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Hey, My name is kendra. I go through a lot in my life and I love to give good advice to people who have experienced what i have been through. Im not the type of girl to tell you what to do, that's not my job. I just give advice and what you want to do wit it..is ur decision. I'll do my besT to understand every problem or question that is being asked. I take any questions and I dont judge. So drop some letters on my page and i will definitly give the advice thats besTT for ya..smoochiez..

~*I give good advice..to all the people who wanna rate me high thanx alot, but i dont care too much about the ratings as long as you have my advice then im alright*~

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Libby always follows Vanessa around all the time! It's sooo annoying. Everyone notices, even Vanessa. Like if we're at a party, Libby is like Vanessa's shadow. I can't talk to Vanessa or be with her without Libby popping up. And if I'm with Libby she always leaves to go find Vanessa. V is annoyed w/ it too. Libby is such a follower it bugs me. I can't talk to Libby ab it because its hard to explain.. like i dont want to make a big deal ab it. Should I just leave it alone and let Libby figure it out for herself? Or what?

yesS you should tell her or maybe it'd be better if Vanessa told her. it's obvious Libby doens't realize she's getting annoying. im sure she wouldn't want to seem like a follower. She needs some advice and if it's bothering Vanessa she should tell her instead of letting continue to go on. If Vanessa donet tell her any time soon..she'll eventually blow up and say whats on her mind and it might come out wrong or even at the wrong time. When you, (i prefer Vanessa)tell Libby hows she acting, she should be understanding if takes it wrong then let her cool off for a while..try to be respectful about it..if she ends up disagreeing with you guys then maybe you shouldn't hang around her..who wants a follower all the time but then again if she's a good friend Vanessa should take in consideration that someone actullay wants to be around her alot. hope i helped be sure she knows what she's doing thats bothering you guys...merry christmas

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well...im female, and 15 years old.

i'm not very popular, but i wouldnt say im a geek either.

i really dont feel like i have any friends. im sort of friends, or what you would call aquiantences (sp) with probably 15 people, but i dont actually feel like i have someone to be there for me when i need it.

school really sucks. nobdoy call tell though. i always act hyper and friendly but its beginning to get harder lately, just because.

i would like to know if other people feel like this...or if its just me. adivce would be nice too. sorry if i sound depressed or something. i dont think i am, just the place im in right now does not fit very well with my personality.

thanks for your time :)



ps.
please dont say join clubs or something to get new friends because my school is very small. i could name every single student in my grade. most of the upperclassman too. i know everyone...so yeah

no its definitly not just you...i feel this way too and i'll admit i cry about it because i really want someone i can run to and hug and someone to comfort me and understand me when im down and depressed and not someone over the internet that gives me advice even though that does help a little...im not a geek and im not popular in my school and i hate my school it's really big and it's just to much going on in my school. i guess i feel this way because i dont trust people that's probably your problem...it's noone outside of my family that i can actually be myself around..i guess there are people that i can go to to talk to but i dont feel that way. most people think im cool when the first look at me because im attractive but i dont open up to people so they get tired of me acting shy.. but im really not shy when im comfortable around people and im definitly not in the place where i think i fit in..i dont think people that dont really know me will actually like me for me. i guess im kind of insecure and i dont know if thats your problem..but i guess you should try to talk to people more and open up...i probably ddint help you that much since im going throught my own problems but hope i did a little

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14/f

A few days ago My friend, Stephanie told me that her friend said that I'm not a people person he doesnt like me and kinda piss him off, so I got mad at him and I started to cry. Then he was labeling my dad as a Hippie (I don't think there is anything wrong with hippies but I don't like labeling people whom they don't know well). Stephanie was saying things like "I agree with you" or "you don't need him" Then a couple days later stephanie told me that her 2 cousins whom i've only met on about two occasions wanted to fuck me and they got my home phone number and they were calling me and telling me they wanted to fuck me and I felt uncomfortable so I hung up on them and called my friend Heena to call steph to ask her cousins to stop because I was afraid that if I called her her cousins would answer but steph refused to do anything about it because she was pissed at me. So alex called me and asked me whats wrong and apologized for what he said because I started to cry out of so much stress. He put me on the phone with stephanie (he was over at her house) she said "I don't understand how you could get sad he was only telling the truth." I got sad and a little mad so I was talking to Heena on the phone and we both thought she just contridicted what she recently said. I really want to be friends with steph again and I don't know if I should apologize for being mad at alex or not, or what I should do.

