My boyfriend and i just started having sex about a month ago. And a couple of times i have bleed. I did lose my virginity to him but i didnt bleed the first time. is it normal to bleed after the first time? we do it more than once at a time ...could it be that? please help
First off, this is normal. Completely normal. Not everyone bleeds the first time that they have sex. In fact, if you don't break all the way through your hymen, you won't. So, don't worry about it so much. Not, if months down the line, after A LOT of sex, you are still bleeding everytime you have sex, then I would see a doctor, incase you have an infection. But, this is normal. Just relax and don't worry about it too much. Best of luck!
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How do I know I climxed? I dont really understand much.
All I can tell you, dear, is that you will certainly be able to tell and KNOW whenever you do. It's not something you can mistake for anything else in the world, really. It is a great feeling and you have muscle spasms. Good luck!
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Ok I just turned 19 this past October and my best friend turned 15 this past November. Anyway over Valentine's day weekend we ended up do everything and I mean everything even a couple times we didnt use a condom. Anyway im madly in love with her and she loves me so is this wrong or not.
Normally, if the two of you were both "of age", I would say that what your feeling is natural and that if you two have that kind of connection, then go for it. But, thats not the case. Um... HELLO!!!! You are 19 years old, she is 15. It's called rape, because legally, she cannot concent.
Also, if you really were "madly in love with her", then you wouldn't be having sex with her, because of her age and the fact that havig sex at her age is not what is in her best interest.
If you care about her, then keep her best interst at heart and do the right thing! WAIT!
Sorry to be so harsh, but its what needed to be said. Good luck to you!
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this is quite embarassing well im 18 and a virgin
and ive got a very small penis about 3 inches fully erect im really embarrassed im too nervous aound girls what can i do can? can i satisfy a girl?
Well, first off, I can understand why your upset. we live in a society where males are put under a false sense of pressure to be more "manly" and sadly... penis size has always been at the top o things that are "manly". But, to be completely honest, it really dosen't matter to girls all that much.
Sure, it might seem weird at first, but you can still, most definately pleasure a girl. Its like the funny little saying goes:
"Its not the size of yoru tool.... it's the motion of the ocean".
Sounds stupid... but its true. Just try to relax and when you find the right girl, you will realize just how much it dosen't truly matter. Thats really all that I can say. Best of luck! Thanks for writing. Let me know if you need anything else. Haha.
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is masturbation different from fingering someone?
or they both the same?
Simple...
Masturbation = SELF pleasure.... (FOR MEN OR WOMEN)
Fingering = Either self pleasure for girls... or... ANY FINGERS intering or touching the vagina.
Either way.... masturbation is done ALONE... by yourself... and a guy can fingur a girl... or she can also do it alone. It just... depends. Lol.
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Although intercourse did initially hurt when my boyfriend and I first became active, it is far less painful now and actually feels good. So I'm alright with the intercourse but when he tries to finger me, it's painful. I'm just perplexed as to why two fingers hurts more than intercourse. His package is wider than two fingers so I don't understand. He thought he needed to clip his fingernails but they are quite trimmed and neat when he does it. Plus, it isn't that kind of pain. Any thoughts?
Well, it sounds to me like your probably just not relax when he fingers you and not really... into it. However, by the time it gets to actual sex, you are and therefore, it dosen't hurt.
Only thing you can really do is try to relax a bit more and... see how it feels then.
Thats really all you can do... maybe your just not into fingering? Lol. Best of luck!
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Me and my boyfriend have been together for about two months... and we love eachother a lot!
Im 15 and im a virgin. And he's not! He had sex with his last girlfriend (he says he regrets it because they werent ready). He hints at it sometimes, and i know he definitly wants to. He also said he wouldnt rush me into anything.
We make out a lot, and he feels my boobs and what not a lot. Its usually just fun...
But sometimes we get really passionate and i get really aroused and i want to have sex with him...
BUT im not on birth control yet, and ive never been to the gynocologist. And i dont want to because of its awkwardness and im really self concious about my body...
I have a few questions, answer me what you can...
sorry that theyre sorta rude...but i need to know.
1. My vagina has a lot of skinny flaps in it. And they sorta stick out and they look wrinkly and wierd. They remind me sortof of brains! It really grosses me out... Is this completely normal!?
2. My buttcrack has som hair on it...and i cant get at a good angle to shave it or anything. is this really gross or important at all?
