I recently sent a few friends the link to this site. Since then I haven't heard from any of them and wondered what I had done to upset them. I can see they are on IM but they never answer. I go to a chatplace we all use and no ones talking. I came here to ask advice and now I find they have all joined and are busily handing out advice like it's on buy one get one free.
I have once again tried to talk to them to ask what's going on but I am still not getting any replies.
I am very concerned they have become addicted to being Agony Aunts/Uncles, and do worry that this may lead to them neglecting not only their friends but also their work and families.
I will feel really guilty if any of them end up getting fired from work for slacking off and then lose their house beacuse they can't make the repayments because they may then end up getting divorced and they won't be able to make the maintenance payments either and will probably end up living in a cardboardbox on the streets.
Am I a bad person for sending them the link in the first place? And how can I help them break this addiction before it goes too far?
Usually after going to a place all the time it gets kind of boring, they might go away from it and them come back. Just remind them that they have other stuff to do and keep them aware of that.
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well i have this guy friend that i talk to right but it the thing is the is like in his 20 and i really like him. and i can tell that he likes me...the bad thing is that i have boyfriend and i dont want to tell this guy that because he will be heartbroken... i mean he really wants me to go see him like everyweekend i have no clue what to say to him. god i really need up with this one... i really want him what should i do...PLZ HELP???
Go hang out with him but break it down to him easily that you have a boyfriend, like drop hints at first, and later if he says something about what he does or used to do with one of his ex's then be like "oh me and my boyfriend do that all the time" or something, that way you're implying that you already thought that he knew you had a boyfriend, etc.
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Ok I have this friend and I thought she was ok until recently I was dumped by my boyfriend and now she flirts with him like hell the other day he was saying how much he hates her so he doesn't even like her but is trying to make me jelious and I'm sick of it because I'm not over being dumped and she's saying stuff like oh he's flirting with me now and keeps trying to hold his hand should I ditch her because she's really getting me down she's keps going on about him 24/7 some friend she is I'm really gutted but have just kept it all in me and not said a word but I'm really upset about it but can't even cry because my feelings are so deep inside of me please if you can help me if you can't then ok
Tell her how you feel, and if she keeps it up then stop talking to her for like a week or so, she'll come around to realising that you're upset at the fact that shes doing that, and hopefully she'll learn to stop from it.
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Okay my friend is kind of lets say gothic... everyone picks on him at school and sometimes they get down right cruel. He has rocks, footballs, popcans(full),anything they can find thrown at him. He is also now afraid the go to school because of everything that goes on. Well anyways I was talking to him tonight and he told me that he almost lit a house on fire and he is thinking about homicide.. to the kids that are mean to him.. should I tell someone so no one is hurt... but then wouldn't he get mad at me.. I dont want him to get sent away cuz all his mom has left is him.. but wouldnt it be wrong not to tell anyone and have someone get killed.. plz help and fast before he does anything stupid.. thanks
Try and help him out, when people do stuff to him try and stop them, let him see that hes a good person and he shouldnt throw it all away by ruining it on killing someone who is shitty enough to do that shit to him
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i have a friend lets call her janis. janis has been acting really strangley lately. like leaving me out of our three person group by talking about classes she has with the other person so i cant really say anything, judging everything i say, constantly talking about things like global warming and other things like that to sound smart. I always thought she was smart so she doesnt need to do that kind of thing. the other day she even said something about mt.kilamanjaro but spelled it kilamanjari and i corrected her and she said she typed it that way just to see if i would catch it. i have another best friend jared and he was an old boyfriend of janis last year, she never acted like she was that hurt that he dumped her until now where now she acts like he killed her mother. anyway when she said that thing about kilmanjaro (sorry this is really hard to follow )was online and after she said that i told her she wasnt acting like the old janis and signed off. now she won't even look at me. what should I do? I want my old friend back....:-)
Tell her what you ment by it and why you feel the way you do, tell her shes changing and its not necessarily for the better, tell her you just want her back the way she used to be
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Okay...my friend who is 13. Recently just went oit and got hammered..on whisky. and its not like this is his first time either. He is my best friend..and yeah i kinda like him. He said a lot of things when he was drunk..but i wouldnt know because i got up at 2:30 am and walked alone, all the way home..and he just stuck his head out the door and said :make it home safe: well..my step sister said that she mothered him the whole night. he drank half a bottle of whiskey. He said that he wanted to fuck me, that i was going to be so pissed at him..a lot of shit.
