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im 15/f. i've been best friends with this girl since i was in second grade. we're both sophmores. from second grade to seventh grade, we were like the best of friends. but, in eighth grade, she decided that quantity was more important to her than quality! so, now I feel like having 100 friends is more important to her. and it makes me feel really sad because she's like a sister to me. now it's like she has a new best friend. on top of that, she's been acting like a pain in the rear. she thinks she's so popular and so this and so that. she's just acting like a totally strange person and i feel like i don't even know her anymore. she's goes on vacation the whole summer because most of her family lives in europe. so, when she comes back, i just want things to be the way they use to be. i don't want to hang out with this big group of "friends" that she's fabricated. i want it to be the way it use to be and that whenever we went to the movies and stuff like that the group was just me and her with a whole bunch of guys. it was so much fun. what can i do to make her be that person again?
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ok I am 13 but I will answer this question best I can.If I were you don't listen to other people that say move on get a new friend and stuff like that because I can see what you had with her was a special.you nvr wanna give that up,so go and talk to her tell her how you feel and what you see is going on.she might not even realize it.just tell her you feel left out and wish things were like they used to be.true friends don't give easily so go ahead and talk to her.communication is the key.
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Well, I know you really care about your friend and want to have things the way they used to be, but sometimes friends just grow apart. The same exact thing happened to me and my friend. Start hanging out with your other friends, the friends who don't care about popularity or being superficial. You will probably find that you're alot happier being friends with a whole bunch of people. But, since you have been best friends with this girl for such a long time, just talk to her about it and say something like, "We barely hang out anymore, we should go to the movies like we used to" or whatever. You can still be friends with her, but you should also hang out with your other friends, too, or make new friends. If your best friend isn't willing to make your friendship work, then don't bend over backwards for her. If she treats you badly, she doesn't deserve such a good friend like you, anyway. Good luck! =)
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People come and go, but if you dont like how she has been acting, confront her. Tell her your feelings. If she still doesnt care what you say or what you think, just move on. Theres about
100000 billion people in the world, so go have fun with a new friend. ;)
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You need to realize that people change.
And sometimes we dont like it, but people do change, and thats life.
If you are sick of her acting the way she does, dont be friends with her anymore, because shes changing to a person she wants to be, and even if you think its a completely bad choice, its not anything you can help, its none of your buisness, even if shes your best friend, you stlil need to rememeber you have no control over her and what she decides to do with herself.
And also I may sense a little jealously here? That shes hanging out with other people, maybe she wants to meet new people, meeting new people is always great. Shes probably just sick of doing the same thing over and over again.
But the question is, you can talk to her, but if she doesnt get it, just leave her alone I guess.
And you go enjoy yourself at the movies with the boys.
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Well when she comes back just talk to her about it, or ask her to go to the movies with you . Just you and her and maybe go out to eat. Some people get that way once they are in jr.high/highschool but than once your older you realize that its not how many friends you have all that matters is how many true friends you have. ` If she wants to hang out with a group of people when you ask her to do something , than just go along with it, who knows maybe it could be fun.`
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