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I was fifth grade when I noticed that she's doing
weird stuff around me.It stopped but until now she's kissing me in the forehead,"accidentally" moving closer to me and I don't know if she still likes me.If she does,What should I do? (link)
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If your friend likes you, don't be afraid of her actions. In my friend group, we have a friend who we thought for a long time she was lesbian because she loved giving hugs and calling us cute names like "sarahbear" or "gabbykinz". We found out that she was straight and that all the hugging and affection is just her personality. We also have a friend in our group who also likes girls but she isn't like our affectionate friend at all. But her girlfriend is. Girls who like other girls don't necessarily like you if they're affectionate. It's just their personality. Don't be afraid of her being clingy to you or kissing you on the forehead. You are her best friend. Best friends are supposed to be abnormally close. My best friend is like that too. She's the affectionate one I talked about earlier. Just let your friend keep up her routine unless it makes you feel uncomfortable. And if it does, talk to her so you guys can set some limits. I promise you this is normal! Hope this helped! ~glasses
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So last week I was at an extra color guard practice just for fun and my color guard partner was there too She's a senior and I'm a freshman, but we're close friends. So anyway, even though I'm younger than her, I can spin a quad on my flag which is extremely hard to do. My coach saw me doing this with some other fancy work and she asked me if I wanted a solo part of our performance. I obviously said yes and I was super happy. So I went to my partner and she already heard the news. She didn't look excited like I was and I asked her "aren't you happy for me?" And she was honest and told me no. She said she was jealous because she never got a solo and she is better than I am. I got a little offended by this. I told her it wasn't my fault coach asked me. But of course, she yelled at me and told me it was my fault. I then told her how I work as hard as her and how she is never proud of me for anything I do and how she's always better than me and will never say I'm good and that hurts me. We fought more until she yelled at me to shut up and I said no and I tried to finish what I was saying when she hit me. Right in the face. My cheek was bleeding and it was swelling. My partners face was more shocked than mine. She said "(my name) I--" and stopped there. I started tearing up and ran out of the band room. I ran into 2 other team mates and they asked me what was wrong but I ignored them and ran home. My face has a nasty bruise where she hit me and I can't believe she did that to me. I thought she was my friend. What do I do now? I'm so scared of her. (link)
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Hi there! I also do color guard and I just want to say, YOU CAN THROW A QUAD ON YOUR FLAG?! *silently screaming "teach me". Okay that's really cool. This is from a scoop toss right? I can only do a triple. Sorry I'm totally geeking out here. But awe, I am so sorry your partner did this to you. She should know better. My color guard partner who is also a senior doesn't recognize how much I practice or how hard I work on some tosses like that either. The thing is, I'm not as good as some other girls on my team. But you know what? I'm not the worst. Does your partner at least recognize that? I don't blame you that you're scared of her. I would be too if my partner did that. You seriously need to talk to her about this. Be the stronger one and show her how much it hurt you. I don't mean try to hurt her, but I am saying you should literally go up to her and tell her how much it hurt you physically and emotionally. But don't let her get a word in. Walk away and let her come back to you. Then you will know that she is truly sorry and really wants to be your friend again. She obviously was super jealous that she didn't get a solo but you did. But that gave her no right to hit you and make you bleed. I hope she got some blood on her shirt to remind her forever how much she hurt you. Good luck. If you need any more advice, ask me on my advice column.
