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i absolutely can't speak to my mother about this because all she does is try to use reverse phsycology on me or just tells me that i'm talking stupididies and i'm not! i really do feel this way and it's bugging me so much and there's nothing i can do to make myself stop feeling like this. i've tried! maybe this information will help a little:
i've always been very mature for my age. i was 9 when i got my period. so, i feel like i've grown up to fast and now is when it is just catching up to me. when i was like 9, i guess the best way to explain it is that i was like a 12 year old stuck in at 9 years old. i don't know how to explain it. it's jut kind of weird. so, i don't really know what kids do at 9. but, when i was 9, i would spend friday night's watching television while doing my hair and nails!
when i turned 12, the same thing happned. i was like 14 or 15 stuck at 12. i wanted to go out every weekend and party. so, not because i had to or anything, just because i didn't have anything better to do, i was asleep pretty early and i would lie there in my bed super mad because i wished that i was at party. i started going to parties like later being 12, like when i started jr. high but this was before the dances
then when the dances did start, i loved them. i would get so exited about every party i went to. and when i turned like 13, i would go to parties whenever i had the chance. i loved to get ready for parties and do my hair/makeup. i would just get so exited about it
now, i'm 15/f. and for some reason, i feel like i've grown up too fast. i'm not even interested in parties anymore. i dismiss invitatioins when they come in the mail but i still go because my mom makes me go. but, i don't want to be there yet! i want to be interested in parites. i want to get exited about it. i want to do my make-up and feel interested in it and all that stuff. but, i can't control it
for those of you that read this i thank you and i hope that you can give me some advice on what to do about this situation! ty again!!!!
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well, this is really corny and might be useless advice.
but I would start doing all the things I missed out on as a kid.
Maybe have a sleepover with some close friends and talk to them about it. Skip the next couple of parties. maybe try yoga, because it helps you clear your mind.
I've never been in that position, but I can tell it bothers you. so, I hope you figure something out.
good luck.
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I take on board what you said about being more mature for your age and going through different phases of your life before your peers. Maybe at the moment you are just into being laid back for a while and happy to chill in your own company.
Possible in a year or twos time you will want to party again and have boyfriends. Your Mum probably feels she is making you go for your own good but if you can explain that at the moment you don't want to go perhaps she will back off a little.
Mums are very good at using reverse psychology on their children until they realise it will no longer work on them. It sounds to me as though you have reached that stage.
There is nothing wrong in not wanting to party all the time and perhaps you could use the extra leisure time to do something more constructive like revision or voluntary work. If your Mum sees that you are happily occupied then she may ease off a bit.
As for seeing a Psychologist, perhaps you have a Counsellor at school that you could talk all the options through with. It will give you an idea of where you see yourself going in the next few years.
I hope that I have given you some ideas on your approach to things. I wish you all the best.
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well your mom doesnt have to take you. catch a cab or something and go to a phsycologists urself. well my advice to you is jus to b confident in yourself . believe ! thats the best thing you can do. take time out and say " wat makes me not interested in parties no more? " most teenagers ur age love parties and once you get older , thats probably all you want to do anyways.
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