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I am a 21 year old woman who has begun having feelings for one of my two best friends and they found out about my feelings for one of them on a recent four day holiday (they don't know who I like). I was so upset when they found out I had to leave the house for fear it would be awkward. They came to talk to me individually so I felt comfortable (they get crazy when they are together), they both assured me that things would not get awkward and that nothing would change the fact that we were all Best Friends. I want to move on, but have no idea how as you don't often come across a man like my Bestie. How are things supposed to go back to the way they were when I feel they will think I like them no matter what I do or say?. I couldn't bare to lose either of them as they are my world. I have no idea what to do, I feel like I have betrayed our friendship and knowing things may never be as they once were breaks my heart. (link)
Moving on takes time. Still having this man in your life as your best friend is more positive than negative.
If they both individually reassured you that things will not get awkward and that you three will remain close, than this most likely will remain so. Relax a little.
It is unfair to you and to both of them not to reveal which one you have feelings for. Telling them will eliminate those thoughts you fear.
Let them know regarless of those deeper feelings, you couldn't bear to lose either of them. By reacting the way they did to the first bit of news, they show that they truly are your best friends; best friends should be able to talk to eachother about anything. Definitely talk to them again. Good Luck. I hope I helped. If you ever need anything else, I'm here!




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