hello! my name is amber and i have been through a lot over the years! my father died when i was 6 years old and 6 years later i developed an auto-immune disease called lupus. i have been in and out of the hospital many time and have been through severe pain physically, and mentally because of it. no question is too odd or confusing, and i will try my best to give you my best and most honest advice. i am very spiritual and into positive thinking, so i could also help you out with anything having to do with finding your way in life. love and light!
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I met my friend back about 2 months ago when she first moved into the apartment complex. This woman is 52 and lives alone. I live across the hall from her so I would visit often. We both gradually started getting into refurbishing our old furniture, shopping together and hanging out. We seemed to of got along very well. (I am 27) suddenly, yesterday I come home from my mothers to find all my board games I gave too her grandson in front of my door with a note that read already have thanks anyway then to find out she removed me from Facebook and now walks by me like I don't exist?. I don't know what the hell too think. I went out of my way to help her many times. I even texted and called her bit no answer. I am not good with confrontation in person...should I move on or what? (link)
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hm.. well, that seems really confusing and you never know why she may be doing this? make an effort to communicate with her, maybe leave her a not asking what is wrong.. you need to know what is wrong to be able to get this off your mind though, that is extremely odd behavior from what you have told accounted in your question.. good luck
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Gosh. She's such a bitch. I'm a 16 year old college student. They say "forgive those who wrong you and be nice to them.". Well yes, that's what I did. End result? Loads of insults and mockery. I try to be nice to her and she doesn't appreciate. I wasn't in the wrong in the first place, but it was her who thought everything she did was right and that everyone has to do things her way. She's getting on my nerves and I don't know what to do. She keeps judging me and stealing my friends away.>:( Oh dear. Help. Thanksss. (link)
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just ignore her as best as possible, and if she keeps trying to bug you then you need to stand up for yourself and try something else. ask your parents or other authority figures for help, maybe even a friend. they can help you and will know what to do
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So there's this girl who is one of my friend's close friend, she's really nice and does ballet en pointe. Only thing is I never really held a conversation with her. I really want to be her friend just cause she's seems genuine.
And honestly she's also really cute and bi curious like I am.
Id like to get to know her
Any ideas??
I only talk to her online on tumblr really.
We're both 17 (link)
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oh my goodness! i am in the exact same situation as you.. i would love some advice on this as well, lol. but really, the best thing that you can do is be yourself and talk to her. you never know what she is going to say, and if you two are meant to be friends, you will. who knows, she might be interested in you, too.
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lately ive been feeling like ive been drifting away from my friends. i know that every body has this feeling but i feel like we have different morals now. I know that you have to get through differences to have that real relationship. Most of the time i feel like its my fault because i dont think i can hold a relationship very long. I always mess up and that one little thing can make a big diffence and let things drift away. I know a friendship or any relationship is two sided and not just ones fault but i just feel different and things are changing. I recently turned 18 and i think i am slowly revealing who i am but yet to fully show it. Life is to short to lose relationships over little things but yet i feel annoyed and want to get away. I dont particularly have a question i guess i just want you to give me advice or your opinions or friendships and life. Thanks (link)
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i have the perfect answer for you :).
i saw it on a site the other day.. i am going through the same right now and it helped immensely.
hope it helps you too..
http://www.tut.com/resources/askmike/?topic=4#
there is the link too it :).
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I have a group of friends who talk shit on, me and others in the room. We all do it, myself included, but some more than others..
"its all fun and games until the jokes on you"
Ive known these friends for over 10 years of my life. i would consider them close friends.
how can i dissolve or downplay a shit talking situation when it becomes too much to handle? (link)
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the best way if you don;t want that to happen is to not be included in it/ not doing it yourself. that way they don't really have the "authority" to include you in the "fun". and when they do, just show them you don't really think it's funny by simply not reacting to it.. trust me your vibes will show them what you are thinking. but if these friends keep doing it after you've told them how you feel as well, then start trying to find better friends! for your own sake :)
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Hey i have a frend named Mark, and his best frend told him some girl likes him. So on face book they were talking about him.
