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there really isn't much you can say to shock me. i've seen and heard a lot, so if you need help, don't be afraid to ask anything. i'm amazing at answering anything to do with sex.. so ask away =)

oh and yes.. that is ME in the picture. it's my halloween costume: a mile high captain!

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so basically. im 15/f. well my mom is putting me on birth control because my period is wayyy irregular and because she thinks ima have sexx and get pregnant. [[virgin. ugh]] so i said ill do it. but i heard that u gain a lot of weight but it goes strait to your boobs. and that interested me fo sho. haha. but im not sure if thats true. does anyone know if that is. because i really need sum extra boobage. haha if that makes sence. plz help. thankss :]]

the bc pill affects everyone differently. it could make you gain weight in your stomach, thighs, wherever, not specifically your boobs. for me though, i went from a 34A to a 34C the summer i started taking it. that doesn't really mean it'll happen to everybody that takes it, or to you for that matter. birth control defnitely helps regulate your period, so look into it. it's a good idea.

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what is a g-spot?
what does it mean when someone eats someone out?
what are types of sex...like cowgirl, 69, doggie, and what do u do in them?
what is pulled?

please help me!

your g-spot is this WONDERFUL little spongey area about a finger's length up in your vagina. when it's touched during sex or fingering, it's the best feeling ever. if you aren't sure where it is, play around with yourself and get to know your body.

when someone gets eaten out, that means that another person is giving them oral sex. as in, licking, sucking, etc. on their clit/vaginal region.

cowgirl is girl on top sex. basically you straddle your partner, and ease his penis into you. then you grind against him, fast or slow, depending on how you like it. if it feels good for you, it feels good for him. 69 isn't a sex position, it's where your head is down by your boyfriend/girlfriend's penis/vagina, and you give them oral, while they are doing the same thing to you. doggie style would be from behind, with the receiving partner kneeled over, and the giving partner pounding them from behind, either through anal or vaginal sex. i'm not sure what you mean by 'what is pulled?' but i hope i answered your other questions. =D

ask again if you need anymore help!

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Hi Im 16 and I was wondering how to increase my boyfriends stamina who is also 16. We have really amazing sex but I want to know how he can last longer than 30 min to an hour. oh also would using a condom help increase stamina sense it is less sensitive? I dont need a lecture about unprotected sex. I am on the pill and we lost our virginity to each other. Thanks!

I used to have the same problem with my ex, but he could barely last 10 minutes and honestly, it just pissed me off. Condoms to help a TON, they decrease the sensitivity, I always noticed my ex lasting longer. I'm on the pill too, it's a wonderful thing; isn't it?! When he feels as if he's about to finish, tell him to just rest a minute, or go slower. The slower you go, the longer it will last. I also noticed that if he didn't play with my breasts as much.. it lasted way longer. Another possibility, if all of that doesn't work.. help him get off before you have sex. That way, he won't have to ejaculate prematurely.. or any time soon. It's usually hard for guys to orgasm one rght after another. Ask me if you have any other questions!

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Before sex, im going to start to take off his pants and stuff and get him hard and then im going to stop and change the subject completely for a few minutes.
Just to make him want me more, is that a good idea? Or what?
I need some help

thank you

No. That's mean. If you want to give the poor guy blue balls, go ahead and change the topic. Otherwise.. it's not going to help you at all. It will completely turn the guy off and then he'll not want to anymore. Besides, that's just.. cruel and uncalled for behavior and your guy will be pissed!

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Ok guys, if you were going to use a girl for sex what would you do exactly?
Because I want to know if I was used, Id just like to know opinions
Thanks !

16/f

hmm.. you'd probably know, but anyways: he'd act like you were the best thing in the world, sleep with you, and then drop you on your ass. never talk to you again.. until he wanted some. probably get mad if you didn't want to do it, say he'd never talk to you again, etc.

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ok does it feel different having sex with condoms like can you still have an orgasm with a condom and does it still feel pleasureable when your having sexwith condoms

you can tell the difference. it's not technically a bad feeling, it's just the rubber can sometimes get a little dry and uncomfortable. when you don't use one, it feels wetter, warmer, etc. but don't let the feeling make you stray away from protected sex!

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i just got doen with my period and im spotting pink not like red like when i have my period. i also has PROTECTED sex with my boyfriend lastnight and im on birth control. but im just wandering why im spotting.

if anyone has an answer...


thanks

that sometimes happens after you get off your period and have sex. there's probably a little bit of light blood left, and sex just brings it out. it happens to me all the time, nothing to worry about.

another thing that it could be is maybe he scratched you somewhere, inside or out, and the light pink bleeding is a result of that. =]

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17/f

ok. So I lost my viriginity today. We used a condom, and he's been tested so I know he's clean. When it happened it hurt a lot, but it's normal, right? I also didn't start bleeding until about an hour after it happened. It stopped, but my stomach still hurts.

So basically here's my question:
How long will it take until sex stops hurting?

I can def. see us doing it again in the future, maybe as soon as next week. Will it still hurt? I had fun anyway with the fooling around we did, but I'd like to enjoy it as much as he has, lol.

