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If this really bad-ass kid named Ryan Zmuda is coming back to GA on October 28, how bad-ass of a party would be thrown for him? (link)
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Um on a scale of 1-10 probably a -3... jk.
Ryan Zmuda is SO badass that in fact, he would be given a huge party that will be badass x 14. If I were Ryan Z I would have to say that I was a pretty lucky guy for getting such a badass party thrown in my honor. :)
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im a little bit mad , and confused . my ex bf who supposedly wants to get back together hasn't called me in ... 3 days and we've been talking everyday for the past 2 weeks or so . what we have is kind of a long distance thing , he lives 45 minutes away ... so ugh idk why he hasnt called me . im confused and haven't slept . so i guess the question is .. why hasn't he called? (link)
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Ok. That's a really hard one for me to answer. I am not your exboyfriend, therefore I have no idea why he hasn't called. Maybe he has been busy. Or grounded. Or out of town. Who knows? If you wanted to find out, you can always pick up the phone and call him. He could just be waiting for you. If you too are going to get back together, you are going to have to put in some effort also. This means that he shouldn't be the one who ALWAYS has to call. Despite what many people beleive, girls CAN call boys.
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what is the TripleG Club..?? (link)
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good question. IM me to find out. xoxicedteexox
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tara...
how can you tell if people don't want to be around you, if they're too nice to tell yo uto your face? (link)
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i'm sure that people want to be around you! don't worry! the only reason they wouldn't want to be around you is if you were sick and super-contagious and if they got within 100 feet of you they would get sick too. or, of course, if you're being a b****. because i bet you wouldn't want to stick around one of them either. besides, if they were too nice to tell you, then remember that they can always act on their feelings rather than verbalize them. actions speak louder than words. so, they would stop calling. or stop hanging out with you. i bet they love you and you're just being paranoid. don't worry about it :)
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hey tara!
ok so i have this friend who has this amazing boyfriend, except he doesnt like live in the same area as her. and she's always worried about whether or not he's going to find someone else, but i just keep telling her to stop worrying about it, but then she sees these guys and hangs out with this one guy who she is always like "hes so hot blah blah blah" or something....like i dont get what is going through her head, but she has a boyfriend, and she thinks that since he doesnt see her hanging out or talking with these other guys, then it doesnt matter. but then she's worried about him and whether or not he's hanging out with other girls. should i tell her boyfriend? what do i do?
thanks,
confused :-/ (link)
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dear confused,
don't tell her boyfriend. that will end up in both your friend and your friend's boyfriend disliking you. and you don't want that. instead have a serious talk with your friend. be like, "listen, i know it's none of my business abotu the decisions your making, but i need to tell you that what you're doing isn't right. it's not fair to your boyfriend, who has no clue. and then you wander if he is doing the same to you. if you're not ready to handle a long-distance relationship and be completely faithful, then you shouldn't be going out with him." see if that hits the nail on the head. if not, make sure to warn her of all of the things that can happen if and when her boyfriend finds out shes not being loyal. if that still doesnt work, there's nothing you can do. she's making a mistake, and she's gonna learn from it eventually. and if she wants to do it on her own, your work is done.
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ok.. there is this guy tht i like and i think he likes me to but he wont admit it. i dont kno what to do... do i ask him if he likes me? or do i ask him to go on a walk and get him around me to see how i am.. but the theing is tht he goes to my school and he knows me i kno he does... wht should i do?
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you should talk to him. and ask him if he feels something for you, or if your just wasting your time. if he doesnt like you, thats ok, you can move onto other prospects. but ask him, or your going to spend forever obsessing and wondering, and tahts just not healthy for you. so go for it, dont be afraid~
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Tara,
I have this friend and she has done EVERYTHING with her bf except have SEX. and Prom came up so idk of she did or not, i mean hes an ass to her and he has her so whipped! and when im around her at school and shes with him she totally ignores me and anyone else she is with and its annoying and it really hurts my feelings. and i am scared she is gunna get hurt by this jerk too. they have been dating since october i mean he seems to like her alot but idk maybe im jelous and i miss my friend!?! I never talk to her on the weekends and stuff anymore and i really miss her not being bitchy all the time!!!