friends are suppose to be there for you instead of against you. NO you should not apologize for being mad at alex..he said something that hurt you, but it was nice of him to apologize. It seems that alex said what he felt even though it was rude, you shouldn't be mad just okay that he told you. steph is really not being a good friend right now. having her two cousins call you and verbally abuse you is wrong, she could have apoplogize on thier behalf. You should not have people that cause negativity in your life like stressing, crying or probably depression. i dont know steph and please dont think im trying to break a friendship...but if she is treating you wrong it's no need to call her a friend or become friends with her again..and also i think that she was probably showing off infront of alex when she said that he was telling the truth. if she comes to her senses she'll probably apologize about what she said then maybe you should forgive her..but just remember you shouldnt have someone you call a friend hurt you..hope i helped

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see i have a big problem im good at talking to people about there problems and they like talking to me but im not really good at talking about my feelings when they get really badn i mean talking baout boys is ok and things like that. but i found out recently my friend has cancer and isnt going to be alive much longer this persons haveing a really hard time and it jurts me so much i think about this person everynight and i cry to myself at night the person kinda had a heart attack the other day adn i feel that its a warning that this person wont be with me much longer they thought about ending there life and there was nothing i could do i was up all night in tears afraid that when i woke up they wouldnt be there anymore and this person means so much to me and sure its hard to deal with loosing the person but i guess i just need to have faith but its tearing me up inside i hide it from everyone. i know its not good to keep this all inside becasue its takeing me over but its so hard to talk about ive only told one person about the least bit that the person only had cancer and i stopeed at that maybe im just afraid to open up and face that im going to be in a great deal of pain soon. i just need help to open up and to stop keeping it all inside i so much think of calling my friend and telling her everything but i stop and just think i need to open up im hurting so much inside becasue im holding this all in and i guess i dont want the person to see that becasue it will put them in so much more pain but plezz help me if u can i ll rate 5'd if good advice thanxs so much


and srry for the wrong periods and stuff but im typeing fast and trying to get this done without backing out thanxs so much in advance

you should continue to have hope for her and if you believe in God then you must have faith in him that he will take care of your friend. and even if you may think there is no way your frined will make it..you should know anything is possible with your faith in God..and i understand you are hurting alot inside but it's okay because you're scared. you should tell a friend your problems no matter how hard it is for you..if you think you should stop holding everything inside then SPEAK! you'll feel much better when you get things off your chest and get advice from a friend you care about and that feels the same about you. Again if you believe in God you must know that this is his world not yours..you cant have everything you want,need,love,or have a passion for because that is Gods choice..i will pray for you and your frined and i hope you'll pray too...everything will be okay...hope i helped.

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14/f

my parents and i are going on a camping trip this weekend and they said i could invite one friend with us. well, this is really hard for me, because i can only invite one person, and i have two best friends. we always hang out together, but sometimes i do things with just each of them alone. i already mentioned the trip when we were all hanging out together and they both said they want to come. well, that was before my parents told me i could only bring one person, and i don't know who i should pick. one of them, hayley, said she might not be able to go because her parents are really overprotective and wouldn't want her to go for the entire weekend. my other friend, rachel, could probably go, but at this point it seems like it's a 50/50 chance that either of them could go for sure. i like both of them the same, and i have the same amount of fun with each of them. does anyone know what i should do or which i should pick?

well if were you i wouldn't take either of them because even though they know they are both good friends, i wouldn't want to be unfair to one of them..if you do decide to choose someone you should make sure they both know that you like them the same and have the same amount of fun with each of them..hope everything works out and hope i helped

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i have a friend and she alwayssss is in love with a new boy everyday, if she has a boyfriend (which she does now and is not going to last very long) shes hooked onto him and sucks up to him . shes always asking me for advice but sometimes i run out of things to say and repeat the same things.. now her and my other guy friend are coming over tomarrow (which she cheated on her bf with him) and i dont know what to do.. like really.. its kind of confusing but i need help ! quick. even if its not today its okay bc i need something to do in the future

well i think you need to tell her to slooow down. It seems like she is too dependent on guyz. She's not a good girlfriend and needs to stop actin like a hoe. and i understand how you can be running out of things to say because she keeps doing the same things. tell her you dont want to see her relationship status be the same in the future. she should try to stick with one guy she really likes and learn to be faithful to him. hope i helped

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Hi, I just moved here from another town about 31/2 hours away and at first things were going really well. But now, the people that I first met and considered my first friends are different. My friend, lets call her "s" was this sweet quiet girl. But she started to hang out with this group of girls that changed her. Now she is loud, obnoxious, and mean. Another girl, used to be independent and strong is becoming preppy and again, really mean. It is so hard to make friends in this town, I tried to join clubs, ect but the are all really cliquey. How should I handle this?

