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Hey- i'm Emily. I love my friends and most ask for my help with various situations... so I guess i'm good at giving advice lol. I am a freshman, i love the band, and i am somewhat outgoing. Ask me anything and i'll do my best to help. :)

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i invited my friend to come down to the beach with me. everytime i invite her down, she always asks if this other girl is going to. why would she ask that if i never mentioned that other girl gong? that makes me think that she doesn't want to go down with just ME, and sometimes i can't invite 2 people. anyone know why she might be saying this?

Well maybe she wants to know if that girl is going because she doesn't like that one girl or they don't get along that much. The only way you will find out for sure though is to just ask her. Good luck- ems

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there is a girl and she does these really mean things to me and alls i do to her is be nice what should i do about her?

Obviously this means in some way she is jealous of you or wants attention from you. You should not try and do anything back just ignore her and eventually she will get the clue that you dont care. Hope I helped! Good Luck!

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I have this friend and she is so gorgeous. So many guys like her and she is always talking about how they stare at her and how so many people call her beautiful. I try to be nice, but i can't help it, i am so jealus of her. Sometimes i'll be really mean to her but i dont mean to be and i feel so bad. She's really nice to me, but but whenever i bring up a topic about myself, she'll change the subject and talk about a guy liking her. Is there any way i can stop being jealus of her and get her to listen to me? thanks in advance.

Conversation is the key to any relation. Haha anyways.. Talk to her. Tell her how you feel and why you feel that way. If you don' talk to her, this jealousy will get bigger and bigger and we don't want that.
I don't think there is a way to stop being jealous. Getting jealous is a fact of life- we all get jealous. Just remember that you shouldn't let this ruin your friendship.
Hope I helped! IREFO!

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This is pretty long and it sounds wierd but its an easy 5

Okay well you know how you hear a voice inside you head when you read. well 1 time i read this advice from someone named shrink2be and it wasnt my voice inside my head. It was one of the twins at my school. And now im thinking about them a lot and its wierd bcuase i dont have a crush on them or anything like that. My question is, is it normal and if yes, why?

Yeah it's definitelly normal. I do it sometimes lol. You usually do it when you are thinking about that person. Sometimes all you have to do is see them in the past few minutes and read and be like, Whoa. So yeah it's normal lol.
Irefo! e!

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Okay, I'll be honest here: I'm so jealous of a friend of mine. She has something that makes everybody like her in SOME way.
All the guys like her, which is one of the prime reasons I'm jealous. A guy I like always hangs around her and I think that he likes her (She knows I like him; She doesn't like him like that).
It's so frustrating, because I'll be hanging around her and then everyone will swarm around her and ignore me. It makes me feel so inferior to her, and it's come to the point where it's hard for me to hang around her anymore. What can I do? Thanks!

I have this problem to. DO NOT try to be an exact copy of her just so boys will like you. Pretty soon you will get tired of putting on the act and you feel guilty b/c he doesn't know the real you and you are being a fake.
Be yourself- someone will come along, just be as unique and independent as you can be in your own way.
You should also talk to your friend about it. If the other twqo things dont work for you, you might try asking for some tips from your friend if she has anything to say.
Ta- Ems ;)

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i just found out my best friend is pregent, she is about 5 to 6 months along and is due in january and she is going to make the kid call me aunt because we are so close, like sisters. i feel totally shocked because she is only 17 while she is gonna marry the guy, i know its gonna be hard for her, and im just not sure what to do for her right now, i just need some ideas because i am completely in shock.

Since you are so close the best you can do is be a great support system. That is what she probably needs right now. Just be there for her when she needs help. Tell her you are there for her and thats the best you can do. She probably isn't expecting you to do something huge so don't worry about it.
Ta- ems

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There is this one guy that me and him are pretty good friends. He's a year younger than me, so he just moved up to the jr/sr high school. I see him a lot now and talk to him a lot more than before. And I'm not sure why but it seems like he likes me. And the problem with that is he has a girlfriend. Earlier this week me and some other people were hanging out at a school basketball game and during his girlfriends game he came and sat in front of me to talk to me. And a lot of hims when he'd turn around he'd like put his arm or hand on my knee or leg. The other day his g.f got hurt in gym and had to leave school, he came and sat with my friends and I during lunch. And then last night at the football game (which his girlfriend was at...but they weren't hanging out that much.) it was like 50 or below degrees and I was freezing so he offered me his hoodie. And he walked to the near-by gas station with us to get coffee and stuff. So I'm just wondering do you think he likes me? Please no stupid anwsers I just want to know what other people think. Thanks

Yes he likes you! And he really likes your attention to...but the problem is he has a gf. (uh-oh)

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I have a friend and i count her as my best friend but i dont no if im her best friend she doesent tell wat do i do

When you are best friends with someone, you just know it alreday in your heart. I know that sounds cheesy but it is SO the truth. No words need to be said, because if you really are bff's then you should know it in your heart.

