that she is pregnant ......
2 days ago she told me that they had unprotected sex and that he came in her for the first time.
can you really see on a pregnancy test after 2 days that you are really pregnant?
thx (link)
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Very, very unlikely. Most pregnancy tests are only valid AFTER your 1st missed period...and there's STILL some ambiguity even then.
If your friend doesn't want to be pregnant, she can *still* take the Morning After Pill...some work up to 72 hours after intercourse. Your friend should also pay attention to what time of the month it was when she was having sex...at certain stages of your period, you have more of a chance of becoming pregnant than others.
I *doubt* knows if she's pregnant yet. She MIGHT have gotten a false alarm, but if you'll pardon my rudeness, I know a lot of girls that have claimed to be pregnant for attention. I'd take it with a grain of salt. If she really did engage in unprotected sex, she COULD be pregnant. But she a) isn't going to be displaying signs yet and b) shouldn't know yet anyway.
Take care.
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I'm a virgin. I thought I would start out with that.
I am 15 years old and I masturbate sometimes. But the thing is, after I do it, I feel really guilty and stop and don't do it for about a month.
It feels good when it's happening but after, I feel sick to my stomach.
I have never had a boyfriend and I'm not sexually active at all besides masturbating.
People say it's normal but it's not really publically accepted for teenage girls.
I just want to know if it's normal how I feel. (link)
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It's completely normal. Society has a double standard--it's okay for guys to do it, but if a girl masturbates or has sex, she's a "slut." It's stupid that girls feel that way and we shouldn't. But so many girls feel that way so it's completely normal.
It's okay to recognize yourself as a sexual being. It's okay to be female and in touch with your sexuality. It's nothing to be ashamed of. Some good sites that made me, personally, feel better about my sexuality is "woman's sexual health" sites. They go through and discuss what's normal for girls and women and how your body works--and how it is nothing to be ashamed of, regardless of public opinion. A good one is www.the-clitoris.com. It's not porn. It's a really, really good site.
Women can be sexual beings. That doesn't mean I'm advocating sex. I'm advocating being comfortable with your vagina, as weird as that sounds. Just know you're female and know the history of being female and know that it is okay for you to be in touch with your sexual side and that it is something you should be proud of having.
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Anyway, it's completely normal. Everything you feel is normal. Sorry if I ranted too long, I just feel as if the world shuns sexuality...and it is NOTHING to be ashamed of.
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Ok. I'm 14 and I resently had sex with a guy I had never met before. He was around 21. I have rented a book over being pregnant and I have all the symptoms. I took the pregnancy test and sure enough I am. Well anyways I don't know who he is and i'm really scared. I don't know how to tell my parents and I want him to be there when I tell them! Well if you can help me or give me ideas to tell them and find him...Please HELP!!!
I rate 5's on every one
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I agree 100% with protossc541.
Having sex with him was illegal. You can't get into any trouble, but he could be charged with statutory rape, which is a crime that will get him listed on-line as a sex offender and punishable by 50 years jail time. Chances are, even if you find this guy he'll deny it and say the baby isn't his. Spare yourself the heartache. This is going to hurt enough as it is.
You really have to tell your parents. I know this is a horrible, scary thing. I know you must be scared to death right now. I understand--I had a scare like this once, which luckly was only a scare and I was so freaked out. But trust me. Once you get it out and tell your parents and own up to what you did, you'll be able to move on with your life.
I don't know what your personal beliefs on the subject are, but you probably shouldn't keep the child. 50% of teen mothers end up on welfare. You'll have a much better life if you can either find a family to raise the child for you or, if you're pro-choice, abort the baby. But you need to understand your options. www.plannedparenthood.com is a great site to answer the question "I'm pregnant...now what?"
I wish you the best of luck. You just need to take care of this problem and own up to it. You messed up. It does not mean you're a horrible person. It does not mean you're less than anyone else or a bad child. It means you made a mistake and now, like every other human, you have to deal with the consequences. Maybe you could have a good female friend go with you to tell your parents. Maybe you could write them a letter. Regardless, you have to tell them. They can't legally kick you out of the house. It will be okay.
Take care of yourself and the baby. Remember that smoking anything or drinking and even some pain medication can seriously damage a fetus. Also, DO NOT try a home abortion by drinking an "abortive substance." They can KILL you.
It WILL be okay.
