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Hi, I'm Lorelei. I live with my mother, my older sister and my grandmother.
I travel a lot but I'm never a tourist. ;) My mother owns property all over the country and I'm extremely lucky to feel at home in so many different places. It's a lot of fun and I get to see a lot of things and meet a lot of people.
Shopping always seems to be better away from home too.
I'm very fashion-minded and stylish, spontaneous and energetic, dorky and giggly. I enjoy having a good time. Almost too much. I party every chance I get. I do drink but I do so responsibly and you should too.
I'm very young but the year 2003 caused me to learn more about who I am than some people get to learn about themselves in an entire lifetime. Ever since I've made it a point to share what I've learned with everyone possible. Ask and I'll do my best to answer.

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This guy I'd been dating had a birthday party on Saturday. I got wasted and made out with his roommate for 3 hours. My best friend had a crush on his roommate. Now pretty much everyone hates me. Any ideas for damage control on this one?

Your best bet is to own up to your poor judgment and apologize.

That is a pretty crappy thing to do and there's really no excuse for it.

I'd try to make it up your friend and boyfriend and simply hope they forgive you.

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wow your site is so cute!

Anyway. I was wondering something. I went to the mall with my best friend((who's a guy)) yesterday and we were walking together and the other friend we went with was behind us and she kept saying i was acting like i was in love with him and stuff, but he was the one walking with me. So today he kept asking his girlfriend if she was gonna break up with him and she thinks its because he likes me. He also is like always asking me to hang out all the time and i was wondering if he liked me, because idk.

I can't really tell you that. You'll know when he asks you I guess. :) Don't read too much into what he's doing. Some guys just tend to be more affectionate than others. Or maybe he just really thinks you're cool.
Then there's also the chance that he and his girlfriend are just having problems and he's looking for someone to get "close to".

At any rate, you shouldn't even think of him that way until he is single. Men are weird and often like to send mixed signals.

♥ Lorelei

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are you a modle b.c you should look into it thats a good pic. and your really pretty! also i was woundering i have acne and do you use like face wash stuff and what kind i cant seem to get my bumps to go away :/ thanks for the help ~ek

Thank you, hon! :)
I don't really have acne problems. I get pimples some times but I use Dove Cleansing Pillows and Clearasil Vanishing Cream to keep my skin clear.
♥ Lorelei

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hey! A long time ago i asked abotu like how you do your makeup and where you shop and stuff... well thanks... he he i shop liek at the same places as you. I keep forgettting to try tha buring the eyeliner thing but thats cool. .Yours still as gorgeous as ever. buh bye

-beccers_boo

I'm glad I helped you! :) And thank you.

♥ Lorelei

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okay i was looking at y9ur photo album and i am way jealous... your totaly gorgeous... so now i have a few questions :

1. where do you shop?
2. what brand of make up do you use and how do YOU apply it bec use i like how it looks??
3. what do you use to keep your face so clean with
4. what do you use to keep your teeth so white

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i added you to my favorites... just becuase i think your good at this and you seem like one cool cat ; )!! write me.

Thank you very much! :) Here goes:

1. I do a lot of shopping online (shopbop.com and eBay mostly). When not online, I usually shop at H&M, Nordstrom, American Eagle, Lacoste or Forever 21.

2. My eye makeup is pretty simple and inexpensive. The eyeliner (pencil in charcoal and liquid in black) I'm wearing now is from the Body Shop but I like NYC too. The mascara is Wet 'n Wild. First, I softly line my eyes with the pencil. To make it last, I burn it over a match and then let it cool a little then use it. Smudge it a little so it isn't thick. After the pencil, I finely line my eyes again with the liquid eyeliner. Then I apply two coats of mascara. Then on my face, I might use Irreelle Soleil bronzer by Chanel. It's not cheap but I love it.

3. To clean my face, I use Dove cleansing pillows (they're neat hehe) and Clearasil Vanishing cream.

4. For my teeth, I just brush them regularly with these special toothpastes my dentist gave me. You can talk to your dentist about teeth whitening and he can probably hook you up with something too. ;P

Thanks again!
♥ Lorelei

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My friend has this bad problem with flirting with people and not even realizing that she's flirting with them. For example, she told my boyfriend that she thought he was cute, started giggling, and blushed. My boyfriend was rather...irritated...by this, as he can not stand my friend. Whenever I confront her about it, she swears to God she hasn't flirted. How can I get her to see that she really has a problem with this? It just irritates me to see her flirting with my boyfriend. x_x Please help?

Sorry, but you don't say something like that to someone and not realize it's flirting. It sounds like she's just making excuses.

I wouldn't worry about her and your boyfriend. He doesn't like her she probably only flirts with him because she enjoys attention.

People like that seriously crave attention from the opposite sex. There are a lot of women who feel incomplete unless they're being complimented by or being flirted with by a guy.

There's really nothing you can do about it because that is just her personality, but you can ask her to chill out. Express to her how much it bothers you that she's making a move on your boyfriend. If she does it again, it might be time to re-think hanging out with her.

