Do you aways know when the condom breaks? Me and my boyfriend do it like once every weekend and he pulls out (with the condom on) and cums outside me into the condom, just incase it broke i dont want his cum in me. we check the condom everytime after and it hasnt broken. BUt my question is, do you always know when it breaks? If there was no leakage, does that mean I'm okay and shouldnt worry?
You can pretty much tell when a condom breaks, the guy can usually feel the difference right away and if not it becomes very obvious when he pulls out, because it looks like it is pretty much ripped. I would recommend getting on another form of birth control, like the pill because they tend to be more reliable if you take them correctly, than just using condoms alone. But if he is wearing a condom and pulling out I would say you are pretty much okay.
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Hey Kate.
I had sex with my boyfriend about 6 months ago, or so. & now i get this white discharge, alot comes out. I always had discharge but not this much. Is it just because im getting older (I am 15 btw) or is it something serious? & Is it okay to get irregular periods around my age?
Thank you!! :)
It could just be because you are getting older, discharge is a way for your body to "Clean out" your vagina. Think of it as self cleaning. You may need to be concerned if the discharge is thick, lumpy (like cottage cheese) or foul smelling because you could have an infection. It is normal to get irregular periods for about the first year or so after you get your period. If it continues after that you should speak with your doctor.
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ok this might be a little weird but,
what feels better for a girl?
just sex .. or getting oral first then sex?
also..would there be any differnce in the feeling for the guy?
ps. what are some oral tips for a guy to perform on a girl?
thanks in advance.
Like everyone else said it depends on the girl. Some girls take a little time to get "warmed up" if you know what I mean, so some like to have oral performed first. As for tips, you kind of just have to figure out what she likes. But make sure you aren't applying too much pressure, because sometimes that ends up uncomfortable instead of pleasurable.
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I really need to get on birth control. is there somewhere i can buy it just like over the counter? or do i have to go to the gynecologist? i am scared to go to gyno because i definitely don't want to be checked out. if i go to a local health clinic would they have to tell my parents? i'm 18 but i'm still under their insurance.
You can only really buy condoms over the counter. You need to have a prescription for the pill, or other methods. If you are 18 your doctor doesn't have to tell your parents, but they would see it on the insurance bill. Your regular doctor can prescribe birth control, you don't need to see a gynecologist. Most doctors will require you to have a pelvic exam before they will prescribe birth control, but it really isn't that bad. Planned parenthood offers birth control for like $14-30 a month.
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every time i have sex i have to pee really bad afterwards, is this normal?
thanks
19/f
Yeah its normal, having sex puts some pressure on your bladder so it feels like you have to pee. Also its a good thing, because peeing after sex can help prevent urinary tract infections.
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if your on birth control can the guy cum in you?
dont say use a condom because STD's .. me and my partner dont have any so in other peoples experience or heard of stories how likely would you be to get pregnant .. not very likely right?
As long as you follow the instructions for your birth control you will be fine. Certain types of antibiotics can reduce the effectiveness of it, or if you have vomiting or diarrhea it may not work. If you forget to take it, you should use a condom until your next cycle starts. Most forms of birth control are about 98% effective if taken correctly everyday.
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ok i must ask;
do guys care if a girl has a hairy vagina or not?
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what are their... tastes.
Most guys like it shaved because it causes less friction down there, but if you don't really want to shave down there it would probably be okay if you just trimmed it a little. Most guys don't really care as long as its not a jungle down there.
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16/female. in march im turning 17 and i havent had sex yet... all of my friends have done it already.. so i feel weird when they talk about it around me. some have boyfriends and some have just done it with radom guys at parties (which i dnt want to do).
i feel that im missing out and that im ready to do it for the first time but i dont have a boyfriend and i want my first time to be with someone i can trust and that i can remember it as being spacial.
is it weird that i havent done it yet and everyone else has and the fact i will be 17 soon.. my sister is 19 and she did it when she was 15 so i feel like i should of already.
thanx
You sound like you already know what you want to do. You said you wanted your first time to be with someone you can trust so you can remember it as being special. I think that is the right idea to have.
Don't worry about your friends. I'm sure some of them regret just doing it with someone random to get it over with. I know I couldn't have just had sex with anyone, and I was glad that I waited until I knew my boyfriend was the right person.
Sex should be something special between two people, I think you should wait until you have someone you really truly feel a connection with, so you can experience it together.
Kate
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I am 15/male.
Its pretty much exactley what it sounds like. Im sick of disapointing my parents. I fail school. I dress so awkwardley that there embarresed to be seen with me. Im a complete total fuck up. I have anger issues. Im always fighting with my mom. I told her i didnt want to be a part of the family, and the look on her face KILLED me inside. They found out i smoke, and my mom didnt do anything except cry. becuase her mom died at like 30 from cancer. Im always getting in trouble with them. Oh and i like men. and i cant tell them that becuase i cant and i wont deissapoint them more. Im sad to say that the easiest way to get through this, is to kill myself. Im not really looking for advice. Im kind of just venting to anyone who cares. :(
Sincerley,
Me.