HELP ME PLEASE!!! :(
x3 Missing my friend (link)
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you need to have a DEEP talk with your friend. we are talking so deep that you need to dive to the ocean floor. but start out where you would always start out, on the beach. which would be walking or hanging out with her. then put your foot into the water. say something like you know i really miss you and you havnt been the same lately. i was wondering if we could have a talk? if shes really your GREAT friend she will listen. thats when you start wading out of shallow water into the deeper waters. and pretty soon you two will be talking. make sure you tell her exaclty how you are feeling. tell her your hurt. make sure you give her valid reasons. DO NOT accuse her of ignoring you, because that is not a positive thing for your already suffering friendship. also, gently let her know that you are concerned about her safety and getting pregnant. let her know that if she IS thinking about having sex, to at least have protection. and let her know that no matter what happens and how bad things get, you will always be right there by her side.
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hi tara!
ok so im in the middle of a huge disaster with one of my friends. shes been my best friend for a really long time and we've always gotten in fights but have alwyas got over them. this time it was really bad becuase one of my other friends who absolutely hates me best friend decided she wanted to bitch her out online because my friend thought she was stadning up for me. i couldnt stop my friend from doing it and i really didnt want her to but she did neways and so my best friend got really mad and has been telling me she doesnt want to be friends anymore because of what my other friend did. i hate it becuase i want to stay friends with my best friend more than anything and im trying as hard as i can to fix things but shes so stubborn that she doesnt want to make up and try to make it work. im really frsutrated and i need a way for us to become friends again becuase its really upsetting that were in this huge fight. please help (link)
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yikes. your other best friend who bitched out your best friend online sounds a lot like me. i would do something like that. but, lesson learned the hard way - it's not cool... at all. you need to talk to her and tell her that she was wrong for yelling at your other best friend and while you appreciate her loyalty and sticking up for you, this is a fight you have to deal with on your own. she was wrong, but your other best friend shouldnt just stop being friends with you. i mean, its not like you ASKED your friend to yell at her, and its definitely not like you wanted anything to happen. tell your friend that your sorry for what she did and that you still want to be friends. tell her you didnt want your friend to mean to her. apologize first and be the better person. if she doesnt accept, then it becomes HER problem. you did what you could and you were willing to make the friendship work again. if she is too proud to see that, then she has issues.
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this girl that says im her best friend always talks about my other friends behind their back, so i tell them because i dont think its right for her to do that. The other day she was talking about one of my friends named danielle, and so i told danielle this weekend and dnaielle said that my suppose to best friend called me a spoiled brat and a bitch and said that she doesnt hang out wtih me that much because i act stuck up .. but she is always calling me. I talked to the best friend and she siad she didnt say that, but how do i know because she always talks about everyone else to me. What should i do? i rate high!! (link)
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to give you an honest answer, i would ditch this girl. i know it would be hard to just stop being friends with her because shes your best friend. and you don't have to ignore her completely and stop talking to her. just, stop confiding in her. because she is obviously too immature to handle a best friendship. best friends NEVER talk smack about eachother behind their backs. EVER. i believe that everyone deserves a chance to be beleived, so give her the benefit of the doubt this time. maybe she didnt really say those things about you. but if it happens again, you know its time to move on. this friendship is fake. it has no SUBSTANCE. no TRUST or LOYALTY or TRUTH. thats what you want in a best friend. and they're hard to find, beleive me. but when you do find them, its out of this world, and you know they will never intentionally put you down behind your back.