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My Best Friend ( Katie ) just met this other girl. I totally don`t mind her hangin out with other people, but this girl does drugs and things like that. Katie is startign to hang out with Lauren more and more cause they both like the same "punk" music and they love doing goth-like things ( i dont like lables but thats just how they put it ) I`m more of the preppy, country music, shopping, french manicure type girl. Is it time for me and Katie to move on since were different? Or should I stay and watch her get herself into trouble and fight to keep her.

- need help please.

Talk to your friend. Tell her you care about her and you don't want to see her get hurt- ever. Tell her you will always be there for here no matter what and that you feel you are drifting apart. What did you do before that kept you so close together? Was it shopping- going skateboarding...? Ask her if she can hang out and you guys can do whatever it was.
Hope I Helped!
XxEmsterxX

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I have a friend who is verbally and physically abusive. She called me and my other friend a**holes for stupid reasons, and she just us both (hard!). She's been doing little things like that forever, like calling me an idiot or stupid, and maybe hitting me a few times. I could deal with that, but now she's gone way too far. I know that's not how a friend is supposed to act. She doesn't seem to know that her behavior is mean and immature.

I'm avoiding her, but I know I can't do that forever. What should I do?

Just tell her she is hurting you and she isn't acting like a friend is supposed to act. If she really cares about you as a friend then she might stop. She is probably just doing it because she thinks she can get away with it. If not do your best to stay away from her> If it's completely unavoidable then tell a parent, a counselor, SOMEONE who can stop her.
Hope I helped
*emster*

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OK I've tried everything I possibly could to fix this friendship but I can't. She's impossible!! She even signed on to my crush's xanga and left me a note telling me he liked me when it was really her. How do I rekindle this friendship? No smartass answers. I rate 5's!

Ok. A true friend is someone who you can depend upon, who you can get along with, and a person who you can trust.
You can not trust her ot depend on her obviously..she even lied to you. you yourslef called her a bad friend. Apparently there is no fixing this friendship. You can try but she wont be a real friend.
*emster*

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ok i have a friend name aurora. she's bin really sad alot latly. the reason why is that she barly has any friends. well i've tried getting her out into like really socil public places where she's likely to make some really good friends. but she keeps on my offer. and she is being too stuborn her self. ok here is my question. How the hell can i help her out if she wont listen to me?

Try being a good friend to her at moment. Maybe what she needs is some support instead of a new crowd to hang around with. She will most likely make friends in time. At the moment, just be the good friend you can be. Many people have trouble making friends and only have a few.
*emster*

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I don't have much time in my crazy schedule and my boyfriend and have gotten really close lately and hang out all the time... my friends are getting annoyed and are saying that i don't spend enough time with them. i try really hard to do things with them, but it seems that i can never fit everyone in.. i want to stay close to my boyfriend but i don't want to lose my friends either.. comment please!

There is this thing called Group Date. Yea it is very common. lol you can try that. You can also try telling your bf that your friends want to see you more and you can see your friends at the mall one day, go to the movies with your boy the next. Your bf will probably understand. Or as I said there is group dating where you can all go with your bf, your friends and your friends bfs to the mall or whatever.
Give it a try.. hope i helped =)
*emster*

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Okay. There are three lunch periods at my school, lunch a, lunch b, and lunch c. Well I have two best friends, Kim and Megan. Well Kim has lunch a, Megan has b, and I have c. We all had c last year together. Its a big deal who you sit with because the lunch table you sit at you pretty much stay at. The thing is, there arent any people I know that I can stand enough to sit with everyday. Dont just tell me to go up to people I dont know that well and sit with them. Any suggestions for getting my counseler to let me switch lunches? Any other solutions? Oh and there are about 2000 kids in my school. I was new last year so I dont know anyone I didnt meet last year which wasnt that many people. any help would be great

Try explaining your situation to your counselor. He might turn out to be merciful! Even though you don't want to, making friends might end up being your only alternative. Give it a try. You could also ask Kim and/or Megan if they know anyone nice who is in the same lunch with you. You could try sitting with the people they tell you about.
Sorry so short, but I hope I helped a little!
*emster*

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I have this friend. We are like best of friends and we chill every other day or talk on the fone.
okay and she used to be friends with J. J and her used to be like how we are now. Js kind of a whore like meeting internet ppl, making out with strangers, flashing ppl and dressing like one. So we both hate J and my friend hangs out with her everytime shes pissed at me or just to get her to stop calling her. Now shes been with her for 3 damn days in a row. So I called her and she wont answer and its making me mad.
Should I trust that she doesnt talk crap about me like we do J or what should I do? Is there a way to be in touch w/o her knowing its me and getting her to answer?

Try doing the old way before mail or email. Go ring the doorbell. Try talking to her that way. Tell her how you feel. It sounds like she is talkign behind your back so maybe you need to find a new best friend.

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I have this bf who can't stand my bff (who is a guy) and my bf can't really stand my bff either. What do i do!? They both practcally hate e/o and my bff thinks my bf isnt a great bf... does that make any sense?

If your bff thinks your bf is not a good boyfriend he probably has feelings for you. If not you might want to take his words into mind.
Who says they have to liek e/o... they mainly need to just like YOU...

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