Thanks in advance!
-L

it depends on the girl, but it usually takes about 3-4 times to not feel at least some discomfort. personally i enjoyed it my first time, the pain went away really fast for me. as for the second time.. that was hell.. but i braved through it! haha i promise it WILL get better. it's normal for it to hurt; your hymen is breaking, and the whole bleeding thing is definitely normal too and might happen for the first few times.

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Ok so I've been on the pill for 5 months this month. When can I have un protected sex?

My boyfriend and I have been having sex for about 9 months now and have always used a condom. It doesn't bother me or my boyfriend about using extra protection but I was just curious!

Thanks!

It's a very good idea to get tested! You can never be too safe..

Anyways, you can start having unprotected sex after the first round (a full pack/month) of your pills is done. Just remember that if you miss a pill, follow the instructions and use a backup method for a week after the missed pill =]

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Okay well my bf is 17 and I am 14..
We were thinking about having sex but we had 2nd thoughts because of diseases and pregnancy.
I don't know if he doesn't have any diseases and I'm not sure if I do.
But he really wants to do a lot of sexual things.
He wants to have anal with me and I don't really want to because I hear from a lot of my friends that it hurts.
But this may seem weird but we sometimes have phone sex and masturbate to each other while talking on the phone..
When we're together we're always making out and trying new things together but we haven't gotten to sex.
I'm not sure if I should have anal or sex with him.

hmm. well, i had sex at 14 to my 17 year old boyfriend, after 6 months of dating. we dated for 2 years after that.. and had sex regularly. a lot of the time it felt like our relationship was solely based on sex, nothing else. like if we would hang out.. it would just be sex and then go watch tv or something and it's just an everyday thing. i wasn't comfortable with that, and i honestly wish that i would've waited, because then i wouldn't have had sex with different guys over the years. oh and anal.. does hurt like a bitch! and what the person before said, i know a girl that has literally shit on her partner during anal because she lost control of her bowels. if you DO decide to do it, i suggest taking a little trip to the bathroom before!!! haha. anyways, if you have to ask advicenators about your virginity, you probably shouldn't be having sex!! =] message me if you need anything else, i don't judge.

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Weird question but i dont wanna look like an idiot, when you give a guy a hand job or head and you dont want him to come in your mouth where does it go and what are you supposed to clean it up with?

i jsut wanna be ready and not look like a retard in front of this guy

well, you could always tell him not to come in your mouth at all. have a towel or tissue ready, or it will just go all over.

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Hmm..you seem like the right person to ask.

When me and my boyfriend make out, he sucks my lips most of the time. While he is doing that what the heck am I supposed to do with my tongue?

Wait, what am I supposed to do period?

that's odd.. i don't know too many lip-suckers. haha. okay anyways, while he's off sucking your lips.. is your mouth slightly open or closed? if open then just put your tongue in his mouth and just uhh feel your way around =]

usually guys like to feel in control, which works out well if you don't know what you're doing! just follow his lead.. do what he does. mainly guys do to you, what they want done to themselves. if you have any more questions about anything sex related.. ask away!

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My name is **SARAH** and im 15 [[16 in 2 months]]. I have a boyfriend **JOHN** who is also 15 and going to be 16 in 2 months. Well JOHN and I have been going out for 5 months this Saturday. We get along so well and we talk about EVERYTHING. When we hang out we don't have to do stuff to have fun; we cuddle, talk about everything, watch movies, sit outside and watch the stars. Well the past few days we got ALOT closer. He is the first boy i went out with for longer the 1 week after my very first love and hardest break up of 2 years. Well; the other day we became alot more physical. I mean before that all we did was BARELY make out; but the other day. It was like we made out for 2 hours and he fingered me. I was the first girl he ever did anything with like that and he was the second guy who did it to me. [[my first love was obv. my first]]. Well; we both have talked and decided we don't want to ruin our relationship with being sexual all the time. He knows about my past and i told him i didn't want to have sex until i was WAYYY older and hopefully married. He tells me all the time he wants to marry me and that he loves me more then anything in the world and i believe him. Well, he also doesnt want to have sex until he is married. We have talked about this so many times; but i am afraid that one day i'm going to get to crazy and give in. I REALLY DONT want to. I already made this mistake before. Do any of you have advice for me? PLease don't tell me to talk to him about, we have. It doesnt have to be 1,000,000 dollar advice ANYTHING would help. Please help me and please don't criticize me.


**SARAH**

good job with the waiting until marraige thing. i wanted that until i was 14.. and then i had sex and i honestly think it was a dumb decision. sure i love sex; but it would still be much better if i had waited. try making up a safe word or something to say/do when things are getting to heavy.. and then you'll both back off. that way, nothing gets out of hand.. hormones don't control you.. etc. just set your limits FIRMLY and even if you do give in.. hopefully he's a good enough guy to say "no, you'll regret it".

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which is a more trusted brand:
trojan or lifestyles?

trojan. i've been to planned parenthood with my friend before, and yeah they give lifestyles out; but it's a dumb thing to be doing. we were like "heyyy free condoms!" and then we used them and every single one broke. every single one being over 10, because at that point we just wanted to test them and see if they honestly suck that badly.

