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me and my best friend are ALWAYS fighting or arguing over something. and its always so stupid. we have really strong opinons, so we kind of clash...so basically, why do you think that BEST friends would be fighting so much? over the dumbest things?!
(5's for anything thanks) (link)
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Iknow EXACTLY how you feel!! The same thing always happens to me. Here is a solution I tried. (it worked)
You guys are probably fighting because you see each other a lot. So you should:
1: Hang out with some other friends more, you don't have to be attatched at the hip. (If you don't have any other friends, make some!!)
Before you do that, make sure she knows that you aren't ditching her, an dthat you guys are still best friends!! Good luck :)
~Katkrazy
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Does it matter if your bestfirend in the world is bbacking off on you. Where I live people make fun of you for no reason and if you don't do the same you become the made fun fun. My BFF is really I think scarred of me. I am so worried what if she doesn't want to be friends anymore. I know I am sort of a bully at times, but I never would be to her. What do you think. YOU BETTER HELP!!!! (link)
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Yes it does matter! You need to just ignore the people bugging you and making fun of you, they are probably just shallow. Tell your BFF that you still want to be friends, and tell her that if you are a bully sometimes, it has noithing to do with her. I've been through this before, so if none of that works then just wait it out. I hope I've helped.
Katkrazy
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I have a friend, and I trust her in her jugments, but I think she is being way too trusting. Her friends are taking advantage of her, and then treating her like dirt. They act like she is not a real person, and get mad at her for no reason. She has friends who do stand by her in times of need, but soon a fight is going to go way to far. I'm afraid for her because she really get hert and I don't want that for her. Fights are going to far, friendships are being tested, I don't want to get to into this, but to see my friend suffering like she is I cant help it. She lets go to easily on things that will just happen again. I really really want her to understand where I am coming from and that I don't want her to give up all together. Can you think of anyway I can tell my friend what I think, without hurting her fealings or getting to deep into the relintles war that gose on. I don't want her to get mad at me, but I don't want her to get hert either. What should I do.
~Headace-girl~ (link)
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well you should probably talk to the who is being taken advantage of and tell her your suspicions. she probably already noes deep inside her heart but she just doesnt want to admit she is being used like a snotrag!! make sure that wen this does happen her friends that stick by her always stay there. sometime she will really depend on them even if she doesnt show it. and if you just tell her gently before she replies tell her dont get mad a i am only trying to protect you, most likely she will be softened by noeing someone cares!!! good luck,
Katkrazy
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On the e-mail my friend keeps copying me, what should i do. (link)
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i think that you schould tell her that she will get kicked out of college if she does that l8r in life, so to break the habit, stop now!!
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I have this friend who is a real witch. She never is nice to anyone. I don't get her at all. Now that there is a big fight going on she wants me to be on her side, even though I don't agree with anything that comes out of her mouth. What should I do? (link)
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ok i have been in this situation before, and whatever you do if you have to take a side take the side that you think is right. for the most part stay out of it!!!! it will blow over, i hope!!!! best of luck!!
katkrazy
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My friend has this fried that is really mean to her. I don't know what to tell her to do about her, what should she do? (link)
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she should take a stand. if her friend is treating her like dirt, have her hang with her other friends until the one who is being mean gets a MAJOR attitude ajustment!!! in the meantime dont sink to her level by talking trash about her. if she finds out it will make it worse. you probably should wait till summer break then it will blow over. good luck, hope i helped
katkrazy
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My bff is making me feal really left out. I know she cares and I know she dosen't mean to but she dose. I think we mite be growing apart but I really don't want to. The lanured thing gets me. After the first 30 or so it gets sorta borring. I don't know, sometimes I feal more comfortable with boys then girls not that I don't like being around girls. I'ts werid, I nerver really know what to do about these things anymore.
P.S do not say anything about this to anyone at shcool!!!!
~Karyn~ (link)
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ok well have you tried talking to your bff about it. if you havent, tell her that you think that you are growing apart. maybe she feels the same way. and after the first 30 it does get boring, but either just stop for a while, or grit you teeth and keep going. and about being more comfortable around boys maybe you should justtry to space it out. after all sometimes boys are A LOT less ful than s can be, trust me!!!!! and maybe thats why your bff is making you feel left out, you hang out w/ boys more without noticing it, then she finds a different friend to hand out with for a while, then when you come back to world, she thinks you would rather hang out with boys. this all leads to you talking to her. besides if it is who i think it is she will understand!!! good luck and if you need any more help you can also talk to me at school!!!
~A
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SO ONE FRIDay i was playing around with my bff's and on propse i opned that the bathroom door on one of them 9 don't ask me why i did it) & it was kinda funny, so i laughed. then i went to the bathroom and they diched me. it didn't make me mad cause thy do it all te time. i figued they were mad & figured that they would be over it by monay.they didn't. today is friday that was a week ago. i tried to write an apoige letter before i sent it she sent me a letter. it was really mean the called me a "no longerer" & cused me out.so someone went an talked to them & told them that wrote a letter but didn't send it( do u blame me) so they she worte me another letter saying they didn't want to be mad and sayed should apoliged at the beginning not know. so i still haven't sent the letter yet & i don't do. i'm really hurt & want to be their frirnd agian. they are some of their best friends i have ever had so what should i do any body have an idea please help, ask your friends,I'm desprite!!!!!
