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I'm Steph. I love helping people and I have a great interest in music, I play the piano well and I hope to be a vet nurse one day. I am easy to trust and whatever you say to me personally will be strictly confidential. Thanks for reading! :) x

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how do you give a hicky ?

It's basically sucking on the neck when making out or getting intimate with someone you know and trust, but beware, it can leave a mark and may hurt after a few days if you don't do it carefully :)

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I just want some opinions on this:

Do you think it's wrong to let your boyfriend go to a strip club?

I personally think it is wrong, but then I see some girlfriends even go with their boyfriends to stripclubs!! I just don't get it. How could you let your boyfriend get turned on by another woman? ..or let alone get a sexy lap dance by another woman? I personally think that can even lead to the thought of cheating.

What do you guys think? I am 18 and my boyfriend is 17 and he will be 18 next month. I don't know whether to never let him go to a strip club(since that is a common thing for men to try out at least once in their lives) or to let him try it out. I am really uncomfortable with that idea.

In my opinion, I would NEVER expect any boyfriend of mine to even suggest such a thing.
If the topic comes up in conversation, DO NOT be shy of telling him how you feel..you MUST tell him that you're uncomfortable with the idea.
Totally with you on this one!
x Steph x

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So. I know gross but i think it is safe to say this is mostly populated with girls so you all in some way sometime in your life come into a problem simular to this.
So my boyfriend and I have been sexual active for 6 months and a month ago we stopped using condoms because it was comfortable for either him and or i. Sex without a condom was much more comfortable for both him and i. But I do not recomend it to anyone, use protection...Anyways after the first time we did that I got a urinary track infection, which i didnt go to the doctors for because it wasnt life threatning or anything. Anyways after a couple days it got worse, i was getting white discharge all the time when i used the rest room or when i was just walking around i felt leaking...about two weeks later it got worse, i was ichty down there every once and awhile and the white discharge increased and it started to get an oder. Well I douched and started taking care of myself as much as I could and it went away. While having the UTI i was still having sex but it didnt seem to bother it. Well today after intercourse he noticed thick white discharge on him and I on me. I smelled it but it didnt really have an oder at all and I was very confused, so i went to the restroom and whipped and noticed spotting of blood im suppose to start my period tomorrow so i just wrote it off to that and put a tampon in but when i took it out, it was completly dry not one thing on it. Well later last night we had sex again, but the thing is I orgasmed more than the first but I didnt have the thick white discharge this time...I thought that was kind of weird.
See I was thinking could it be, because we are having sex without a comdom and my body is just getting use to it. Or is it what my boyfriend said...that we dont have lube so he was rubbing me too much and maybe tearing me a little and that could be the reason but I dont know how it could be...
Im very confused. Please dont tell me to go see a doctor i cant afford to no health insurance and Im just wondering if it should be something to be totally freaked out on?

if you have any advice let me know. i will rate you very high...thank you for your time have a great day...and sorry if this grossed you out.

No worries for the rating - I'm here to help if I can!
The bleeding was probably due to your hymen breaking which is more difficult to do with a condom. Otherwise, it could be your body adjusting to this new feeling and it is very likely that your boyfriend is tearing you slightly. Why not add 5-10 more minutes on foreplay, that way, tearing is less likely to happen.
Best of luck! :)
x Steph x

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if it kind of smells down there is that normal? would shaving help?

It's nothing unusual, don't worry. The smell isn't coming from the hair, but from your personal hygeine. Ensure you wash that area at least twice a day to prevent smells and infections.
x Steph x

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Whenever my boyfriend fingers me, it feels like I have to fart. I havent actually farted yet, but how can I prevent this feeling?
Please help!