3. Im scared to have sex with him because i know it will be akward and i have no idea what im doing. I dont think hes had sex too many times but i know he has. I want to make him happy but i dont know anything about sex! give me some tips!
thanks in advance. the more info the better
First off, yes... all of the things that you have described are completely normal in reguars to your body.
And I think the best advice that I can give you is this....
If you have this many questions about sex.... should you really be considering it just yet? I just... I am not sure if your truly ready for it if you still have all these questions.
Your boyfriend sounds like he a decent guy... he should respect you if you don't want to have sex. So, I wouldn't worry about it until your read. Thats just me... Good luck, hun!
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the first time you have sex..you bleed.. is that from your walls being stretched out or what. im just kind of confused about it. thanks i'll rate any advice i get (:
The bleeding comes from the breaking of a thin layer of skin called the Hymen. If the Hymen breaks another way, however... like during your childhood, then... you wont have to worry about it. The most common example of this that I can think of would be a biek accident.
Anyway, its normal... and yes, I wont lie, it hurts. A lot.
Jsut relax... and be safe! Best of luck!
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im 20 a guy and well ive got a really small penis
ive never been with a girl about 3 years ago i had a girlfriend and when she saw my penis she laughed at me it was really embarrassing so ive never had a girlfriend since then till about 2 months ago ive started dating this girl and i really like her but im worried if we take things further that when she sees my penis she might laugh too might be a bit lame but its really worrying does it matter much to most girls?
is there anyway to amke it bigger?
Well, personally... I don't think it matters as much to girls as your are thinking it does. If she really likes you, she won't care. Promise.
Also, um... the only way to get it bigger, and this is only TEMP., would be a penis pump.
You might want to talk to a doctor about this, if you really think its a problem.
Hope I helped. *Smiles*.
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im 17 and my penis is not that big a when i go to have sex i have trouble getting an erection its really embarrassing and if i mdo it doesnt last long what can i do?
Well, this sounds a little bit like "Erectile Disfunction". The only thing you can really do about that is see a doctor. I know that sounds embarassing and all, but they can give you something to help with it.
Also... just try to relax a little bit more when going to have sex, that usually helps to. Try not to be nervous and just... like I said, Relax.
I hope this helped. Thats really all that I know to tell you about this one. Good luck, hun!
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Is there any possibility that I could be pregnant even though I got my period a couple days after having sex?
Yes, this is possible. However, highly unlikely. I would just take a test if you are honestly worried about it. A girl can usually tell when she is pregnant. So, if your body is feeling differnt, I would take a test. Best of luck, hun. *Smiles*.
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I am 24. my fiances condom broke yesterday during our intercourse. i am in the middle of my menstrual cycle. and today ive started bleeding.what should i do? do i take the preventive pill or assume that my menses have just arrived early and not bother
If the condom broke and you don't want to end up pregnant, then, I would suggest the morning after pill. Its pretty easy to attain. You just need a doctor's apointment.
Also, I think your safe in assuming that your menses came early. That happens. Just keep an eye on it and make sure nothing unusual happens and that it is rather normal. Other than that, you should be fine, hun. Its good to see that you are concerned about it though. It is good to take care of your body. *Smiles*.
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24/f. I am in love with a man who is married to another woman. He is in love with me (I honestly believe we are soul mates, but it is not meant to be because of our situations), but he also loves his wife and does not want to hurt her. I believe he will never leave her and I would never ask him to.
I am leaving the city we both live in very soon, and we want to have sex, just once, before I go (we have kissed before but nothing else). We want to do it because we each fear the connection between us is one in a million and we will regret not doing something about it forever. I love him so much and I desperately want to be close to him, even just for one night. In the back of my mind, I also think it will help me move on from him - "The time I spend with this man was amazing and I will remember it forever, but it's time to get on with my life".
I know it is totally wrong of me to want to do this, but if his wife doesn't find out, what's the harm?
Ok, first off, there really isnt any harm in WANTING to have sex with this guy. It sounds like you have an amazing connection with him and thats something special that you should hold on to.
Also, we are not here to be the moral police about things. I am not going to tell you this is wrong or right in my eyes, because.... we all have out own moral and ethics. The only thing you can do is what is right for you.
I know that you will make the right choice and your prolly right, it will help you either move on from this guy or let you see if this connection is something you should do something about and take action. All I can say is just use your best judgement. I know you will be fine, hun. Best of luck! And... congratz on finding such an amazing guy. That dosen't happen often! Ya know?