~glasses
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So this is my first year doing color guard for marching band and I'm really excited. I love to spin, but sometimes I really don't understand the new work we are learning. All of us incoming freshmen feel the same way. So we are all partnered up with a senior guard partner and they help us. So mine is really, really, really good at spinning and she is so friendly and funny. We practice and meet up more than other color guard partners do on our team. We also always make funny memories during our private practices. Like 4 weeks ago when she told me all these stories about her first year spinning. Or like last week when my mom called me in the middle of our practice to tell me my grandpa died of cancer, and she asked if I was alright and I told her what happened and she hugged me while I was crying and she told me about her grandma who died of cancer only a couple months ago. And my favorite which was 2 days ago, after practice, we walked down to the village which is near our high school and we got ice cream at Ferches. We talked about band camp and color guard on the way there. But on the way back, we talked about personal things. She makes me laugh so much and I love to hang with her. But, are we really friends? I never had a real friend before because everyone just likes to be around me to see me do something stupid because I'm a klutz. I am really smart, but I am not common sense smart. I'm not sure if she truly is my friend and I don't want to ask her because that would be rude. I need help!!! (link)
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Hi there! Why don't you think you and this girl aren't friends? She seems like she obviously cares about you. You said she hugged you when you found out your grandpa died right? And she took you out to ice cream after you guys practiced. She seems really friendly and nice. I have no idea why she wouldn't be your friend. You don't have to ask her, but maybe you should spend more time with her and get to know each other better to see how close you guys really are. But you guys are definitely friends. I hope this helped you. If you need any more advice, ask me on my page.
~glasses
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Earlier this year one of my guy friends had a bad breakup with his girlfriend and she started dating one of his friends. He turned emo and started cutting himself. He became atheist and more reserved. He had so much hatred to his ex-girlfriend(my friend)and his friend(also my friend)I helped him through it and got him to stop cutting, become Christian, and become more comfortable with people and also to forgive them both and he is now friends with both of them again. He is a completely changed person now. But he seems to have a bit of an obsession with me.He asked me out but I sadly rejected him because I felt nothing for him. I only did the things I did because he was my friend and I hated seeing him that way. He now has a new girlfriend but he acts like he doesn't like her. He says things about her that he think is weird and awkward. He flirts ALOT when we talk over facebook but the thing is I feel extremely guilty. I feel like im making him cheat. Ruining his relationship. Ive told him countless times that I only want us to be friends but he acts like he forgets that. He says im flirting with him when im just joking around with him. He says "I love you" but I try to take it in a friendly way because he says it to all of his lady friends in a brother-siter kind of way. He says things like im his "future wife" but adds "lol" just to seem like he's joking. He constantly reminds me of the things ive done for him when he was at his lowest point. Thanking me millions of times.He calls me beautiful. He gets jealous easily but he tells me things about his girlfriend and other girls to make me jealous. He has done many attempts to get me to fall for him. Extreme attempts that it almost ruined our friendship. Besides the flirting he is a very nice person(obnoxious at times)but very sweet. He has given me many gifts such as food he has cooked (he cooks a lot)and flowers and teddy bears (before he started dating) He told me he was giving me these things for "appreciation for what I have done" and if I didnt accept them, he made me. He is my best friend. He is very protective and defends me if someone is bullying me. He is very caring. He asks how my day was and sometimes good morning messages. He makes it his job to message me everyday and is always the first to start a convo. We will talk for hours on end just about silly things and joke around a lot. He comes to me when he needs someone to talk to and is going trough something and I do the same for him. He says that he will always be there for me if i need anything. He just the bestest friend you could ever ask for. I just feel like im taking advantage of him. Im trying hard to make our friendship work because I don't want to lose him. But he is constantly testing it. He tells me he's not over me even if he has a girlfriend. He treats me like I am his which I have told him to stop but he wont. Nearly everyone in the school knows of his crush on me. He tags me in posts on Facebook that say things like "Tag the most beautiful girl you know" or "tag a girl that you think is adorable" I just don't know what to do anymore! How can I save our friendship?! He was not always like this. Thank you for reading! I know it was long! :(
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Hi there! Awe I'm sorry about that. It wasn't long to read and I am here for you. Something similar happened to my friend. The thing is, he likes you a lot right? Well, you have to tell him how you really feel and how you just want to be friends. And if you are really bothered by all the tags about the most beautiful girl and stuff, tell him to stop that too. Just ask him to stop flirting because you aren't interested in him. You helped him through a hard time but only because he is your friend and not because you had any feelings for him. You need to put down the law to him and if he doesn't respect that, you should talk to a teacher you trust about this. That's what my friend did. Now she and the guy crushing on her are best friends again and he doesn't flirt with her. It may seem dorky or embarrassing, but if you really want to get your friendship back, you'll need help. I really hope this works out for you! I'm here if you need to ask any more questions. Good luck!
