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Hey! =) People tell me I give really good advice, so yeah, just ask me anything, as long as its a serious question, and I'll do my best to help you out. Um, I play piano, sing, dance, run track, and paint so if you have a question on one of those topics I'd definetly be able to answer it =). I mostly listen alternative or rock music but I like all kinds of music for the most part. The Used, Something Corporate, Brand New, Jack's Mannequin, Taking Back Sunday, Incubus, Matchbook Romance, Bayside, Bright Eyes, Hidden In Plain View, Dashboard Confessional, American Hi-Fi, Straylight Run, My Chemical Romance, The Academy Is, The Beatles Red Hot Chili Peppers, 30 Seconds to Mars, and Rooney are freaking awesome bands =).If you have a question about song lyrics,(for example "I know song lyrics but I don't know what the song is") I recommend you go to letssingit.com =).
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So I did ask a question about this before but this is a lot shorter and not exactly askign the same thing...
One of my really good friends sent be a bumper sticker on Facebook the day before yesterday. The message that went along with it said something like, "Just a heads up! Please come back!" and the bumper sticker said "I miss you... the old you."
I've already established that yes, I have changed, but this girl is immature and I did mature. We don't share the same interests anymore and her sense of humor really bugs me. I'm willing to still be friends and hang out with her ocassionally, but I'm pretty sure she doesn't like my personality anymore.
Anyway. She sent that to me and I ignored it, figuring that it was immature and a bitchy thing to do and if she really wanted to talk to me about it, she'd at least send me a message or something. Nope. Yesterday in school she was distant, not making eye contact. She sent me the same one last night. That annoyed the crap out of me. Today in school she flat out ignored me.
16/f Should I initiate conversation or ignore this? Its all so immature and I feel like she should really be the one to start the conversation if she wants to talk about it but I feel guilty/mean ignoring it.
Thanks for your opinions :)
It may seem annoying that this girl isn't directly talking to you about how she feels, but she may just not know how to go about it. Maybe the bumper sticker is the only way she can bring herself to confront you because she's really nervous and probably can't find the right words to say what she means. Maybe she's tried before but couldn't bring herself to do it. That's probably the reason she's ignoring you. So, you should confront her instead. Ask her why she sent you that bumper sticker because you weren't really sure what she meant by it. Chances are, she really wants to talk to you about it and will be relieved that you initiated the conversation and are finally discussing it. If she doesn't talk to you, don't worry about it; at least you know you tried, and maybe she'll talk to you about it later. But don't make it a big issue if she doesn't talk to you. It may have seemed strange, but it was only a bumper sticker. So, just try talking to her and see how it goes. Good luck!
Ok so there's this kidd in my summer school class and i dont know anyone in that class but he started talking to me and every class he talks to me and one time he sat next to me and said i'm gonna sit next to you cause your my friend he sat next to me when he could have sat anywhere else in the classs near the people he know's but then the teacher made him move to his actual seat and he was like ahhhh man does anyone think he likes me
Yes, it sounds like he is interested in you. That's pretty cool that you've met someone to sit next to in that class, especially someone who's already calling you their friend. =) Well if you like him, you're in luck because he probably likes you, so just talk to him more and continue sitting next to him, if you can. Maybe one day you could talk to him outside of class and ask him to hang out. This kid obviosuly wants to be around you, so if you want to, go for it. =)
So, I have been best friends with these two girls for a long time. They were never friends with eachother though. Now this year, they did softball together and they got really tight. I'm not jealous of it because they're my best friends, but they way they've been presenting it has gotten really annoying. They always talk about things they've done together that I wasn't involved in and they just brag about it. Sometimes they don't even tell me what they are talking about so when I ask them, they ignore me. Then Sarah (friend #1) started to talk about me behind my back about how I'm so shy and I never go to parties. Lately, it's been getting me so mad that I feel like not being friends with them because they just seem so fake to me. They were never like that though until they were friends with eachother. There's only one friend I have who I just started hanging out with this year who I can talk to about this. She can relate to everything so she's becoming one of my really good friends. I have other friends too, it's just that Ashley (friend #2) and Sarah seemed to be my best best friends and we plan to be friends forever, but now I feel like she doesn't even like me. I don't really know what kind of advice to ask for, but I just need some help on how to deal with this.