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Okay, so I can achive an orgasism by rubbing on the outside..but whenver i try penatration with like a finger, it never feels good..and its almost painful..im wondering WHY this is?
This is normal. It just means that your Hymen isn't broken yet. It will hurt until you break that thin layer of skin. It will prollly bleed when that happens, but it wont feel good to you until you break through the Hymen. *Smiles*.
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Does any know of any ways or methods my gf could use to make me orgasm in my pants? We know it'll be messy, but we're not ready for actual skin yet? thanks!
I think that dry humping and a handjob and just about your only options. Lol. Good Luck...
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I'm 18, have had 2 serious boyfriends (1 is my current) and have had sex only with these 2 guys. The things is, I enjoy sex very much. I initiate it everytime with my boyfriend, and afterwards it makes ME feel easy and not a challenge. I can't help getting horny and I've been called a 'nympho' numerous times. How can I fix this? I don't want to give it up easily!
Hun, there really is no way to "fix" this problem. You said yourself, you cant help getting horny. But, what you might want to do is stop being the one to initiate all the time. Its cool to flirt and maybe hint that you might be in the mood to "fool around", but I think you would feel better if your boyfriend played a more active role, so... make him work for it. You also might want to try talking to your boyfriend about how you feel about this (if just making him initiate isnt enough). Ya know?
And, about you being called a nympho. Well, having a good sexual appetite is normal and healthy. There is no reason to be ashamed about it. Just, like I said, try to make your boyfriend be more "agressive" about it and make him initiate it more often and then it wont see like your always the one wanting it. Truth is, he prolly wants it just as often as you allow him to get it, he just... knows that you will initiate it so he would rather let you do all the work. That way, he isnt forcing you to do anything and he knows you want it. Get what im saying? I think this will work itself out, hun. Best of luck! Im here if you need anything!
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okay. just so youu know im not a virgin so i know thats not the answer. so everytime i have sex with my boyfriend.. after. i always bleed. like heavy. whats wrong with me?
You should go to the doctor ASAP! That is not normal at all, hun. It can be a sign of MANY things. Please Please Please get yourself checked out and make an appointment. Best of Luck!
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Ok, if I just have sex with another guy, but end up not enjoying it, am I still bisexual for having sex with another guy? Also, is having sex with another guy the only way to really know if I am bisexual or not? Thanks.
Ok. I have had this problem. Sorta! Lol. This is just my opinion. There is no real ANSWER to this. The answer lies within yourself and how you truly feel. I would say that if you make out with a guy or have sex with a guy, then, yes it could help you to find out if you are truly bisexual or not. Ya know? It almost has to becuase you either are into guys or not and it would force you to find that out. However, even if you do enjoy it, I don't think that means you are bisexual AUTOMATICALLY! It just means you like THAT guy enough to have sex or make out with him. See, I have made out with quite a few girls and yes, I enjoyed it. However, I would never date a girl even though there is attraction there. So, that means im not truly Bisexual. See what im saying? Thats just how I feel about it and kissing girls helped me find that out. I can do things with girl, just could never commit to one. So, I encourage you to explore this option and then think about how it made you feel and how you truly feel about this issue all together. But, just kissing or even having sex with a guy isnt going to MEAN your gay or bisexual. Best of luck! *Smiles*.
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Alright. A few nights ago my boyfriend finally ummm did 2nd base to me.. and so now I'm wondering if he expects it back. I mean I guess I'm fine with it. But do you think he expects me to do it back to him like right away?
Thanks!
Well, there is no way to know for sure if your boyfriend expects it back from you. I would say that if he didnt ask for it back then you can safely assume he is ok with you not returning the favor. However, I would just talk to him about it. Tell him your concerns. If he is any type of decent boyfriend, he will be understanding and consider your feelings. But, don't worry. You don't ever have to do anything you don't want to. *Smiles*. Just talk to him. It will be ok. Best of luck, hun!
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Hi i'm 16 years old female and me and my boyfriend have had sex before, but afterwards like a few hours I started getting a stomach ache and I slept for a while then ate some food and then later I threw up. I just wanted to know if that sometimes is normal??
Hmmm... I would have to know more in order to say if this is normal or not. It could just be nausea from not eating well and engaging in sex. Sex is exercise and doing any type of exercise on an empty somache isn't good and can cause this. I am pretty sure you have nothing to worry about, though. As long as you feel normal now. It should be ok. However, if your still worried or think you might be pregnant, see a doctor ASAP! Hope I helped... *Smiles*
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