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well i think that you should:
1. apologize to them (again)
2: ask them what you would have to d for them to forgive you.
3. if all else fails, apololgize and beg them to forgive you and say it will NEVER happen again!!!
hope i helped and good luck!!!
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okay so theres this guy at my school who i like ALOT and well its my last year there and i want to date him. and i think he likes me back bcuz hes always flirting with me so of course i flirt back! and the years almost over. what do i do?
-Ck (link)
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well if you are at least 50% sure he likes you, then you should make the first move. if you are to shy then have your frioend to ask him if he likes you, and then have your friend tell him to ask you out, of have your friend tell him that YOU want to ask HIM out!! ope i helped and good luck!!!
~Katkrazy~
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Okay, I'm a pretty preppy girl. I have lots of friends, and we all are into fashion, and dressing our best. Anyway, I have a secret love, that's so far from fashion I'm afraid my friends will hate me for it. It's skateboarding. I loove skateboarding so much, and I always go skateboarding after school with all the skaters at the park and stuff. It makes me happy, I love learning new tricks, and doing all that guyish stuff. It's so weird, but I feel like I can't tell my friends. Well, now they're all getting curious about why I don't have as much time to hang out with them..and I'm starting to run out of excuses. I've only told one of my friends (whom I'm actually not that great of friends with, someone whose 'out' of my group and in a 'less known' group, but she's wonderful) who I never really thought much of, until I learned she can keep my secret. She's such a great friend, and I'm wondering why I feel like I can't tell my other 'friends' about my secret passion for skateboarding. What am I to do? Should I just come out and tell them I like skateboarding? (I don't think that any of them will take this badly, but sometimes girls can be really.. picky about things, and some of my 'friends' may ditch me because of this) Find new friends? Only tell some of them? Aghh, help!!
SAM♥ (link)
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well think u should tell them if they are your friends, then they wont care what you like. and if they do ditch you, then find some new friends! hope i helped good luck!
~Katkrazy
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I moved to a new state last summer and i havent made that many friends at my new school. There was this girl who was also new who didnt know anyone and she was really down to earth, so we became friends. Over the school year shes become very stuck up, materialistic, and rude to people who try to be nice and talk to her. So im her only friend, and for a while she was my only friend. Ive made some friends with some very nice guys which have invited us (me and my friend) to sit with them during lunch. She never wants to because she thinks shes too good for them. I really dont see anything wrong with them, they are just trying to be friends with her. So i told her to stop being mean and to come sit with them sometime. She always refuses, which means im stuck with her and i dont get to sit with them. Then they get upset (not mad at me) when we dont sit with them. Each day she becomes even more and more rude and i dont really want to be friends with her anymore. Sometimes i feel like she doesnt like sitting with me either. Today during lunch she was on her phone for 45 min out of 50 min. She just kept me sitting there, and when i said i wanted to go sit with the guys she said no. I got really mad and just got up and left to go sit with them because i didnt want to just sit there and listen to her conversation. It was rude for her to be on the phone the ENTIRE lunch period (which is the only time i see her). Anyways, do you think i had the right to do what i did? I know it wasnt very nice, but shes been so mean to people and i thought she deserved it. What would you do in my position? (link)
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way-2-go . you did the right thing going and sitting w/ the other guys. it sound to me that your other friend is feeling insecure that nobody else will like her so she is trying to control you, (her only friend) so you wont move on and leave her behind. so maybe you should either talk to her, or forget abot her and move on. hope i helped!
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My friend's b-day party is on Saturday. I also have a very important softball practice that same day. They are both at the same time. I (link)
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I think that you should go to the practice. tell your friend the dilemma, and if she is a good friend, then she wont mind. (even if she is disapointed) and after the practice, you can plan an extra special weekend slumber party w/ just you and her. also make sure she knows that if you could change it so you could go to both then you would, but you cant. i hope i helped!!!!
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I have a friend who is always fealing rather down and out because her 2 best friends are leaing her out. I can tell she really doesn't like it, i mean who likes to be left out. What should I tell her to do about her best friends?
Daisyswim (link)
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You should tell her to just talk to her friends about when they leave her out, that it really hurts and makes her feel unloved. And if they don't really care, or they deny, it then tell her to let it either blow over in a couple of days, or find two "new" friends.
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ok i have a really good friend and she is hurting herself by like throwing herself into walls durring school because i think she is depressed. It seems like she really doesn't want to talk about it to anyone. The other day she almost cracked her head open. (she kind of did or maybe she just got a cut on it and it started bleeding because she was banging her head on the lockers) ya i know it sound phsyco...but i don't want her 2 be like this! i mean 2day she was slamming her head against the concrete until i made her stop! what should i do to get her to either tell me whats going on or to stop her from hurting herself????? (i rate high)
ThAnKs A BuNcH!
