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sucky friends?
So, I have been best friends with these two girls for a long time. They were never friends with eachother though. Now this year, they did softball together and they got really tight. I'm not jealous of it because they're my best friends, but they way they've been presenting it has gotten really annoying. They always talk about things they've done together that I wasn't involved in and they just brag about it. Sometimes they don't even tell me what they are talking about so when I ask them, they ignore me. Then Sarah (friend #1) started to talk about me behind my back about how I'm so shy and I never go to parties. Lately, it's been getting me so mad that I feel like not being friends with them because they just seem so fake to me. They were never like that though until they were friends with eachother. There's only one friend I have who I just started hanging out with this year who I can talk to about this. She can relate to everything so she's becoming one of my really good friends. I have other friends too, it's just that Ashley (friend #2) and Sarah seemed to be my best best friends and we plan to be friends forever, but now I feel like she doesn't even like me. I don't really know what kind of advice to ask for, but I just need some help on how to deal with this.
I don't really want to stop being friends with them though, so that's the only problem. Ashley is barely a problem, but when she's with Sarah, she starts to act differently. Sarah just makes me mad at almost everything she says and does. She like, a whore too. I don't know. Please help. Thankksss!
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I've had "friends" like these before, and like you, they were ignoring me and trying to make me feel bad. I think that almost every girl goes through these kinds of "friendships" in their life; it happens to more people than you think. But you know what? You're not doing anything wrong; girls are just mean sometimes for the hell of it. If you don't like hanging out with Ashley and Sarah when they're together, just plan time to hang out with them separately. If the three of you are hanging out together and they are being annoying, don't let them know that it upsets you. Now, this girl that you've started hanging out with this year sounds like a good friend; maybe you should start hanging out with her more and become better friends with her. I'm not saying you should stop hanging out with your other friends completely, but maybe some time spent with other people would be good for you. I know it's easier said than done, but try not to let Ashley and Sarah make you upset, they're just being mean. Just start hanging out with other people and hopefully they'll realize that they should treat you better. If not, then you're better off without them. Good luck. =)
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You can't be friends with people you're mad at all the time. It's just not any fun. Usually when someone meets a new person, they try to meet up to their standards more than yours because they both feel you'll accept them either way. But since they don't know each other on the same levels, they act like the other person. Sounds like Ashley's the culprit here, and Sarah is trying to keep the friendship by bashing hers with yours. If you stop hanging out with them for a little while, they might get the hint. & Saying that you're shy and never go to parties, isn't really much of an insult, so don't be too offended over little things. Hopefully if they really care, they'll notice you've stopped hanging around them and talk to you. Whether it's together or separately. Start spending more time with that other girl you mentioned.
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