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tara, since you're so intelligent and all, i need advice. i have this FRIEND...and "shes" has monsterous legs. would it be wise to tell her that her tree trunk legs need lypho? or would that not be a smart thing, cuzs they really are getting out of hand! (link)
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matt.. i could really kill you!!! :-D
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omg there are these kids named carl and erich and everyday @ track along w/ douche kyle lol the push me down n make fun of me n i cry... should i beat them up????? or wut.... lol love track grl ;) (link)
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haha beat em up ash beat em up! erich and carl are two kids who need to be put in their place! lol love you track grl
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my friend is all mad at me n i dont kno what i did . she left me all knids of messages on the computer. shes a really good friend n i dont want us to get even worse n not talk to each other. i need ur help!!
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well.. think about it. could you possibly have said or done anything to make her upset? even if it wasnt intended? you may have said something without realizing you upset your friend. if thats the case, ask her what you said or did, and apologize. tell her you didnt realize you had upset her. what kind of messages is she leaving? are they mean messages? do they tell you what you did wrong and why EXACTLY she is mad/ if not, then she is miscommunicating also. ask her why she is mad. let her know that she needs to tell you up front WHAT is making her mad so that you can work it out. her method is slighty immature. let her know that she can come to you if she is ever upset or angry. it's much easier when you work it out without jumping to conclusions and becoming angry first. and its much easier to keep a friendship. ive been in similar situations and ive learned that talking it out is MUCH better than negative confrontation. it gets you nowhere. good luck with your friend.
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Hey Tara...i have a question for you...what do you do when your "best friend" has pushed you too far? i mean...my "best friend" and i have known each other for as long as i can remember...and starting about 4th grade our friendship has kind of been off and on. last year and this year we have been back on and i was thinking...ya know...maybe it'll last this time...but nope...i invited her to come on spring break with me months ago. and then...i asked her yesterday if she was allowed to...and she said "no i dont think my mom will let me" then she writes in her xanga that shes going somewhere else with someone else...i dunno what the heck to do anymore! blah i just wanna scream...should i talk to her...forgive her...or just quit being a friend?
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what did she do to "push you too far?" i dont understand that. ok so if your friendship is on-again-off-again.. well thats not really a best-friend type of friendship. maybe she didnt think it was official when you asked her so many months in advance. and when she was asked by another friend, she agreed. she probably said her mom wouldnt let her because she needed time to think about how to break the news to you. i mean, she probably had already agreed to another friend. i would talk to her. tell her how you feel. i wouldn't quit being her friend because it's kind of a silly matter to quit being someones friend over. i mean, "you won't come to spring break with me so i won't be your friend anymore." sounds kind of juvenile and elementary school, doesn't it?
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what happens when you find yourself flirting with the guy your "best friend" has a crush on? not as if you like him that way or anything, you just want to see what happens? (aka not like you'd ever go out with him. you just want to see if you're likeable) (link)
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uh oh. BIG uh oh. that's what happens. ever watch those cartoons where a giant anvil comes dropping out of the sky and hits someone? and you hear the noise getting louder and louder as it happens? well.. your on the track to that happening. and you need to get onto a different track ASAP. it's never ok to like the same guy as your best friend. i repeat, NEVER. you claim you don't like him, so ok, that's cool. you still can't flirt with him. it's just wrong. you wouldnt be a true best friend, and true best friends never flirt with their best friends guy. EVER. and what do u mean you want to see if your likeable? of course you are! everyone is likeable by someone. and if you want to see if your likeable.. you have millions of other guys to flirt with. so stop flirting with this one.. and go get the next one.
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okay well two of my best friends who ive been really close with a while all of a sudden have been ditching me a ton. we used to hang out with eachother like all the time but lately theyve been going and hanging out with this other group and its been pissing me off cuz i feel like were falling apart i guess? i mean i have a ton of other awesome friends i can hang out with but i just really miss hanging out with them bc we rly used to be close. what should i do to get them back? (link)
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yuck. i know how that feels. you need to talk to your friends. have a discussion, but don't fight. tell them what you told me, and that its bothering you and you dont want to lose them. and keep in mind that it takes two to have a friendship. they might be ditching you to hang out with other friends.. but have you ever ditched them??
