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I am 17 and a female. I am a jumior in colleage and is stoked for the christmas holiday! I love to have friends and i love to help people so everyone give me a chance and write to me and i believe everyone will enjoy, if not then your loss.
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18f.
So I lost my virginity about 2 weeks ago. I'm on birth control and he used a condom. But still, the whole time we were having sex I couldn't stop thinking: is the condom still on? did it break?
Just things like that kept running through my mind which sort of killed the moment. Don't get me wrong, it was great but I still couldn't stop thinking about the possibility of something going wrong. Is it always like this? Or do you think it was just because it was my first time having sex?
Don't worry so much. I think it's because you experienced sex for the first time. The thought will always be in your mind after having sex but if you plan to continue to have sex then you should not allow these scary thoughts to affect your good time with your partner. It is a very wise thing that you are taking the necessary precautions to prevent pregnancy and STD's. Don't worry and have fun.
Okay,
I know this is easy but I get confused.
I normally take my bc pill at 1;00pm
but because we moved the time forward
should I take my pill at 2:00pm instead?
or should i just keep taking it at 1?
what is the best idea?
I am sexually active, I don't want to take
chances thats why I'm trying to figure this out..
The doctor may say that you should take the bc pill at the same time everyday but its not a have to. It is perfectly alright to not take it at the same time. To keep it at one is fine, but if it bothers you than take it at two, but you don't really have to be so percise about it.
can you have sex when you are on your period?
yes you can it is perfectly normal to have sex while on your period. Some girls actually say that having sex while on your period is a lot more enjoyable, but not everyone is the same.
okay, so i'm good friends with the guy, and we were talking and we got into like hooking up and stuff.
and me giving him a blow job.
i've never done something of this sort before so i don't know what it entails.
i don't really want him like fingering me or anything like that, but does that always happen?
and what makes a good blow job?
Okay let me first just say that when a guy gives a girl pleasure he always expects something in return, so remember that. Anyways.... A blow job is really simple. Just go down on him with your mouth and go up and down. It good to roll your tongue and if you do not have a bad gag reflex then deep throat it. Guys love it. But if not then just for as far as you are comfortable going.
Okay for starters I'm 19 and I know I have the rest of my life ahead of me, which is why I need some advice. I met my best friend when I 16 years old. We were so close even when he had girlfriends. When I turned 17 the truth came out and he told me he was crazy about me. I've always been afraid of getting hurt, and I never felt like I ever met someone who truely liked me for me, they only liked what they saw. I took it slow with him and he asked me out 5 times before I finally said yes, I was petrified of losing our friendship. But it ended up turning into the best decision of my entire life. I completely fell for this boy, head over heels in love with him. And he felt the same way about me. Other than school and work we invested a ton of time in this relationship, made connections with eachothers family and I thought we were perfect for eachother. He always would get mad at me if I even mentioned the word "breakup". In October of this year he broke it off with me, out of no where. Our two year was suppose to be in January and I was completely devastated. Ive never felt so much pain in my entire life. I never thought it was going to be serious and he would miss me enought to tell me he made a mistake. I asked him what happened and he "fell outta love with me" and missed being single. I felt like I was being punished for something I didnt do. I bought this kid everything, gave him all my spare time and to my knowledge I was a pretty good girlfriend. I spent weeks in my room, I lost 14 pounds, I attempted to commit suicide and I talked to a psychologist for several weeks. Now 4 months later I feel no different. Ive never been the type of girl to let someone into my life close enough to hurt me other than my family, I use to be the strong one about everything and Ive never got myself stuck up so much on a guy before and let him have such control over me. It scares me, I still try texting him to be my friend or anything and hes just cruel. He goes out constantly to bars and clubs.. when he would never go with me when we dated. Theres pictures of him and other girls floating around facebook and him hanging out with new girls. And I have no desire to even be with another person. I love this boy so much and I am so hurt and I cant seem to get over it, no matter what I do. We walk into eachother at school and he'll say hi but its usually all i can get out of him. He told me today theres a chance for us in the future but not til hes done with college.. but thats not for another year and a half and I dont even think I could wait another day to be with him. I lost my best friend and my boyfriend all in one day and I feel like my life has just been falling apart. I miss him terribly.. what should I do :(
I am very terrible sorry for what has happened. I can also say that I can relate. My boyfriend did the "I fell out of love with you." thing. I was like, what in the world just happened? I can say that it is harsh and it will be awhile before anything remotely seems better. He was a jerk for breaking up with you and you should realize that you can do better if he was stupid enough to break up with you. I promise you that it will get better and you will find someone else again. After something like that it's hard to give yourself you another man, but you have to ask yourself if you would rather go for it and have the possibility of getter hurt or do you want to never give yourself to someone and shun everyone out and be lonely for the rest of your life? I know its a hard thing to consider. But if there is also a chance that you and this guy do get back together than that is also good too. I gave my boyfriend another chance and we are great. (does that help any?) But do you really want to wait that long? You are only 19 and I would say go have a little fun! Show him I didn't bother you and I bet he will come running back to you. It is a struggle and i know that it can make life totally suck with these stupid decisions that we are sometimes forced to make, but just follow your heart and be strong. I have a good feeling that you will over come this and also find Mr. perfect. God bless!