I went and is still kind of going through the same situation except i'm not far from my hometown..I'ts really hard for me to make friends in my school since everyone already new each other and came from the same jr. high to the high school together. i am still eager for friends i have many associates and everything but noone i can actually call a friend....but anyways if you can relate to that i think that you should wait for friends and they will eventually come to you. your friend "s" changed and so did another girl but maybe their just acting like that becuase of thier friends or maybe it's because they are changin into the real them....you have to realize that people change and things will happen but life goes on. you'll soon fit into your crowd and have your own group of friends...my advice is to just be yourself everywhere and friendships will grow in your life naturally....hope i helped

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My friend is always complaining about her figure and looks and it annoys me because she is one of those girls who have perfect looks skin and figure. I am overweight, not the best looking girl with bad skin and am seriosuly over my age height. I want to make her feel good about herself but she never does and everytime she starts it makes me feel bad about myself. I want her to feel better but when I reassure her she doesnt believe me. I know its wrong but I am scared I will end up like her. I used to like myself but now I have started feeling really depressed about it. Any advice on shutting her up and getting myself back how I was before? I hate the NEW me

i think your friend has issues...maybe she is really insecure about her body and is envying someone else that probly looks better then her..which you shouldn't start doin. Everyone is different and we have to live and work with what we have and be happy..and im being real, there are ugly people and there are pretty people..but u just have to face it that you cant be any one and noone can be you..(well maybe with a little technology & surgery)...but anyways you should tell your friend you dont like when she starts complaing about her figure & looks and tell her how you really feel when she does that.

hope i helped>>>u welcome

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I want to tell my friend something..It's a problem I've been having and it's kind of serious. I've never told this friend anything this serious before though. How do I know if she'll accept me and keep it a secret?

Well, you dont really know if she'll accept you or not. If you trust her and is sure that she is one of you FRIENDS than go for it and tell her. If she doesn't except you or keeps it a secret then she's not a true friend. But if you're having doubts maybe you shouldn't tell especially if it's something that will affect your friendship with her. Also doubt should be your bestfriend when you feel something is wrong. my advice is to go and tell her becuase then you wouldnt be a good friend by keeping a secret away from her.

*and just call her and tell i need to ask you something but its personal and i would feel more comfortable telling you to your face..
hope i helped..u welcome

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Ok, I'm a 13/F and I'm happy like 24-7. I mean everyone always comes up to me and asks me how I could be so happy all the time. I mean everyone knows me as the "happy peanut" (school nickname don't ask lol) And I mean I am. And I'm always the friend people come to if they have a problem or if they need someone's shoulder to cry on or anything. But I mean lately everything in my life's been going wrong. My dad's left my family, a kid who was like my brother just died. and I mean I don't know how to talk to anyone about it because they always come to me. And like no one else. And I just want to like SCREAM!! I don't know what to do. It's like I've lost controle of my own life and can't get it back together again. I just want someone to know what's going on. The bad stuff. Because someone needs to know or I'm going to go insane. But I just don't know how to tell anyone. I rate 5's for any answer!! Good or bad, long or short. I'm really in some need for advice. Thanks a bundle if you can help =D ♥Samm

well everyone life isnt perfect. Of course you are goin to experience hard times no matter how happy you are or pretend to be. Just be strong because its many others goin through things worse than you. Keep ya head up and eventually you'll see happiness again.
hope i helped
ask me any ? anytime

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okay so my friend is mad at me and shes using all these things ive said to her or other people out of context b/c when u hear them yea they sound bad but if u think about why i said them and what was going on it all makes sense. she wont listen to me tho i keep trying to explain to her why i said the things i did but she just wont let me say it. i dont want her to be mad at me or anyone else but how do i get them to listen?

maybe you should watch wat u're just sayin to ppl..if ur friend and other people are takin what you say and how you say things offensive "out of context" then y would you continue to say things that way. And if they are not listenin to you and are mad then you should probly give them some time and come to them in anotha way so they wont get mad at you anymore, so you can have a chance to explain to them y you said wut you said.

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