Please know that there are people who care about you, people who would miss you if you were gone. I think you should read this, it helped me when I felt like it was the only way out.
http://www.metanoia.org/suicide/
I'm sure your parents want you to be successful, and I believe you that they may be disapointed sometimes, but they still love you. I've felt exactly like you did, like I couldn't get anything right, like I didnt have a handle on my own life.
I think you should give more thought to coming out to your parents, I don't know them, so I cannot say how they would react, but if you feel they would be disappointed but still accept you, then tell them. They may not approve, but remind them that you are still the same person, still their son.
You said it yourself, "the easiest way to get through this, is to kill myself" well don't take the easy way out. Life is something worth fighting for, don't ever forget that.
I care and I am willing to talk to you online if you would like. I'll listen to you and try to help you out. Either drop a question in my inbox or instant message me on aim. My screen name is wishes count.
Kate
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What are some interesting and fun ways to kiss your significant other? any unique tricks or tips you know of? share 'em
I've heard other people talk about kissing underwater, but I would only recommend doing that in a swimming pool, not a lake or pond because you tend to get a little water in your mouth.
One time my boyfriend and I kissed with a Hershey kiss. It got a little messy but it is totally worth it if you like chocolate.
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okay. well me and my boyfriend have been goign out for 6 months. well this weekend he went inside me withotu a condom on. i take birth control every day at the same time. he never came and it wasnt for long. my period should come friday. i'm still a little nervous. im pretty sure im fine. im just nervous about the issue of preganacy. do you think im okay?
As long as you remembered to take your pill everyday you will be fine. I wouldn't be worried about it at all.
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do you need a prescription for the morning after pill?
Anyone ages 18 and older can simply walk into a pharmacy and ask for it. If you are under 18 you need a perscription for it, or someone over the age of 18 to buy it for you.
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okay this is probably really strange but i need to know. what exactly does a guy do when he fingers a girl. like, what is the girl suppose to do and does it hurt?
The girl pretty much just enjoys it and maybe gives the guy some kisses. It might hurt the first few times, but if you tell him to go slow it won't hurt too bad.
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What exactly is it? How do they do it?
And do you guys believe in it or not?
I'm not pregnant and I will never get an abortion, I'm just curious. I don't know much about it, I only know they kill the baby but I think people should only do it if they get raped.
I'm 14/f by the way. :)
I think that it should be allowed only up to the first 3 months of pregnancy or less. I think that it is a womans right to choice, and not the government, but I also think that a limit on how long you can wait should be enforced. Also if we taught sex education in our schools, and people had easier access to birth control and the emergency contraceptive pill, there would be very few abortions in the USA
I found this information off of teenwire.com
Abortion is the termination of pregnancy before birth.
Abortion is legal for about the first six months of pregnancy. After that, most states ban abortions, except in limited circumstances, like saving the woman's life or preserving her health. However, most abortion providers perform abortions only in early pregnancy.
Abortion is a very safe procedure. It's about twice as safe as having your tonsils removed, and is 10 times safer than giving birth if it is performed before the 18th week of pregnancy. Most abortions — 90 percent — are performed in the first 12 weeks of pregnancy
There are 3 different types of abortions:
Medication abortion is the use of medicine to end pregnancy. There are three steps. The first step, your clinician will give you a dose of methotrexate or mifepristone. The second step, you will take another medication called misoprostol. The third step, you will return to your clinician for a follow-up visit.
The others are vacuum aspiration and D&E [dilation and evacuation]
Vacuum aspiration empties the uterus with gentle suction of a manual syringe or with machine-operated suction.
Performed with a manual syringe, it is known as manual vacuum aspiration or MVA.
Performed with machine-operated suction and the use of a curette — a narrow metal loop used to remove the tissue that lines the uterus — it is sometimes called dilation and suction curettage or D&C.
D&E is a two-part procedure. The cervix is slowly opened. The procedure is completed by emptying the uterus using a combination of suction and medical instruments.
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ok so the other night at a party i was sitting behind the house and it was dark out and i was with 2 of my best guy friends. well they kept going up my shorts and down my shirt but no matter how much i told them to stop the one kept touching me down there and down the back of my shorts... they kept following me and even did it secretly when ppl were around!! and then i was laying on the grown and the one guy put his thing right in my face and begged me to suck it and kept pushing it at my mouth but i locked my lips.. so im basically asking was i molested? i hate this feeling i have now
What happened to you was Sexual Assualt.
