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so heres the deal...im 14and a half/f and hav a good amount of friends and i jus realized that out of all of them that i talk to most, im the ONLY one who hasnt made-out with a guy yet!and its kinda deppressing!!!i meen i think im a very pretty girl, somewhat prettier then most of them and im still a make-out virgin!!!i know people say good things come to those who wait but how long do i have to f-n wait!!!!i think im the second oldest out of my frinds and i hav only kissed one guy and it was only once and it wasnt "all that"!i dont know if it has anything to do with the fact that i dont kiss guys unless ive known them for a while and feel completly comfortable with sharing my lips with them!and then again i am kinda shy too!-well when it comes to guys and kissing-!it jus makes me feel so unexperienced and sad to know that ive never made-out with anybody! i just want to sooooo bad!its fustrating the crap out of me----but should it be???
Honestly, when you said that you have to get to know a guy before you share your lips with him[haha], i think thats great, and i bet some guys will too. If people bug you about it just say that your not comfortable kissing a guy you don't know well, and thats fine. Before i made out, i was itching to do it just like you. I felt so inexperienced and i didn't like it at all. But trust me, its not all its cracked up to be. It wasn't that great. But i don't expect that to help you. If you really wanna at least see what its like.. Go to a party and if there playing spin the bottle or 7 minutes in heaven, then jump right in. Its the best way to do it because its not random, people won't call you a slut, and its comfortable because everyone around you is doing it. But don't do it unless your really ready! make sure your completely comfortable with it, and remember have confidence in yourself. 8)
OK.
I'm going to have dinner with this guy I have huge crash with it.
The dinner is for both of our birthdays (we have birthday at the same week), and there're only going to be only two of us for the dinner.
Any suggestion where/what kind of restaurant we can go?
Ohh! i just went to an amazing fondue restaurant, called the melting pot. If you don't have one near you, go to a fun restaurant that will keep you entertained so conversation will flow and you won't be straining for topics. Hope i helped, and good luck :)
okey, my friend lets call him [n] well hes wayyy to sensitive. here are some examples. last year, he was too afraid to ask out my other friend that when she was standing right next to him, he went behind a tree and called her on her cell from 3 feet away to ask her out!!! omggg, and also when ever im talking to him online, he reminds me like im talking to one of my girl friends, he just wayyy to sensitive. and hes going out with this other girl [l] and he wrote a 2 page note in her yearbook saying that he cant live without her, and he would die if she ever left him, "i love you more then anyone in the world and i know you dont love me as much as i love you, im just glad you love me at all" if you need more info, ask. so what should i do to man him up, what should i do?
You definitly have to talk to him about that. Say that your a girl & you would know best. Tell him that what he wrote in that girls year book freaks girls out. Inform him like a good friend what he is doing and how he should improve himself. Don't be harsh though, make it like constructive critism. And don't pile it all in on one conversation. slowly mention all the things hes doing over a weeks time. And definintly dont call him sensitive. Guys hate that. Just tell him he's too serious and clingy. But say your acting clingy and serious, not you are clingy and serious.
K... so ill give a run through and ask my advice. So i had a REALLY GOOD FRIEND BFF'S so yea and she was friends with this other girl longer than me and she was a bff too. (My bff is Sarina and her bff is eileen). so eileen was a bad friend to me so i stop being friends with eileen (long story short she was a monster) but i was still friends with sarina and we'd hang out and go to the mall and eileen would constantly set barriers for sarina, when she could hang out with me and where (ex. some periods in skool, some weekends..etc) and eileen was the top priority so one friday i got together with my other friend Peter and Leslie and Peter pranked called Eileen and she heared me in the backround laughing (o yea he prank called in response to me complaining to him and leslie b4 this, about the situation) so eileen told sarina that she CANT be friends with me anymore and ever since ive been soo depressed and upset, ive done some pretty bad things to myself and i dont have anyone like sarina used to be for me) i also pretty much distanced any chance of being friends again cause i spread rumors of what they did to me and demonized them... on top of that i dont wanna betray leslie cause shes been there more than peter (he hasnt been there for me at all)what do i do i wanna be friends with sarina?
What you just told me, about you being sorry for what you did, you accepting that you did bad things to your friend in order to hurt her other friend, was great. You have to tell Sarina exactly what you told me, and brace yourself, you have to also say sorry to Eileen. Sarina will never accept you as a friend again without you accepting Eileen. You won't be betraying Leslie or peter if you don't blame anything on them, and keep them out of your apology. Who knows, if you say sorry, Eileen might follow your example and things will get better for both groups.
theres this guy in my 7th grade class this year (I'm 13/f by the way) and from the beginning of the year he's been nice to me. we didnt even know each other till this year and he thought it was funny how when me and a couple other kids like on the first day of school rushed in the clasroom (homeroom) to turn on the lights, i accidentally pressed the "private/public" button on the wall and for the rest of the day we couldnt answer announcements. when our teacher said it we burst out laughing since we knew i did it. since then he's always been like.. lets just say spontaneous. hes short but he's pretty popular and athletic and funny, too. sometimes when i didnt want attention he'd give me it anyway and would make me laugh.. though sometimes it was awkward because i didnt know how to respond. like this time he was like dancing around me in the hallways and all i did was smile! grr! i wanna show how funny i can be too and not just be like.. whatever about it. i've talked to him before but he's the type of person with like good comebacks.. haha he makes interesting convos but i dunno why i cant be entirely comfortable talking to him. i mean i can talk to me other guy friends well. i guess its cause hes so outgoing and popular? no i dont like him as a crush and he doesnt for me either. like today when he danced around me like a couple of the other popular kids (i know its bad to label, but im like middle-popular.. i hang out with basically everyone whether they're popular or not.. just as long as they're fun to be around and stuff) were laughing kinda loudly.. he was with them before.. so i wasnt sure if they were laughing at me or something. so.. yeah. weird situation. cause we were just walking back from lunch and they were still in the hallway when i came (i finished lunch late.. long line) by myself. like the guy im talking about is always like that.. i mean its funny and nice.. but i dont know what my problem is about it. why i cant just let go and stuff. maybe im afraid sometimes of being outgoing with outgoing people.. its easy to be outgoing around shy people.. but i guess it just depends on the person. im just so confused! i hope i dont seem like boring or anything to him cause im really not. and well.. i dont know if he's just trying to be friendly or like bullying me. he doesnt seem like the type to be bullied and im not the type to be bullied.. ugh i dont know what to do. is it bullying? is it not? how can i get good come backs? etc???
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Yeah this always used to happen to me. I don't think he's bulllying you becuase he wouldnt dance around you and give you alot of attention like that if he was being mean. He sounds like a nice guy and you sound like your nervous around him becuase he's really intimidatingly funny. This used to happen to me all the time. I can't really tell you what to say but just kid back with him. Push him away and roll your eyes in a joking way if he dances around you again. I used to be just like that until i just thought to myself that i am just outgoing and funny as they are and i can be comfortable around them too. Sometimes having your friends around you helps too so if you see him and wanna talk to him tag a friend along. Hopefully you can be yourself around him next time =) good luck.