My Boyfriend of 4 months and I just had sex for the first time. Although this was my first time ever, it wasn't his, he's been with other girls of all shapes and sizes. He's very confident in his... sexual abilities. Anyway, we tried it a couple different times, and he just could not hold an erection. He said Its the first time that's ever happened to him, and he didn't know why he couldn't cum. He kept reassuring me that it wasn't me, and that he was interested, but he just couldn't stay hard. I Don't know of any other reasons why this problem would occur if he's done it so much before. is there anything I could do, or are there any other reasons why this could be happening? Thanks guys..
Sincerly, First time Failure.
this hapens sometimes to men. So don't think it's you because it's not. guys body has never wanted to respond to the brain, it is just who men are. I had this happen to my boyfriend and I and what I did is kinda spice things up. I made him lay back and feel comfortable while i did some work. I kinda teased him and then played a little. That really would get him going, so you try it. It works for me and my guy. Oh and you maybe new at this but trust me it will become natural. But don't do anything that you do not feel comfortable doing.
Ok yes i know i could figure it out by having sex but like that seems to risky and i've been on the pill for a few months, like 6 or 7 months maybe more but the thing is i didnt start using it for having sex, it was for my skin. So i havent really been very punctual about it. Sometimes a few hours off and every rare once in awhile i miss a day and just take two the next day but that happens rarely. My period is extremely regular i get it on the exact same day every month, if that'll help. I just wanna know if its safe for me to have sex without a condom or is it too risky?
i can say from experience that it's alright to have sex without a condom. But it is wise to not do it if you skiped a pill the night before. If it worries you too much then just to stay extra safe, then use a condom. just keep watch.
is it normal to be bored of sex all of the sudden? me and my boyfriend were having sex (the safe way don't worry), but after a while.. i just got bored and just laid there looking around the room. two days before, i was watching a video and the person was giving advice to somebody who said what happened during sex which was that she started bleeding and everything. that kinda turned me off and i just wasn't in the mood. was that the reason why i got bored of sex or something or got turned off? is this normal?
it is common to become bored of sex. some girls dont have a huge sex drive. if you are birth control that can weaken it too. i am pretty sure when you want it, you will get it. it will come around just do it if you dont really want to.
so say your on birth control and then you needed to take a medicine pill that would cancel the birth control but you still took your birth control everyday. you have sex he cums in you more than once is it like cummin in me like regular sex with nothing for protection?
depending on the medicine depends on wheather the birth control with continue to work. you need to speak with your doctor. if you are scared that it is not working than you should stay safe while having sex no matter what. you never know what might happen, so ask a doctor
16/f
weird to say, but is it normal for a girl to erect just like how guys do? i hear that it's like wanting to urinate, but for some odd reason it never happened to me before.. i still don't think it does? but ever since i took plan b.. after sex, white stuff comes out of me.. it's not liquidy it's more like kinda gooey or something? i can't really describe it.. the only thing that worries me is that it comes out ALOT. not as much as it did a month after i took plan b, but it still comes out. is that normal? did plan b do something to my body?
it is perfectly normal for a girl to cum. It does feel like your wanting to pee. If white stuff is coming out but not while your having sex then its just discharge. It is normal. You are saying a lot and trust me i know what you mean. it is just cleaning itself out and preparing for the next time. If you really want to know what it feels like to cum and have the pee urge then ask your b/f or whoever, even you to play with your clit during sex. it feels absolutely awesome!
3 to 4 months and this is what happend this month on the first of december i got my period all normal for the first two days but then it got light then really dark colored and then stoped so obviously i got worried i took a pregnancy test on that thursday it came negative but i was still woried so i took another one on tuesday. that came negative. so im hoping im not or am i taking the test to early my boyfriend almost cums in me al the tiem and we have sex about 3 to 4 times a week at least. is it my birth control or me.?
ok i om on the pill and i can tell you that you should not freak b/c your still new to the pill. your body is still trying to adjust to it. Plus your doctor should have told you that once you start taking the pill the ie will lessen you menstrual cycle, so don;t wry but keep watch.