To make sure you don't ruin your friendships with either this girl or her boyfriend, don't tell her anything that will make her break up with him. It sounds like she really does like you, so drop a SMALL hint. (By small, I don't mean outright flirting, because if her guy finds out you're in the doghouse...Stare at her across the room, and keep looking after you make eye contact. It's things like that that really get me, trust me, she'll love it. Also, there's no proof that you were flirting, so you can't get in trouble with your guy friend.) Stay friends with both of them, and keep dropping subtle hints to the girl. Don't get in the middle of their relationship, but eventually they will break up. After that happens, you can be the rebound man ;) Seriously, though, if you're by her side for the breakup, and talk it out, she'll love you. Stay sensitive to her needs, and don't sabotage your friendship with anyone else just for her. Good luck-hope I helped!

I think that the reason people at B don't want to be your friend is because you are still stuck in A! You think about your friends, your house, your dreams, and your life in A, without realizing that there's all that stuff in B too. I know what it is like to want something that you can't have-you feel helpless and horrible. But, you need to let go. Don't try to make friends with all of the people who remind you of A. Don't be the same person! Become more generous, funny, crazy, chocoholic, anything! You're in a new place, so start your new life. Pick something to do (like a sport or an after-school activity) that you never would have done in A. It can be so stressful to start over, but maybe it was just what you needed. Try as hard as you can to be friendly. Branch out to people who you wouldn't normally hang out with. Save your depression for the night, and during the day have as much fun as humanly possible! Flirt and hang out and never forget to laugh. Keep in touch with all of your friends from A. If you're still seriously missing A, have a serious talk with your parents. They need to understand what a big toll this is taking on your life. Good luck!

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The same thing happened to me. One of my best friends is a guy, and I like him, and he likes me, but he has a girlfriend. Half the time he's all over me and tells me I'm beautiful and stuff, and the other half he's showing me pictures of his girlfriend and staying away from me. This is a confusing situation, and it can be horrible for you. The best thing to do is try to hang out with him as friends. Whatever you do, don't lead him on or anything like that. Don't go past hugging. Your friend needs to know that you care about him, but you respect his relationship. Hang out as friends, fantasize about him, and act like you like him but you're not interested in a relationship right now. It can be hard to tell how he feels because you are such close friends, but hang in there. When they break up he's all yours! :) Good luck!

I have the same problems with my friends! I love acting and writing (songs, poems, stories, etc.) Some of my friends say stuff like that to me and it really hurts. My friends that are like that are the friends I don't show my work to. When they say something that hurts me I just say something like: "You might think it's stupid but it's important to me" then I change the subject. Some people don't understand the value of art. You have to figure out which friends truly understand you, understand your work, and think it's cool. It doesn't mean that you have to stop hanging out with your friends who "don't get it." When you hang out with those friends just watch TV, shop, go online, talk, or do anything else that they like to do. The way you'll have the most fun is to save your important work for the people that it's important to.

This is a tough situation. You can't control your friend, and if your friend doesn't want to eat healthier or be active, that's her problem. It sounds like you care about your weight, so start eating healthier. When you're at her house and she offers you a snack, be like, "Yeah, do you have any apples?" Show her that it can be fun to bike or play sports. If she's still stubborn, put up with it. Stick to your new healthy lifestyle, and once you get some results, your friend will see it's good to be active. Good luck!

Your friend is trying to protect you from getting a reputation as a slut or a flirt or a ho, which is good. It means that she cares about you, and that you are so close. My friends think I'm a major slut, which is a little true but it's not as big a deal as they tell guys it is. Take your friend aside one day and say: "When you tell guys that I'm a flirt, it really hurts me and damages my rep. I know you're just trying to be a good friend, but please lay off." Try to stop flirting when you're around her, and hopefully she'll stop being so embarrassing.

The same exact thing happened to me at camp! My best friend was a guy who I liked from even before we were friends. The thing is, he had a girlfriend at home and the farthest we got was hugging. If he is really your close friend, tell him honestly how you're having guy problems right now and would prefer not to hear about his girlfriend. If he asks you to tell him, just say you don't want to talk about it. Once he cools down a little bit on the whole girlfriend thing, call him and tell him you want to hang out "just the 2 of us." Then don't make any moves or anything, but keep dropping subtle hints like that. Good luck!

Good for you for trying to be a good friend, but this is really your friend's fault. You did the best you could, but he has already taken it. Call him now and talk to him. Ask him if he's ok and tell him how strongly you feel about this. Tell him you care about him and you don't want him to suffer. Say you'll always be there for him if he needs anything, and no matter what, BE FIRM. You have to show him how he's harming himself, and that he needs to stop. If you find out that he does it again, tell your parents, his parents, a counselor, a teacher, the school nurse, etc. For the time being you didn't do anything wrong, but keeping this problem a secret is very wrong because it is hurting your friend.

The sad truth is that guys can be jackasses. Sometimes, guys will randomly want to ruin your reputation or make your life hell, just for fun. But, if this guy is your best friend, this is probably not the case. Maybe this guy wants to "bang you," and he told his friends that and it got lost in the translation. Also, there is the possibility that he wanted to look cool by claiming to bang someone, and it was more believable to use you, who spends a lot of time with him, than some random girl. Ask your friend why he did it. Maybe he didn't mean to hurt you, or maybe there's a good reason why he did it. Maybe one of the guys he told is a creep and likes you, and your friend was trying to discourage him from doing anything to you. You have a right to be mad, but make sure you get all the facts before you do.

Did anything happen that would make her mad at you? Was it sudden, or did you just grow apart? Making the transition in middle school can be tough-all of a sudden there's lots of new classes, new teachers, and unfortunately, new friends. Ask some of her other friends if she badmouths you, or thinks about you, or what. Maybe your problem isn't as big as you think it is. Try talking to her and apologizing for whatever you did. Say you miss her and value her friendship, and you want her back. If all of this doesn't work, try talking to your mom. Moms are amazingly good at this kind of stuff. Good luck!

It's good that you respect this girl and don't want to break her up with her boyfriend. If you did that, she would find out it was you and hate you forever. Here's what you have to do: Get close to her. Respect her, and talk to her as a friend. Whatever you do, don't flirt with her, don't let her think you might be thinking about flirting with her, don't do anything past hugging. (And if you're really young, don't even hug her.) Talk to her, listen to what she has to say, and show her a piece of the real you. Don't get her to like you because you're hot, just hang out with her. When she does break up with her boyfriend, you will be her shoulder to cry on, and her friend, which will be what she needs. Then you can make your move when the time is right.

Hey! I'm Elana. I'm 14 years old and I'm always available if you need anything. Even if you think it's a stupid question, feel free to ask...Hope to hear from you soon!!

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