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Hey everyone! My name is Jessi and I'm 15/f/IL. I've always been excellent at giving advice...or so I've been told by my friends. So you can ask me anything and everything...although I have a rather special talent for makeup emergencies (considering my mom sells it) and for dealing with affairs of the heart. (Some of my friends automatically come to me for boy problems.)And, without further ado...my advice column!
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Weird situation here.
Or is it a situation at all?
I'm 13, and a girl, and this year I started at a new school. Our grade is reallly small, and there are 2 kind of...defined groups of girls. One is the preps, who get a lot more attention. The other group, which I'm pretty much in, can't really have a name, or label, because we're all really different.
Ok so at lunch today, it was so annoying, they don't talk. And it's not like they're just not talking to me, I know they're not mad, they invite me to their houses a lot- they just don't talk to eachother. No one is mad or anything, it's almost like they have nothing to say. They're not into fashion, or music, celebrity stuff, school, any other girl stuff, or any other HUMAN stuff. It's like they never watch the news, either. There is a never ending list of things to talk about in this world! They just don't say a word. When I start a conversation about ANYTHING, all I get is a "uh huh" or "mmhm".
I don't really think these are my friends...I mean we never do anything friends do. We've had like 5 sleepovers, and they were all really boring...to me at least...like I've never been mean to any of them. I'm not really sure if they like me. I am, what you could call "acquaintances" with the other group of girls, but not real friends. And I can't be friends with them because I'm just not preppy and I would never fit in with them. Even though I hear them talking about stuff and doing stuff I would always do.
I'm really confused because I've always had a best friend at school...and now I don't. And I really hate it, and I don't know what to do. If you read all this or you can help thank you so much...
Making friends (and at a new school) is always kind of hard. It takes guts to put yourself out there for the first time and make your presence known to people. What I would do is talk to these "preppy" girls a little more, maybe in classes or inbetween classes. If they talk about and do things that you like to do, then you probably will fit in with them. Clothes, hair, and makeup isn't what it's ALL about. If they're any kind of girls who you would want to be friends with, then they'll see how much you have in common and ask you to join them for a get-together or sleepover or something. Just get a little more open with them about who you are every time you talk to them. Be yourself! Maybe if you even mention how you're having trouble making close friends (but don't lay on some sob story) they'll invite you out -- people actually LIKE being nice to the new girl sometimes.
Best of luck!
My friend Harmony is always telling me that I need to let God into my life and look to him as a source of comfort. I believe that God exists, but I have doubts about whether he really cares or not. I feel like she trying to force me to believe like she does. I respect the fact that she is strong in her faith, but I don't neccesarily want to talk about it with her. She gets really offended when I say something that she doesn't think is right. When I told her that I didn't want her to tell me to go to God for guidance, she got angry and told me that at least she knew that she couldn't be open with me anymore. Am I wrong for asking her to not talk about this? How to I tell her that I would rather not talk about God without offending her?
I don't think that your friend Harmony is trying to preach to you. Maybe she is just trying to share what she thinks about God, and she wants to try to help you when you are in pain by saying that God is a great source of comfort for her. And you aren't wrong for asking Harmony to not talk about this. But maybe you are wrong, in her opinion, for saying some things about God that made her upset, such as how he doesn't care. Religion can be a very touchy subject, and I doubt she means to come off so preachy. Remember, she is your friend. She only wants to help you.