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bullying or playing around?
theres this guy in my 7th grade class this year (I'm 13/f by the way) and from the beginning of the year he's been nice to me. we didnt even know each other till this year and he thought it was funny how when me and a couple other kids like on the first day of school rushed in the clasroom (homeroom) to turn on the lights, i accidentally pressed the "private/public" button on the wall and for the rest of the day we couldnt answer announcements. when our teacher said it we burst out laughing since we knew i did it. since then he's always been like.. lets just say spontaneous. hes short but he's pretty popular and athletic and funny, too. sometimes when i didnt want attention he'd give me it anyway and would make me laugh.. though sometimes it was awkward because i didnt know how to respond. like this time he was like dancing around me in the hallways and all i did was smile! grr! i wanna show how funny i can be too and not just be like.. whatever about it. i've talked to him before but he's the type of person with like good comebacks.. haha he makes interesting convos but i dunno why i cant be entirely comfortable talking to him. i mean i can talk to me other guy friends well. i guess its cause hes so outgoing and popular? no i dont like him as a crush and he doesnt for me either. like today when he danced around me like a couple of the other popular kids (i know its bad to label, but im like middle-popular.. i hang out with basically everyone whether they're popular or not.. just as long as they're fun to be around and stuff) were laughing kinda loudly.. he was with them before.. so i wasnt sure if they were laughing at me or something. so.. yeah. weird situation. cause we were just walking back from lunch and they were still in the hallway when i came (i finished lunch late.. long line) by myself. like the guy im talking about is always like that.. i mean its funny and nice.. but i dont know what my problem is about it. why i cant just let go and stuff. maybe im afraid sometimes of being outgoing with outgoing people.. its easy to be outgoing around shy people.. but i guess it just depends on the person. im just so confused! i hope i dont seem like boring or anything to him cause im really not. and well.. i dont know if he's just trying to be friendly or like bullying me. he doesnt seem like the type to be bullied and im not the type to be bullied.. ugh i dont know what to do. is it bullying? is it not? how can i get good come backs? etc???
THANKS :)
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Yeah this always used to happen to me. I don't think he's bulllying you becuase he wouldnt dance around you and give you alot of attention like that if he was being mean. He sounds like a nice guy and you sound like your nervous around him becuase he's really intimidatingly funny. This used to happen to me all the time. I can't really tell you what to say but just kid back with him. Push him away and roll your eyes in a joking way if he dances around you again. I used to be just like that until i just thought to myself that i am just outgoing and funny as they are and i can be comfortable around them too. Sometimes having your friends around you helps too so if you see him and wanna talk to him tag a friend along. Hopefully you can be yourself around him next time =) good luck.
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