I don't really want to stop being friends with them though, so that's the only problem. Ashley is barely a problem, but when she's with Sarah, she starts to act differently. Sarah just makes me mad at almost everything she says and does. She like, a whore too. I don't know. Please help. Thankksss!
I've had "friends" like these before, and like you, they were ignoring me and trying to make me feel bad. I think that almost every girl goes through these kinds of "friendships" in their life; it happens to more people than you think. But you know what? You're not doing anything wrong; girls are just mean sometimes for the hell of it. If you don't like hanging out with Ashley and Sarah when they're together, just plan time to hang out with them separately. If the three of you are hanging out together and they are being annoying, don't let them know that it upsets you. Now, this girl that you've started hanging out with this year sounds like a good friend; maybe you should start hanging out with her more and become better friends with her. I'm not saying you should stop hanging out with your other friends completely, but maybe some time spent with other people would be good for you. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let Ashley and Sarah make you upset, they're just being mean. Just start hanging out with other people and hopefully they'll realize that they should treat you better. If not, then you're better off without them. Good luck. =)
Ok so my friends do these things they call bashings. It's where we sit in a circle and tell esch other what we don't like each other. I hate it i think it's ridiculous casue i feel like their trying to stream line me so i'm some form of perfect friend robot.
They say it's so we don't talk behind each others back. Whenever i say i think it's stupid and it hurts me they just say i'm so sensitive and can't handle critism.
What do you think is it a good idea or stupid?
What should i do?
Well a long time ago I was hanging out with some people and we decided to do "bashings." By the end of it, people were just flat out insulting each other and it was really stupid. When we did this, it didn't stop anyone from talking about people behind their backs; if anything, it made it worse. I really don't think that this improves friendships. I mean, it could be beneficial if you approach it differently and you and your friends agree to talk to each other when something is bothering you, but what's the point of just criticizing each other for the hell of it? Your friends aren't being fair for making you do these "bashings" and saying that you're being too sensitive. Just talk to them. Say what you posted on here; you don't like feeling like you have to be a perfect friend, you think it's stupid and it hurts you, and you don't enjoy doing it. If they are good friends, they'll understand.
Ok, to make this really short, I'm becoming the third wheel in my frienship. My best friend recently started dating one of our other guy friends. We used to all hang out, us a other people too, but now its just me, her and her boyfriend and I feel as though I'm becoming the third wheel. What can I do about this?
Oh my goodness I know exactly how you feel...everytime I hang out with my best friend and her boyfriend I feel so awkward and third-wheelish just sitting there when both of them say to each other "No, I love YOU more." Lol. Anyways, if you prefer hanging out with your best friend when it's not the three of you, just invite her to do stuff, just the two of you. Of course, it's best to actually tell her how you feel, but I know that's not the greatest advice because I'm in the exact same predicament as you and I don't want to talk to my best friend about it because I'm kind of afraid to hurt her feelings. =( But, I suggest you talk to her about it. Say something like "I miss us hanging out like we used to, we should definetly start hanging out like old times again." Just don't sound accusing or blame her boyfriend or whatever because I'm sure she's very happy with her boyfriend, like my friend is. =) I'm sure she'll understand; true best friends always want what's best for each other. Also, when the three of you hang out, you could ask your best friend/her boyfriend if you could invite a bunch of other people along as a big group, or maybe her boyfriend could invite one of his guy friends. Who knows; maybe you and his friends will end up going out and it would be like 2 best friend couples going out (awww, lol.) Hope I helpeddd. =)
I have two friends that dont really like each other. The one is my best friend and the one is my second best friend. Lately I have realized I have a tendency to sort of "talk trash" on one friend when I'm with the other one. I dont really mean to do it, and it isnt anything extremely big, but it just comes natural like if something is bugging me about one I come to the other to vent, and then I realize "oh crap" later. And I'm not talking major trash just little things. But even that feels like I'm stabbing the other in the back. I feel like I do this because I am so close with each that I feel like I can talk about anything with each of them, but then I feel terrible after I realize what I've done! How can I stop this nasty habit!?