I believe this is due to you tensing too much. Relax more and perhaps tell your boyfriend to try a different position.
Best of luck!
x Steph x

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i haven't had my period for 2 months and i know i'm pregnant because i'm a virgin. relatives and stuff think that i have a problem with reproductive system or something and wants me to see a gyno, but i really don't want to do that and i'll make that my last resort. they think it's because i always drink cold stuff and don't eat. my weight is the same as before and idk. help? i'm 14/f by the way

Periods are mainly focused on patterns. My diagnosis is that your body hasn't fully adapted to this pattern. I know some who have have their period for 2 years and still have irregular patterns, it isn't abnormal! :)
x Steph x

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Last night, my boyfriend and I had sex for the first time. While we were doing it, it started to feel good (but it still hurt), and sometimes when he was like going inside of me and the back out it started to feel like it was too much. It felt like I was having an orgasm, but it felt like I was going to like throw up. This happened like 5 times during a period of like 45 minutes. Is this normal and has it happened to anyone else?

Sex would feel like this for the first time. Perhaps this pain that you were feeling was your hymen breaking, in which case, you could see some blood discharge even if it isn't anywhere near your period. It's perfectly normal so don't worry. Next time, it might feel like it again, but not as painful!
x Steph x

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hi i just want to know that can we have sex during pregnancy, if yes then till which month,
or if no then why.
please answer me.

Yes, you can. As the baby grows and the bump develops, it could be awkward or the female may feel unattractive and uncomfortable to have sex during this time. It causes no harm to the baby whatsoever.
x Steph x

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If you dont like hearing about sexual things i suggest you stop reading at this point :-)

I asked a question about the pill (birth control) and found out it was 99.9% effective. Does that mean the guy could cum inside the girl and even then there would only be a .1% chance? or is the 99.9% chance with using a condom and pulling out?

I think you should use both a condom and the pill. When they say that the pill is 99.9% effective, it means that there is only .1% of the female getting pregnant/getting an STI
x Steph x

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My new freind is brown skin, and we are going out to the movies tonight. I know that we not gonna watch it, can someone tell me how to make a hickey. No dumb answers or smart- A** ones

http://www.romanceclass.com/miscr/howto/hickey.asp

Copy and paste that into your browser and it gives a step-to-step guide as to how to give a hickey.
G'luck!
x Steph x

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Most of the boyz I have been with want to have sex with me but I say no because I THOUGHT I belived in abstanence. But now I have had a relationship with this boy for two months and I think he is the one. I am so in love with this boy. Everyday we talk he tells me he loves me, he wants to get married, he wants me to have his kids, and he wants to be with me for ever. I want to have sex with him but I am scared that he will say I am not doing it right. please help me. I am in desperate need of an answer. What should I do?

Alright...sex shouldn't be planned, it's a way of life (reproduction) and the most intimate way of expressing love. It should be a magical, pleasurable experience for both. If you want to, talk to him and make sure he is ready and comfortable to too! Communication is the main thing, before you do anything, talk to him and ask him what would be the best way to do it to pleasure him the most!
Best of luck!
x Steph x

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Has anyone ever had sex with a blind girl?? Can you describe it as in depth as you feel comfortable depicting your encounter?

I can't say I have nor intend to but I'll happily try to help! In this circumstance, it is VITAL for communication. I'm sure if you communicate, it'll be a better experience for both of you.
Best of luck!
x Steph x

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Hey, well I'm 14 female and like when ever I see a cute guy I fall for him. Like I like a guy at my school and another one and when I went to some men's college soccer games i like feel madly in love with them but i know I'll never ever be albe to have then and I can't cause that's like a 18 years dif. and yea. So is this normal for me to be falling for like every cute,hott guy i see? Thnaks

Yeah, for your age, it's pefectly normal. It's admiration for their appearance which is not at all weird or abnormal. Becareful though, there may be much hidden under the surface!
x Steph x

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Is it normal to not be able to get over the guy you lost your virginity to? I lost mine to an asshole who completely used me as a bet and lied about how he was a virgin and "wanted to loose his virginity to me too" I can't get over him. It's making me depressed and I don't know if I'm overreacting or what?