-*Marissa*- (link)
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she might be insecure for right now but if it happens again, make sure she stops. i dont think you should bug her that would make her close up to you. what you should do is let her know that you are and always will be her friend and if she has a problem then she can always talk to you. reminder her that at least once a day. and it might help to tell her that banging her head is EXTREMELY dangerous. and tell her to try ripping paper. hope i helped and i hope she opens up to you!!!
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ok i asked about the games for my party earlier..and if they were too babyish..most of you said no, so thats a good sign. My next question is how many games per hour should i have? i dont want to overwhelm everyone with games..should it be once every half hour? every hour? thanks you guys (link)
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well i answered your other one and said it sounded great, so now i think ur right u dont want to overwhelm everyone, so you should have at least 2-3 games per hour, depending on how long/short the games are. good luck, it sounds great and happy sweet 16!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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ok, i have a really big mouth, i can't keep a scercret & all of my firends get mad at me when somethihg slips. they never tell me a scerect any more, even though i am working on it. does anyone have any advise. plese help, if u can!!!!!
signed blabber (link)
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i think that you should ask your friends to give you another chance and keep working on it. practice on a little sibling, like get them to tell you a secret and dont tell anyone for as long as you can. wat you can do after that is tell your friends how you did and get them to tell you secrets again. hope i helped!!!!!
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i was thinking about who i would call up for my candle ceramony for my sweet 16..i counted 12 relatives, and the other 4 spaces would be for my friends. Problem! I have 3 friends i know im definately going to call up..but thenn there is only one more space left..and i have some other pretty close friends! :/ how doo i not hurt their feelings! (link)
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do they know when your birthday is?? if they dont then ivite who you are going to invite, and dont say anything to the people who aren't invited. if they do know when your birthday is you could always lie and say your party was cancled not the best thing to do!!! :( anyway i hope i helped!!!
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I go to a private school, and my friend did also, but then she went public. i still keep in touch with her and she is still a really great friend. But now i have this other great friend in school with me and i'm not sure wiether to think she is a better friend or not. Should i replace her? is it bad that i do not feel as close to my previous best friend?
-dorinflower55 (link)
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make new friendz, but keep the old, one is silver and the other's gold!!! the more the better!!! hope 2 have helped!!
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Hi.
Well, my friends have all fallen out and I'm finding it really difficult to not take sides. Friend A said something nasty about friend B and friend C took friend B's side. This means that A is mad at C because she didn't take her side.
However, the nasty thing that A said was, in my opinion justified...
No-one is A's friend and I try and stick up for her because I don't think it's fair that B and C just slag her off behind her back all the time, but that makes them hate me. I want to take A's side even more when they do that. Plus friend B is SO annoying and is always doing weird stuff like humping us (seriously...everyone thinks we're lesbians or something) and messing up our hair and all this crap. So I should take friend A's side, right? Wrong. Friend A has said some really mean stuff over the years, none directed at me but I can't deny that it makes me wonder what she's thinking about ME. All their arguing is driving me crazy and I have to do something, and I don't want to take sides but it feels like I'm being forced to - B and C are horrible to me every time I talk to A. What can I do? (link)
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wow ive been here alot, but anyway, you should take friend A's side. she'll really be happy that someone is on here side. now she probably feels terrible cause her two x-friends are ganging up on her. the odds r better, u & A vs. B & C, rather than A vs. B & C. lots of luck!!!!!
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ok this is what happend, during spring break (2 days ago) me, my friend, my sis, my dad and mom went to las vegas. While we were there we saw kids from our schools baseball team there (we were going crazy) .. and my friend likes 4 guys total and there happend to be 2 of the guys that she liked there..then my dad told me to say hi to them so i did..i went up to them and started talking..then later that night 1 of the guys m friend had liked asked me for my # so i gave it to him. Then while we were walkin up and down the strip my friend was trying to tell him all the bad things about me so that he wouldnt like me anymore (i guess that didnt work).. then when me and him went to get some subway my friend was talking to my sis and my sis said that my friend was saying that its not fair that he likes me and that she liked him first and blah blah blah.. but whenever i got to know him i started liking him ALOT and we madeout that night too (it seemed like she didnt care that much), but thats the only guy i like (and shes obbsessed with 3 other guys too). So when we were driving home she was saying that whenever we get back to school shes going to try and impress him (cuz that night she looked like a piece of cr*p).. then i had no idea what i was going to do so i called him up and starting telling him everything. Then he said not to worry cuz im the 1 he kissed that night and not her .. but i know shes going to get mad cuz hes going to ask me out whenever he comes back from las vegas. I just dont know what to do right now... (link)
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weel u are the lucky one arent you, just make sure that the boy doesnt get in the way of your friendship!!!
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