So i said "yeah i heard she likes mark" and the insults started flying. Turns out she doesnt/never liked him. I sent him the conversation, and he flipped out. He said i shouldnt have opened my big mouth and he was saying i hate you im done with you and kept telling me to F-off. I just didnt want them to be talking crap about him behind his back without him knowing. cuz were real tight. I tried explaining this to him. But he just doesnt care. what do you think? (link)
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I think it was definitly okay for you to say that, it might have been a little annoying to him at first, but you werent trying to be mean or piss him off. You were trying to make sure they didnt talk about stuff behind his back, and in my opinion, if he was a real friend, he wouldve known or realized thta and not have tooken it so seriously, and being so mean about it afterwardss. Hem ight just be mad at the time being because he was probably a bit embaressed when you said that and she didnt really like him, andm aybe even a bit mad that the girl didnt like him and he thought she did that whole time, so he started getting mad at you just because he could or again, he was embaressed. He probably will forget about it sooner or later, or forgive you, or maybe even say sorryy, And if he doesnt, Hoenstly, hes notttt worth your time. What a jerk, is what I'd think, And just forget about him. Dont try to suck up to him or anything, because hell just take advantage of it, and think he can just treat you like that. So forget about him, and eventually, he will probablly come to you. Trust me.
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Well to start things off ill tell you why i worte it...well i wrote it because it is my friends b-day and i wanted to get her something and make her somthing so it came from me and not just something i bought...if that makes sence!! So i worte this and i wanted to know how it sounds to you and if theres any changes you would make... here it is: Ill rate!!!
**Danielle Joan**
There’s many things I can say about you
But the thing that sticks out the most is that you’re my best friend
You’re a friend I can always count on to be there
You make me smile and brighten my day
You’re a friend I can always have a good time with
There may be times when we fight but we somehow work it out
Were two best friends that can never be torn apart
When I am not with you something always reminds me of you
Weather it be your laugh or your bell button ring
Something always rings a bell
You’re a great girl that I love dearly
Honestly I don’t know what I would do without you
But luckily I don’t have to think about that
Cause you’re my friend
You’re the friend I never lose
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aaww... that's so sweet!I think it sounds really nice!! I think she'll like it, she sounds like a nice person, so she'll probablly apreciate it a lot. I think it'sgood you made her something instead of buying her something. To tell you the truth i wouldn't change it, honestly. I'm sure she'll like it a lot!
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well the ppl who i thought were my friends always go put and never bother to call me to ever go but then when they need a ride home they always seem to call me cause i can drive i cant stand it what should i do ? should i get new friends and let them know how i ffeel ....Ill rate!!! (link)
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omg! Yes you should totally get new friends! They're totally just using you, you should get friends that are nicer , and suit you more. You seem like a nice person, and they just seem mean. You don't have to be all snobby to your other friends, but just make new friends that actually like you for you, have fun with them, and give them rides, it'll make the other girls totally jealous ;)
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13/f I love my best friend to death (in a friendship way don't worry), but in the last week we've gotten in minor disagreements every day. nothing big and she's ussually appologized for over reacting, but I'm wondering if our friendship is like dying. It could just be that it's the last day of school, but I have the kind of best friend that could also just be annoyed with me and is to nice to tell me. i sent her an email which im waiting for her to come home to read, so i dont need advice on what to do, just if you think my friendship is ending. i rate high. thanks. (link)
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No, your friend ship isn't ending don't worry. Me and my friend also kept on getting into little arguments like that then saying sorry after that, and i thought out friendship was just dying, and maybe we aren't the same anymore. The best thing to do, to end it, is to tell eachother everything that you've been thinking about the fights good and bad. Be able to open up and tell eachother what's been annoying you or what you dislike about the person! But don't try to take it that serious, just laugh about it together, or do what you'd normally do other then getting mad!
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