Losing your virginity is a big thing and most believe the one they give it to trusts and loves you. Please don't think it's your fault, he lied to you and betrayed your trust in the nastiest way possible. You can't change the past, so, why not start a fresh, new leaf and think to yourself that you're better than him and in the future, you'll be the one with an adoring husband and he'll just end up as a tramp or locked behind bars.
x Steph x

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when you shave your vagina are, is wierd or normal to shave everything? i mean like completly bald i guess youd call it, i dont really know what im talking about but i need help. all thoughts appreciated..thnx

If you choose to, then yes, you would shave the whole lot. Some people shave their bikini line so hairs don't go atray. Others make them look neat. Others go the whole way and cut the lot off but that can lead to redness and itchyness. It's your choice, just make sure you know the concequences! :)
x Steph x

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Hi!! im new to this website and Im 15 years old. I was just wondering if I should shave my vagina or do I leave it like it is. I have never been told yes or no, and I am too embarassed to ask. Thanks...I will rate high.

Hey! :)
No need for the rating, I do it because I intend to help!
I'm not going to tell you what to do, I don't believe that's my job. Everyone is an individual and are entitled to treat their bodies in whatever manner they wish. If you want to, you can but please don't feel pressured by other people into doing so. If you have/going to have a boyfriend and he didn't like it, then he would have two choices
1 - Live with it (not literally!)
2 - Command you to shave it
Be yourself!
x Steph x

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I guess you could say that i am prude...but I have made out with a guy and he has felt me up, but I am really scared to be in a situation where he wants to finger me or he wants me to give him a handjob,or do anything else for that matter.(he is my boyfriend) I just think it would be awkward and i dont know what im doing when it comes to sexual stuff. can u jus give me advice on what to do if the times comes? Sorry so long...i rate high

Don't worry about the longness or the rating - I answer because I want to help! :)
If you're 100% comfortable stepping onto the next level, you should talk to him about how he would like you to do it. Don't act stupid, just ask what he would like which would pleasure him the most. But please please please, only go for it if you are happy and comfortable doing so, don't be rushed into something you don't like. And if it ever feels like that, stop.
Hope you make the right decision! :)
x Steph x

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I'm 13/m in jr high and I was wondering, how old is an appropriate age for sex? I've heard of people my age that have had sex, but I don't think 13 is an appropriate age, so..... how old should you be to have sex?

It's legal to have sex when you're 16. But just because other people might have had sex, doesn't mean you SHOULD. You run your life and don't let anyone try to persuade you to go down a pathway which you really don't want to go down!
x Steph x

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Alright I feel that Im ready to do a little more sexualy with guys then I have so far. And I am all ready to until I am actualy with the guy then I get all nervous and cant do anything! WHATS WRONG? anyways I can loosen up? cause I want to be able to.. I just get nervous but I want to do stuff!

Don't think about it, let it run naturally. Maybe start unbuttoning his/your shirt or lift it up and make little pebbles to the big rock!
x Steph x

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ok there's this boy and i really really like him but he likes this other girl we'll call Sue and Sue has a boyfriend but he (the guy i like) keeps flirting with her and sitting next to her talking to her etc. but when me and him are alone (not just the two of us but like me and him and other friends and sue not being there) i swear he's flirting with me and of course i flirt back cause i really like him. But i dunno how to see if he likes me or how to get his mind of Sue and on to me. I just don't know what to and i don't wanna just ask him out cause tha'd be kinda weird and plus i'm not like that so can someone please help me get his attention more on me than on her? thanks....

Why not bring up in general conversation "So, is Sue your girlfriend?" or "You and Sue seem to be getting along nicely". Just bring her up and see how he reacts when talking to you about it. Also, you can find out his hobbies and interests and see if you connect, he could think "Wow, she likes the same music as me..." etc...so you have stuff to talk about like a certain band or celebrity. Compliment him too, say how you like his hair today and buy him something for Christmas too. :)
Best of luck!
x Steph x

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