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My name is Erin.
I'm almost 16 [17 days!]
I love this site so much, I always ask a billion questions on advicenators and I do my best to answer as many as I can too.
Most of the time when answering questions
I give you my opinion,
then I go through different senarios [2 or 3] that are on each side of the issue
So ask away :)

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Its been awhile since me and troy my best friend have seen each other, and we made plans to hang out. We have know each other for 5 years and we have been unseperable since then; until I moved 5 moths ago to attend UC San Diego. He lives in La and he wanted to pay me a visit yesterday. He arrived early in the morning, luckily, we are getting ready for finals so we didn't have class and my room mates were gone for the weekend. When he arrived, it was weird, but it felt like it always did, i had butterflies in my stomach and when he hugged me i felt like the world had disappeared, and it was just me and him in this universe. He laughed and wanted to go inside. I showed him the apartment, went grocery shopping to make some breakfast and we hold hands, it was weird because he had a girlfriend, I tried not to think about it and I just enjoyed his company. When we arrived back we cooked, he made waffles and eggs and i made hash browns and bacon. It was the cutest thing ever. I have never felt that comfortable with him. We talked for hours and hours, and when silences would occur we would just laugh and start new conversation. Once it got late, I sighed. I didn't want him to leave, it had been a while since were together, He noticed and gave me one of his bear like hugs. I was his perfect size, my head fit perfectly under his chin, I wrapped my arms around him and he gently put his chin on the top of my head. After couple of minutes, I looked up and stared into his deep brown eyes, His eyes were full of sincerity and love, he pulled a little forward and his lips were inches away from mine. I couldn't resist and reached for his lips and gave him a tiny peck. I broke away from his arms even though I never wanted to leave his embrace. He pulled me to him once again and kissed me. he tasted so sweet, I let him search my mouth with his lips. His kiss grew passionate and before you know it we were both grasping for air. he led me to my room and we continued to make love. That morning, i woke up in his arms, I smiled at him and he reached for me. he told me he wasn't going to let go.... he left a couple of minutes ago, I miss him terribly. i don't know what to do... I need advice do you think he will leave his girlfriend to be with me? umm.. His girlfriend is my friend. I know it will hurt her a lot. But I'm hurting... am i being selfish?

even though you and troy have amazing chemistry, you have to keep in mind what he did was wrong.
It's not selfish to want him, you can't help it. But you have to be careful how you act around his girlfriend if they do break up n you and troy get together,
Needless to say you should talk to him about his girlfriend even though thats going to be hard
hope it works out, he sounds amazing

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i realized something...and i know you all will probably say just be yourself, but the thing is im not that funny or outgoing enough to be myself around new people. its very strange...if im not intimidated by someone or if i dont want to really impress them, then i can be myself and i end up being pretty funny and they like me. i can be a hit in a group pf people that , i dont wannna say it like this, but in a group of people i feel superior to...not really superior...but thats the only word i can think of. like if i feel i dont need to make a good impression, i usually do.
problem is i cant do that with everyone, especially people im nervous around, or i feel will judge me. not that i care what they think. at least i dont think i do. but idk when im with funny people that are super outgoing i tend to hang back...or i dont know what to say. i feel that whatever i say will be lame, and i dont have the courage to say it. and when i do, it ussually IS lame. i have such a hard time opening up to people that i dont know. why is that? truth is im just not that funny but i hold back a lot too and so i end up looking boring in a big group... my voice get lost in the crowd, and i usually have to repeat things twice before anyone hears me...
can anyone help me out on this with some insight. if youre outgoing, please tell me what do you do to be a success in a big group of funny people?
THANKS!!!!! =)

i tend to do the same thing,

but you have to relize about saying things infront of that other gruop of people, they say stupid things too, but you don't remeber the stupid ones, you remember the funny ones,
Babe ruth is a good example if you know baseball at all, he was the homerun king, and thats what he'll always be remembered for, but he acctually struck out more then he hit home runs
so just talk, even if u sound lame, they only remeber the funny ones

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There's this guy in my class and we were really good freidns which surprised me because i'm really anti-social and didn't think that i would make a lot of friends when I go to highschool, but i did.

And I always give him guna nd he's so nice but I ran out of money for two weeks and couldn't get gum anymore.

Then he's like "You're not my friend anymore" which REALLY hurt me!

Then I bougth him chocolate and he's like i love you again friend =]

Is it worth it? I don't know, i just don't liek it when someone doesnt' like me because i get hurt easily but he's so nice and everything. Is he a friend? or not?

he sounds like a jack ass,
do you really want to be friends with someone who just wants gum from you everyday?
have more respect for yourself, don't give him gum and if he's really your friend it shouldn't matter, he'd talk to you because not giving gum to someone isn't a big deal

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me and my friend were best-friends since we were 4. we're 13 now and since we were 9 she's been hanging around with other people at lunch time.It didn't bother me that much .She became way more popular but it was like nothing had changed outside of school.When we 1st went into 1st year in secondary school (in Ireland)and i was really happy that she starterd hanging out with me in school again.Now we're in 2nd year and we don't see each-other outside school that much and we don't hang out in school and we're only in three classes together.she still talks to me like everything is fine.She doesn't sit beside me in two of the classes unless her friends aren't there!Sheonly sometimes sits beside me in the other class but lately she hasn't even been doing that!I think she's using me but if I tell her then she might not be my friend at all.What should I do?HELP!!!P.S. I'm a thirteen year old girl.

talk to her. Fromwhat you described it sounds like she is moving on. try hanging out with her other friends, mabe than u can all hangout

hope i helped
esoccer1717
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I asked a question about this before. I was the one who was being indeed very selfish about my geeky friend who was embaressing me like hell!!! She was being very clingy and I was starting to feel embaressed about her because of her being geeky and annoying!

