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Heyy, just call me Tara.I've lived in Ontario all my life.Im sweet sixteen and Im just starting my junior year.I like to joke, hang out with my friends and enjoy every bit of life.My friends mean the whole world to me.You mess with them, you mess with me.Im a very dramamtic and emotional person.Im oppinionated and wont let down a good fight.Very friendly down to earth person and easy to talk to.I absolutely love psychology.In the future when I get to university Im going start my years of being a psychologist.=) Im on a hiatus for now.Just Dealing with a break up with my long time boyfriend of 1 year.I wont be on giving advice again until im fully recovered and inspired to give advice again.Thanks for your time.Buh bye.
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If a gurl is 17 in her boyfriend is in his 30s is it still rape! Dont answer if you are not sure!!
Well its not considered rape.Rape is when your forced to have sex with someone.But in cetain places her could go to jail.
after i get an orgasm 10 sec. later it dosnt feel good anymore ... is this normal?
Ya, its completely normal.Orgasms dont last forever =D Just a couple of seconds.
me and my boyfriend had sex last sunday. we used a spermacidical condom and he pulled out right when he started to cum. 3 days later i started having a lot of dicharge. it smells and looks the same as it normally does there is just a lot more. i also am experiencing headaches and cramps. what does this mean?
Possibly because your going to have your period soon.Theres nothing to get worked up over so dont worry =)
xoxoxox
Tara
well I do know the whole "always use a condom" thing, but every now and then its just not there right? SO I was wondering if you keep up with your birth control taking it the right time every day and you dont use a condom what are the chances of gettin pregnant?
Well using condoms while your on birth control is just basically for making sure that you dont catch any STDS from your partner if they have anything and to protect that small percentage of getting pregnant.You should always use a condom just in case but every now and then if you dont have one I mean it wouldn't hurt you.There is that chance but its your choice if you want to take that chance but I dont see a big deal in it.As long as you take your pill everyday and you are really reliable on taking your pill on time and not missing any than I dont see a problem.Oh ya and if you and your partner have been tested.
xoxoxox
Tara
15/f. A couple of questions about birth control pills:
- Which ones work the best?
- Which have the least side effects? I would like to avoid gaining weight if possible.
- About how much does it cost?
- Is a prescription required?
- If it is, is my doctor required to keep it a secret or can he tell my parents? (If he can, he probably will.)
Only your doctor can tell you that information.If you just take any birth control that isnt perscribes to you it may not work.
Side effects I guess depends on the person.Some people gain alot of weight on birth control pills but if that does happen only about maybe 2-5 pounds maybe.Rarely do women gain alot.And sometimes women loose weight.
Well where I live its like $10 per pack or per every two packs.I got my first two packs free from my doctor just to see how everything goes and make sure I dont have any problems being on it.
Yes you do need a presciption from your doctor.You cant just go to the store and buy birth control without your doctors constent.Your doctor might even start you off on a low dose pill just for the first three months to see how it goes.
Thats what doctor patient confidentality is for.If you just talk to your doctor about it they will not tell your parents anything, if you dont want them to know about it.
good luck
hope everything goes well
xoxoxox
ok me and my boy friend have been thinking about having sex and he has had sex with people befor but i am a vergin, he told me that in the past he has just pulled it out befor the came instead of using a condom... and thats what he wants to do but i dontkno if that is compleatly safe..plz tell me if this is safe i need to kno! thank you! byes
Dont believe what he says else you'll deffently get pregnant.My boyfriend said the same thing.But I insisted on using a condom.He might have caught something from sleeping around with other girls you never know.So Id advise to stick to the conomds like it or not.If he doesnt respect your decsion then tough.
i am 15 female.
one of my bestfriends just lost her virginity to her boyfriend and she'll be 15 in a couple of days. i know the guy she lost it to and he's very sweet at times. she told me that his penis was big and fat. wow.lol. she told me it hurt like hell and im really curious about if it should even hurt because i heard only when you're nervous it hurts but she claims she wasn't nervous and wanted to loose her virginity to him right away. why, i have no clue? Could anyone please tell me stories about thier first time and every feeling you had.
to be honest i kind of feel pressured to have sex because everyone around me has either lost it at 12,13,14, and 15. But i know who i am and i know that loosing my virginity won't make me a betta person than i am now..but still im curious about sex...please tell me everything i should know!! thanx in advance
Well you shouldnt feel pressured into sex just because everyone else was doing it.It should be at the time YOUR ready.
I was 15 when I lost my virginity.Im completely comfortable about talking about this.Yes it was a young age and im 16 now.Do I regret doing it?, absolutely not.I was never pressured into having sex.Actually I was the first one out of my friends to have sex and after that they kinda followed me which wasnt a good idea...You see I felt comfortable and ready.I trusted the person who I was with.Which is my still bf of a year now.My first time I was nervous but it didnt hurt at all or bleed.After we went ouside and it started snowing and it was the first snow of the starting of winter.So I guess it was kind of a magical moment for us and we always look back on it.I was so worried I was pregnant even though we used a condom.But after a year you kinda get familar with it :\ All im just saying is not to rush.I mean its not like your missing out or your being forced to.Its your choice.
well good luck
xoxox
i recently got a pregnancy test after beng 4 days late for my period and it came out negative its now gone another 6 days and that means im 10days late on my period could i be pregnant and are the tests ever wrong???please write bak and answer my questions luv me xxxxxxxxxx
Pregnacy tests can be wrong but rarely.If your worried about to go to your doctor and they could so a more detailed pregnacy test on you.