Should i beleive anything he says? he keeps on apologizing to me..
well my question is, how do i tell him that im really dissapointed in him without making him feel shittier then he already feels?
Tell him to stop apologizing it's okay, but it really did disappoint you... that shouldnt make him feel bad, if you tell him its okay
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Okay, I have this friend, and he's a boy, I'm a girl. I just want to be good friends, but I know (well I guess I don't really know, but I strongly think)that he wants to be more than just friends. And I can't take that. I mean, what would happen if he asked me out and I'd have to say no? What would that do to our friendship....? Do you think I'm leading him on my being his friend? Please, I need help!
Well if he does ask you out or hints to you about it or something then tell him that you arent really ready for a relationship right now, (although you may be) and that you're sorry but you really just want to be friends and nothing more and you dont want to hurt him by saying that but you'd rather stay really good friends.. If he cares about you he will accept that fact that you want to be friends and nothing else, and he will be content with that.
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Okay, well, there's a guy I know from MSN who I've been talking to for about a year now, friend of a friend, never met him in person. Last year we mentioned that it might be interesting to actually meet, though he did think that it might be a little awkward, but twice our plans got screwed up one way or another so we just dropped the subject. I didn't speak to him all summer because his computer broke down, and when he came back on I thought maybe I'd mention our idea again. He said he thought it might still be weird, but I said we should give it a try anyway because there was nothing to lose. He agreed and even suggested a place we could meet. A few weeks later, on a Friday, I said how about Sunday and he said yes, but we didn't decide on a time or anything, and come Sunday I didn't see him online until the late afternoon and he didn't even bring up our half-made plans. Anyway, the point of all this is that I really don't know what to do, whether I should keep trying or not. I really want to meet him because I like his personality but for all I know he finds me annoying. I don't know whether to let it go for another while so as not to seem desperate, or if I should just confront him and ask him to just tell me whether he wants to meet me or not so I can go from there. I really don't want to sound pushy. Sorry this was so long, but any advice would help. Thanks.
Ask him if he really wants to meet you honestly and if he doesnt then ask him what he honestly thinks about you, if he doesnt seem interested it would probably be best to move on and find someone else
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see i like this boy but hekinda likes this other girl so what do i do???
Be yourself and try and talk to him and let him get to know you, or maybe tell him you like him and see if that helps anything
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theres this kidd i was friends w/ for like 6 months i have sooo many memories w/ him n i think i was starting to like him n now he told this girl that were ex best friends wtf is that so i imed him about it n he was like were to different i dont think we should tlak anymore n i cried soo much over him n i just cant get over him everything reminds me of him please give me a way to talk to him get him backk!! i need him there for mee
Well if he doesnt want to admit to being your friend then he probably isnt worth your time, but try and talk to him about it, ask him why he doesnt want to be friends anymore and how you're different now then you were and, if thats the real reason...
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This is kinda a weird question. Im in 8th grade. I have good friends everything I'd want. But something feels really wrong like this isn't my life. Im not the kinda person that just stays in one spot. I want to travel the world and meet new people. But I can't. Right now Im saving up money to go on a mission trip but I know I wont ever have enough in time to go. I've never been on one and I really wana go. Will someone please help me!