Well, she sat with me at lunch today. I followed someone's advice on trying to get some space because I realized I needed it!! But, how can I get space without making her upset. She's completely oblivious to me being annoyed with her!! I don't want to go out of the blue saying "You're annoying be so give me some space" She'll ask why! And then i'll have to tell her the truth! She's so annoying at lunch. I sit with cool people and she's totally butting in to all our coversations going "What?" "Who did?" ITS DRIVING ME NUTS!!!!! I've been avoiding her and I know its not right! I need further inforimation!!

omg i have the sameee problem except the girl i am dealing with NEVER talks. i would juss say to her, "some one is sitting hear sry" amd that way she can't bother u... thats what i did...

hope i helped
esoccer1717

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Hi I have this friend who went out with my ex a week after we mutully broke up. She's nice and all but I don't like how she would go out with him after I did! SHould I forgive her or not?

i had a crush on this guy HE DID NOT KNOW! well he asked one of my friends out, she dumped him n than thank to anotha friend of mine he found out i liked him, well he asked me out n said yes. she acutly took it better than i thought, she said he was a jurk and i'd be sorry, but she wasn't mad, me n him r still going out, (she movied to fL), n were still bff's, n eveything is good, moral forgive her. she might have had a crush on him while you were going out with him. so jus don't be nasty to your ex jus sorta act as if he was ur friend, i kno it sounds weaird but jus do it. its llike the only way not to make this aquard fer all of you

hope i helped
esoccer1717

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I have been in a fight with my best friend for about a week and I have no idea what to do to make us friends again. The fight was over a really stupid reason. She used to have me change her myspace because she didn't know how to do the colors or anything. Well, I haven't really looked at it in a while since she wasn't allowed to go on it anymore. She claims about a month ago she went on and fixed it the way she liked and that I changed it. So she's being seriously retarded about it and won't forgive me. So what should I do? Don't say forget about her she's an idiot (I know she is already) because I don't want to end our friendship over this.

ok i think i kno who asked this but if i'm wrong sorry. I think u should not be friends with her because she said "i'm happy ***** is moving to fl, i HATE her" than she talked shit about me. (again really sorry if this isn't who i think it is) she is a theif, caught stealing n ipod n cell phone in the locker room, n going through a teacher's purse!!!!!!

really sorry if this wasn't my friend, totallty disregard if so

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What r some good sites for quotes that are NOT about love and stuff. I'm looking for quotes about like friendship mainly, and funny or inspirational quotes. Please help, i'll give 5's for any website yu give

www.awaydoll.com

it mostly away messages but there's really funny stuff on it!

hope i helped
esoccer1717

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ok..so there was this girl and she was like my best friend all thro 8th grade...then my b/f broke up with me and she went out with him a DAY later. how horrible is that?! well..he is so mean to her and he talks so bad about me and my other friends..but she wont stick up for us..AT ALL! she sits there and laughs about it. she said she was sorry and i was like.ok..and i have forgiven her and everything but now its like evrything she does gets on my nerves i cant stand this girl. and its hard because she still thinks we are best friends and i dont know how to just tell her..Hey girl..we arent friends...i thought it would be easier to forgive her but it keeps getting harder cause she is like the fakest person in the world. idk what i should do because now we are in a huge fight and she is making it seem like its MYYY fault.and ignoring her doest work because she is good friends with another one of my best friends so its like everywhere i go with my friends she is there too..ughhh please help!

I think Somegirl is right couldn't have said it betta. But with the whole thing when your hangin and she is there sit the friend thats friends with the bitch and say "listen lets hang w/o her and you can hang with her w/o me. k? I just don't want you in the middle."

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I made the cheerleading squad this year and i love it.. but our coach said any girls that argued or talked about each other behind their baQs or caused drama were going to be kicked off the squad.. and there is a girl on the squad that is so mean to me.. she makes fun of me but says she is just pickin but it bothers me and she says rude stuff that makes me mad.. but i havent said anything to her about it because i'm afraid it will make her mad and start a fight but i'm rele tired of being treated like that... wut should i do?!?

write an anonomus note to ur coach.

hope i helped
esoccer1717

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Me & my guy friend had a fight like 2 weeks ago, then last week I called him to apologize (it was nothing big i swear...just stupid) and i don't think he was happy to hear from me. He went to out of town for a few days and just got back today and now he's leaving again tomorrow for a week and a 1/2. I havent talked to him since I've called him. He told my friend that he's not mad but he just doesn't wanna talk to me bc he's afraid then I might start to like him. I sent him a text asking him if he was still mad and he never texted me back. I need to know if I should try calling him again TONIGHT before he leaves again bc I really miss him sooo much and I don't want our friendship to be over because of this bc we've been friends for 6 yrs & have been thru soooo frikin much together! HELP PLEASE!!! WHAT SHOULD I DO???? And if I call him, what should I say to get him to listen to me? Thanks!

i say call. Leave a message if he dosen't pick up. ask whats with the cold sholder and you want to be his friend. Personally I would give this guy the finger than the cold sholder but if you like him and you think he is worth it, Go call him.

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