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ok i have a wierd question i dont no why im do enterested in rape im 13 f and i like to look at pics and read storeies of it.. is it like normal (link)
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That's not a weird question. It's perfectly valid, actually. I've heard a lot of people admit that sometimes some violence in sex turns them on. It's an obession, because it's not culturally acceptable, a lot of people keep quiet about, but I would infer from the amount of rape porn out there a lot of people have a similar obession.
You are not a freak, just a girl with a healthy though unusal fetish.
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wondering...
what do guys really think about having boners during class...&& while holding someones hands && while you guys around "girls"
thanks alot hope its not confusing... (link)
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I'm female, but I've had a long talk with a male friend about this and I can reiterate what he said.
Getting a boner period basically embarrasses the guy. I mean, it's understandable. Guys sometimes don't want you to know how much you turn them on.
When people notice a guy has a boner, they laugh. It's funny. So guys are considerably embarrassed by getting hard in class.
When holding someone's hand, guys are embarrassed because they don't want you to know that you're turning them on.
I don't know what you mean when around "girls" but it's probably the same answer.
That said, every guy is different and the feelings will sometimes vary. But for the most part, yeah, guys are somewhat embarrassed.
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well i am a girl, and i kinda like another girl. but i like guys too, so byish..but for the girl: what are some "things" we can do...i know basics but some fun/sexy things? sry for people who are offended by this. but thanks for the help. (link)
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Well, what do you want to do with another girl? Are you asking for sexual things? You can do everything to her that a guy could to to her, such as fingering, feeling her up, oral sex ect. I don't have any amazing creative ideas, because making out is enough for me. What's fun is playing Mexican Poker (where you hold a card on your forhead and your partner does the same, and the higher card wins. You don't get to see the card.) and making a bet like "You do ____ to me if I win" ect.
It isn't that different.
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Hi, you may call me prude ignorant or stupid but I don't care. In other answers people talk about 'feeling someone up'. What is that?? I rate based on effort!! Thank you in advance for cling me in! (link)
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There are three types of feeling someone up. It's a loose word that basically means "grabbing someone's breasts" but it could refer to (1) above the shirt (2) below the shirt, above the bra or (3) actually grabbing the bare boob.
It's also a total guy-to-girl thing. Girls get felt up; guys don't.
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Hey im 16, and iv had sex alittle over a few times. It seems that almost every time i have sex, I get these weird pains in my stomach (almost like his thing is puncturing my insides), what is this? Can i fix it? (link)
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Is it right around your bellybutton? He's probably hitting your cervix. The best way to prevent this is to take it a little slower and don't thrust as deeper/harder.
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OK when i first learned about sex back in middle school...i said to myself "im waiting until marriage" right away. I want to wait..because i dont know if i can deal with the emotions..but then again i want to do it (not now..definately not ready) in the future..you know when i find a bf when im like 18 + ..probably more like in my 20's though. I dont know..i just cant picture myself only havving sex with one man..plus im only 15 and im so curious about it now..im scared that what if i dont get married til im 30? I dont know if i can wait 15 more years..it seems to distant. How do i know for sure if im going to wait? or if im not? Do any of you out there have premarital sex..or have done it with a few people? Was the emotion too much for you when you broke up ? Or a one night stand..was that too much for you? I'll rate 5's (link)
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Okay. Sex.
First, I'm very glad you know you're not ready now. That shows a lot of maturity on your part other girls (I assume you're a girl?) your age don't have.
I can tell you there is a chemical in the female body that is released when the female achieves an orgasm. This chemical creates a bond with the person who you're having sex with. HOWEVER
It is possible to have a cheap fuck. Before you need to know about girls who have had problems with sex, you probably need to find out what your personal feelings on the issue are. This can be as easy as saying, "I'll have sex when I feel ready." And what counts as sex to you? Just sexual activity? Fingering? Oral?
It's good to sit down and figure out how far you'd go before you're on your back, if you catch my drift. And it's okay not to know how far is too far. Just discuss it with your future boy/girlfriend.
You know you're going to wait, but what are you going to be waiting for? Love? Marriage? A long-term relationship?
I don't have sex because, honestly, I don't want to be involved with the damage it could do to my emotional state and reputation. That's my choice and my boyfriend respects that.
It's a personal choice, and there really is no wrong answer. And you probably will keep changing your mind about where you stand. Just stay strong and don't let anyone make you feel bad about your body and what you choose to do with it.
Good luck. :-)
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