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im worried about the size of my penis, i think its too small, ive never really seen another penis so i dont know whats big and wats small, and like wats the average guys penis size, if it helps mine is 7 inches, is that good or bad? please help

considering the average guy is around 5 1/2 inches.. you're pretty well off. you're above average, but not BIG. i'd say big was around 8 inches or above.. with 5-7 average and anything below that, just plain small. average feels best for most girls. but then again, it's not always your size but how you use it =]

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My friend (17) and I (17) want to go to get birth control. I have been reading on here and on plannedparenthood.com about the different kinds and the exam and all that good stuff. But I have found contradictory statements. How much money should my friend and I bring each for the total amount?

i live in FL and the exams are 35$ and the birth control for the first time is 30$.. after that when you pick it up it's 10$ each. i suggest looking up a location on the website and calling them.. prices probably are different for each state.

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i am a virgin but u an seriously thinking about having sex soon. on halloween i think might be the time. but my period will be somewhere right in there. so i was wondering if you have sex right before or right after you have your period, is it more likely you will get pregnet or anything? because i dont wanna get pregnet at all! but i think i am ready for sex. and if i am on my period on halloween can i still have sex and all? i know that might be nasty though.

okay i really don't have much to say because everyone else was decently correct.. besides the last answer. she said double up. wow. WRONG. you should never ever put TWO CONDOMS ON. dumb. jeeze. that creates friction and yeah, they're going to break that way. i suggest you don't follow her advice. oh and just a little hint.. don't use lifestyles condoms - they break like crazy.

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Ya i dont really know how to be on top everytime ive had sex i was always on bottom. What do i do?

http://www.sex-techniques-and-positions.com/positions2.html

the site is EXTREMELY GRAPHIC.. so just know you've been warned! i suggest you read the tips at the bottom.. the site is a whole lot easier and more informative than i am.

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i just asked you all about the sex questions, but you said you prefer blow jobs, well i might try that too. how exactly are you suppose to do blow jobs? like is it just suckin his private or what? lol sorry. and if it is sucking, then does his cum or anything get in your mouth or something? im so confused! haha

Start out slowly, touch the penis, stroke, gently grip it in your hand, slowly moving up and down the shaft, getting faster as he becomes aroused. He may be producing lubrication (pre-cum). Don't be alarmed, it's going to happen reguardless.

Then kiss, lick and start to suck on the head of the penis. Flick your tongue on the head, then up and down the shaft of the penis. You can also kiss, lick, and suck his testicles while stroking his penis. At the same time, you stimulate the shaft with your hand. Go slowly at first, then much faster, still being very gentle because the penis is very sensitive. You can also ask him how fast he would like you to go, and how hard he wants it. All guys have different tastes, just remember that if you're using your hand and gripping his shaft, you can push up towards your mouth on it but don't push down because that might hurt your guy.

We all have a gag reflex at the back of our throat, so if you take his whole penis into your mouth, you will hit your gag reflex and feel like barfing. So, here's the secret, only take the head into your mouth, co-ordinate hand and head movement into a smooth rhythmic movement.

If you don't want the guy to ejaculate in your mouth; tell him before hand so that he can warn you. You can't get pregnant by swallowing ejaculate, but it tastes pretty gross.

Behind your guys testicles(balls) is the prostate gland, so if you play with them while you give him head, and rub the area directly behind (no further than that or you'll probably be touching his anus.) because it makes his orgasm so much better. if you have anymore questions just ask me :)

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i have tried to pleasure myself before and play with my vagina but it never feels right and i always think im doing it wrong. how do girls pleasure themselfs?

im not really scared, i just dont know how to do everything .

-like how are you suppose to give a hand job to a guy?

-what do they do when they finger you?

-when you make out, do you use tounge alott, or just a little at a time? and do only one of yall use your tounges, or do both of yall?

-everyone says you suck to give hickeys, but ive tried adn it didnt work. what are good ways to give a hickey?

sorry these are weird questions, but i need to know!

aww darling! they aren't weird.. just common knowledge that some girls don't know. someone has to teach you for you to know! haha

1) try a showerhead. it's amazing. or if you don't like that.. then try a stuffed animal between your legs.. etc. basically just do whatever feels good to you. play around. you can finger yourself, rub your clitoris, tease yourself.. many many ways. oh and not to mention the wonderful world of play toys! you can look online for those though =]

2) handjobs aren't my specialty. blowjobs are. =]
http://www.alwaysuseacondom.com/gs/howtogiveahandjob.html

3) when they finger you, they are basically feeling around blindly. trying to pleasure you, hit your spots, etc. they stick two or more fingers up and just uhh yeah feel around, thrust their fingers in.

4) try following the guy's lead when making out. it's just easier to do that until you pick up on it and find your own style. you both use your tongues.. and it's preferred to NOT use your ENTIRE tongue!

5) yes you suck to give hickeys, realllly really hard. haha or you can try biting.. but that's just my own preference! =]

okay so if i didn't clarify anything enough or you have other questions that you're afraid to ask anyone else.. seriously just ask me! i'm not going to judge.. and i'm great with this stuff. =]

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