Good luck. :)
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i jus moved to another skool and ive been there for like three weeks and everyone seems nice...but thats not the problem...all of my friends from my old skool seem to always seemed to b pissed at me!!it kinda seems like there happy that i moved! i tryed to talk to them and they all r sayin that ive changed big time scence i moved...i dont think i did!i really want to keep my friends but they seem to not wanna keep me ...HELP!!!
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Sometimes, people will feel threatened when someone they see as a peer moving on to bigger and better things.

Try asking them why they think you've changed. Talk about it. Try not to be too defensive, because people really feed on that. If you don't think they're being fair, say so. Because, to me anyway, they aren't being fair to you.

Stand your ground and keep your head high. If they don't want to let up or if they really think you've changed so much, maybe you guys just don't need to be friends anymore.

♥ Lorelei

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Okay, first let me say I'm going to be 17 in a week.
I've been friends with this one girl for the majority of both our lives. We used to go trick or treating every year, and she's going to want to go again this year, whereas I feel I'm too old, and I don't want to go. I know I need to tell her I don't want to go and not just make excuses, but something in me doesn't think she'll understand that I just don't want to walk around in a costume, yelling "TRICK OR TREAT" for candy.
I mean, I LOVE sugar. Seriously, I do - but I'm sick of trick or treating. How do I tell her I don't want to do this without hurting her feelings? 'Cause I know it's gonna bother her. Our friendship is sort of dwindling...sucks, but true. She's 17 too, by the way. Thanks in advance for the help.

You could try suggesting a party rather than trick-or-treating? She sounds like a good friend and I'm sure she'll understand and want to compromise. Or if she wants to really go, maybe you could go along with her for a while and then switch it up and head to a costume party or something.

Another idea would be to just head off to the store, buy tons of candy (it's SO cheap this time of year) and pig out in front of a good movie. You could put on a CD you both like afterwards and work off the sugar!

The gist of what I'm saying is - try to compromise but make it evident that you feel like you're growing out of trick-or-treating. Be honest with her. She'll understand.

♥ Lorelei

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We have a version of American Idol going on at our school. Only 8 people can be chosen out of the many that have auditioned, and i was one of them. One of my friends, who has an incredible voice, was also chosen, but she came in last place to compete..and she tied with someone else. The only way she could compete was if she sang with someone else as a duet or the other girl dropped out. The head of the competition told my friend this, and they both asked me to sing with her, but they didn't give me any time to think about it so i just said yes,but i sort of regret it because i had my songs already planned out and last year i was in it and got a great reputation as "that girl who can sing and dance" which i like a lot, and i'm afraid that if i sing with her, that might change, or we might not do as well as i would have hoped for...when i sing by myself, i get all eyes on me and i love to own the stage, and no i'm not self-absorbed, its just that i'd rather sing by myself. I couldn't say no because that would just be letting my friend down, but i really wish that i could sing by myself instead of a duet..i'm not sure what to do..please help. Thanx!

I think it depends on which you think is better. Helping a friend, or maintaining a bit of high school (?) glory.

If you were to perform by yourself, sure you'd get all of the applause and adulation, but do you think people will remember that as something important?

In this case, it is my opinion that helping to preserve a friendship seems more important. This, of course, is still just my opinion. You simply need to decide which is most important to you. Your friendship or your performance.

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my friend is still inlove with her ex who now has a new girlfriend and we all in job corp so we see eachother all day. She follows them around tries like hell to get them in-trouble and everything. How do i get her to stop. I have talk to her so many times and it NEVER works. But i need her because she is my friend and i'm pergnant now and i just need her with me, but i think she's going nuts. i'm always there for her it's just she's never there for me anymore.

You should try telling her how you feel. That her ex has moved on and it's time for her to do the same.

She'll get over him in time, so in that sense, of course, you need to be there for her as well. But with friends, sometimes you need to be really verbal. Tell her straight out that you feel neglected.

Hope I helped at least a little. :) Good luck.
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ok, i dont know exactly how to get a reputaion of sum kind in 6th grade. I have a popular friend that i dont usualy hang out with. should i start hanging out with her in order to get kool. or not?

Don't hang out with someone to gain social status. Hang out with people whose company you enjoy. Someone's ability to make you laugh is infinitely more important than their ability to get you a seat at the right lunch table. It'll be better for your self-esteem in the long run. Also, you'll see that people are drawn to self-confident people who aren't afraid to be themselves. You really do earn friends by just being yourself.

Not to mention, if you're in the 6th grade, you're only 11 or 12, right? Hon, your popularity in middle school and high school will mean absolutely NOTHING in a few years. You're better off spending time with people you have a lot of fun with rather than worrying about trying to become popular.

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I have this friend who i have known for whole life..... we r the same age but i am in a higher grade(long story) also i moved away from the town we lived in together and i hang out with people that are older and she is jealous of my best friend but shes sooo immature to me and i try to act myself but i she isnt into it and she is weird to me.....i love her sooo much she is on of my best friends what do i do?

As people grow older, people grow apart. People change. As tough as it may be, it might be time to separate yourself from her.
That doesn't mean you should just up and ditch her. That's an awful thing to do. Maybe just slowly separate. If you don't feel you have anything in common with, why would you try to hang out with them?

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