about

"Now pull the knife from my ever bleeding heart.
Tell me now your words never meant me harm."

I'm Allison.
I don't really care too much about ratings. Either you want my advice or you don't.

I've pretty much been through it all. From internet relationships to broken hearts to divorces to bad friends.

Ask me questions in my inbox, and please leave me feedback :] Numbers can only help me so much.

Here's a little about me non-advice related;
-I'm from Texas. Where the heat never ends.
-I love music from the indie/emo/alternative rock genre.
-Reading and swimming are two of my passions.
-Music is number one
I guess you could say I'm a very artistic person.

advice

for the past 2 years my life has been total mess im 14. when i was 13 i had a 43 year old boyfriend and he was myfirst love but i told the wrong person about him and tey told y parents lots of drama happend and i was dstroyed ive attempted suicide many times but before any of that even happend i started to cut myself because i felt lke none loved me anyways after this happend then i fell in love with my best friend but she didnt love me back and our relationship went through hell but she wasnt strong enough to hold on so i lost my best friend that i had for 4 1/2 years after i lost her i became extremly paranoid and i thought everyone was gonna leave me at that point is when my world started falling apart and i stoped cuting myself until today im so upset i just cant handle all of this anymore so im doing anything i can to avoid getting so upset that i attempt suicide again i just cant do this im ready to give up on life my poor heart cant take anymore pain what should i do???

If you're sitting there thinking about how you don't want to kill yourself, then you don't really want to.
It's not the answer to anything. All it would do it hurt the people around you, and you could never live your life again.
I know life's a bitch, then it has puppies. But I promise, it can get better. In order to be succesful, you need to start thinking positively. I know the walls you've built up are going to be hard to tear down, but you need to find someone to confide in, someone that you trust. Not everyone is going to leave you. I've been to this point, and I know how hard it can be. Don't focus on the past. Focus on what's ahead and tell yourself you're going to make it. You can't let the darkness and the negativity win. To win, you have to be strong, and I know you can be strong.
Find an outlet in which you can express yourself. For me it was music and writing. For you it could be art, clothes, crafts, guitar, anything. It's really important not to keep anything bottled up because it's only going to lead to more pain and regret. Be honest with yourself and the people around you, and if they can't handle it, you don't want them in your life.
Don't cut yourself. There is no good in harming yourself. It may make you feel better for a moment, but it leaves much deeper scars. As I used to harm myself as well, I know the relief doesn't last and you have to face the outcome eventually.
I want you to tell yourself that you're beautiful, you're a good person, you're important. Then you need to find something to express to yourself. Cry if you need to. It's good for your soul.
Noone really wants to die, they just want to cheat life. I can tell you don't want to. Please just take a breath and think of all the good things that have happened to you.

Don't hesitate to e-mail me in my inbox.
-LoveSucks

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wat are sum diferent ways to masturbate ive got an uncircumcised penis but circumsised ways are welcome plz help i need plz.

http://www.google.com/search?q=male+masturbation&ie=utf-8&oe=utf-8&aq=t&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&client=firefox-a

-LoveSucks

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I know this sounds stupid, and I'm not like going to have sex or anything but could someone please tell me like, okay How does birth Control work? When are you supposed to take it? And what does it do for you? like someone said something like it clears your skin? And also do you take it everyday and you can have sex whenever? I'm just kind of confused here. Please help! (:

Birth control works by making your body think you're pregnant, when you're not. Thats how you have so few periods, and you have a reduced risk of pregnancy - eggs aren't producing as much as normal.

Depending on the pill you take, the time all varies. Some you take once a month, three times a month, every day etc. Just ask your doctor.

And since it helps control hormones it does clear skin usually.

Like the answer below me, if you are only using it for that then it probably wont protect you against pregnancy.

And typically there is a weight gain, and depending on the pill you might be irritable and hormone crazed at the beginning.

If you are taking the pill so you won't get pregnant, then you usually take it everyday, but again it all varies. Birth control reduces the chance of getting pregnant by 99% but, it doesn't protect against STDs. So use a condom, and although this may sound weird, may sure your partner doesn't have any STDs and if it was me, (because I'm a paranoid looney P:) I would both go get blood work done so you can be completely safe :)

Hope I helped.
-LoveSucks

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I masturbate alot with this vibrating tooth brush I dont put it in the whole I just play with my clip a bit and this is like 2 times a day and well
will this take away from me having orgasims when I have real sex will masterbating often take make the feeling feel less good lol
15/f

First off, I must say that your lack of correct spelling and grammar tells me that you're not ready to even be worrying about this.

And it won't take away from your orgasms during sex. Your heart rate excels to about 140bpm, and it's always a good experience.

But if you are having sex,(Which I don't recommend with your age), and the guy and/or girl (whichever you fancy) isn't doing it right, because you know what you like to feel, you can tell them.

But don't worry about it. Sex is great if you're safe and with someone you love. It sucks when you do it with someone just to have it done, or to "up your cool-status".

Hope I helped.
-LoveSucks

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is it normal for you to have a goey like discharge stuff and for it to have an odor??

Yeah it is.

It's just your body cleaning itself out.
No worries m`dear :]


It's gross yes. But females suck and we have to deal with it.

-LoveSucks♥

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After sex what do most people do? Like, get up and dressed? Isn't that awkward though?

They spoon.

You know cuddle up next to eachother, in a "spoon-like" position.

Yours Dearly,
\\♥LoveSucks♥//

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I'm 13/m and my middle sister is 15 like you are. The other day when I thought I was the only one home she surprised me and saw me jacking off. She didn't say anything at the time and still hasn't but I am so embarrassed when she is around me now. Should I try and talk to her about it ? I'm affraid she's going totell her friends or something , thats all I need....... I'd rather die then face her friends knowing that they know I wack off to porn.

Don't feel embarrased, your 13 and your hormones are raging, trust me you are completely normal :]

If you are close with your sister, then you should definatley talk to her about it; like explain to her about your raging hormones and that you would like it if she didn't tell anyone.

Even if you aren't that close, it should still be fine, your blood related. :D

But make sure you have this conversation out of hearing range of you other siblings, they could hold that against you ;]

I'm just kidding about that :].

Since you would like my point of view, I wouldn't tell my friends about it, because personally, it would make me feel akward. So don't worry too much about that part. And I would feel much better if you spoke to me about it.

So I say go ahead and talk to her, but it really is your decision

\\♥LoveSucks♥//

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