If your not talk to your doctor about going on the pill to make your periods more regular if there known for being so late like that.
hope that helps
xoxoxo
Hello. I'm very nervous. Okay well me and my boyfriend have sex now. I'm 14 and he's 16, and he popped my cherry. We usually have sex, alot. We sometimes don't do it with protection. He pulls it out though. I'm just extremly worried. My period always changes though. It rotates, like some months I get it at the beginning of the month, and some twords the very end. Last month I got it at the beginning so I figured I would this month, I haven't. I'm scared, but I don't know what to do. I've been getting cramps, like you do from the period. Uhh, do you think I could be pregnant? What should I do!!!! Thankss. (=
Hmmm...14.Dont you think thats a little too young??Well first of all I'd take a home pregnacy test before you start getting worked up about it.Stress like that could cause your period to be really late.You should also use protection also id advise you to stick to condoms or at least see your doctor and start on th pill.
hey guys....
okay so i did the thing with my boyfriend on sunday...with no protection....we're both fine and everything and he pulled out before anything came out but ive been reading things on the "pre" stuff if you know what that is and it is possible that you could get pregnant that way...i read that nothing really happens till after the first 5 days and today, wednesday, the third day, i feel fine i dont think anything happened....do you think i should take a pregnancy test just incase?
Before you even decided to have sex in the first place you should have got a little educated first.If I were you I would NEVER relay on the pull out method.You just asking to be a teen mother.You should take a pregnacy test just in case just to make sure.If you not, then id advise you to start using condoms or go to your doctor and see about starting on the pill.
ok so a couple of weeks ago i was at the movies with a couple of friends. one of which i really like. so we started making out and "feeling" on each other. then he undid my belt and i sort of kicked him. and he was like "oh sorry is that too far?" and i said i dunno. so he
re-did my belt (it was the cutest thing ever) and we proceded with the "kissing and feeling". im 14. so my question is...should i have let him into my pants and such?
Obviously the kick thing was saying "im not ready".I dont think you should have unless your completely comfortable with it and you want him to.Just give it a little time until you get comfortable with it and your sure your ready =)
ok, me and my girlfriend have decided we want to have sex, the only probleam is i am not sure how i am going to get my hands on a condom, i am 13, and don't give me stuff saying im too young or anything cause we have made up are mind, im just not sure how i can get my hand on some condoms. can i just buy them? what? and also what kind should i get?
I know you dont want to hear it and you even said.But your WAYYY to young to be having sex.Can you imagine being a father at 13??Just think about it that way.But its good you want to use protection.You could get it at any drug store or corner store.Sometimes if you go to some health clinics they'll give you them for free.
my boyfreind are thinking about sex. and we know we are both ready for it so please dont say anything along the lines of "you might not be ready".
but anyways. we are going to be safe about it. but my boyfreind doesnt want to buy condoms, he just thinks its embarssing. and isnt that supposed to be the guys job?
Nooo its not a guys job.Either female or male can.Some people may think its there job but its not.I mean alot of guys do take responsiblity for getting condoms but it doesnt hurt for girls to buy condoms either just in case.So it doesnt really matter who gets the condoms, as long as you have them =)
If you're wearin a condom and you cum and it goes into the woman is it possible to get pregnet?
If there was a hole or there was a possibility that the condom broke then she could get pregnant but if you checked the condom right after sex and it had no holes or anything like that.No she wont get pregnant.
When i reach a orgasm i feel sick is this normal?
Ya that can happen.Some people just get lightheaded and some people dont.Its normal so I wouldnt worry about it.
Ok so heres the deal. I've heard that you can't get pregnant from anal sex...while obviously...but I've never done it before and like it seems kind of gross...I mean, a certain body part going into the place where...poop comes out of?
I just don't get it. Is there something that I'm missing?
Some people find pleasure out of it.Its really risky and you cannot get pregnant from it.It can cause complications going to the washroom.And well its not the cleanest thing to do.It can also tear tissue and such.And I believe its very painful.
i started taking birth control pills and i was wondering when its safe for my boyfriend to not use a condom?
If you've both been checked for any kind of stds.Then its alright after 1 month(your first cycle/pack of pills).Thats what my doctor told me :\.But you should also use a condom, because the pill isn't 100% effective.But thats your choice.
okay well, im 14 years old and my bf does foreplay, where he sucks my breasts. and i was reading a magazine somewhere and it said that one time a girl did the same thing, and she started producing milk because her body thought something needed it, because her boyfriend was sucking it. im so scared im going to start producing milk, please help!
As far as I know that can't happen.Unless your pregnant or you have too much of one kind of hormone in your body that cuases you to produce breast milk.LoL I wouldn't worry about it.Im sure it's happened before but its less likely to happen to you or to anyone else.Im sure its very rare.
Ok so there a guy i've known for a year and he's gonna be moving like 2 hours away...anyway soo im in love with this guy and we have done other things but i got a urinary tract infection which obviously has nothing to do with your "other" parts...But ya so anyway do you think i could still have sex with a urinary tract infection cuz im going to the doctor to get antibiotics but this guy will be gone for good by then.
I'd talk to your doctor on that one.IF I were you I wouldnt just in case.It might be painful for you.Also if you are on birthcontrol antibiotics make it less evective, but you never mentioned that so...LoLBut If you talk to your doctor about it he/she will be able to tell you its safe or to stay away from it.
hey my boyfreind and i want to have sex..
but we never talk.
its like getting sexual is an exuse not to talk because its awkward so we do that instead..
should i dump him?
Well only if you feel you need to.But maybe you guys arn't ready yet if its going to be such a big deal.Maybe if you leave the topic alone.I dont think you should dump him over that.But if you guys arn't having the greatest relationship and you guys can't even talk, then maybe its time to end it.