Sexual assault is any unwanted sexual contact. This includes forced vaginal intercourse, but the term may also be used to refer to forced anal sex or oral sex, including any amount of penetration with a body part (like a penis or a hand) or an object (like a bottle or a stick). It can also mean forced touching or groping of sexual body parts, like a girl's breasts or vulva, or a guy's penis or scrotum.
You must tell someone RIGHT AWAY. What they did to you is WRONG and they should not be allowed to get away with it, friends or not. Please tell your parents what happend, and contact the police.
This might help:
http://www.teenwire.com/infocus/1998/if-19981201p060.php
http://www.teenwire.com/infocus/2004/if-20040702p302-rape.php
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ok this is me bout the pregnant thing well ok i don't know if i am or not ok well my period ended june 14 and i had sex around the end of the month in the first of the 20's and well then i got my period july 1 and well it came early don't you think and well it was more a brown and pink color then i bright red color then well after 2 weeks i was throwin up and well i thought it could be nerves but now i have pain in my right Abdominal area could this mean that i am pregnant i don't know for sure and i don't want to go and get one if im not pregnant i live in a small town where everyone knows everyone so if i would go to a store and get one people would ask questions so should i just ask my older friend
thanks
Some symptoms of pregnancy include a missed or extremely light period, breast tenderness, feeling really tired, feeling nauseous. These can start as early as two weeks after conception, and not everyone has these symptoms.
But remember, many signs of pregnancy are a lot like the things you’d feel before getting your period. You could just be throwing up because you are nervous, ot maybe you have a stomach virus, which would also explain your abdominal pain.
It could be that your period just came early, teenagers usually have unregular periods. I would wait until your next period is supposed to come, based off of the July 1st date and then see what happens. If it doesn't come again, then you and an older friend should go get the test. If you both go in together then the person at the counter won't know who it is for.
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ok i might be pregnant and well i don't know what to do i am 15 and i don't know how to get a pregnancy test i could ask an adult i know that wouldn't tell my mom anything but i don't want to be pregnant so i don't know what i should do should i just pray its not true or should i just i don't know i am so confused i need to take a pregnancy test but i don't know how to get one
Alright, relax.
You can ask another adult that you trust to get you a test. You could have an older friend take you to a drugstore to get one. Or you could just tell your mom. I know it's scary but just take it. You could even have a friend wait with you for the results.
If it is Negative, then you should talk to your mom about safer sex or visit a planned parenthood to learn how this can be prevented.
If it is positive, you will need to tell your mom, so she can take you to a doctor to disscuss your options.
Feel free to drop a message in my inbox if you need more help.
Kate
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when i give my boyfriend a handjob, my elbow cramps up really really badly. does anyone have any suggestions on how i can prevent that?
Maybe try changing the position you both are in. If it cramps up when you are sitting up then try laying down next to him or vice versa. =]
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how do you know if your getting an orgasm? like what exactly happens? i know people say, you just know. but im not sure if it was or not, like i think so, but im not sure.
This might help, it explains it much better than I could =]
http://www.teenwire.com/infocus/2001/if-20010816p115.php
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My boyfriend .. I don't him not to get his hopes high. I'm on birth control and have been for months. I told him I wasn't going to have sex with him for 4 months or so.. even then, there would be no guarantees that I would say yes. He understands this. I THINK he will ask in a month or two.
I'll have sex when I'm ready. I won't be pressured into it either. I refuse to have sex already in a 5th month relationship. we are rather sexual at times... but that's not what our whole relationship is about.
so i'm just wondering..
Your first time experiences? I'm rather small in that area and i'm afraid that it will feel like he's trying to break/TEAR me. I've seen his dick and it seems so big in my eyes and i can't IMAGINE his head going in at all! When he fingers me, when he tries to enter first, it somewhat hurts but once he's inside.. it doesn't.
Is there enough room inside for a penis to stretch? or would it be a noticeable tight feeling INSIDE?
Any ways to make make me feel a bit comfortable? pillows? lube? yes, i already told him a condom is a MUST or he's getting nothing.
First off I applaud you on your statement "If he can't wait, I don't need him"
Now, I am also small in that area, and had the same worries as you. It probably will feel a little bit uncomfortable the first couple of times, but it does stretch inside. You've mentioned that it hurts a little when he fingers you, and that is normal, If you are wet enough down there it really shouldn't hurt that bad. Having him finger you will help a lot. Have him start with one finger and then move to two, this will help strech out the opening. Do the same before you have sex for the first time, and it shouldn't hurt as much.
I think that the condoms that are already lubricated work really well, but if you do decided to use non-lubricated ones, make sure you use an approved product that won't break down the latex. Just tell him to go slow when you start, and have him agree that if it hurts too bad that he will stop.
Kate
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