Save up for one for next year, like keep your schedule open for next year so you know when to be free so you can go on the trip
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ok well i had a bestfriend that i did everything wiid..i spent lyk a week wiid her cuz of 4th of July she was tha only gurl that understud me..n`d everything..but my one friend told her i talked bout her n`d everything..i never did tho..alot my guys lyked her n`d made me a lil mad sometimes but thats it..i saw her at tha fair lyk everyday but never said nething to her..i lyk miss her alot hope u can help me*
Liz
Call her and explain to her what really happened and what you really said, and tell her that you miss hanging out with her
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okay, my best guy friend has this gf, theyve been goin out on and off for like almost 2 years now....me and her have ALWAYS been sooo kool with eachother, like i usta hhellaa like her n stuff...but they like ALWAYS fight and she could be tha biggest bitch to him...ive never said anything to her about it like stuck up for my best guy friend cause his gf was being a bitch to him...so ive had all this anger built up inside of me against her cause she can be so rude to him...so neway acouple nights ago me and my best [girl] friend got drunk and my other best guy friend was there...and they were fighting on tha phone so i got on tha phone and said with some aditute..listen do u even know how MUCH he LOVES u..i sware he would like die for u...and i said allllllllllllll this good stuff but with some aditute cause she was pissing me off..then she got back on tha phone with him and she kept argueing, and i was really drunk and i was like yelling out fuck that n stuff..and then she was saying some stuff then i got hella mad and started going off on her....and now we arent kool nemore...he says shes scared but i dunno whut to do. i mean hes like my BROTHER weve been best friends for sooo long he loves her so much and shows it and shes just a plain BITCH to him...whut do i do??/
Make him realize how she treats him, show him that he can do better and that there are plenty more people out there for him
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I have a big problem. Its this boy that i know but he is my friend though but i like him as more than a friend. But when we are talkin on the phone its like were boy friend and girlfriend.I had went out with him b 4 we b came friends then i ask him would he ever cheat on a girl and he said yes. So should i go back with him?
If you want to take the risk of getting cheated on then sure go back out with him... but it would probably be alot easier just to be friends or friends with benefits
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Hi my name is Jess i have this really really close guy friend who has been my friend since 1st grade now he has a g/f and i dont like him but for some reason i feel jealous. Could anyone tell me y im jealous?
Maybe you feel that you dont want his girlfriend to steal him away from you so you guys dont hang out anymore or something
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theres this boy who i used to really really like for like 3 years. i never told him and during the summer i just kinda gave up. when i saw him at orientation i had no feelings wutsoever and i was so happy that i finally got over him. then when he was leaving i had this really wierd feeling. i kno i dont like him anymore but i wanna be good friends and i want him to touch me but not like nasty just hold me and stuff. i dont want friends with benefits or anything i just want him to hold me sumtimes and i want to be able to goof off witrh him like i always do. what should i do about it?
Try and hang out sometimes, that way you are with him and stuff
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Ok HeReS HoW It StArTeD:
I WaS OvEr At My FrIeNdS HoUsE(aka person) AnD ThIs iS OuR CoNvO.
Person: Ummm I need To Tell you Sumin Serious But you Cant Tell AnYbOdY!!!
Me: Ok You Can TrUsT Me
Person: I think I mite Be bi
Me: Bi as in Bisexual
Person: Duh
Me: Wow
PersOn: I kno
Me: So r you atrracted to any of our friends?
Person: yea
ME: Are you attracted to me?
Person: Maybe
So Thats It. So Im confused cuz it kinda grosses me out cuz what if she invites me to sleepover and since i cant tell anybody about it she'll get invited to sleepoers nd stuff so she could try to make a move on me nd my friends i need help
ill rate!!
Tell her that you want to be just friends with her and nothing more, that way she doesnt get the wrong idea when you are hanging out and just trying to be nice and stuff
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My friend Harmony is always telling me that I need to let God into my life and look to him as a source of comfort. I believe that God exists, but I have doubts about whether he really cares or not. I feel like she trying to force me to believe like she does. I respect the fact that she is strong in her faith, but I don't neccesarily want to talk about it with her. She gets really offended when I say something that she doesn't think is right. When I told her that I didn't want her to tell me to go to God for guidance, she got angry and told me that at least she knew that she couldn't be open with me anymore. Am I wrong for asking her to not talk about this? How to I tell her that I would rather not talk about God without offending her?
Tell her that you are sorry but you aren't really in to all of that stuff, TELL her that you believe in him you just dont think he cares sometimes... And tell her that you'd rather not talk about it
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My friend, lets call her Sarah, is completely obsessed with her ex boyfriend. Ive been trying to tell her forever to try and get over him! Hes been such a jerk to her, and he broke up with her to immpress one of his friends. How low is that? How can i get it through her head that she can do better, and stop wasting her time dwelling on the past?
Bring new guys around her, let her see that there are like waaaaaaay more guys out there and that he seriously isnt worth her time, you just gotta show her that
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i have a classmate who has terrible body odour and we duno how to tell her that she really needs a deodrant or perfume! how can i tell her that shes BO, without hurting her feelings?
Say it nicely, be like "hey I'm seriously not trying to be mean but try using ____" or something or maybe bring her something to use, just let her know that you arent trying to be mean and hurt her feelings
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