Remember that you don't have to say anything just because one of your friends is talking about the other. For example, if one friend is talking about the other friend, don't say anything or comment on anything. Try to change the subject; say something like "i don't feel comfortable talking about her because she's one of my friends so can we just change the subject?" It would be very bad if someone told your friends that you talked about them, so try to stop this habit as soon as possible. Just remember that they are your best friends and try to focus on all of the positive things about them, not the negative. =)
Me and a few friends are planning to hangout tonight, but we cant come up with any ideas! We arent looking to spend a whole lot of money because we are all budgeting to save money up for school. The only idea I have so far is to rent a movie and have a girls night in, but that may tend to get boring. Any creative ideas?
Hm, well there are a lot of things you could do! You couldddd:
- Go to a rollerskating or iceskating rink
- Go to an amusment park
- Go to a park and be like little kids and play on the playscape haha
- Get your nails done
- Go to a lasertag place (idk if you have one near you, though)
- Do manicures/pedicures yourself
- Go to the mall and get your makeup done at a makeup counter (it's usually free; depending on where you go)
- If one of you has a video camera, use it! You can film yourselves dancing to music, like a music video-type thing, or something like that. Me and my friends pretend we're in a corny soap opera and make up commericals and stuff and film it .. it's really fun haha
- Go mini-golfing or bumper-boating
- Roast marshmallows
That's all I can think of .. have fun!
i have been friends with "sarah" since i was a little kid (we're both 15 now). recently sarah wanted to make a myspace. i practically made the whole thing for her since i am better with computers. i posted her first comment saying "heyy sarah whats up?". i looked at her myspace a couple days later it was gone. i assume she deleted it because sarah is really popular in school, and well im not. i think that she did not want to be associated with me because im a geek. i was really upset by this and havent talked to her in a while, and i dont if i want to. should i forgive her for being 2-faced? and if i should, should i tell her i know what she did?
Don't jump to conclusions. Since you are better with computers and made her myspace, she could have deleted your comment by accident. Try posting her another comment, and if she deletes that one, then talk to her. Just ask her why she's deleting all your comments and tell her she shouldn't do that, especially since you are friends and you did her the favor of making her a myspace. If Sarah thinks she's too popular to talk to one of her real friends, then she doesn't deserve to be friends with you and you should move on. Good luck =)
My ex bestfriend e-mailed me calling me a whole bunch of swearwords and things like slut and whore etc. and then she e-mailed me again saying she was sorry she said those mean things. a year later she e-mailed me again saying that her friend and her shared that e-mail adress and that her friend wrote that email. My mom tells me to just be polite to her, but i want to tell her to shut the heck up and leave me alone liar! what do i do? sorry this is so long!!
Well, if your ex-best friend or her friend wrote you that e-mail a year ago and she apologized for it, then just don't worry about them, move on from your ex-best friend, and do your own thing with your true friends. But, if your ex-best friend and her friend are still calling you bad names and it's really bothering you, you need to do something about it. I know you are angry and just want to tell her to shut up, you have to try to talk to her as calmly as possible. Maybe send her an e-mail saying "Look, it's really disrespectful to send me nasty e-mails. I'm not being mean to you, so you just need to stop it." If she won't stop, block her or change your e-mail address and just ignore her. You don't need to put up with her, and you don't deserve to be bothered like that. If they're being immature and calling you names, don't call them names like they did to you, be the mature one. Hope I helped out. =)
i was looking at questions on this site and i came across one that i'm positive my "best friend" asked. she doesn't want to be my best friend anymore. i'm just really confused. we're going into high school, and i figured we'd both meet new people and if we grew apart, then so be it & if we stayed close, good. but why would she want to deliberately push us apart? i'm not holding her back from anything. what could have caused her to think like this? is it just a phase or should i move on? i mean, i have lots of other close friends but i'm just kind of surprised. why does she want a new best friend? can't you make new best friends without ditching your old ones? what should i do? thanks so muchh.
