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Cheers! I enjoy giving advice and I think I'm good at it. Is it pretentious to say I refuse to answer questions about "Love" from people who are under age 16? I don't think love is real when you're 14, and I don't think you can fall in love in a month. I won't dignify that kind of stupidity with an answer. I also won't answer questions with terrible grammar. I just make fun of them on myspace! I know that's not nice, but it's just SO easy. And it's so unfair for me to give them a good, honest answer when they haven't asked a good, proper question. Ask me a real question and I will give you a real answer!
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ok me and my boyfriend hve been together a while. and we hve done most everything but, sex. alot of my friends hve already had sex. i know some people might say im too young but me and my boyfriend love each other and i know we are both physically and emotionally ready. well he comes over often but everytime im on my period [ kinda wierd? ] but we both hve tlked about this.. and sometimes i want to and others im jus like idk.. but i think i am ready but im so scared i might get pregnant but most people i know of hve had sex and used a condom and hve not got pregnant. seriously what are the chances. do you think im ready? and how would i let him know while we are together that i want to..? PLEASE DONT SAY IM NASTY OR NETHING IM REALLY NOT! please answer asap
Only you can decide if you're ready. Are you only ready to go when you're turned on? If that's the case, then I don't think you're emotionally and mentally ready. If you're really ready to do the deed, then you'll know without having to ask anyone else.
Pregnancy can always happen when you have sex, but a condom GREATLY reduces the risk. Don't double bag--that doesn't work. It's an urban myth, and I'm not sure how anyone would believe it would work. If you have sex (with a condom, of course), but you're still afraid of pregnancy, try the morning after pill. It's available by prescription only, so you'll need to talk to your doctor.
Ok here goes, I am an advice giver and everything but I can't fix this problem. I go to a school where there is a whole bunch of guys. I have a major crush on one of them but every time I make a move on a guy I like, I get these kinds of remarks such as "You should jump off a bridge and save yourelf the embarassment of actually having a love life". Remarks like these are said to me everyday and somehow they have etched themselves into my head and they won't go away. Now it seems like the only way to get rid of them is to commit suicide. I have thought about it many times but I want help. Please answer back. I don't know how much more of these remarks I can stand.
Do not hurt yourself. First and foremost, if you are seriously considering suicide, then you should talk to someone you trust. It doesn't have to be your parents or a teacher, but talk to someone. Suicide is not normal and depression does NOT have to be apart of your life.
And as for those guys, I wouldn't ignore them. To ignore them is to give them the idea that it's okay to berate people for no other reason than personal amusement, and that is NOT okay. If the guy you like doesn't have the cajones to stand up for you (or for anyone at all), then he doesn't seem like that great of a guy.
Be clever. Make quips. Defend yourself. If they insult you, insult them back. You don't have to put up with their shit, but you will as long as you don't make a stand.
Good luck.
what is the "Kegal Excercize???" Im confused..I hear people talking about it but I never know what it is specifically...please help!
Kegal exercises are used to strengthen the walls of the vagina, often used to increase sexual pleasure. In order to do one, sit on the toilet and pee. Then squeeze the muscles in your lower body to stop. Those are the muscles that you work out with Kegals.
I'm 22/m and my sister just turned 16. We're very close with one another and usually can share anything. Recently, however, she has become more sexually explorative, which is fine, but now seems to be obsessed by it. She told me yesterday that she wants to hook up with this 19 year old freshman in college that I know. They're not dating, but are considering getting to know each other. My sister used to be so righteous and moral and I feel that she's going to just end up hurt with this new sexual discovery. She's thinking about getting ahotel room with this guy this weekend. What should I do? I don't want her to get hurt and frankly, I don't want her to turn into a slut. Thanks =Concerned Brother=
Talk to her. Sit down and tell her that you love her and that you're concerned by her behaviour. Don't be accusatory, and do let her know that you find nothing wrong with her being sexually liberated, but let her know how hard it is to sit back and watch her change so drastically. Ask her to slow down her behaviour, not for your sake, but for hers.
I am a virgin and I am ready to have sex i think about it all the time but i'm afraid that it might hurt. My question it what does the first time haveing sex feel like? Is is digusting and painful or is it wild and crazy in good way?
For your first time, I would advise that you take it as slowly as time allows. The more prepared you are physically, emotionally, and mentally, the less it'll hurt and the better your first time experience will be.
Use plenty of foreplay, and I mean plenty. It may or may not hurt, depending on how ready your body is. When you are fully aroused, your body will actually widen the tiniest bit, but every inch counts.
Don't forget to use a condoms and lube. And if at anytime during your experience you want to stop, it is fully within your right to say no.
Good luck.
ok well im 18/f , and my b/f got me pregnant , lik 3 months ago, b4 he broke up wit me. today he punched me in the stomach , nd in my face. and i dnt kno wut to do?? plz help me. how do i kno if he killed my baby?