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okay....heres the deal, i got into a fight with one of my friends, like the biggest fight u can possibly get into with a friend and we apologized and everything but she just keeps going to my one friend and just talks crap about me to her and she agrees with her! im just like do i have ne real friends? my question for u is this....what should i do about them b/c i have confronted them about this several times but it just does not seem to be working! (link)
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ok this fight of yours.. was it a MAJOR fight or was it something that you both blew totally out of proportion.. it depends on what it was ABOUT. was it your fault? hers? both of your faults? that needs to be determined..what she is doing is wrong.. she shouldnt be going and talking smack about you to other friends.. and that other "friend" shouldnt be agreeing.. and you confronted them about it yet they didnt listen? my advice to you? dump them, my friend. because they are so not worth it and not true friends..
don't be upset though, because I'M still your friend ;-)
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How come you hate SF!?
Just kidding Tara, you silly.
Erich. (link)
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haha erich.. you're quite the jokester.. idk why i hate SF.. is it maybe because of everything he has ever done?! ;-)
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okay so me and my "friend" got into this huge fight and we just now have been talking about it and have come to an agrement: to be school friends and let it flow over. at the time it sounded like a good idea but now im kinda like i dont want to even talk to her or be "school" friends with her. and we have this friend thats kinda stuck in the middle but she was never a true friend to me either and now i dont really want her in my life so my question is what do i do? i dont want to hurt them but there are my feelings to consider to! (link)
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first off.. what the heck is a "school friend"?? do you have "out of school friends" and "house friends" and "weekend friends" and stuff like that??? i've never put my friends into categories like that.
if you don't want to talk to your friend over a silly fight then that's your decision.. but i think a small argument is hardly a reason to stop being friends. regardless of how close or not close you two were. if you don't want to be friends with them then why do you care about hurting their feelings? if they are of absolutely no importance to you then why worry right?
i think you all should take a deep breath, cool off, and give your friendship another shot. fights happen so often, and theyr not worth losing a friend over.
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one day i didnt have any lunch money and i knew this one girl did cause she always does but when i asked her if i could borrow a dollar ( i even offered to pay her back double the next day) she said no...so i stole it,shame on me, i no,i paid her back the next day though,and (i dont no when this part actually happened...)but now my other "friend" had some money stolen from her purse and since they knew about what i did they are blaming it on me,i know i didnt do it, and i told them that i dint but they say they dont believe me and they cant trust me anymore,it really hurts, the girl i originally took a dollar from i didnt like anyways but the one that has money missing was my friend so its not like i wouldnt tell her about it even if i did(which once again i didnt)and they dont believe me,now were not even talking since they cant trust me,which means i obviously cant trust them anymore then...kinda getting long,so ill sum it up,Please Help (link)
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well.. i can see why your friend wouldnt trust you. stealing is stealing, no buts about it. have you ever heard the story of the little boy who cried wolf? well, in case you havnt, let me fill you in. there was a boy and every day he cried that he saw a wolf, and every day they village people came to his rescue, and he would laugh and laugh because there really was no wolf. well one day, the little boy saw a wolf. he cried to the villagers, but they didnt listen to him because they thought he was lying. so the boy was never seen again. see how it kind of relates to you? you stole once, people are gonna think you did it again, even if you DID pay your friend back. you made a mistake and now i guess you have to pay for it
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Hey, I used to be really good friends with this one girl, wont say her name. we could tell each other everything and anything. but then just the last few monts shes started acting like she's too good for me and my other friends, that she was also friends with. it just seems like she only talks to us when she wants something, be it attension or something like money for lunch. its making me sad how we're drifting apart. we've tried talking to her but she doesnt see what she's doing...what should i do now? (link)
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what exactly is she "doing" that she doesnt see shes doing? maybe you should try talking to her again. the first time you may not have been clear enough and maybe she didnt get the message. how does she act like shes too good for you? just because she hangs out with other people too? maybe your a little bit jealous that she has other friends also. and she IS free to make her own choices, even if they are not the best ones. so try talking to her again, and see what happens.
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