Well, you might drift apart because that's typically what happens in high school. But, that doesn't mean that you totally have to stop hanging out with your old best friends. I say you should talk to your best friend about it. Tell her even though you might not be in the same classes together and you'll both make new friends, you can still hang out together. Your best friend might be thinking that you guys will definetly not be as close in high school, but that's not neccesarily true. Hang out with your new friends and old friends; introduce them to each other. You can never have too many friends. If your best friend doesn't listen to you and insists that you shouldn't be friends, then maybe you don't have as much in common anymore. Don't worry; there are alot of people in high school to become friends with, just hang out with your close friends and make new ones. Good luck. =)
my friends are soo mean to people. like, there mean to like people in our group too! who they call their best friends. Like, ok.. we are the popular group in school, i go to a catholic school, so its small. so yeah, were the popular ones, & so like nobody likes the 2 of them. They like think there all great bc they belong to a country club, & have a big house. But, i have just as big of a house & belong to a country club, & i dont act like them at all. they get mad, if like me & my best friend, dont invite them to the mall. like they always cause drama, & basically me & my friends are sick of them.. how do we get rid of them? .. it will be our last year at our school, so we dont want them to ruin it.
First off, these girls don't seem like very good friends at all. I suggest you talk to them about it. But, if you talk to them and these girls are still treating you and your friends badly, then they aren't worth your time. Just don't pay attention to them if they say anything mean to you or your friends. Hang out with your others friends more, the nicer ones. It's your last year at your school; just make the best of your last year and don't let mean people ruin it. Good luck. =)
ok.. so im 15/female.. and most of my friends are girls with a few guy friends. whenever im around guys.. its like i want to talk to them, but then again, im afraid of what there going to think of me. i want them to like me and decide to be friends and everything.. but i dont know how to act so that they would think that i want to be friends! ive tried just forgetting everything and to be myself.. but then theres that feeling that im afraid of what they think of me! what should i do to be myself without that feeling? how can i get more guy friends?
If you worry too much about what other people think about you, then you're never going to have fun OR be yourself. Next time you're hanging out with guys, don't worry about what they think of you. If you're nice to them, talk to them alot, and smile, they will know that you want to be friends with them. Guys know when a girl is trying too hard. Just talk to your guy friends like you talk to your girl friends. I mean don't talk about makeup or how cute another guy is haha, but just act calm and friendly. You shouldn't do something just to try to impress them. They'll either like you for you, and you'll be friends with them, and if they don't, then they aren't worth it anyway. Just don't worry and have fun.=)
im 15/f. i've been best friends with this girl since i was in second grade. we're both sophmores. from second grade to seventh grade, we were like the best of friends. but, in eighth grade, she decided that quantity was more important to her than quality! so, now I feel like having 100 friends is more important to her. and it makes me feel really sad because she's like a sister to me. now it's like she has a new best friend. on top of that, she's been acting like a pain in the rear. she thinks she's so popular and so this and so that. she's just acting like a totally strange person and i feel like i don't even know her anymore. she's goes on vacation the whole summer because most of her family lives in europe. so, when she comes back, i just want things to be the way they use to be. i don't want to hang out with this big group of "friends" that she's fabricated. i want it to be the way it use to be and that whenever we went to the movies and stuff like that the group was just me and her with a whole bunch of guys. it was so much fun. what can i do to make her be that person again?
Well, I know you really care about your friend and want to have things the way they used to be, but sometimes friends just grow apart. The same exact thing happened to me and my friend. Start hanging out with your other friends, the friends who don't care about popularity or being superficial. You will probably find that you're alot happier being friends with a whole bunch of people. But, since you have been best friends with this girl for such a long time, just talk to her about it and say something like, "We barely hang out anymore, we should go to the movies like we used to" or whatever. You can still be friends with her, but you should also hang out with your other friends, too, or make new friends. If your best friend isn't willing to make your friendship work, then don't bend over backwards for her. If she treats you badly, she doesn't deserve such a good friend like you, anyway. Good luck! =)