Why the hell is he punching you period? Go to your doctor and have them do an ultrasound ASAP, but while you're at it, you may want to call the police and report what happened. You could press charges for assault and have him arrested. I'm not 100% sure on the laws, but if you get a good lawyer, you may be able to press charges for murder or attempted murder of your baby.
i'm 14 and i think about sex kind of a lot because this one guy that i really really like wants to have sex w/ me but i don't really want to but then again i look at some of my friends that are 14 and they've lost their virginity already but i don't really want to have sex w/ this one guy but then i do..i'm confused and i don't know if i'm totally out of my mind for thinking about this but i don't want to have sex w/ him but then i do..is it bad to even think about it when i'm 14?
If you're this conflicted about having sex with this guy, then you should not do it. Sex should be something you're confident about doing, and you shouldn't do it just because your friends have or because some guy wants you to. You are not a piece of meat. You can make your own decisions and you don't need someone who doesn't respect you trying to get you to do something you don't want. I think it's more than obvious in your post that you don't even want to have sex, even if you "really really like" this guy.
Respect yourself! Losing your virginity is something that happens only once--do you want to give it up for no other reason than because your friends did it? BE safe.
i hear constantly about 14 year olds having sex... this is scary. what has the world come to? one day people will be having sex at 8 and then people will finally realise there is a problem. i dont see why 14 year olds have sex when they are so young... at 14 i was like, gross, why have sex? i'm 17 now and i am a virgin... i am proud of that and i like it coz guys respect me and i know a guy isn't going out with me for sex. what i want to know is why do girls lose that respect at such a young age? and how young were people when they lost their virginity???
- confused
I don't believe that fourteen year old's are always fully aware of the consequences that come with sex, but that doesn't mean I disagree with sex before marriage. I don't think all girls who have sex before marriage are easy, because I myself am not a virgin.
I know I'm not easy or a whore, and I'm certainly no slut; guys and girls both still respect me because I am still a respectable person--not being a virgin doesn't change that. Having sex doesn't make me stupid or any less of a person, but I just couldn't imagine being mentally or emotionally ready to make a decision like losing my virginity at the tender age of 14 or 15.
I think it's a little bit sad the way future generations or denigrating themselves and putting themselves at risk of STDs or teen parenthood. It's something that should be changed, but how? Do we force all people to follow one religion? Do we make a law forbidding sex before marriage?
It's hard to find a solution because there is such a fine line between doing what you think is right and what actually is right.
I had sex with a guy almost 3 weekends ago.. and the condom fell off... i didnt get the morning after pill but my friend said i could just take 3 birth control and it would be the same thing... but i'm afriad! what are some EARLY pregnency signs?! lately i have felt nausaous and i've had spotting... please help...
Your friend is right. The morning afterpill a is a pill with highly concentrated hormones; they will cause you to have your period before the fertilized/unfertilized egg can get attached to the walls of your uterus. These same hormones are in birth control pills.
Spotting and nausea are both signs of pregnancy, though the spotting will happen around 8-10 days after ovulation. Have you had lower abdominal cramps or tenderness in your breasts? Have you had your period? I noticed a lot of people said morning sickness, but this is more toward the second/third month, plus not everyone will have it.
Take an over the counter pregnancy test and talk to your doctor IMMEDIATELY.
And please, for your sake be more careful. Next time the condom falls of, stop. Do not pass go, do not collect 200$.
Take Care.
1st of i'm 16 and i'm in 10th grade and a girl...and i have some pretty awesome best girl friends...well i make-out with a few of them...i don't mind it i actually have fun doing...but i wouldn't call my self bi...i read this thing online and it says that we experment to find out what we like...well i love makeing-out with both sexes! but i've never done more with a girl...i have and talked about eating girls out with my other best friend and we have talked about doing to each other...but i could never see my self with a girl...because i just love boys...but what i am getting at is it wrong to want to do this stuff with girls...it's mainly with my best friend...it's just a experment..is it wrong to experment with her? she has ate a girl out before..i mean i'm not scared to do it and i don't feel un-comfortable caouse she is my best frined...my point...does any of this seem wrong?
((i don't want the stupid rood people to answer this...or jerks who think it's "nasty"))
love: the girl who doesn't know!!
There's nothing wrong with experimenting--as long as you're safe. If this is one you want to do, or not want to do, then fine. Just do right by you.
I was just wondering if it will hurt getting in the butt, cause i really want to do it with my 2 boyfriends, you know like one up each hole type thing?? But I am scared whats it going to feel like.... please help!!!!
Okay, first, it's kinda sad that there are people berating you for your life choices. If you have two boyfriends, congrats! I can barely get one. :)
As for the anal thing... ah, I wouldn't know from personal experience (it does tend to make *squirk*), but if you do it, go slow. Things don't normally go up that way. And maybe before you have sex with two guys at once, you should try... that third option singularly. Figure out how it feels and if a threesome is what you really way.
Afterwards, make sure you and your partner clean up after yourselves.
Cheers.
Is masterbation a sin? Some people think it is, and some people think it's not. Some people think it is-- only under cirtain circumstances. Like if it's for lust, then yes it is, but if it's not for lust then it isn't..> Is it? Or isn't it?
Well, it's all about prospective. For a non-religious person (such as myself), there is nothing wrong with it. If you have any questions, perhaps you should talk to your religious leader about it.