~glasses
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do you think its alright to date someone your best friend used to? they did about 2years ago and i thought he was cute but nothing more than that because that was who my friend talked to. by the way thats how him and i met when they dated, but 2 years later. we hung out this past saturday with our frat brothers and sorors and he kept putting his hands on my waist and when we went inside he sat next to me and was talking to me the whole time. he got nervous and went outside for a while when our frat brother put him on he spot and told him to ask me out and told him why are you being shy when i haven't seen you take your eyes off her and you have been telling me how beautiful she is the whole time since she got here. i think he is sweet and i am attracted to him but is it wrong. i do no't know how to tell my best friend even though she is getting married the 1st of august this year to someone else of course laugh out loud (link)
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Hi there! Wow you're in a difficult situation. Well here's some good news for you. Your best friend is getting married to someone else that you respect and you think they are a good couple right? Well, if you think her ex/your bf and you are a good couple, she should respect that too. If you love him, you should date. Your friend wouldn't care and would be happy for you if she really was your best friend. He seems to like you and you really like him so don't let the past hold you back from a man like him. You are better off together than apart. I really hoped this helped you! Good luck! Ask me anything else if you need to.
~glasses
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I'm 16 and I got dumped a month ago and now have feelings for someone I met someone at the beginning of last school year and for some reason no matter how hard i try,I just can't get him out of my head. All year he treated me like he hated me, but I think that he really does but don't know why. He plays around with his friends and then when I enter the room he stops talking or whispers instead. We used to be best friends. Why is it that I can't get him out of my head? Is he just messing with me? or does he secretly like me? I need help (link)
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Hi there! This is a little confusing. But this boy doesn't sound like he's messing with you or secretly likes you. You said you guys use to be best friends right? I have a big feeling he feels awkward around you and then tells his friends when ever you are by them to ignore her. And probably the reason why he's in your head a lot is because you are finally noticing him after a while and your thinking about friendship. It may seem like love, but it's more of a "we need to be friends again" relationship. Don't give up hope and I hope a guy will fall head over heels for you again soon. If you need any advice, just ask me.
~glasses
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My best friend(Danielle) is sort of ignoring me. It's been a really long time since she asked me to hang out after school or on the weekend. We still talk to each other every day. We sit by each other at lunch and on the bus, but lately she has been hanging out with this girl Luisa. Luisa isn't mean or anything, but its just that since she became friends with Danielle, Danielle has been practicly worshiping her. She always needs to ask for Luisa's opinion on everything. Every weekend she's with Luisa.
Danielle has also been trying to be emo. Its sooo annoying!!! Whenever she says that she went to hot topic or when she tells me she downloaded some song from a band I never heard of she thinks she so cool. I try to tell her shes not emo but she thinks she is!
BTW: I don't want to tell her I feel left out or something and shes like my only friend sooo....??? (link)
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Hi there! I have had the same problems before. I hate to tell you this, but she wants to move on. If she wants to be emo, let her. If she was your best friend, she wouldn't have left you. She decided what she wants to be and you should too. Maybe she has been your best friend for a long time, but all friends come and go. Also, you can make new friends. Find out what other people like to do and see if you have any similarities. Trust me. It does work. Last year, I lost all of my friends because I isolated them out of my life because I was going through a hard time. When I was back to myself, I didn't have any friends. Until April, when I joined the high school color guard team. I love to spin and throw flags, riffles, and swords (the riffle and swords are plastic and not real so it doesn't hurt). I was nervous because all of the girls in my grade hated me. I felt awkward until I met Bernie. She helped me on a part of the routine we were learning at the time and we found out we had a lot in common. Today, she is my best friend and I'm friends with all of her other friends too. I miss my old friends, but if you don't let go, you will be hurting for a long time. I hope this helps and if you need any other advice, you just ask me.
~glasses
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